What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[Lonelywife1205]

I wasn't intending to be offensive. I assumed they would have liked my comments, since we interacted prior but in an nonsexual manner and yet I assumed wrong. So to those I said those to, I sincerely apologize.

It’s one thing to apologize to the women you said that stuff to, but you have to realize the creep factor was extremely high with most of your initial posts. They were said publicly, even if intended for just one person. You turned a lot of people off and repairing that damage to your reputation won’t just happen automatically with a few “I’m sorry” posts. Lit can be a friendly, welcoming and even a forgiving place, but you have to put an effort to engage with people in a thoughtful, sincere and engaging way. Take some time to sit back and observe the interactions on the different threads and you’ll quickly see the vibe and have a feel for what’s appropriate and what isn’t. Just my $.02. Take it or leave it.

 

[CMK89]

It’s one thing to apologize to the women you said that stuff to, but you have to realize the creep factor was extremely high with most of your initial posts. They were said publicly, even if intended for just one person. You turned a lot of people off and repairing that damage to your reputation won’t just happen automatically with a few “I’m sorry” posts. Lit can be a friendly, welcoming and even a forgiving place, but you have to put an effort to engage with people in a thoughtful, sincere and engaging way. Take some time to sit back and observe the interactions on the different threads and you’ll quickly see the vibe and have a feel for what’s appropriate and what isn’t. Just my $.02. Take it or leave it.

I have and still notice a double standard. That's my problem. Women here can say whatever they want, so long as it's not breaking laws. Men have to walk on eggshells. They can in one moment have laughs all along, say one offensive joke and BAM!!! He's a womanizing bigot

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I have and still notice a double standard. That's my problem. Women here can say whatever they want, so long as it's not breaking laws. Men have to walk on eggshells. They can in one moment have laughs all along, say one offensive joke and BAM!!! He's a womanizing bigot

My point was that you were offensive from the get go. It wasn’t just one thing you said.

 

[CMK89]

My point was that you were offensive from the get go. It wasn’t just one thing you said.

And I apologize everytime I am told I over step, have even corrected posts. I didn't correct the Goodnight Wet Drrams because I was putting my daughter down for bed. Come back and am barraged by hate

 

[chame1eon]

I wasn't intending to be offensive. I assumed they would have liked my comments, since we interacted prior but in an nonsexual manner and yet I assumed wrong. So to those I said those to, I sincerely apologize.

I actually have a poor grasp of what can come off as offensive too. I just normally avoid saying anything lol.
no idea why. some things are just not intuitive to me.
at least i hope nothing i say comes off that way and i would hope someone would tell me if it did preferably by dm lol

 

[CMK89]

I actually have a poor grasp of what can come off as offensive too. I just normally avoid saying anything lol.
no idea why. some things are just not intuitive to me.
at least i hope nothing i say comes off that way and i would hope someone would tell me if it did preferably by dm lol

I've recieved 1 DM by a user for discussing politics on Chaos. He was polite and respectful and informative. Nobody else has given the same respect.

 

[Cyber_Bella]

I've recieved 1 DM by a user for discussing politics on Chaos. He was polite and respectful and informative. Nobody else has given the same respect.

The way you keep blaming women for YOUR actions you definitely won’t be getting a DM from a woman.

 

[Cyber_Bella]

BTW, I just got out of the shower and this is still going on? Why?

 

[barefootgirl69]

BTW, I just got out of the shower and this is still going on? Why?

Coz he's a dictim.

 

[chame1eon]

The way you keep blaming women for YOUR actions you definitely won’t be getting a DM from a woman.

That makes sense. Even if he is autistic and can't tell when something he says that sounded good to him is gonna make everyone else mad that was a terrible way to handle that situation.
I always assume the best until proven otherwise and actually I have reason to believe I am somewhere low on the autism spectrum and to be perfectly honest i don't know if it is that or if i am desensitized or what but "wet dream" doesn't sound that bad to me personally. Like if it was directed at me i would think who doesn't like wet dreams thought i can say it does sound a little too moist lol
that said if anything you are saying for any reason is bothering someone then stop ffs. Don't turn it into a gender war

 

[chame1eon]

of course i could also say who doesn't like butts but that doesn't mean you should call someone a butt so maybe i am just an idiot lol

 

[Cyber_Bella]

