The Real Chubby Tummies Of Lit

[Mustang Sally]

Am I sucking in a bit, yeah. But I'm also 350 pounds, so there's still plenty of tummy there...

https://imgur.com/a/ddL4OAG

Bulus, that looks solid, like there's a lot of muscle in there. Either way, total snuggle magnet.

On second thought...

I saw it! You are lovely!

 

[AngelicaS1780]

I saw it! You are lovely!

Thanks, Sally.
I was trying a bit too hard to pull in my belly, and it just looked weird.

 

[Todger65]

On second thought...

Missed it.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Been thinking about this thread this week...

I recently joined an FB group for 'curvy' people and made a post that would be consistent with what you have seen from me here, in terms of my attitude toward my body. Positive by choice.

Without dissing the mod who contacted me(who was warm, understanding and supportive) or the group itself, I was asked to edit my post for use of the word 'overweight,' for being offensive/triggering to some of the members in what was meant to be a 'safe' environment.

And it got me to thinking...

I get the need for a place devoid of criticism. I get the need for a shelter from the storm. But I hope that at some point, the members would also see how being able to look at the truth is crucial to the process of personal growth and healing. I mean, my choice to accept and love my body is meaningless if I can't acknowledge the fact that I'm overweight. My choice loses its power.

Safety and comfort are great at countering the aches and pains that come with living, but they're not meant to hinder growth. That little experience made me so grateful for the grounded people in this thread, and our ability to have really thoughtful, constructive conversations without shying away from what may be difficult or even painful truths.

I appreciate you guys.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I probably have far too many thoughts on this topic but two things that I will share -

1. Learning to separate my feelings about my body with my partner's feelings. My feelings are valid but far more.complex than anyone else's. BUT his feelings are valid too and trying to convince him not to like what he likes is a self-sabotouging form of gaslighting.

2. To your point about using "triggering" words - I prefer it just to be acknowledged. I'm not thin. I don't see a world in which I will ever be conventionally thin. I come from hardy genes that will ensure that even during a world war or an apocalypse, I will always have these thighs. But I'd much prefer it to be acknowledge and accepted than either "no you're not chubby/fat/big!" Or "I think you're sexy anyway". Ew and no thank you.

Honey, you're the bees knees.

Agree with both your points!

Now that I've gone through menopause and my metabolism seems to have taken a nose dive, it's really a struggle to maintain a good attitude. And also to balance my desire for approval and acceptance vs. the truth that there are, in fact, things I could do differently, that I'm not, yet.

But you know what? I haven't come this far, just to come this far. I haven't lost the race, I'm just entering the next phase of this obstacle course.

You're pretty bloody amazing yourself.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Been thinking about this thread this week...

I recently joined an FB group for 'curvy' people and made a post that would be consistent with what you have seen from me here, in terms of my attitude toward my body. Positive by choice.

Without dissing the mod who contacted me(who was warm, understanding and supportive) or the group itself, I was asked to edit my post for use of the word 'overweight,' for being offensive/triggering to some of the members in what was meant to be a 'safe' environment.

And it got me to thinking...

I get the need for a place devoid of criticism. I get the need for a shelter from the storm. But I hope that at some point, the members would also see how being able to look at the truth is crucial to the process of personal growth and healing. I mean, my choice to accept and love my body is meaningless if I can't acknowledge the fact that I'm overweight. My choice loses its power.

Safety and comfort are great at countering the aches and pains that come with living, but they're not meant to hinder growth. That little experience made me so grateful for the grounded people in this thread, and our ability to have really thoughtful, constructive conversations without shying away from what may be difficult or even painful truths.

I appreciate you guys.

This is something that has always kind of annoyed me on some level. So much so that I don't even like the BBW term. I think it was another term that became something out of something similar to your overweight term. Everyone is beautiful in their own right. However. BBW is often just a disguise for fat but accepting. Or overweight but accepting.
I am part of the group that would love to see more acceptance of all sizes and shapes. However just because you are Big. Does not always mean beautiful. (I still think attitude is a big part of what makes a person beautiful)
I will typically be honest with myself and say "I am fat" Am I okay with that? not really. I don't love being fat or overweight. However. I'm 50 years old and have accepted that losing weight is much harder now. So, I am learning (or trying) to love myself for me. If I can love everyone elses flaws. At some point. I need to learn to love my own.

I 100% agree with you. Truth is crucial to accepting ourselves.

 

[RjThoughts]

I watch what I call my wife in public, never know who'll snap at me.

