Chaotic Coffee Klatch (tea also available)

[Strixaluco]

I guess I’m wired differently. When I’m done in a relationship friend or otherwise. I’m done.

Nothing wrong with that. If I care for someone, that'll continue long after I've chosen the part ways. That doesn't mean that there's any kind of room to rekindle things.

For me it depends on the friendship and how it ended. Some I let go of easily, some keep me sad dot quite a while.

 

[SinfuIDreams]

Most probably. I had something similar and was really upfront that I was not interested. But also, like you, I didn’t see him in that way to begin with. I found out a wee while later he was feeding the same lines to at least two other people at the same time as me. At least be honest about it we no longer talk.

I've known all along I'm not the only woman they talk to and honestly I'm fine with that cause I never wanted to take it any further. But when they try and use dirty hot conversations they had with other people on here to motivate me to doing it with them it's the biggest turn off. Don't judge me by everyone else, I am a individual.

 

[MsNatalie99]

I've known all along I'm not the only woman they talk to and honestly I'm fine with that cause I never wanted to take it any further. But when they try and use dirty hot conversations they had with other people on here to motivate me to doing it with them it's the biggest turn off. Don't judge me by everyone else, I am a individual.

 

[SinfuIDreams]

That's a lot of red flags

 

[LittleSwitchy]

X100
I’d not walk away. I’d RUN.

 

[BDA73]

Morning..actually too dam early...all

 

[Daisy_Love]

I've known all along I'm not the only woman they talk to and honestly I'm fine with that cause I never wanted to take it any further. But when they try and use dirty hot conversations they had with other people on here to motivate me to doing it with them it's the biggest turn off. Don't judge me by everyone else, I am a individual.

Oh that’s a huge turn off for sure. I’m sure for others it wouldn’t be but to each their own etc. I would have had no issues about that particular guy talking to other women because I had zero interest in that any way. It’s the manipulative ways that people choose to act in order to satisfy their own need. It’s selfish and downright disrespectful.

 

[MsNatalie99]

X100
I’d not walk away. I’d RUN.

 

[Strixaluco]

I did think we could be friends without it, I have other friends who I know think I'm sexy and don't hound me the same way.
I think maybe its the challenge of me always saying no that keeps them trying? But then what they don't realize is its not just them I am saying no to its everyone

I have had friends who have been hanging around as long as I am single, and fading away when I have gotten into a long relationship. Usually it has even been men that have never had any hope of having me anyway, and there hasn't necessarily been even any flirting. So yes, many friendships with the opposite sex seem to be based on the attraction, even if it's one-sided.

Then again with a couple of exes I have a much more solid friendship, even without any flirting etc.

 

[MsNatalie99]

That's a lot of red flags

Yeah... that flag is a deal breaker for me.

 

[LexxRuthless]

While I was looking for that other thing, these all made me laugh. Not really a theme, nor do I wish to suggest Sin's solution lies herein, just thought y'all might get a chuckle or three.

https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/239923227030192129/924887530929782844/269805673_1727832057416647_3486694049641062664_n.png?width=532&height=663https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/310449344106987522/875564789781381130/231792381_4515033888548040_7875562091772509085_n.pnghttps://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/310449344106987522/952693200760504320/821aa62f-ca05-4d5d-8e65-79d97abf830f-png.png

 

[BDA73]

I might know. My friend got a PTSD from her father dying of ALS. She told me the suffering her father went through was inhumane

I've seen first hand what ALS can do..fucking horrible

 

[SinfuIDreams]

Oh that’s a huge turn off for sure. I’m sure for others it wouldn’t be but to each their own etc. I would have had no issues about that particular guy talking to other women because I had zero interest in that any way. It’s the manipulative ways that people choose to act in order to satisfy their own need. It’s selfish and downright disrespectful.

It is disrespectful, I think a lot of it is that they have gotten away with it so many times before and had nobody stand up to them and that they choose to ignore that behind every user name is a living person with thoughts of their own.

