Cock Talk

[Endless_Night]

Absolutely tell me.

Bolded, no less.

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

Bolded, no less.

Happy accident

 

[hotwords229_A]

Another way to look at top and bottom is do-er and do-ee.

Whoever is topping is the more active participant, i.e., the do-er.


I feel so accomplished. For once I actually know what is going on.

“Top and Bottom Expert” needs to be added under your av!
However, I wonder . . . it seems to me, taking it up the ass has to involve effort on the do-ee’s part. Sure, the top is pumping, but the bottom must have to really focus on relaxing(?).

if it helps. I've also seen you with a strap on. (not sure why. It's not like you'd need one)

So I was wearing it?

I get the sense you give more than you take.

That’s me! I’m practically a saint!

non-consensually - the worst was a guy responding to something I wrote in the bdsm boards. He outlined his fantasy to find me bound and gagged and detailed the brutal things he would do to my body. No idea who he was. Definitely didn't care to find out after that

SHEESH!!!

I feel like you'd start as a top and then maybe end up as vers? I dunno, you tell ME.

In all honesty, I never understood the Top/Bottom thing. Wouldn’t you want to do both? It seems like taking turns would be the best way to do it.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I still believe most like interaction with that person first. (again. Not all)

Agreed. It seems odd to approach someone with “You know what I’d like to do with you . . .”

This is yet another example of male/female differences. Most guys would love a woman to approach him and say something about all the sexual things she wants to do to him, before even giving her name. Most women would be horrified and feel threatened—rightly so.

 

[hotwords229_A]

As for labels, I think they’re good as a shorthand for what you are generally into and expecting and what people should (generally) expect from you.

But I really, really, really don’t like when people use them as a defining identity—sexual, or otherwise.

I always struggled with finding a T-shirt that says something I truly believe and have no intention of changing. This is why I can never get a tattoo, or label myself as something, other than the really obvious stuff—Human, Man, American, Cheeseburger lover, but to pigeonhole myself into a religious belief, political party, sexual identity, race, etc. just seems goofy to me.

I have my thoughts, needs and desires, but they don’t fully fit any label. I’m relatively anti-label, other than for generic purposes.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

As for labels, I think they’re good as a shorthand for what you are generally into and expecting and what people should (generally) expect from you.

But I really, really, really don’t like when people use them as a defining identity—sexual, or otherwise.

I always struggled with finding a T-shirt that says something I truly believe and have no intention of changing. This is why I can never get a tattoo, or label myself as something, other than the really obvious stuff—Human, Man, American, Cheeseburger lover, but to pigeonhole myself into a religious belief, political party, sexual identity, race, etc. just seems goofy to me.

I have my thoughts, needs and desires, but they don’t fully fit any label. I’m relatively anti-label, other than for generic purposes.

My whole username is a run of labels

Aussie
Geeky
Gal

I freaking love labels. It helps me stay organized

 

[Apisto42]

Do you mind what role you are cast in in other people’s sexual fantasies?

I prefer to be in control, but that’s a personal issue. It’s hard to give it up…

Does it need to be applicable to your actual sexuality, or is it just an honor to be nominated?

Hey, it’s their fantasy, it’s just nice to be invited to the party.

Do you want to hear the gory details about what sexual thoughts you have inspired others to masturbate to? Or do you enjoy having no idea at all?

I’d rather hear them recite it, with pictures for added emphasis.

Has another person’s sexual fantasy about you awoken some hidden desire you didn’t know you had?

Yes. As others have said, lit opened up some new ideas over the years. And not just fantasies about me, but just what they fantasized about period. As in, listening to them I thought, “ah, that makes sense now.” I like getting to know what makes interesting people get off.

Do you imagine me as more of a top or a bottom?

Versatility seems more your style. Whatever works for the group at that minute.

Tell us something another person told you they fantasized about you:

Control. That actually made me think and I realized that while I’m all about give and take with pleasure, there’s a big part of me that loves to take the reins and run with it.

Out of curiosity, how would you prefer a girl show sexual interest in you?
(Some people would like clear instructions.)

Post stalk me and send me nudes.