 

[AveryElle]

Been thinking about this thread this week...

I recently joined an FB group for 'curvy' people and made a post that would be consistent with what you have seen from me here, in terms of my attitude toward my body. Positive by choice.

Without dissing the mod who contacted me(who was warm, understanding and supportive) or the group itself, I was asked to edit my post for use of the word 'overweight,' for being offensive/triggering to some of the members in what was meant to be a 'safe' environment.

And it got me to thinking...

I get the need for a place devoid of criticism. I get the need for a shelter from the storm. But I hope that at some point, the members would also see how being able to look at the truth is crucial to the process of personal growth and healing. I mean, my choice to accept and love my body is meaningless if I can't acknowledge the fact that I'm overweight. My choice loses its power.

Safety and comfort are great at countering the aches and pains that come with living, but they're not meant to hinder growth. That little experience made me so grateful for the grounded people in this thread, and our ability to have really thoughtful, constructive conversations without shying away from what may be difficult or even painful truths.

I appreciate you guys.

I try to encourage my own offspring to be "body neutral". I think I've posted here before that we follow the, "all bodies are different, all bodies are to be celebrated, and all bodies are deserving of love" mantra. No use of "curvy" or "thicc". Fat is not a negative word. It's just a word. However, I'd agree that "overweight" is, pardon the pun, weighted. Overweight compared to what? Underweight compared to what? If someone told me that I was overweight, I'd specifically ask that - what am I over the weight of? I say fat. Because that is, to me, neutral. I wouldn't be offended by the use of overweight, but as a member of some of those "curvy" fb groups, they're FULL of very sensitive people. I'm in one where EVERYTHING has a trigger warning. I absolutely understand "taking back" the word, but I would ask - overweight compared to...?

I really like what Pulpy says: "Learning to separate my feelings about my body with my partner's feelings. My feelings are valid but far more complex than anyone else's. BUT his feelings are valid too and trying to convince him not to like what he likes is a self-sabotouging form of gaslighting". This especially came true for me after giving birth, which is when I decided to end my obsession with diet culture and just deal with the physical hand I was dealt. My spouse has been with me fatter than I am now and MUCH thinner than I am now. He's been with me dieting and "earning my food" and when I would binge. My size (not even my weight) has only ever been a factor because I made it one. He loves me regardless, and knows weight comes and goes, it's not a measure of anything. He's never said, "you're beautiful anyway" or "oh stop, you're not fat". It's always been, "<shrug> so?" and that has made me better to handle the world's fat phobia.

Bodies change, and it can definitely be painful...but it can also be beautiful. Take care of and LOVE your bodies - they're the only ones you have!

 

[Todger65]

What is normal is the real question. As far as I’m concerned it is whatever you feel comfortable with, and as long as it doesn’t have a major impact on your general heath, that is normal for you. Some people are naturally overweight according to ‘normal’ set by dieticians and doctors, it isn’t due to over eating or eating wrong foods, they may have a genetic variation or a metabolic condition..

I have a neighbour who I would guess is close to 250 pounds, she eats very little of decent food and exercises daily and is happy with her body size and shape. A bubbly personality, always happy.

At the other end of the scale, I have a young lady friend, who is according to all medical people, anorexic. She isn’t, she eats enough per day for two people but her body doesn’t process it. It has taken 10 years for doctors to accept her truth and investigate and her stomach doesn’t work properly. She is now tube fed into he intestines and for the first time has put weight on. She needed this as it was impacting her health. She is now happier than she has ever been.

My son on the other hand is also underweight, again a metabolic condition, but the low weight doesn’t have any health problems for him, but if we followed medical advice years ago, it would have. He has a controlled diet and if his weight goes up, even a few pound, it creates fat that pushes on his internal organs and that does affect his health.

As I said, ‘normal’ is what you are happy with as long as it doesn’t seriously affect general health.

 

[Mustang Sally]

Thank you for sharing!

My own thoughts are still pretty muddy, but I can tell you that I no longer shy away from the word "fat." Yes, it is a word that describes me. It doesn't have the power to hurt me anymore.

And I can tell you that in my old picture thread (now deleted) I never (or extremely rarely) posted pics that showed my belly. In my recent/current thread I don't worry about that.

(I have to give some credit here to my dom, who has been relentlessly trying to convince me for probably the last year or so that my belly is sexy and has been demanding the kind of pics that make me cringe (like the one I posted on this thread in February, which I originally took for him). But recently I had a bit of a breakthrough -- I looked at one such pic and was able to say, you know what? I'm adorable. P.S. I moved the February pic to Imgur and added the "adorable" pic, if you're interested.)

