Litiquette VII

[tnman03]

I think people that are victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, trafficking, LGBTQ, members of AA and Alanon might disagree with that up there.
These people depend on a safe space that’s inclusive, accepting and nonjudgmental. That’s their support system.
I can’t say for all, but I’m not sure how well breaking the bubbles goes in these kind of groups.
Everyone should be allowed some sort of safe space - each of us has a story and its not my job to play judge/jury telling someone what’s what.

That was said sweet and not criticizing anyone’s comments above.

I agree that safe spaces for support and recovery groups as SMN covered so well are important and relevant. If you've walked in another person's footsteps who's been through the same it provides reassurance of nonjudgmental environments. And I speak from experience of having training and helping peers who'd experenced traumatic work experences and high suicide rates.

 

[Orchidea73]

Safe spaces for support and recovery groups is a very real thing and important. As HW rightly put it, that is dealing with the reality. A very harsh reality. Anyone with two brain cells to rub together would agree with that.

I would also add that there are spaces which are private and should be considered "safe" for women and/or children, as a whole group, and rightly so. There are good reasons for that and no one should violate those spaces. Family is a safe space. Although, there are many cases when this is not the case, unfortunately. So yeah, there are a category of people, places and/or context where it's very real.

However, in the last couple of years, the term "safe space" has been abused shamelessly. In work environment, in college, in debates, in politics, in journalism, in sports, in arts. Everyfuckingwhere! That is a travesty. It is used as a weapon to shut down anyone who does not share your opinion and who does not say the things you want to hear. And who does not behave the way you think they should, because you know the right way and they don't.

It is authoritarian and it is a manipulation of the lowest form because you are also playing the "victim card" and are using it to shut down anyone and anything you do not like. So no, those people do not need a "safe space". They need to grow a pair and grow the fuck up.

 

[investor2020]

^^^
Very well said, M'lady . . . agree wholeheartedly.

 

[Dribble]

I used to call my daughter peanut. I don't know why I stopped? I think when walls go up for other reasons...they can't help but remain in part between those you love as well. Kids do not see things as we do. It killed me the first time she said she was scared of me. I wasn't even mad at her. But still, her fear was/is very real. So yes, I do think safe spots should exist. I imposed 2. One is her room. The other is the dinner table. Those are two places where I MUST always listen fully without jumping in and explaining why I am right.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I am a huge advocate for psychological safety. There can be dissenting opinions and hard conversations in these spaces. There have to be ground rules and accountability when rules are broken. They're hard places to exist in. Most people cannot handle them.

My "safe places" are places where there is no tolerance for dehumanization and cruelty is forbidden. As my mentor says- cruelty is cheap, easy, and chickenshit.

This thread is pretty safe by my standards. That's why I hang here

I love learning other people's perspectives and everything y'all share really does help shape my opinions and challenge my preconceived notions of the world.

Safety comes from the willingness to be wrong. I want to be in a room of people who operate from the assumption that they're not right, but are willing to get it right.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I used to call my daughter peanut. I don't know why I stopped? I think when walls go up for other reasons...they can't help but remain in part between those you love as well. Kids do not see things as we do. It killed me the first time she said she was scared of me. I wasn't even mad at her. But still, her fear was/is very real. So yes, I do think safe spots should exist. I imposed 2. One is her room. The other is the dinner table. Those are two places where I MUST always listen fully without jumping in and explaining why I am right.

Parenting done right

 

[HoneyMeadows]

My interpretation of "safe space" is being surrounded by people who will accept that I'm trying my best. I'm not always right and I ask a LOT of questions, but it comes from a place of self-improvement rather than self-importance.

There are also those places as mentioned before, both psychological and physical, for those who need it.

 

[ChainedUp]

There’s a pulse, albeit faint, but I think we can bring the thread back to life!

Hands on flesh, finding the right spot, applying just enough pressure, then releasing, repeating until the reaction crescendos…..CPR is an amazing technique.

What other everyday, routine, dare I say mundane actions can be written so as to conjur up sexual images.

Let’s play a game, I’ve given an example. describe something so as to make it seems sexual but in reality isn’t. The next person identifies it and then writes their own. Yes, in theory this should be its own thread but we’re doing it this way for now.

Go!

 

[rubydlite]

Pssssssst.....anyone here?

 

[NakedBrownSkin]

Pssssssst.....anyone here?

Yep. Me.

 

[ChainedUp]

There’s lurkers, and a few looking for yesteryear. But for the most part, time seems to have passed the place by.

 

[tnman03]

There’s lurkers, and a few looking for yesteryear. But for the most part, time seems to have passed the place by.

I don't think that's the case at all, it's just an interlude.

 

[The_gladiator]

Miss this thread.

 

[ChainedUp]

We once posted to challenge our minds
Then we posted to have our fun
And now, shall we allow the silence of our souls to dictate who we are

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Tell me, friend... Who are you?

 

[investor2020]

"I am the walrus, goo goo g'joob"

 

[ChainedUp]

Tell me, friend... Who are you?

I’m no Pete Townshend but….

 

[Endless_Night]

"To see a World in a Grain of Sand"

 

[quietlylooking]

I’m no Pete Townshend but….

do they call you The Seeker??

 

[Dribble]

We once posted to challenge our minds
Then we posted to have our fun
And now, shall we allow the silence of our souls to dictate who we are

I missed this then.

If a thread isn't on the first page...i never see it. I can't speak for others...but I miss this thread.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I missed this then.

If a thread isn't on the first page...i never see it. I can't speak for others...but I miss this thread.

I do, too.
I also miss Papa Chained

 

[Endless_Night]

Yeah, I miss this thread as well. I enjoyed it very much during it's heyday.

 

[ChainedUp]

Slips in, thought I’d wander the old place, see what ghosts are still kicking about.

 

[may_I_please]

Slips in, thought I’d wander the old place, see what ghosts are still kicking about.

It’s weird wandering around after a while seeing who you remember from back when

 

[ChainedUp]

It’s a good feeling, lots of good chats and topics. And occasionally citations would need to be issued.