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I believe you but I don't actually get it. Like, how can one actually be angry without a reason the can articulate, in great detail, with harsh language. I just can't see anger without a reason.
They just hold on to the feeling itself, I believe.
Besides, many people aren't able to articulate in great detail to begin with. And I don't use harsh language even when fighting.
 
I didnt say bottle them up, shit if you have them for someone express them, just not publicly. And for gods sake please approach them from a logical angle instead of getting all weepy and whiny. Love ya bro but not all of us are cut out for the sensitive ponytail guy stuff.
Feelings are not logic, they are feelings. If you demand everything to be approached logically, you most probably end up ignoring some feelings totally - and then they are actually able to rule you without you realising it.

Also logical and weepy and whiny are not opposites, excluding each other, or the only options. Also sensitive and ponytail guys do not actually go together.
 
I didnt say bottle them up, shit if you have them for someone express them, just not publicly. And for gods sake please approach them from a logical angle instead of getting all weepy and whiny. Love ya bro but not all of us are cut out for the sensitive ponytail guy stuff.
Fair enough. And absolutely be logical about it, I agree completely…weepy and whiny does no one any good in the end. I just think it’s logical to put the effort in to understand myself and others feelings and where they’re coming from to better deal with them, positive or negative.
And genuinely caring about all that in others is part of it. That’s all.
 
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The first step for this, for me, is letting go. Sometimes this just takes some time.
I've done somethings in the past that I deeply regret, and I'm probably going to the grave before they forgive me. I understand that sorry doesn't cut it for some. I'm just now getting my 'real marriage' of 44years back on track.
 
Hey y’all I need some advise mainly from the lady’s, and yes I know she’s gonna see this later but it’s about me not her, for the ones who have ever been coupled with someone on lit, I’m very much struggling to not get defensive when other dude pretty much make passes at her on lit and yes I know it’s lit and a sexual place but I just I don’t know I’ve been kinda rude to a few people about it and I do feel bad because I know I hurt her feeling with how I acted but I’m just I don’t know struggling
 
Hey y’all I need some advise mainly from the lady’s, and yes I know she’s gonna see this later but it’s about me not her, for the ones who have ever been coupled with someone on lit, I’m very much struggling to not get defensive when other dude pretty much make passes at her on lit and yes I know it’s lit and a sexual place but I just I don’t know I’ve been kinda rude to a few people about it and I do feel bad because I know I hurt her feeling with how I acted but I’m just I don’t know struggling
My personal advice is hush and suck it up. anything more I say would likely come off sounding harsh so I'll hush, but yes my advice is deal with it by ignoring it.
 
Hey y’all I need some advise mainly from the lady’s, and yes I know she’s gonna see this later but it’s about me not her, for the ones who have ever been coupled with someone on lit, I’m very much struggling to not get defensive when other dude pretty much make passes at her on lit and yes I know it’s lit and a sexual place but I just I don’t know I’ve been kinda rude to a few people about it and I do feel bad because I know I hurt her feeling with how I acted but I’m just I don’t know struggling
I recommend you just learn to trust her to ignore or reject them. That's what happens IRL, too. The guys most probably don't know she's taken, but she does. And if she for some reason doesn't reject or ignore, then it's between you two.
 
Hey y’all I need some advise mainly from the lady’s, and yes I know she’s gonna see this later but it’s about me not her, for the ones who have ever been coupled with someone on lit, I’m very much struggling to not get defensive when other dude pretty much make passes at her on lit and yes I know it’s lit and a sexual place but I just I don’t know I’ve been kinda rude to a few people about it and I do feel bad because I know I hurt her feeling with how I acted but I’m just I don’t know struggling
I say ignore it. She handles things pretty well and I know from personal experience that most litsters will step in to address a misunderstanding. Also, this is lit but just like in the physical world you have to trust her to not take the bait. She seems pretty into you. You should be ok. 👍
 
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