Chaotic Coffee Klatch (tea also available)

[Strixaluco]

And while I forgot myself writing an essay, you already discussed most of the points I made

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

And while I forgot myself writing an essay, you already discussed most of thirst points I made

To be fair, it is an excellent essay. subs don't easily open up like that. Thank you.

 

[Strixaluco]

I make light of things like my dungeon, the cross, wheel, etc. That's just Lit fun and games, silly conversation, to me.

Do I have a dungeon? No, not really.Never even been in one except an historical one in near Wichita Falls.

But I have done some experimentation with several other things, not so extreme.

I know the kinky parties here have the wheel and the cross, I think rather few have them at home.

And for the one party they rented one medieval castle. Some outsider had called the cops... A pair of them walked in the hall where a woman was tied to the cross and being whipped. The younger cop was on alert, but the older one calmed him down - as the woman was laughing out loud between every whip stroke! The older cop very quickly decided they were not needed in the least.

 

[Strixaluco]

To be fair, it is an excellent essay. subs don't easily open up like that. Thank you.

Eh. One trait of me is sometimes needing to remind myself not to tell too much. Even private things.

 

[BrendaBear]

Eh. One trait of me is sometimes needing to remind myself not to tell too much. Even private things.

I get that… except I forget to remind myself. . I have been trained to not talk about others, but I tend to share way too much about me. Bad Brenda! Bad Brenda!

 

[Trubbycat]

Wow, all this from a silly picture I shared. Great conversation from everybody.

 

[Strixaluco]

I get that… except I forget to remind myself. . I have been trained to not talk about others, but I tend to share way too much about me. Bad Brenda! Bad Brenda!

The same! I am better at keeping the privacy of others than my own privacy.

And I tend to get into too much details even in a way others may find tedious... I'm not good at giving summaries.

 

[Strixaluco]

I know I must sound like a pompous old windbag talking about Kinks. But understand this: I am counselling / mentoring a couple on another site who have gotten themselves mixed up with a bad Dom. He is a sexual sadist, not a Dominant. He is way too extreme for their wants and needs (Theirs is a cuckold fantasy with a bit of SPH, even though he is normal size, and some bondage, impact and humiliation). He puts them through stuff that makes the Story of O seem like Winnie the Pooh (although, you have to wonder about what all that honey was for).

Sounds like abuse.

Which isn't an inherent part of sadism. I know that much, though I totally exclude S/m from my sexual life.

 

[BrendaBear]

The same! I am better at keeping the privacy of others than my own privacy.

And I tend to get into too much details even in a way others may find tedious... I'm not good at giving summaries.

Again, that‘s me as well. That is why I came to dislike telephones. With an email or text, I can go back and delete a bunch of extra stuff… probably should do that when posting too…. Oh well.

 

[Strixaluco]

Again, that‘s me as well. That is why I came to dislike telephones. With an email or text, I can go back and delete a bunch of extra stuff… probably should do that when posting too…. Oh well.

I deleted some, and still that essay got so long...

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Eh. One trait of me is sometimes needing to remind myself not to tell too much. Even private things.

I get that… except I forget to remind myself. . I have been trained to not talk about others, but I tend to share way too much about me. Bad Brenda! Bad Brenda!

The same! I am better at keeping the privacy of others than my own privacy.

And I tend to get into too much details even in a way others may find tedious... I'm not good at giving summaries.

Don't fret. All I know of either of you is a meaningless name and an alleged location. For all I know, you both live on my street.

As for equipment (over share ahead)...I am building a spare room / dungeon. The Murphy bed will double as a St. Andrew's Cross substitute. The bench at the end of the bed will be a spanking bench once it is moved (with convenient attachment points). The bed is built at a "convenient" height...so the sub can be tied by the arms to the headboard and be on her knees (on the bench cushions), butt up...I think you get the idea

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Sounds like abuse.

Which isn't an inherent part of sadism. I know that much, though I totally exclude S/m from my sexual life.

It is abuse. He is a moron and I am trying to get them to leave him. They are sucked in by the enjoyment of some of the acts. I think is the lack of D, discipline on both side of the slash here. He has no self-discipline and does not teach it to his subs.

 

[BrendaBear]

Don't fret. All I know of either of you is a meaningless name and an alleged location. For all I know, you both live on my street.

As for equipment (over share ahead)...I am building a spare room / dungeon. The Murphy bed will double as a St. Andrew's Cross substitute. The bench at the end of the bed will be a spanking bench once it is moved (with convenient attachment points). The bed is built at a "convenient" height...so the sub can be tied by the arms to the headboard and be on her knees (on the bench cushions), butt up...I think you get the idea

That wasn’t over sharing… I love the sound of your spare room.