 

[Yesplzzz00]

Thank you for sharing!

My own thoughts are still pretty muddy, but I can tell you that I no longer shy away from the word "fat." Yes, it is a word that describes me. It doesn't have the power to hurt me anymore.

And I can tell you that in my old picture thread (now deleted) I never (or extremely rarely) posted pics that showed my belly. In my recent/current thread I don't worry about that.

(I have to give some credit here to my dom, who has been relentlessly trying to convince me for probably the last year or so that my belly is sexy and has been demanding the kind of pics that make me cringe (like the one I posted on this thread in February, which I originally took for him). But recently I had a bit of a breakthrough -- I looked at one such pic and was able to say, you know what? I'm adorable. P.S. I moved the February pic to Imgur and added the "adorable" pic, if you're interested.)

Sexy photos MS. Thank you for posting them

 

[AnalCreampieGiver]

Thank you for sharing!

My own thoughts are still pretty muddy, but I can tell you that I no longer shy away from the word "fat." Yes, it is a word that describes me. It doesn't have the power to hurt me anymore.

And I can tell you that in my old picture thread (now deleted) I never (or extremely rarely) posted pics that showed my belly. In my recent/current thread I don't worry about that.

(I have to give some credit here to my dom, who has been relentlessly trying to convince me for probably the last year or so that my belly is sexy and has been demanding the kind of pics that make me cringe (like the one I posted on this thread in February, which I originally took for him). But recently I had a bit of a breakthrough -- I looked at one such pic and was able to say, you know what? I'm adorable. P.S. I moved the February pic to Imgur and added the "adorable" pic, if you're interested.)

You are quite adorable and you have a beautiful body I'm glad you had that breakthrough and I wish more people would, myself included

 

[Zephreck]

I have been a member of this site for many years. Many years ago I almost stopped my membership. I went through several months of seeing men post incredibly ugly and hurtful things to women.

Being a man myself.. I will never know what it is like to be a woman and to deal with so many negative comments about your physical appearance. I hate that women have to deal with that.
I think men (for the most part) never have to deal with negative comments. I went through a period of time where I gained a great deal of weight in my late 30s. I carried that weight for years before I was able to finally lose the majority of the weight. I am a short guy 5'6" and weighted 345 pounds. I am now at 185 on my way back down to eventually (one day) being back at 160. I had to deal with comments and looks and stares. But nothing compared to what women deal with on a daily basis.

I have always dated women that were at least slightly overweight (to some) but I truly enjoy women that are not extremely skinny.
There are a ton of places that I love to kiss on a woman that she may not feel is "sexy" and yet I am drawn to and aroused by those parts.
I am so glad that this thread exists and I hope that every woman that posts on Lit would always get positive comments that are genuinely meant.
Thank you for being brave and showing us the pictures you have of your bodies. I will always find the female form exciting and arousing.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Hi.

I have not been around AmPics much of late and I know I miss a lot. (LIke a post by Angelica). Thanks to PLP and SNG for pointing me this way.

I posted this is the PLP's "B&B Speakeasy" in BDSM yesterday. Long story short, on Thursdays we declare "Curvesday" and celebrate curvy women. Yep. We are that shallow. And we have a good time... This was a rant about a Blog (I will not link it) called "Fat Girls" from which I pulled some pictures. Besides being crass, the author has no idea what constitutes a healthy body:

Tan's Ted Talk

TO which I will add.

My wife (a curvy woman) and I give each other "naughty" calendars for Christmas each year. I get Bettie Page in Bondage (nobody should be surprised) and she gets sexy Gothic Witches and Sorceresses. I was flipping the calendar from June to July and I stopped to look at "June", a raven-haired brooding beauty with deep cleavage and clearly broad shoulders and hips. And very sensual. Erotic. Sexy.

"You make me feel like that" She said behind me.

And THAT is all that really matters here. Nobody can judge her because she knows that she is the woman in that fantasy painting. In my mind and her heart.

 

[areyoukiddingme]

Honey, thank you so much for starting this thread. I have been reading every single post here. And all are wonderful posts.

Simply because i think you ALL ARE beautiful, inside and out !!!!!!
Whenever i try sneaking a peek at you ALL or a sideways glance
I see so much beauty.
I have fallen deeply in love with your flaws
your imperfections
My sweet ones, you / we ALL are Imperfectly perfecT
you ALL are beautiful
Inside & Out
I LOVE YOU ALL

That video was great.You not only have a sexy body, but you are cute as a button.