 

[MsNatalie99]

While I was looking for that other thing, these all made me laugh. Not really a theme, nor do I wish to suggest Sin's solution lies herein, just thought y'all might get a chuckle or three.

https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/239923227030192129/924887530929782844/269805673_1727832057416647_3486694049641062664_n.png?width=532&height=663https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/310449344106987522/952693200760504320/821aa62f-ca05-4d5d-8e65-79d97abf830f-png.png

These two hits me where I live

 

[Strixaluco]

Oh and before I totally forget - good morning! Although here it's afternoon already, kind of slept in...

 

[MsNatalie99]

Oh and before I totally forget - good morning! Although here it's afternoon already, kind of slept in...

Good mornoon Strix!

 

[Truegent169]

Oh and before I totally forget - good morning! Although here it's afternoon already, kind of slept in...

Morning/afternoon strix

 

[MsNatalie99]

So im still awake not sure why but I should be sleeping who wants a ginger hug lol

Garfield's embrace.... sure why not.

Good Morning Zel

 

[Daisy_Love]

It is disrespectful, I think a lot of it is that they have gotten away with it so many times before and had nobody stand up to them and that they choose to ignore that behind every user name is a living person with thoughts of their own.

Absolutely agree. It can come as a bit of a shock to some people that they’re not going to get what they want. It’s almost like it’s expected by some on here. And the assumption that you’re gullible, that pisses me off the most.

 

[SinfuIDreams]

I have had friends who have been hanging around as long as I am single, and fading away when I have gotten into a long relationship. Usually it has even been men that have never had any hope of having me anyway, and there hasn't necessarily been even any flirting. So yes, many friendships with the opposite sex seem to be based on the attraction, even if it's one-sided.

Then again with a couple of exes I have a much more solid friendship, even without any flirting etc.

See in the real world all of my friends knew M we met them as a couple and not one of them would be so horrible to hit on me now he's passed. I still hear from all of them regularly. Go out on friends dates when I'm in the same city or they come to see me. My male friends to female friends is higher simply because men don't get squrimy when I loose my shit and have a meltdown. Ok ok so some men do but not these ones they pat my hand and get deep into my emotions behind it and pick my brain apart and will hug me until I'm back together again.
Purely platonic friends

 

[amanuk]

I've known all along I'm not the only woman they talk to and honestly I'm fine with that cause I never wanted to take it any further. But when they try and use dirty hot conversations they had with other people on here to motivate me to doing it with them it's the biggest turn off. Don't judge me by everyone else, I am a individual.

I think all your answers are right there, Sin.

 

[Strixaluco]

Guys, teach me slangs for good morning from your country
I already know
British= Top of the morning
Aussie= G'day mate
Germany = Guten Morgen
French=bon jor
Puerto Rico=buen dia

Hyvää huomenta! In different dialects it can said in quite a different ways, like "hyvvöö huamenta". Rarely someone might say "Aamua!" which is basically just "Morning!" (aamu and huomen are synonyms, eastern and western dialects have partially different vocabulary) Can't think of actual slang versions right now...

 

[MsNatalie99]

Hello and it’s always a good hug lol

 

[SinfuIDreams]

Absolutely agree. It can come as a bit of a shock to some people that they’re not going to get what they want. It’s almost like it’s expected by some on here. And the assumption that you’re gullible, that pisses me off the most.

Self entitled assholes.
I unfortunately see it all the time not just here but everywhere.
I think a lot people are gullible nowadays, they have blinders on and really give out trust way to easily.
Not saying there aren't decent folks here and in the real world but people need to proceed with caution

 

[Daisy_Love]

Self entitled assholes.
I unfortunately see it all the time not just here but everywhere.
I think a lot people are gullible nowadays, they have blinders on and really give out trust way to easily.
Not saying there aren't decent folks here and in the real world but people need to proceed with caution

Oh I think there are plenty decent people around here and in real life. But I feel the same, trust is built over time and shouldn’t be given away freely. I’m an ice queen though