 

[Cat]

Do you mind what role you are cast in in other people’s sexual fantasies?

No, their fantasies, their privilege.

Does it need to be applicable to your actual sexuality, or is it just an honor to be nominated?

It is not about me, it is about their fantasies, and what gets them off in that moment.. if that involves me being dressed as maid, teacher, soldier, teletubby, rockstar, mermaid... Their kink, not mine.. I do not yuck or judge.

Do you want to hear the gory details about what sexual thoughts you have inspired others to masturbate to? Or do you enjoy having no idea at all?

Depends.. if we have been talking and have that sort of connection/friendship.

If not.. I might find it a bit overwhelming.. slightly weird.. and definitely.. uncomfortable.

I like to be bought dinner, before the sexy parts.. or, figuratively speaking.

Has another person’s sexual fantasy about you awoken some hidden desire you didn’t know you had?

Yes!

Do you imagine me as more of a top or a bottom?

I do not know you, at all. But from the questions you ask, and the way you carry yourself..

It would surprise me, if you let yourself been restricted to only one role..

Tell us something another person told you they fantasized about you:

 

[Apisto42]

Nothing better than helping an angel to fall…

 

[Cat]

Nothing better than helping an angel to fall…

Falling.. To hands and knees...

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

As for labels, I think they’re good as a shorthand for what you are generally into and expecting and what people should (generally) expect from you.

But I really, really, really don’t like when people use them as a defining identity—sexual, or otherwise.

I always struggled with finding a T-shirt that says something I truly believe and have no intention of changing. This is why I can never get a tattoo, or label myself as something, other than the really obvious stuff—Human, Man, American, Cheeseburger lover, but to pigeonhole myself into a religious belief, political party, sexual identity, race, etc. just seems goofy to me.

I have my thoughts, needs and desires, but they don’t fully fit any label. I’m relatively anti-label, other than for generic purposes.

Labels and how they work, and especially sexual and gender identity, is entirely individualistic. You get to define entirely what that means for you. Label, no label, whatever you decide for yourself is completely valid. It's a "you do you" thing.

For me personally the "bi/pan" label was helpful in me realizing who I am. Coming to terms with my sexuality was a decades-long struggle. I didn't know what I was, and thanks to being raised in a homophobic environment, and later, having a spouse that caused damage when I tried opening up, I sure as fuck wasnt allowed to explore it or figure it out. So when I was finally in the right place, for me the label was an identifier. A weight came off my shoulders when I started to call myself "bi."

This is my experience. Also, cheeseburgers are awesome.

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

In all honesty, I never understood the Top/Bottom thing. Wouldn’t you want to do both? It seems like taking turns would be the best way to do it.

Some dudes are particular about where their dick goes and what goes into them. Me? I'm kinda just down for whatever. That's me, living that hoe life.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Do you mind what role you are cast in in other people’s sexual fantasies?

Nope, others fantasies are their own.

Does it need to be applicable to your actual sexuality, or is it just an honor to be nominated?

It is an honor just to be nominated

Do you want to hear the gory details about what sexual thoughts you have inspired others to masturbate to? Or do you enjoy having no idea at all?

Sure, tell me. I hope fantasy me is exciting and having a lot of fun.

Has another person’s sexual fantasy about you awoken some hidden desire you didn’t know you had?

Not that I recall. Usually they just either turn me on or make me laugh.

Do you imagine me as more of a top or a bottom?

Switch. I see you as adaptable.

Tell us something another person told you they fantasized about you:

oh, jeesh. Mostly it is just the standard thing, with detailed descriptions on visuals. Well a litster had me rolling on his fantasy of me and another litster. I may not listen to fantasies right if the ones that stand out are the ones that have me laughing.

 

[SassySheDevil]

So I was wearing it?

Yes. again, not sure why. You have your own belt

Agreed. It seems odd to approach someone with “You know what I’d like to do with you . . .”

This is yet another example of male/female differences. Most guys would love a woman to approach him and say something about all the sexual things she wants to do to him, before even giving her name. Most women would be horrified and feel threatened—rightly so.

