Chaotic Coffee Klatch (tea also available)

[LittleSwitchy]

And for the record. I don’t casually play. The ladies I played with I was in relationship with. One at a time. As I’m not poly

 

[Strixaluco]

And for the record. I don’t casually play. The ladies I played with I was in relationship with. One at a time. As I’m not poly

Nothing you said implied otherwise. (Though we wouldn't judge if you happened to be poly.)

 

[Strixaluco]

I'm thinking of canceling the whole London trip. I'm so tired now all the time, and just getting stressed about the budget and all. Not a good starting point for a trip. If it was a holiday in the sun it would be totally different, I could just lay at the pool and read all days, but London is all about going around and about, i.e. using both money and energy.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

Nothing you said implied otherwise. (Though we wouldn't judge if you happened to be poly.)

I’m saying. I know the ladies that I’ve played with pretty well.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

I'm thinking of canceling the whole London trip. I'm so tired now all the time, and just getting stressed about the budget and all. Not a good starting point for a trip. If it was a holiday in the sun it would be totally different, I could just lay at the pool and read all days, but London is all about going around and about, i.e. using both money and energy.

What does your gut feeling tell you? Gut feeling never lies.

 

[Strixaluco]

What does your gut feeling tell you? Gut feeling never lies.

Settling on the idea of canceling was a relief.

And now that I think I of it, I know why. Too much has happened and changed in the last year. Still more to change in the next few months. I was depressed even before last year, having my stress tolerance significantly lowered, and it isn't really better now. Enough to have my depression act out again, daily routines have shattered. Even thinking of arranging a weekend trip to my friend (which should be almost routine by now) feels overwhelming.

 

[Strixaluco]

the sad reaction is about you being so close to depression and not about your decision

Not just close to depression - haven't gotten rid of it yet. Had pretty few symptoms in May and June, but moving brought it back.

It's not quite as bad as in April, but not far either. And now I feel there are things I should (and want to) do, so the conflict of having things to do, but not having the energy is a major problem. (Nothing new in my case.) Right after moving I had planned on being lazy anyway.

 

[Strixaluco]

hopefully you'll find ways that will bring you out of the blue state of mind

It will be a long journey and plenty of work, if it's anything like in the past. I've been deeper than ever before this time. I also have opened up, very recently, one kind of Pandora's box which will take some time to process. It ought to be for the better, but the process will take time. I'm not even quite sure I know myself right now.

 

[drobert44]

It will be a long journey and plenty of work, if it's anything like in the past. I've been deeper than ever before this time. I also have opened up, very recently, one kind of Pandora's box which will take some time to process. It ought to be for the better, but the process will take time. I'm not even quite sure I know myself right now.

My wife goes in and out of depression; I just wait it out.

 

[Strixaluco]

My wife goes in and out of depression; I just wait it out.

So sorry for that! It is the reality for some, unfortunately.

My depression is mostly reactive, it always has a cause. Just me being sensitive it tends to find that cause a little too easily Usually the reason is me burning out, exceeding my limits.

 

[Strixaluco]

 

[ihflrm]

Ugh, I haven't had a hangover in a long time. I need coffee and lot's of it stat!

 

[Strixaluco]

Ugh, I haven't had a hangover in a long time. I need coffee and lot's of it stat!

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[ihflrm]

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Absolutely!!!

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

And for the record. I don’t casually play. The ladies I played with I was in relationship with. One at a time. As I’m not poly

noted for the record, because we might judge otherwise

hum, for the record, I do casually play. If I don't say hubby, and say boyfriend or some guy, just assume casual relationship. I prefer to not stick to one at a time but I am not poly. Mostly, I'm just a bored bitch who likes screwing.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Ugh, I haven't had a hangover in a long time. I need coffee and lot's of it stat!

did you have fun though?

 

[Mo_Bandy]

I'm thinking of canceling the whole London trip. I'm so tired now all the time, and just getting stressed about the budget and all. Not a good starting point for a trip. If it was a holiday in the sun it would be totally different, I could just lay at the pool and read all days, but London is all about going around and about, i.e. using both money and energy.

Oh fuck it just go. Pick one thing to do there every day that is free like museums. Maybe splurge one night and go to a show or something. Then just spend rest of time getting loaded in pubs and you can read there. Thats what I do anyways. Cheers.

 

[ihflrm]

did you have fun though?

I did. It was a surprise bday party for my younger brother.

 

[Strixaluco]

Oh fuck it just go. Pick one thing to do there every day that is free like museums. Maybe splurge one night and go to a show or something. Then just spend rest of time getting loaded in pubs and you can read there. Thats what I do anyways. Cheers.

Hate getting loaded, and when I'm tired I get really sensitive to background noise. Even just being in a big city could be too much. Well in a good, well sound-proofed hotel it would be ok, but I'm not going just to stay in a hotel room. Even one museum per day and finding where to eat sounds exhausting now.

And I actually already canceled. Might even splurge on some clothes with the same amount that just 2 days in that hotel would have cost me.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I did. It was a surprise bday party for my younger brother.

awesome. was he surprised or did he already figure out something was up?

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Hate getting loaded, and when I'm tired I get really sensitive to background noise. Even just being in a big city could be too much. Well in a good, well sound-proofed hotel it would be ok, but I'm not going just to stay in a hotel room. Even one museum per day and finding where to eat sounds exhausting now.

And I actually already canceled. Might even splurge on some clothes with the same amount that just 2 days in that hotel would have cost me.

can never go wrong with new clothes, especially if there is a good sale.

 

[ihflrm]

awesome. was he surprised or did he already figure out something was up?

They somehow kept it a surprise! lol

 

[Strixaluco]

can never go wrong with new clothes, especially if there is a good sale.

Not in sale, new stuff for the autumn... and those cardigans are NEVER in sale.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Not in sale, new stuff for the autumn... and those cardigans are NEVER in sale.

yeah, new this season never is. luckily, I am good with old. Though I find cardigans tough. All I want in a cardigan are big buttons and big pockets, so yeah, more than half of my cardigans come from the mens department.

 

[Strixaluco]

@Justadesperatewifeandmom Like this:
https://www.dressy.fi/images/products/spirosivory-e2a142f6_orig.jpg https://www.dressy.fi/images/products/4-cf6a09f6_orig.jpg

That cardigan costs more than the skirt and the shirt together. It's made in Sweden and good quality.