That makes sense. Even if he is autistic and can't tell when something he says that sounded good to him is gonna make everyone else mad that was a terrible way to handle that situation.
I always assume the best until proven otherwise and actually I have reason to believe I am somewhere low on the autism spectrum and to be perfectly honest i don't know if it is that or if i am desensitized or what but "wet dream" doesn't sound that bad to me personally. Like if it was directed at me i would think who doesn't like wet dreams thought i can say it does sound a little too moist lol
that said if anything you are saying for any reason is bothering someone then stop ffs. Don't turn it into a gender war

I think it was the fact that is was offensive to whom he said it to. I probably would have just ignored it or made a joke out of it, but neither of us is GG.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I need a spreadsheet for the folks who return under different names so I recognize who they are.

 

[chame1eon]

I think it was the fact that is was offensive to whom he said it to. I probably would have just ignored it or made a joke out of it, but neither of us is GG.

ah. that makes sense. I didnt' know the whole story.

 

[Cyber_Bella]

I need a spreadsheet for the folks who return under different names so I recognize who they are.

Hi. I’m Cyber_Bella formerly Cyberbella. Nice to meet ya!

 

[chame1eon]

I need a spreadsheet for the folks who return under different names so I recognize who they are.SD

Don't need one for me. My name has been the same since 2005.
This is the oldest account I have that I still use on the internet

 

[barefootgirl69]

of course i could also say who doesn't like butts but that doesn't mean you should call someone a butt so maybe i am just an idiot lol

You're not an idiot, but it wasn't his one and only comment. Just the last straw, so to speak. Why talk to someone for the first time ever like that?

 

[CMK89]

You're not an idiot, but it wasn't his one and only comment. Just the last straw, so to speak. Why talk to someone for the first time ever like that?

Because I wasn't aware of the level of censorship I needed for an erotic forum to start with. Once I learned I corrected. Secondly, the culture you were raised in, may not take light to those jokes and the culture I was raised in, sees jokes like that to be very light hearted. Been involved in both types of culture. Sometimes it takes time for someone to learn from their mistakes and sometimes recommitting that mistake to finally see the error

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

Well...now I am thinking about things I;ve said in the past that may have been meant in the best way to me, but came off as way too creepy. Especially in some of the "show your chest/show your butt" threads. I think I have a couple of apologies to make.

 

[chame1eon]

You're not an idiot, but it wasn't his one and only comment. Just the last straw, so to speak. Why talk to someone for the first time ever like that?

Okay. I guess I didn't have the whole story. Maybe I should have minded my own business here since this started before I got here and I don't know what is going on. Anyone who has been told that they are bothering someone should stop whatever is bothering them whether the reason makes any sense to them or if they think they should or what.

 

[Cyber_Bella]

Where’s Elsa when you need her?
https://c.tenor.com/fNY2IAdnFsQAAAAS/frozen-elsa.gif

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

Well...now I am thinking about things I;ve said in the past that may have been meant in the best way to me, but came off as way too creepy. Especially in some of the "show your chest/show your butt" threads. I think I have a couple of apologies to make.

 

[SinfuIDreams]

Well...now I am thinking about things I;ve said in the past that may have been meant in the best way to me, but came off as way too creepy. Especially in some of the "show your chest/show your butt" threads. I think I have a couple of apologies to make.

Every post you have made directed at me and others who post in show us your chest and bum thread does not have the creepy vibe at all, you put off a I like your body and respect you for showing it to me.

 

[CMK89]

Well...now I am thinking about things I;ve said in the past that may have been meant in the best way to me, but came off as way too creepy. Especially in some of the "show your chest/show your butt" threads. I think I have a couple of apologies to make.

See that's a problem... you shouldn't have to. You should be allowed to say something you feel is nice or a form of admiration. An example, I told a transwoman she looked beautiful in her dress friday morning. I didn't know her for nothing, but found her attractive. Was it wrong for me to say that?

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

See that's a problem... you shouldn't have to. You should be allowed to say something you feel is nice or a form of admiration. An example, I told a transwoman she looked beautiful in her dress friday morning. I didn't know her for nothing, but found her attractive. Was it wrong for me to say that?

I will not be debating this with you. I give you the benefit of the doubt, because I've known guys like you. But at a certasin point, you stop being ignorant and you are just being a jerk. Imagine you are in lockup and your new cellie walks up and says he saw your cock in the showers and he wants to suck it. What would you do and how would you feel?