 

[areyoukiddingme]

Gi

I just finished reading every post on this thread, and I have tears in my eyes. I could quote so many of your posts, but then this would be a page long.
I always used to be the "skinny one", the tall slender one. Even after my two kids.
Then came some medical issues, surgeries, and early menopause due to a hysterectomy. Even with HRT, I watched my body change before my eyes, and I didn't like it. Still dont. My skin texture changed, the underlying structure of my skin changed, so areas like my butt, my thighs, and my belly became different than they used to be. No longer did I have a flat belly where I could balance a ruler across it on my pelvic bones and see space under the ruler. My belly rounded and my middle became thicker. And that bumpy cellulite texture that no amount of exercise would get rid of just seemed to spread from my butt, to my thighs to my belly.
Of course I was much more critical of it than anyone else. No one ever rejected me in bed or otherwise because of my body flaws. Luckily my boobs still looked great, and so I always tried to dress to draw attention to them, and draw attention away from my middle.
And I tend to do that here on Lit. I post often on Titty Tuesday, but when my partner posts pictures that show my thick middle, or belly, or the creases in my middle when I sit or bend, I just cringe.
He tells me He loves the whole package, that my perception of my body flaws aren't his perception of flaws, they're just part of me. I need to learn, at age 60, for heavens sake, to just fucking accept that. I mean, I'm not going to turn back time and get that 25 year old body back, and I really don't want to. He loves my whole package, and I need to also.. He puts his hand on my butt and tells me how he loves it. He rubs and kisses my belly without qualification...it's just a part of me. If he can do that so easily, why is it so hard for me to do?
I finally, at least don't tense up when he rests his head on my belly, or gives me a massage and gets to those areas. Now I need to learn to not feel that I have to be so vigilant about cropping the pictures we post, and just letting the belly show.
But, man, it's tough.
This pic has never been viewed publicly. I've edited this post several times, wondering whether to include it or not. Here goes.

rl you look amazing! you have nothing to be worried about!

 

[areyoukiddingme]

I am still far from comfortable but could not think of a stronger group of amazing women for me to stand with and try to be as brave as they all have been

This picture was never meant to see the light of day but when I started thinking of posting it is the one that kept coming to mind as it was the most unstaged her I am picture I have taken ... bad lighting bad angle but all me

Thank you all who have come before me for giving me strength and to those who follow after we are here for you

Look nice! Thanks for sharing. Hope to see more.

 

[areyoukiddingme]

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Here goes nothing...

Wow great pic.

 

[borntoteach]

Shortly after my 4th child

https://imgur.com/sf5wY2N

 

[areyoukiddingme]

Here's a tummy, Honey!

There's a few, um, extra bits with it.

Dam hot, lady!

 

[areyoukiddingme]

Shortly after my 4th child

https://imgur.com/sf5wY2N

You look great! Do you need a hand?

 

[areyoukiddingme]

I've been enjoying this one for some time. She's almost as kinky as I am, and almost always up to trying new thibgs

I bet a cock would fit nicely right there.

 

[borntoteach]

Would love one.
From about the same time period

https://imgur.com/vNnVnXf

 

[ace195008]

Been thinking about this thread this week...

I recently joined an FB group for 'curvy' people and made a post that would be consistent with what you have seen from me here, in terms of my attitude toward my body. Positive by choice.

Without dissing the mod who contacted me(who was warm, understanding and supportive) or the group itself, I was asked to edit my post for use of the word 'overweight,' for being offensive/triggering to some of the members in what was meant to be a 'safe' environment.

And it got me to thinking...

I get the need for a place devoid of criticism. I get the need for a shelter from the storm. But I hope that at some point, the members would also see how being able to look at the truth is crucial to the process of personal growth and healing. I mean, my choice to accept and love my body is meaningless if I can't acknowledge the fact that I'm overweight. My choice loses its power.

Safety and comfort are great at countering the aches and pains that come with living, but they're not meant to hinder growth. That little experience made me so grateful for the grounded people in this thread, and our ability to have really thoughtful, constructive conversations without shying away from what may be difficult or even painful truths.

I appreciate you guys.

Wild_Honey I had the man tummy, I has Covid, lost it thank god, not recommending Covid , but I understand the tummy.

 

[areyoukiddingme]

Be gentle, slightly ticklish tummy

candy you look yummy!