I've always been jealous of girls

[BudgieSmuggler]

When I was small it was about how they seemed to be strangely different and got nicer treatment.

When I was a bit bigger it was about how they had prettier things.

When I saw the catalogues and before I knew why, I was jealous of their silky underwear.

When I read the obscure kotex advertisements I was jealous they could go swimming everyday.

When I started to know why I liked looking at the catalogues I became more jealous of their silky underwear.

When I kissed one, I was jealous of their soft lips.

When I started watching them and wondering what it would be like to kiss them all I was jealous of their playfulness with makeup and clothing.

When I had to start to shave my face everyday I became jealous of their soft skin.

When I got one as a girlfriend I was jealous of all the friends they had and how easily they talked.

When I tried finding another one I got jealous of how easy it was for them not to have to make the first move.

When I made the first move I got jealous of how easy it was for them to say no.

When I started working I was jealous of how it didn't seem as serious for them to find a profession that would last a lifetime.

As they bloomed I was jealous of how easy it was to be sexually manipulated by them.

As they became more mature I was jealous of how beautiful they became.

As they reached 'that age' I became disappointed their desires waned and jealous their social networking easily filled in the void.

I then became jealous a career still dominated for us but apparently not for them.

When the career came to an end I was jealous of all the social networks they had already set up that I had missed out on building.

When I was awake at night and feeling alone in the dark I was jealous they weren't also suffering the indignity of the need for a solitary wank.

When the virility started to fade I was jealous of how the amount of literature explaining ladies conditions overwhelmed the information available to men.

And now I find I'm jealous they don't seem to need to come to the personal pages in a search to fill the voids like the men.

Where will it end?

 

[LTMMC]

I like your ad, Budgie

Unfortunately I am a man and my liking isn't going to help you.

But I figure you should be doing alright; sooner or later a woman will like your ad as well. Just like she might like mine also, hopefully.

Look at it this way, Budgie: when I man writes a great ad, it takes greatness in a woman for your ad to be appreciated. And greatness does not peruse the Personals pages every day.

 

[BudgieSmuggler]

Apologies in advance for another pointless post, but I've been through something of an emotional washing machine since writing the OP of this thread and I simply need to vent somewhere anonymously.

Having read "His Needs Her Needs" I now have a better idea of what's been wrong for such a long time, but no closer to fixing it.

How do you resolve 'Sexual Fulfillment' when there is no common ground on what sex is?

I realized now why I came to Lit and dabbled in the personals. I don't understand how I ended up living such a sexless life.

 

[BudgieSmuggler]

Revisiting my old threads lately tells me nothing much has changed in the last few years. I find myself back here, still in the same headspace.

It's so difficult living the fact that no matter how much you talk things over while nothing changes, you still don't want to break up and yet you don't want the rest of your life to continue to be sexless. The hurt doesn't go away.

With no one other than anonymous forum posters to have naughty banter with, I'm adding another jealousy to my list.

I'm jealous of all the ones who seem to have kept their libidos.

Keep it up girls as long as you can!

 

[NehaGin]

If somebody needs an example of "how to write a clueless ad and offend all the women at once", here it is. I am sure every women on this site and everywhere else will be able to find at least a few points on this list utterly wrong and offensive.

To prevent any questions - no, I am not going to explain which ones and why. I am only commenting to point out that these beliefs is why you are still looking four years later.

 

[LoneMilf]

My advice to OP: Forget about women for a while - we are not the cause of everything wrong in your life. Spend some time doing things that make you happy and proud of yourself. Then go looking again.

Good luck

 

[AndNowWeRun]

When I was small it was about how they seemed to be strangely different and got nicer treatment.

^ Having nicer treatment isn't necessarily better. It means you're expected to be nice in turn and only that.

When I was a bit bigger it was about how they had prettier things.

^ Yes, and if they wanted things not traditionally deemed pretty, they'd get pushback for it.

When I saw the catalogues and before I knew why, I was jealous of their silky underwear.

^ You could have bought your own silky underwear, it's not like anyone would have noticed.

When I read the obscure kotex advertisements I was jealous they could go swimming everyday.

^ ??? Can't you do that anyway?

When I started to know why I liked looking at the catalogues I became more jealous of their silky underwear.

^ Again, buy your own.

When I kissed one, I was jealous of their soft lips.

^ Buy some chapstick.

When I started watching them and wondering what it would be like to kiss them all I was jealous of their playfulness with makeup and clothing.

^ Wear makeup and cute clothes, and if anyone makes fun of you for it, keep doing it. Be the change, and all that jazz.

When I had to start to shave my face everyday I became jealous of their soft skin.

^ Buy cleanser and moisturiser.

When I got one as a girlfriend I was jealous of all the friends they had and how easily they talked.

^ Befriend women or find male friends who talk easily, too.

When I tried finding another one I got jealous of how easy it was for them not to have to make the first move.

