Chaotic Coffee Klatch (tea also available)

[Photog1rl]

Are you a Cali girl?

I am. Not as northern as I think you are.

 

[lanceGibs]

I figure you'd like that one it was my favorite of the options I found this one was another ok option but I think the first one is a bit sexier and more sensual

https://imgur.com/a/Yd3Y9iE

Poor dear

 

[Photog1rl]

At first I thought this was an unbelievably rude question.
Then I realized it said, "Cali girl." Not "Call girl."

And it’s ok. I’m not a sex worker but no shade to those that are we all need to get off somehow. If it means paying for it…so be it.

 

[rjr_1954]

Perhaps you need to trust her to know - as in, she can tell that you are putting out an effort, but it isn’t really internalized, just an effort. Like when people say they are going to cut out bacon from their diet, at two weeks later they are eating bacon. It takes far more effort and commitment than that.

You Have to use Bacon in an analogy, you're making me hungry.
I sometimes can go 6 or 7 day runs of being exceptionaly nice an considerate to her and then "BAM" I say cold or inconsiderate and shove my own foot up my ass & back to square one!

 

[Photog1rl]

So since not into pain and not feeling like a spanking how about some tickling instead?

https://imgur.com/a/44IuHG1

Omg, I didn’t even know that was a thing. Mind completely blown. That looks like a 10/10!

 

[BrendaBear]

I figure you'd like that one it was my favorite of the options I found this one was another ok option but I think the first one is a bit sexier and more sensual

This looks nice, but she isn’t gagged which personally I would not like (as in, I would prefer a gag) because I want to be able to just make whatever groan or scream sounds I feel and I do not want to have the option for intelligent speech. I don’t want to be self conscious thinking about what I should say.

Next, her legs are able to move too much. Not restrained enough. Her body should be held firmly in place so she can have the fun of straining hard against her bonds - which is in itself a wonderful sensation.

Having said all that - I find it sexy and exciting.

 

[Codeman93]

This looks nice, but she isn’t gagged which personally I would not like (as in, I would prefer a gag) because I want to be able to just make whatever groan or scream sounds I feel and I do not want to have the option for intelligent speech. I don’t want to be self conscious thinking about what I should say.

Next, her legs are able to move too much. Not restrained enough. Her body should be held firmly in place so she can have the fun of straining hard against her bonds - which is in itself a wonderful sensation.

Having said all that - I find it sexy and exciting.

Clamps attached to the gag?

 

[BrendaBear]

You Have to use Bacon in an analogy, you're making me hungry.
I sometimes can go 6 or 7 day runs of being exceptionaly nice an considerate to her and then "BAM" I say cold or inconsiderate and shove my own foot up my ass & back to square one!

That is good you see it - and that is what you have to fix. A woman wants weeks and months between her spouse doing or saying something stupid and inconsiderate, not hours and days.

 

[BrendaBear]

Clamps attached to the gag?

You mean nipple clamps? What kind of clamps? I haven’t played with nipple clamps in years, they were more a pain thing to me when I played with them years ago.

 

[rjr_1954]

You arnt though if your still holding onto it and using it as an excuse

Hmmm, hearing it from a others perspective.....you ARE right. I have to rethink this. Calls for some meditation on this. You should be a therapist!

 

[Codeman93]

You mean nipple clamps? What kind of clamps? I haven’t played with nipple clamps in years, they were more a pain thing to me when I played with them years ago.

These attached to the gag

 

[Codeman93]

Hmmm, hearing it from a others perspective.....you ARE right. I have to rethink this. Calls for some meditation on this. You should be a therapist!

I’m to damaged for that man I’ve been in your spot honestly, sometimes it’s more then meditation, it might require you to talk to a therapist

 

[BrendaBear]

I am. Not as northern as I think you are.

I am in Las Vegas. But I used to live in Carson City, and would go up to Truckee often, and up through Susanville to Oregon.

 

[Codeman93]

I am in Las Vegas. But I used to live in Carson City, and would go up to Truckee often, and up through Susanville to Oregon.

I love Oregon

 

[BrendaBear]

These attached to the gag

I don’t think I would care for that. I’d rather have light, sexy teasing touches - especially when blindfolded so I can’t see what is coming. I don’t want pain.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

This looks nice, but she isn’t gagged which personally I would not like (as in, I would prefer a gag) because I want to be able to just make whatever groan or scream sounds I feel and I do not want to have the option for intelligent speech. I don’t want to be self conscious thinking about what I should say.

Next, her legs are able to move too much. Not restrained enough. Her body should be held firmly in place so she can have the fun of straining hard against her bonds - which is in itself a wonderful sensation.

Having said all that - I find it sexy and exciting.

You are a complex woman. I like that.

 

[shenglung]

I love sensory deprivation! I have sewn hoods for myself, and made my own gags. I don’t dig the drool, I prefer a good properly fitted penis gag. I bought several dildos, found one that the circumference was nice in my mouth, then cut it off at the right depth and attached it to a wide nylon strap to go around my head. It is delightful! Combine that with a blindfold, and being bound to my bench… happy girl! I would love to do more, but that will have to wait until I find my lover.

Why do I suddenly picture this as your mask during lockdowns?
...

 

[Codeman93]

I don’t think I would care for that. I’d rather have light, sexy teasing touches - especially when blindfolded so I can’t see what is coming. I don’t want pain.

That’s fair fuck the clamps could always use ice

 

[BrendaBear]

Why do I suddenly picture this as your mask during lockdowns?

That is the basic idea of what my gags are - although I cannot take that long in my mouth. My throat is too scarred for that. I love the idea but what does she do if someone talks to her and needs a response? How embarrassing to pull it out!

 

[BrendaBear]

That’s fair fuck the clamps could always use ice

Ice would be an interesting experience… I would be okay with trying that..

 

[shenglung]

That is the basic idea of what my gags are - although I cannot take that long in my mouth. My throat is too scarred for that. I love the idea but what does she do if someone talks to her and needs a response? How embarrassing to pull it out!

Ironically when I found the gif it was labeled "sorry dad what were you saying?" LOL

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

That is the basic idea of what my gags are - although I cannot take that long in my mouth. My throat is too scarred for that. I love the idea but what does she do if someone talks to her and needs a response? How embarrassing to pull it out!

Thats one reason to not use a gag in impact play. You cant "safeword" with a dildo in your mouth. Hand signals ae okay, but easily missed.

 

[Codeman93]

Ice would be an interesting experience… I would be okay with trying that..

Ive always had a positive reaction from ice and a blind fold

 

[Codeman93]

How is everyone?

 

[BrendaBear]

Thats one reason to not use a gag in impact play. You cant "safeword" with a dildo in your mouth. Hand signals ae okay, but easily missed.

I haven’t tried this, but in my stories I write that I hold a little electric noisemaker in my hand as a safe word. Maybe a remote that triggers the stereo going on, or just something like the “easy” button that makes a sound when pushed.