Chaotic Coffee Klatch (tea also available)

[shenglung]

Okay, there is a door frame, with no door. Just an opening. And you are in the middle of it, spread eagle. Legs spread wide, and tied to hooks I put in the door frame. Your hands are also spread wide, over your head. Assuming you aren’t really short, they can’t be full stretched out, but they are still tied to the top corners of the door frame.

In that position, I can get to any part of your body I want. And you cannot stop me. I can tease your flesh with my vibrator… anywhere. I can insert an inflatable butt plug in your ass. And any time I get a response from you I do not like, I inflate it more.

I can hang weights from your nipples, or manly bits. I can spank you with a wooden hairbrush. I can gag you, or force you to suck on a dildo like you are giving some guy head. The possibilities are endless.

I’m creative.

Your definitely creative and love the way your mind works... at the same time remind me to never to get on your bad side lol

 

[Lindi37]

Questions or for it to happen to you?

A little bit of column A a little of column B

 

[Codeman93]

A little bit of column A a little of column B

That’s fair

 

[BrendaBear]

Okay… I have sooooo many questions

You know I am here for you to answer any questions you may have.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Your definitely creative and love the way your mind works... at the same time remind me to never to get on your bad side lol

Bad Side / Fun Side...toe may toe / toe mah toe...

 

[shenglung]

You know I am here for you to answer any questions you may have.

Can we get visual demonstrations instead? I'm sure you'll have plenty of volunteers

 

[Codeman93]

You know I am here for you to answer any questions you may have.

I feel like your about to get a lot

 

[BrendaBear]

Your definitely creative and love the way your mind works... at the same time remind me to never to get on your bad side lol

I would never do anything like that in anger, only if I knew they would enjoy the experience.

I am not into pain at all, it just makes me mad. I like to joke and flirt about spankings, but in reality they are not my thing. But it is a fun flirty joke to enjoy.

 

[LupineOne]

I feel like your about to get a lot

Probably

 

[BrendaBear]

Can we get visual demonstrations instead? I'm sure you'll have plenty of volunteers

That would be fun!

 

[rjr_1954]

Have you just sat her down and listened to her feelings? Not when she’s mad but cool headed?

I always listen to her. Its just I interprete concepts differently and it frustrates her! - She can say I love you and, I interprete as she appreciates me!

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

I would never do anything like that in anger, only if I knew they would enjoy the experience.

I am not into pain at all, it just makes me mad. I like to joke and flirt about spankings, but in reality they are not my thing. But it is a fun flirty joke to enjoy.

But, it seems the love of restraint is real?

 

[LupineOne]

That would be fun!

Similar…undressing would be a hugely fun part of it…the tingling anticipation
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[BrendaBear]

But, it seems the love of restraint is real?

Absolutely. I haven’t been tied up with ropes since I was 14, but with leather cuffs? I adore them. I also have custom cuffs I made with nylon material (like dog leashes but wider), and those are great but I would rather they were leather.

 

[BrendaBear]

Similar…undressing would be a hugely fun part of it…the tingling anticipation
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Nice! That kind of restraining can be used in lots of different ways. Lots of room for improvising.

 

[Codeman93]

I always listen to her. It’s just I interprete concepts differently and it frustrates her! - She can say I love you and, I interprete as she appreciates me!

Listening is good but you have to be alittle blunt about it, as in asking the hard questions of what sets her off and how can y’all work on it together, love is work on both sides so you have to work for each other man, listening and being attentive is good but somtimes it doesn’t get to the root of a problem

 

[rjr_1954]

I think she is being totally honest with you. The solution is to decide that she, and your relationship with you, are more important to you than you are. Your needs need to come in third. Not forever, but until at least one year after you have convinced her she is important, and matters to you, and that it truly makes you happy to make her happy.

She is very skeptical about me wanting to put her First and I seem to fall back on things that are insensitive to needs

 

[Codeman93]

Is @LadyLascivious1 lurking?

 

[BrendaBear]

She is very skeptical about me wanting to put her First and I seem to fall back on things that are insensitive to needs

Perhaps you need to trust her to know - as in, she can tell that you are putting out an effort, but it isn’t really internalized, just an effort. Like when people say they are going to cut out bacon from their diet, at two weeks later they are eating bacon. It takes far more effort and commitment than that.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Absolutely. I haven’t been tied up with ropes since I was 14, but with leather cuffs? I adore them. I also have custom cuffs I made with nylon material (like dog leashes but wider), and those are great but I would rather they were leather.

The sensory aspect is significant. Leather fills the nostrils and pleases the touch. Cold steel implies a more serious game. The clank of chains rings like an alarm bell. Hemp rope itches. Nylon glides over the skin.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

Is @LadyLascivious1 lurking?

I was actually just catching up on messages: I guess that’s kind of the same?

What’s up?

 

[LupineOne]

The sensory aspect is significant. Leather fills the nostrils and pleases the touch. Cold steel implies a more serious game. The clank of chains rings like an alarm bell. Hemp rope itches. Nylon glides over the skin.

Exactly. All of them are very important

 

[shenglung]

You boys seem to really like the idea of beating my ass… I would think there are other attributes I have that might be more stimulating… but what do I know?

I am not into pain at all, it just makes me mad. I like to joke and flirt about spankings, but in reality they are not my thing. But it is a fun flirty joke to enjoy.

So since not into pain and not feeling like a spanking how about some tickling instead?
...

 

[BrendaBear]

The sensory aspect is significant. Leather fills the nostrils and pleases the touch. Cold steel implies a more serious game. The clank of chains rings like an alarm bell. Hemp rope itches. Nylon glides over the skin.

Chains are so much fun! I have uses them a lot in self-bondage. The sound, and the weight is so sexy! I wouldn’t use hemp, because of the itch. I use nylon rope with my cuffs, never against my skin.

I need a real life playmate in my life! But being a romantic, I also need to be madly in love too.

 

[rjr_1954]

Listening is good but you have to be alittle blunt about it, as in asking the hard questions of what sets her off and how can y’all work on it together, love is work on both sides so you have to work for each other man, listening and being attentive is good but somtimes it doesn’t get to the root of a problem

My parents were the problem, not good role models for me to learn from. All they cared about were cigarettes and fighting.