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Same here. You have to understand both ends of it, in order for both people to have and enriching experience. I prefer to be the one getting hit, but I've done my fair share of the inflicting.
It makes it feel more worth it knowing the person you are trusting is putting in their own effort. And you know because you experienced that yourself ❤
 
@amanuk keeps referring to the mo_bandy show. When he has posted that, Mo is just having normal conversation about Florida, drinks, life, etc. is he not allowed to do that? How to make somebody not feel welcome folks. There are normally 50 conversations going on at once in this thread. If you don’t want to interact with Mo then talk around him. I would suggest trying to interact with him you might get to know him a little better that way.

People don’t like him using the word “skank”. There are many words that get thrown around all the time that Lots of people don’t like but nothing gets said. There are people that will say “Good morning you bunch of freaky fuckers” and are welcomed with open arms.

He might be a cunt at times but I know that if anybody attacked somebody else for their kink, their race, their sexual orientation or gender identity, he would speak out for that person and lay in to the attacker.
@AmberLGreen I don't have an issue when he participates in a normal conversation, but I do take exception when he descends into offensive drivel which he passes off as humour and with which he tries to dominate the thread. That is what I refer to as the Mo Bandy show. See for example the posts beginning at #10318 and continuing after that. I made my comment about the Mo Bandy show after that, not when he was having a normal conversation. His "humour" is always filled with sexist talk of skanks, titty dancers, mother fuckers, females, etc, the mocking of others, and the glorification of boozing and drug taking. It is the person who behaves like a "cunt" that I dislike. Then, when you are critical of him, he resorts to insult, sarcasm and bullying, and defends and justifies his behaviour by saying he's not everybody's cup of tea, he's not serious, other people are guilty of the same thing, and this is a sex site, etc. There is no self-awareness or accountability. Look at the shit show that followed after I left last night. Then I get told by you and others that it's all acceptable because he's not always like that, and that he calls out others who behave like "cunts". Do you not see the irony and incongruity in that argument?

By the way, I find your humour truly funny, unlike his.
 
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In speaking with you and Anja, I learn something new everyday.
I am glad for this speaking with the both of you reminds me I need to love who I am.

I think some people go for shock online. Others I think give that… I have no limits. Mentality. Not really thinking of how far some can take that.
Everyone has limits even me. Although mine might be higher them some or lower than others. Limits make us as individual as our kinks.
You can't really appreciate the pain you're experiencing if you haven't been on the receiving end of it. That's like saying I love chocolate without ever eating one
Exactly what I was aiming for couldn't have said it better myself ❤
 
It makes it feel more worth it knowing the person you are trusting is putting in their own effort. And you know because you experienced that yourself ❤
I remember one occasion where I was whipping a guy with a sock and a bar of soap, and I think he was trying to impress me. Nonetheless, I had to cut the session short. Despite what he said, I don't think he could have took much more. It's my hope that a dom lookout for me the same way if the roles were reversed
 
I remember one occasion where I was whipping a guy with a sock and a bar of soap, and I think he was trying to impress me. Nonetheless, I had to cut the session short. Despite what he said, I don't think he could have took much more. It's my hope that a dom lookout for me the same way if the roles were reversed
I am sure it will, the right dom for you will see you fading. But it usually takes time getting to know each other and building a connection to work off.
 
I do appreciate the effort and the emotional stress and strain that goes into being the Sadist. I have been on both sides, I made sure of it.
I could never expect to be worthy of experiencing my level of pain if I didn't know what it felt like to give it.
A lot of other masochist I have talked to feel the same.
One of my favourite sadist had every single one of his implements used on himself. To experience it to educate himself how it felt from the other side.
I can’t say I’m partly sadist. I’m into reactions. I do xyz. They react this way or that way
I’m not a heavy player. More lighter side of play and the most fun playground the mind.
 
I can’t say I’m partly sadist. I’m into reactions. I do xyz. They react this way or that way
I’m not a heavy player. More lighter side of play and the most fun playground the mind.
You don't have to be a sadist to understand the concept of bdsm. Even people starting out need to figure out exactly what you just said, it's in the mind. Everything you do if it's sadistic, ropes, punishment play even aftercare is all to do with the mind.
 
I remember one occasion where I was whipping a guy with a sock and a bar of soap, and I think he was trying to impress me. Nonetheless, I had to cut the session short. Despite what he said, I don't think he could have took much more. It's my hope that a dom lookout for me the same way if the roles were reversed
I had to scroll up and read this again because my brain registered "a cock and a bar of coke" and accepted it and I was like, wait what now 😂
 
You don't have to be a sadist to understand the concept of bdsm. Even people starting out need to figure out exactly what you just said, it's in the mind. Everything you do if it's sadistic, ropes, punishment play even aftercare is all to do with the mind.
It’s lots to do with one’s playground in the mind.
I know a lovely lady north of me. She does suspensions. She took a newb on a journey. Had the person convinced they were 30’ in the air. In actuality. They were never more then few feet off the ground.
 
It’s lots to do with one’s playground in the mind.
I know a lovely lady north of me. She does suspensions. She took a newb on a journey. Had the person convinced they were 30’ in the air. In actuality. They were never more then few feet off the ground.
Yes suspension play was always good, unfortunately I'm a very visual person and blind folds kill it for me. But if I actually was 30' in the air the fear would be a perfect fear stimulant
 
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