^ They do.

When I made the first move I got jealous of how easy it was for them to say no.

^ You can, too.

When I started working I was jealous of how it didn't seem as serious for them to find a profession that would last a lifetime.

^ You were jealous that they were being marginalised?

As they bloomed I was jealous of how easy it was to be sexually manipulated by them.

^ I—

As they became more mature I was jealous of how beautiful they became.

^ Then swap places with them and get catcalled, assaulted, infantilised or worse.

Okay, this is taking too long, actually. But I hope you get the point.

 

[Escierto]

You know that you have really fucked up when LTMMC likes your personals ad.

 

[NehaGin]

Okay, this is taking too long, actually. But I hope you get the point.

This is why I didn't even try.

He is 70, so when he was coming of age things were a bit different. But that's not a reason to cling to those ideas now.

 

[maxthecat123]

When I started reading this post I was younger and horny, and now that I have read this post I am older and not so horny. Thank you OP.

 

[BudgieSmuggler]

Interesting.

 

[maxthecat123]

Indeed

 

[KatieDoes]

So you hate women, and you simultaneously can’t figure out why they find you unfuckable?

I’ve read some stupid shit around here, but being ‘jealous’ because you saw an ad for tampons that said women could swim every day might be the most ridiculous of all.

Do you think that tampons turn us into mermaids? Like some sort of magic spell?

Fucking idiot.

 

[KatieDoes]

You know that you have really fucked up when LTMMC likes your personals ad.

This is hilarious because it’s so true. Like a red flag parade

 

[AndNowWeRun]

This is why I didn't even try.

He is 70, so when he was coming of age things were a bit different. But that's not a reason to cling to those ideas now.

Yeah, I was having a panic attack and was lurking through the forums to keep my mind off of it. lol. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't have bothered either.

Yeah, the whole rationale of 'That's just how it was back in my day!' shouldn't fly. Even worse is when they then complain that people are just being too sensitive :\

 

[BudgieSmuggler]

There seem to be some unhappy and angry people around here looking for things to take offence at. While I don't generally feel the need to feed trolls, I can't help but be impressed by those with the depth of experience and empathy to be able to speak with authority for all women, including presumably even ladies like this. Even though that person doesn't seem to be in anywhere near the same age group as myself.

The most coherent response I received as to what was perhaps triggering such anxieties by my post actually came from somebody literate who explained that the signature "still likes looking at girls" could be perceived as being a racist statement in some areas of the US. Who knew?

Only guessing again the main trigger for the women here was the reference to swimming and tampons, perhaps they would benefit from a bit of research and appreciation of the perspective of just about anybody growing up in the 1950's. I would also say the rise of liberalism through the 50's and 60's which made it even possible for such advertisments to be printed in the first place also laid the foundation of pretty much everything you value today. Even the Internet.

https://www.reddit.com/r/vintageads/comments/1ak8s78/tampax_nothing_is_beyond_you_ad_1959

I wonder how and when these ladies found out about their own biology? That in just a few years time they were going to start bleeding every month for a goodly part of the rest of their lives. I hope it wasn't like some girls I know who were terrified the first time they found blood in the bowl after a pee. I wonder if all of the current generation of experts also got a better explanation of what the advertisement was about from their mothers than I did?

Who's clinging to old ideas? Do these people not even understand irony anyway?

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[KatieDoes]

There seem to be some unhappy and angry people around here looking for things to take offence at. While I don't generally feel the need to feed trolls, I can't help but be impressed by those with the depth of experience and empathy to be able to speak with authority for all women, including presumably even ladies like this. Even though that person doesn't seem to be in anywhere near the same age group as myself.

The most coherent response I received as to what was perhaps triggering such anxieties by my post actually came from somebody literate who explained that the signature "still likes looking at girls" could be perceived as being a racist statement in some areas of the US. Who knew?

Only guessing again the main trigger for the women here was the reference to swimming and tampons, perhaps they would benefit from a bit of research and appreciation of the perspective of just about anybody growing up in the 1950's. I would also say the rise of liberalism through the 50's and 60's which made it even possible for such advertisments to be printed in the first place also laid the foundation of pretty much everything you value today. Even the Internet.

https://www.reddit.com/r/vintageads/comments/1ak8s78/tampax_nothing_is_beyond_you_ad_1959

I wonder how and when these ladies found out about their own biology? That in just a few years time they were going to start bleeding every month for a goodly part of the rest of their lives. I hope it wasn't like some girls I know who were terrified the first time they found blood in the bowl after a pee. I wonder if all of the current generation of experts also got a better explanation of what the advertisement was about from their mothers than I did?

Who's clinging to old ideas? Do these people not even understand irony anyway?

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Yes. Mansplaining periods to the women of Lit should absolutely, positively, help you on your quest to find women that might want to speak to you. Women LOVE that. Love.