Is Literotica just a massive sausage fest or am I doing something wrong?

[Jim_Ross]

So I'll be super candid. I enjoy writing and I've published a couple of stories but I enjoy roleplaying even more. In fact I was hoping that through my stories I could showcase my writing style and find good female partners to roleplay with.

My stories have been well received, but I can see the people who comment or favorite them are almost exclusively male. I have gotten hit up by a couple of female partners to roleplay, but that's nothing compared to what I get regularly on other sites.

I've spent less and less time on Literotica as a result, but I came back to post the conclusion to one of my stories for all the loyal(male) readers. I'm wondering if I'm doing something wrong to find good roleplay partners. Or maybe literotica is not the right place for that??

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I'm a woman, and I've heard through a few guys that you are correct, there are far more men than ladies here...

Lit is a great place to find flirtatious friends, and I hope you find a few to your liking soon

 

[Escierto]

Lit is the biggest sausage fest in the world. If you see a "woman" here, you can be sure it's someone catfishing.

 

[LoneMilf]

I've been on various adult sites, apps and games over the past 10 years or so and they all seem to share that feature - significantly more male than female users. I'm guessing it's usually around 10:1.

Lit seems slightly better than average, actually, with quite a few women active in the forum at least. Maybe the challenge is the roleplay part - we're not all looking for that.

Good luck in your search

 

[RandallOldman]

Lit is the biggest sausage fest in the world. If you see a "woman" here, you can be sure it's someone catfishing.

I don't know if it is quite that bad, but it's bad, for sure.

I can count on two hands the number of females here who I feel confident are actually women.

 

[Saint_Ann]

More like a cocktail weeny fest.

 

[crazychemgirl]

More like a cocktail weeny fest.

Omfg … I wanted to comment then I saw this and snort laughed

 

[MidnightRyder007]

Peppers and onions.

 

[eigenschwarz]

Women tend to lurk more because too many men have no idea how to interact with women.

 

[cdstefi]

Honestly you can actually tell by how people interact, if you take the time to see what they post, where, and how PMs go.

Thirsty males aren't difficult to spot.

 

[Escierto]

I don't know if it is quite that bad, but it's bad, for sure.

I can count on two hands the number of females here who I feel confident are actually women.

There is only one woman here that I am 100% confident is a woman and she is a transgender woman. The rest of you posers, forget it!

 

[Saint_Ann]

There is only one woman here that I am 100% confident is a woman and she is a transgender woman. The rest of you posers, forget it!

You must get catfished a lot.

 

[cathyk1980]

its hard to play here that way. chatropolis is much better for live chatting

 

[FL30]

So I'll be super candid. I enjoy writing and I've published a couple of stories but I enjoy roleplaying even more. In fact I was hoping that through my stories I could showcase my writing style and find good female partners to roleplay with.

My stories have been well received, but I can see the people who comment or favorite them are almost exclusively male. I have gotten hit up by a couple of female partners to roleplay, but that's nothing compared to what I get regularly on other sites.

I've spent less and less time on Literotica as a result, but I came back to post the conclusion to one of my stories for all the loyal(male) readers. I'm wondering if I'm doing something wrong to find good roleplay partners. Or maybe literotica is not the right place for that??

Every site that deals with "porn" or "erotica" will always be lopsided towards men. It's just a fact of life.

 

[Chernosoth]

The porn pics may be skewing the numbers. When bandwidth becomes too expensive for huge quantities of pics, the crowd may become more female.

 

[Rob_Royale]

I'm pretty active on the story ideas forum and I've had women (alleged) contact me and ask if I wanted to chat. They said they saw my posts and read my stories.

 

[Lady2020]

I think good role players are just hard to find.

 

[Lady2020]

Plus, in my almost 30 years of OL, men are usually looking for a dumb af woman to put up with their bullshit. Maybe that's why the ratio is so skewed.

 

[mark_j]

Plus, in my almost 30 years of OL, men are usually looking for a dumb af woman to put up with their bullshit. Maybe that's why the ratio is so skewed.

That's really sad...

 

[Pabiporffor]

There's plenty of women here, it's just few are into online role-playing. Most are just here to appreciate quality literature.

 

[AttachedandLonely_UK]

On the flip side, I've had 3 women contact me in the relatively short space of time that I've been a member.
I'm fairly sure they were all women.
One sent me a close-up photo of her pussy on message 3, sorry but I'm not interested in anyone that desperate to move things that way so fast. How anyone is supposed to talk dirty with any hope of knowing what the other person likes at that kind of pace is beyond me - and I'm definitely not interested in the generic.

The second seemed pleasant, exchanged a few messages and then stopped replying. A few days later messaged again with a first message - she was obviously talking to so many people that she forgot who I was! Again, nope, not interested if you aren't even keeping track of who you're messaging.

The third seems lovely, I think (hope) we're on our way to being firm friends after a little while of messaging regularly and one voice call. Nothing beyond flirty at the moment, and while I do hope it develops further, I'm also happy if it doesn't. She seems genuinely nice, intelligent and articulate. And very beautiful.

 

[jaF0]

The quickest way to change the dynamic is for more people to get involved.

 

[Lady2020]

Thor may know.

 

[Photog1rl]

I don't think Lit is a sausage fest but it could be if you were into that
Seriously though there are more women than men but there are lots of real, genuine women. I would recommend a few things.

1-if it looks to good to be true it probably is. There are real, beautiful, open and honest women here. If the one you are talking to looks like a model, is super into sex and wants to get sexy with you right away-think about. That is too good to be true.

2-there are more women than men-be open, honest, a good communicator and have interests besides being horny and wanting to get off. Most folks don't care what you look like but they care how you make them feel. Getting you off is not usually the name of the game when we first meet.

3-be patient. This is not OF or a site where you are paying to get what you want from someone. It will cost real time and *gasp* maybe emotional investment. For some that may not be worth it and that's ok.

4-don't start with a dick pick, a sexual question, or telling the woman what they want or how they feel. 10/10 we don't want to see it or hear it.

5-do not send the same PM to multiple people. It reads like a generic form letter and we do notice. l

6-it may take time to find a role player. It's not a go to in here.

I do not speak for all women but this has been feedback i have heard and maybe it will help.

 

[Lady2020]

That should work. On the gb.