ImiGirrst
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Control. Ugh. I think a large part of topping is wanting control. I glory in making my partners ache and moan and squirm. I SOOO enjoy "managing their pleasure." The pace. The rhythm. The calms and the storms. It gets me off to get them off. I suppose there's term for this. I just know that there is no amusement park as thrilling as a woman's body getting aroused and climaxing.
I've struggled with the idea of switching. Haven't found a partner with the metaphorical balls (because real ones won't do it for me) to be comfortable with.
BTW: Thank you for seeing me. - PDaddy
I agree with you about wanting control. I think the other part of it is DESERVING that control. EARNING that control. Because you just described the trust part - because if you're going to allow yourself to let go enough to be in that space to ache and moan, you have to trust the partner to do what you need to ache and moan - not jsut want your partner wants to do to YOU. Because then it is very likely there is little, if no payoff for you.
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Sad to say, my ex never EARNED that from me. We played at something that looked like submission, and he might have thought I loved submitting to him because I loved doggy style, but did he ever truly know that I liked it because my vagina tilted back, rather than I wanted to submit to him? I don't think so at all.
