Radical take on LW

[desecration]

RAAC, BTB, and DAGOLAGL (divest and get on living a good life) are the stages of acceptance in a broken relationship.

 

[SimonDoom]

I think there's something to this, although it really depends on the relationship. But I agree that in almost every breakup the ultimate right thing is getting on with things. The best revenge, they say, is to live well.

 

[MrPixel]

The best revenge, they say, is to live well.

Amen. I have this micro-wish that my ex could see me now, retiring early and having fun. Last time I checked her LinkedIn page she had come out of retirement and was soliciting clients again for her consulting biz. I could read 'tween the lines she wasn't making it on her pension.

 

[SimonDoom]

Amen. I have this micro-wish that my ex could see me now, retiring early and having fun. Last time I checked her LinkedIn page she had come out of retirement and was soliciting clients again for her consulting biz. I could read 'tween the lines she wasn't making it on her pension.

If you've been in a long marriage, it's hard not to keep thinking about it, to keep reliving it and wondering how things might have gone differently. It's not easy to go forward knowing that you will never fully resolve certain conflicts. But you have to, one way or another.

 

[lovecraft68]

My ex is on Marriage three, and its over, but they live together because neither can afford to live alone. She is bi-polar and would never seek help and has a ton of issues, she's drank to where she is having liver issues, and neither of my daughters have spoken to her in several years and she has grandchildren she's never met-and early on was offered the chance to.

Karma gave her everything she deserved, and I fully admit to enjoying her misery.

 

[AchtungNight]

How about recognizing when a relationship is doomed and talking things out, then accepting the situation? That’s what I did with my ex.

Monogamy is a standard humans can aspire towards, but it’s not a happy natural state. We get tempted, bored, selfish- and we have moments of weakness. Feelings can change too. I had to accept this with my marriage.

 

[desecration]

Monogamy is a standard humans can aspire towards, but it’s not a happy natural state.

Slightly tangential state: monogamy is the natural state, but humans will screw anything up, and people grow up at different rates for the duration of their lives. I have had partners grow out of me, and have grown out of partners, where if we met five years later things would have been much different.