And I actually do live on your street. I really like your fedora, but worry you will ruin it wearing it in the snow like you do.

 

[Trubbycat]

Don't fret. All I know of either of you is a meaningless name and an alleged location. For all I know, you both live on my street.

Wouldn't that be hilarious? You send out a Lit meetup invite and everyone who shows up are your friends, neighbors, coworkers and family.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Wouldn't that be hilarious? You send out a Lit meetup invite and everyone who shows up are your friends, neighbors, coworkers and family.

It would make travel arrangements much easier. Although, I think I am at least close to half-way between Vegas and Finland...say 7pm eastern. BYOB (bring you own bindings).

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

That wasn’t over sharing… I love the sound of your spare room.

And I actually do live on your street. I really like your fedora, but worry you will ruin it wearing it in the snow like you do.

You are right Brenda Bear. I will wear my Trapper Hat when I shovel tomorrow...https://cdn.shoplightspeed.com/shops/636513/files/42820252/800x1024x2/nepal-chase-trapper-hat-red.jpg

 

[Strixaluco]

Don't fret. All I know of either of you is a meaningless name and an alleged location. For all I know, you both live on my street.

Oh I don't fret. I'm not worried about what I've shared here - though I guess one could pick up everything I've told over the months and narrow down to who I am.

But even when I was still vanilla, I've been told TMI by a friend. And I really struggle to keep from oversharing with people who are not kinky to my knowledge.

Wouldn't that be hilarious? You send out a Lit meetup invite and everyone who shows up are your friends, neighbors, coworkers and family.

I've already recognised one person on the Finnish forum. Happens to be my puppy love when we were 13-14... He had mentioned city/town, his age (both matched), and had a drawing (the style was familiar). Well, we are in the same boat, both being on the same forum. We've had some interesting discussions since - not many people in my life know me since that time.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Oh I don't fret. I'm not worried about what I've shared here - though I guess one could pick up everything I've told over the months and narrow down to who I am.

But even when I was still vanilla, I've been told TMI by a friend. And I really struggle to keep from oversharing with people who are not kinky to my knowledge.


I've already recognised one person on the Finnish forum. Happens to be my puppy love when we were 13-14... He had mentioned city/town, his age (both matched), and had a drawing (the style was familiar). Well, we are in the same boat, both being on the same forum. We've had some interesting discussions since - not many people in my life know me since that time.

One Litster has made it known to me that she is "near" (about 2 hours' drive away in a town I visit frequently). We have little in common except she is an exhibitionist and I like looking at naughty bits.

I don't know what I would do if a HS crush showed up here (Sara, Angela, Beth, Kathy, Sasha, Miss Black). I would likely revert to that shy, introverted nerd I still am deep down inside.

 

[BrendaBear]

One Litster has made it known to me that she is "near" (about 2 hours' drive away in a town I visit frequently). We have little in common except she is an exhibitionist and I like looking at naughty bits.

I don't know what I would do if a HS crush showed up here (Sara, Angela, Beth, Kathy, Sasha, Miss Black). I would likely revert to that shy, introverted nerd I still am deep down inside.

Do shy, introverted nerds always tie their women to an x-frame and tease them with a feather duster?

I didn’t know they were so much fun!

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Do shy, introverted nerds always tie their women to an x-frame and tease them with a feather duster?

I didn’t know they were so much fun!

Once they get over the shyness and leverage the "Nerd" part into a career in Engineering...then they become much less introverted

 

[Trubbycat]

Do shy, introverted nerds always tie their women to an x-frame and tease them with a feather duster?

I didn’t know they were so much fun!

Probably because when we were young the jocks got all the girls. We had to spend decades reading and getting creative.

 

[cascadiabound]

Oh oh oh.... if what's his is mine, then....

Indie has a girlfriend

Lmao
I think there may be a logical fallacy in there somewhere

Love ya Indie!

 

[PlanetaryNebula]

Yawwwwwnnnnn stretch..... your punishment, easy.....tying you up, ball gag, and standing you in the corner facing the wall. You get to listen.

@LupineOne a favor sir? Take over with @PlanetaryNebula while I get some coffee and donuts. And Indie may need a break after 5 or 6 hours. She's a tough ho, maybe she needs longer

I fear I am in for a good tongue lashing

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

I fear I am in for a good tongue lashing

Okay, but let me get some water first...

 

[Trubbycat]

I fear I am in for a good tongue lashing

(everyone here starts limbering up their tongues)

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