Brace yourselves: I want no kink or fetish. I want to fall in love...

[Beandip478]

Yup. I've been experiencing weariness of kink and fetish. Even disgust. What's come over me is a need for wholesomeness. That which is mentally and emotionally wholesome, healthy, normal. What we're programmed to feel. Right now I would pay a high price to be young again, so that I could fall head over heels for a pretty girl...That's all I need.

 

[RoryN]

Yup. I've been experiencing weariness of kink and fetish. Even disgust. What's come over me is a need for wholesomeness. That which is mentally and emotionally wholesome, healthy, normal. What we're programmed to feel.

Some tips which might help you on your journey:

1. Before you seek out "falling in love", come to the realisation that you're kind of a self-important asshole with outdated views of the world based on what you've posted here previously, and spend some time figuring out who you may want to be instead.

2. We didn't need a thread to hear about how you've supposedly turned "wholesome" after making threads about inest porn. No one cares, or is impressed. Ask yourself why you made this one.

3. Don't subject anyone else to your crap until you figure out what you did wrong here: https://forum.literotica.com/threads/thoughts-from-an-older-man.1582493/

Good luck!

 

[FantasySharer1]

Yup. I've been experiencing weariness of kink and fetish. Even disgust. What's come over me is a need for wholesomeness. That which is mentally and emotionally wholesome, healthy, normal. What we're programmed to feel. Right now I would pay a high price to be young again, so that I could fall head over heels for a pretty girl...That's all I need.

I mean, I'm head over heels in love with my wife.

The reason I LOVE:

1. Drinking her breastmilk
2. Drinking her piss
3. Eating her pussy
4. Licking her body up and down after she runs
5. Having her spit in my mouth when she's playing the dominant role

And all the other fetishy stuff I do with her, whether its being tied up by her or tying her up and pleasing her body till she explodes.

ALL OF IT is rooted in wholesome, total, complete love.

I'm only open absorbing these things from her body, and being so vulnerable with her because I love her with everything I am. She's the mother of my babies. She gives and loves and sacrifices everyday to love us. She gave up some of her own goals to be an amazing wife and mother. I revel in having this woman's pussy juice all over my face and eating her out because she deserves every ounce of pleasure I can give her and I'm honored to have what others would consider dirty - on me - as long as its hers.

All of this is just 10 % of our relationship. The rest is love and adventure and fighting and planning and raising our family. I'm not sure that the kink/fetish thing is some kind of opposite from wholesome love. There is no opposition or dichotomy that pits these two against each other.

 

[FL30]

Yup. I've been experiencing weariness of kink and fetish. Even disgust. What's come over me is a need for wholesomeness. That which is mentally and emotionally wholesome, healthy, normal. What we're programmed to feel. Right now I would pay a high price to be young again, so that I could fall head over heels for a pretty girl...That's all I need.

You're posting this crap after all the other crap that you've posted?? Seriously, you need to go to counseling as you really don't know what you want, nor do you have any idea about how to go about getting it. You're going from one spectrum to the opposite all while complaining about the ones you're going to and from.

 

[Saint_Ann]

Damn. How many rorys are in this thread?

 

[PaxNurgle]

I am, unfortunately, not familiar with beandip's posting history so I don't know where the backlash is coming from. But on the surface, I think I can understand what he is trying to say.

I think, he feels like there must at some point be a choice: Pure fulfillment of sexual fantasies, or a long term, healthy, mutually loving relationship. Depending on the nature of his fantasies, if he is heavily into kink and fetish, the fact is, he may be right. Unfortunately.

I don't know the nature of his fetishes and kinks; and judging by what I have read above some of you are, and it sounds like some people don't exactly approve of them. But if he is, for example, heavily into female domination and fetish, the sad fact is, like most people, it is unlikely he will ever find someone who will satisfy those sexual appetites while at the same time providing the loving companionship he seeks. I, too, have had those type of fantasies- I was heavily into the female domination thing- and I ultimately came to the same conclusion, so I can relate. And so, I too chose to find a vanilla partner who was mutually loving, and I chose to bury my taste for kink- it was challenging but it was a sacrifice I was willing to make for my partner's sake.

 

[Beandip478]

I am, unfortunately, not familiar with beandip's posting history so I don't know where the backlash is coming from. But on the surface, I think I can understand what he is trying to say.

I think, he feels like there must at some point be a choice: Pure fulfillment of sexual fantasies, or a long term, healthy, mutually loving relationship. Depending on the nature of his fantasies, if he is heavily into kink and fetish, the fact is, he may be right. Unfortunately.

I don't know the nature of his fetishes and kinks; and judging by what I have read above some of you are, and it sounds like some people don't exactly approve of them. But if he is, for example, heavily into female domination and fetish, the sad fact is, like most people, it is unlikely he will ever find someone who will satisfy those sexual appetites while at the same time providing the loving companionship he seeks. I, too, have had those type of fantasies- I was heavily into the female domination thing- and I ultimately came to the same conclusion, so I can relate. And so, I too chose to find a vanilla partner who was mutually loving, and I chose to bury my taste for kink- it was challenging but it was a sacrifice I was willing to make for my partner's sake.

Thank you, and you are partly right. I, too, don't know the reason for the backlash--people's feelings and needs change all the time, and this site has always been a place where people express those changing needs. Anyway, what my specific fetishes have been up until now is entirely unimportant, all I was saying was that I now feel the need to love and be loved. In recent weeks it has been the feelings of my heart which have dominated my thinking, rather than just fetish.