This will always fascinate me. The differences. But if you look at how men and women have been raised all these prior years. I'd be fascinated to see how different our future generations will be. Many parents now a days are being so much more open about sexuality and letting their kids be whoever they want to be. I don't think we will have as many Dads saying "Men must behave like this", "Women must behave like this" Which I think is a huge reason why women today are still expected to be so reserved. It is changing. But it will take a lot of time.

As for labels, I think they’re good as a shorthand for what you are generally into and expecting and what people should (generally) expect from you.

But I really, really, really don’t like when people use them as a defining identity—sexual, or otherwise.

I always struggled with finding a T-shirt that says something I truly believe and have no intention of changing. This is why I can never get a tattoo, or label myself as something, other than the really obvious stuff—Human, Man, American, Cheeseburger lover, but to pigeonhole myself into a religious belief, political party, sexual identity, race, etc. just seems goofy to me.

I have my thoughts, needs and desires, but they don’t fully fit any label. I’m relatively anti-label, other than for generic purposes.

The topic of labels could really send me into a 300 page rant/discussion. In general. I don't mind them for reasons like what NRJ said. It helped him figure out how he was different. Who he was. But I do believe it is getting out of hand (Don't come at me people. This is just my opinion) Every year we have more and more labels popping out and the LGBTQ+ gets longer and longer. Obviously the + came along so it wasn't 100 words long. I want everyone to be who they are. I want everyone to live their life free and happy. But sometimes I don't understand why every little thing needs a label. Same with genders. I can't keep up. I'm about as open as one can be. But I still can't keep up. When filling out paperwork now some of them are so long it is ridiculous. Can't we just say "M? F? Other?" and then that person can explain the other?
My biggest pet peeve about labels is when on places like this and women (almost never men) throw out the title of being bi because they know it attracts the attention of most men. If you want to use a label. Don't throw it out just for attention. I would call myself bi, but I don't run around announcing that. I simply say that both men and women are attractive to me.
Who attracts me really has no need to announce to the world.
Now if I am single and I'm having a conversation with someone. Fine. I will tell them what attracts me/turns me on.
okay. I'll stop now lol

Some dudes are particular about where their dick goes and what goes into them. Me? I'm kinda just down for whatever. That's me, living that hoe life.

Again. I could run away with all the things about this statement that make me laugh.
But I love your openness.

 

[Bisexguy70]

Yes. again, not sure why. You have your own belt

This will always fascinate me. The differences. But if you look at how men and women have been raised all these prior years. I'd be fascinated to see how different our future generations will be. Many parents now a days are being so much more open about sexuality and letting their kids be whoever they want to be. I don't think we will have as many Dads saying "Men must behave like this", "Women must behave like this" Which I think is a huge reason why women today are still expected to be so reserved. It is changing. But it will take a lot of time.

The topic of labels could really send me into a 300 page rant/discussion. In general. I don't mind them for reasons like what NRJ said. It helped him figure out how he was different. Who he was. But I do believe it is getting out of hand (Don't come at me people. This is just my opinion) Every year we have more and more labels popping out and the LGBTQ+ gets longer and longer. Obviously the + came along so it wasn't 100 words long. I want everyone to be who they are. I want everyone to live their life free and happy. But sometimes I don't understand why every little thing needs a label. Same with genders. I can't keep up. I'm about as open as one can be. But I still can't keep up. When filling out paperwork now some of them are so long it is ridiculous. Can't we just say "M? F? Other?" and then that person can explain the other?
My biggest pet peeve about labels is when on places like this and women (almost never men) throw out the title of being bi because they know it attracts the attention of most men. If you want to use a label. Don't throw it out just for attention. I would call myself bi, but I don't run around announcing that. I simply say that both men and women are attractive to me.
Who attracts me really has no need to announce to the world.
Now if I am single and I'm having a conversation with someone. Fine. I will tell them what attracts me/turns me on.
okay. I'll stop now lol

Again. I could run away with all the things about this statement that make me laugh.
But I love your openness.

My Avatar name is bisexguy70 is because….
Guywholovessuckingcockbutlovespussytooandisturnedonbybothsexesbutiseasiertojustsuckcockinsteadofemotionallyconnectingwithwoman…..


