Chaotic Coffee Klatch (tea also available)

[RocinanteCaliban]

which tea has the booze in. that one is mine.

I'm sure it can be added to most, though I've never dared attempt it.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Long term partner decision involves lots of factors. But how do y'all decide on one nighter?

at this point, they are there and they will do. timing is half the battle, not annoying me is the other half, and even the second one can be overlooked if their mouth is busy.

 

[water_moutina]

which tea has the booze in. that one is mine.

Tequila.
Gin and tonic
Scotch

All of them have 'T' in them

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Long term partner decision involves lots of factors. But how do y'all decide on one nighter?

I've heard some people use personals though. Never found them useful. I'd browse but I am just not the type men are looking for lol. Like first most start off by looking for someone young or mature, and shit, I can't fall into either of those groups. Then it tends to go more down hill from there haha.

 

[MsNatalie99]

That's why it most of the times ends right away

Sorry. Still, from you I think an insulting would be ok. Ummmm sorry I'm not bigger

 

[RocinanteCaliban]

I've heard some people use personals though. Never found them useful. I'd browse but I am just not the type men are looking for lol. Like first most start off by looking for someone young or mature, and shit, I can't fall into either of those groups. Then it tends to go more down hill from there haha.

I've always found that when I don't look is when the most ideal people make their way to me... I still don't know why though lol... (yes, I have imposter/confidence issues lol)

 

[water_moutina]

I've heard some people use personals though. Never found them useful. I'd browse but I am just not the type men are looking for lol. Like first most start off by looking for someone young or mature, and shit, I can't fall into either of those groups. Then it tends to go more down hill from there haha.

But... you got the bweeeeebs

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I've always found that when I don't look is when the most ideal people make their way to me... I still don't know why though lol... (yes, I have imposter/confidence issues lol)

but most of us have short windows and all when considering a one nighter.

 

[MsNatalie99]

Long term partner decision involves lots of factors. But how do y'all decide on one nighter?

#1 Not a Serial Killer, Good sense of humor, playful, has no issues with my Plumbing, the rest is case by case

 

[Strixaluco]

I'm too nice, I just start flirts with compliments... probably why I'm usually "friendzoned" unless it's online lol

Nah. The reason for friendzoning is the lack of certain kind of interest - or being attached. The guys who are not nice enough don't even make it to the friendzone.

Online pheromones are out of the play. Impossible to know who would make the hormones run wild IRL and who would not.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

But... you got the bweeeeebs

the ads never stated that though. closest fit I found was cleaning my house for insults dude.

 

[RocinanteCaliban]

but most of us have short windows and all when considering a one nighter.

totally get that - can't say that I'm big on one nighters myself

 

[MsNatalie99]

Nah. The reason for friendzoning is the lack of certain kind of interest - or being attached. The guys who are not nice enough don't even make it to the friendzone.

Online pheromones are out of the play. Impossible to know who would make the hormones run wild IRL and who would not.

Agreed. And then many who are in my friend zone, we're there, before they ever expressed interest. In my mind it's not an demotion

 

[water_moutina]

#1 Not a Serial Killer, Good sense of humor, playful, has no issues with my Plumbing, the rest is case by case

That's high standard for me when it comes to one nighter

 

[RocinanteCaliban]

Agreed. And then many who are in my friend zone, we're there, before they ever expressed interest. In my mind it's not an demotion

Nothing wrong with being in the friend zone whatsoever... I'm more than okay with that given current living arrangements.

 

[MsNatalie99]

That's high standard for me when it comes to one nighter

Ok than only 1 and 3

 

[water_moutina]

Ok than only 1 and 3

Why do you need him to tell you jokes while ploughing you?

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Ok than only 1 and 3

yeah, that is a solid bar. I did forget, I am not one to usually make an outward obvious move, so another key is them displaying an interest.

so one night stand criteria.

1) is there
2) not a serial killer vibe
3) takes an interest
4) plumbing works/will do.

 

[MsNatalie99]

Why do you need him to tell you jokes while ploughing you?

No, not a serial killer, and has no problem with my Plumbing. The surprise I have a dick thing rarely bodes well outside of porn.

The joke tends to be his attempt at plowing me

 

[water_moutina]

yeah, that is a solid bar. I did forget, I am not one to usually make an outward obvious move, so another key is them displaying an interest.

so one night stand criteria.

1) is there
2) not a serial killer vibe
3) takes an interest
4) plumbing works/will do.

This is mine too. But on #2 I'd say a bit of bad-boy vibe does wonders

 

[Daisy_Love]

The important question here is - milk and sugar? Or honey?

Omgggggg Shy!!!! It’s Earl Grey
No sugar, no honey and definitely nooooo milk The Earl will be turning in his wee grave that you even suggested it hahaha

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

No, not a serial killer, and has no problem with my Plumbing. The surprise I have a dick thing rarely bodes well outside of porn

oh yeah, that has got to be a tough one. The surprise I'm married with kids thing, is like expected and even a positive in someone else looking for a one night stand as they know I'm half out the door. That has got to make things much more complex.

 

[MsNatalie99]

Omgggggg Shy!!!! It’s Earl Grey
No sugar, no honey and definitely nooooo milk The Earl will be turning in his wee grave that you even suggested it hahaha

Earl Gray hot, just like Sean Luke Picard always says

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

This is mine too. But on #2 I'd say a bit of bad-boy vibe does wonders

oh I like the bad boy vibe. the serial killer vibe is different though, and I have had to readjust that meter of there user as my serial killer vibe detector wasn't working quite right.

 

[water_moutina]

Omgggggg Shy!!!! It’s Earl Grey
No sugar, no honey and definitely nooooo milk The Earl will be turning in his wee grave that you even suggested it hahaha

Spoken like a true Brit lol