Chaotic Coffee Klatch (tea also available)

Pot calling the kettle black much... you're judging me for not wanting a ton of comments on my posts in that kind of thread.
Calling you out for being judgmental is not the same as being judgmental. The nature and intention of the thread does not seem to align with what you want-that is ok. Why are you fighting that? Here is what Justa said when she started the thread:
Justadesperatewifeandmom said:
So where to start. Chaos is just Chaos. It is a place where a lot of different people come to talk about a lot of different thinks, often at the same time. Sometimes there is rhyme and reason, sometimes there is a theme of the day, sometimes well…. Chaos, it is just Chaos. This will likely be similar as I am starting a thread for the people who enjoy Chaos to undress in. There will likely be random whores (me), reaction whores, man whores, music whores, people who enjoy all sorts of whores, and people who do not identify with any whore labels at all. Maybe there will be themes, or maybe not. Some will have limits, some will not. Some may be e-whoring it up, some may not. Most likely, it will just be Chaos.

Come in, enjoy, we are a friendly bunch.
 
Hey, if you poof but edit to leave some context, then it's fine. But when someone is trying really hard to be super mysterious and then 3 pages later the comments are still about them, and only them, with other posts being ignored, it's not cool.

I don't think I'll be posting in chaos undressed again if things stay the same.
I think it's important to find the places it feels good to post.
People have a lot of different motivations and comfort zones around posting images of themselves. And most of the people that I am familiar with poofing do so in order to make it harder for someone with nefarious intent to identify them in off line life and to limit screen shots of images posted that are only meant to be viewed briefly.

I know litsters who have been stalked and who have had their employment jeopardized because they were recognized and someone wanted to be troublesome to them.

I have rarely seen people provide much commentary on their images behind links and invariably some people see them and lots of others don't. Most comments seem to me to be pretty supportive, appreciative and encouraging to those who post images of themselves... I'd say if getting a lot of comments is triggering to you, add some text requesting no comments, that reactions are sufficient for you.

Idk if any of that helps... just my 2 cents as a person who VERY rarely posts images and always poofs in short order when I do. We like you hanging around here and want you to feel happy and good here.... that's the point right? Have this stuff be an add, not a bummer.
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Pot calling the kettle black much... you're judging me for not wanting a ton of comments on my posts in that kind of thread.
Then why would you even bother posting your pics if you don't want people to comment? I don't get it or how you feel like her comment was judgey. You're making assumptions based on people you don't even know. She's commenting on things you have said directly yourself. Big difference.
 
I post because I enjoy sharing and because I know people like them - and a reaction on my post lets me know that.

She's misinterpreting things I'm saying in order to fit her narrative. It's becoming outright mean.
What?

I'm sorry, Maggie. I don't mean to gang up but there's only one person I see being mean here and it isn't her. Everything I've read from you feels like it's shaming other people for how they interact here.
 
I post because I enjoy sharing and because I know people like them - and a reaction on my post lets me know that.

She's misinterpreting things I'm saying in order to fit her narrative. It's becoming outright mean.
This will be my final comment I hope-as this convo isn't really what this chaos thread is all about.
I tried to word it nicely and then got more direct. I thought maybe it was a misunderstanding and it may still be but I will stop trying to clarify.
I am many things-loud, annoying, an over sharer, an attention whore at times those are things folks might say about me and they could be right. It is not all of me but at times, sure.
One thing I'm not, is mean.
 
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I poof because I’m not comfortable with my pics existing forever on here even if TECHNICALLY they exist forever on the internet.
And since we all use screen names and most folks don’t show their faces that gives us a bit more anonymity. If someone at the beach somehow recognizes my belly they’ve spent way too much time memorizing a picture.
 
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