Was taken

 

[deft]

Do you mind what role you are cast in in other people’s sexual fantasies?
Not at all... I just request that they have fun with whatever they want fantasy me doing with/to them.

Does it need to be applicable to your actual sexuality, or is it just an honor to be nominated?
Definitely an honour... to be thought of in a sexual way by anybody, whatever their proclivities, makes me happy. Again, I want whoever it is to have a fucking good time.

Do you want to hear the gory details about what sexual thoughts you have inspired others to masturbate to? Or do you enjoy having no idea at all?
Yes, I do... particularly if we already talk. I want to know exactly how I've been thrilling you in your fantasy... and, knowing you personally helps deepen and intensify the eroticism. But, anonymous feedback is good, too!

Has another person’s sexual fantasy about you awoken some hidden desire you didn’t know you had?
Yes, it has... along with many of the fine people on this board who I haven't shared fantasies with.

Do you imagine me as more of a top or a bottom?
I imagine you'd not want to restrict yourself to any experiences!

Tell us something another person told you they fantasized about you:
It involved a threesome... and it led to one of the most satisfying self-induced orgasms I've ever had.

 

[SassySheDevil]

My Avatar name is bisexguy70 is because….
Guywholovessuckingcockbutlovespussytooandisturnedonbybothsexesbutiseasiertojustsuckcockinsteadofemotionallyconnectingwithwoman…..


Was taken

I wish it wasn't different for men to be bi. Women can throw that out and get a ton of attention. Guys mention they are bi and that scares many off. Both men and women. I know just as many women who do not like bi guys as I do men who don't.
For guys. Sometimes I think leading with the label helps weed out the ones who will get weird about it. I know just as many women who do not like bi guys, as men.
So. leading with it helps cut that step out. Women can say bi and it attracts attention. Guys can't throw that label out and still think it'll bring them attention. They know that it'll most likely do the opposite.

 

[BongoGal]

Do you mind what role you are cast in in other people’s sexual fantasies?

To the extent that I know any details, I've never minded. The problem is that I am very skeptical that I ever really get all the details. I mean, for example, I have never once heard any guy mention any non-consensual fantasies about me or anyone else. I know that it's very taboo, but I wouldn't be judgey at all unless I thought it was a wish he wanted to make real.

 

[dontneedone]

To the extent that I know any details, I've never minded. The problem is that I am very skeptical that I ever really get all the details. I mean, for example, I have never once heard any guy mention any non-consensual fantasies about me or anyone else. I know that it's very taboo, but I wouldn't be judgey at all unless I thought it was a wish he wanted to make real.

Interesting. Wonder if we are weird that we've never had one of those about a woman. We aren't turned on by the thought that we are like, doing something against their will. That isn't very sexy for us when we are having fantasies.

 

[Endless_Night]

Really? God no. That is like getting a love letter reading "Darling, I must have you. Marry me or I will pine away and die," and then realising it was addressed "To Whom It May Concern."

Dear Lord.

I prefer to be in control, but that’s a personal issue. It’s hard to give it up…

Now see, this was kinda exciting....

Post stalk me and send me nudes.

And then I saw this.

* * *

What's really funny is they're basically a response to the same question!

 

[Endless_Night]

Is it just me that finds it amusing that so many of the guys find it an Honor to Be Nominated?


Surely not.

 

[deft]

Is it just me that finds it amusing that so many of the guys find it an Honor to Be Nominated?


Surely not.

Hey, I'm all about making people come!

 

[BongoGal]

Interesting. Wonder if we are weird that we've never had one of those about a woman. We aren't turned on by the thought that we are like, doing something against their will. That isn't very sexy for us when we are having fantasies.

'We'? That makes me wonder who is writing the non-con stories that are purportedly written by men.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Is it just me that finds it amusing that so many of the guys find it an Honor to Be Nominated?


Surely not.

No. I think this goes back to the differences between men and women.

 

[Apisto42]

Dear Lord.



Now see, this was kinda exciting....



And then I saw this.

* * *

What's really funny is they're basically a response to the same question!

Remember, half of what I say is bullshit. I’m giving you permission to determine which half is which.