Bi Married and closeted

It's unfortunate that the hormonal treatments they used to give women to help overcome the negative affects of menopause (decreased libido, dryness, moodiness) have been found to cause cancer. My wife tried the hormonal cream for a while but she stopped because of the possible danger.
I know. That's why I never pushed for hormone replacement and try to be patient and accepting. After all, I signed up for this. Getting married was my idea, and it wasn't like I didn't know what I was getting myself into.
 
I know. That's why I never pushed for hormone replacement and try to be patient and accepting. After all, I signed up for this. Getting married was my idea, and it wasn't like I didn't know what I was getting myself into.
Yep, it's the "better or worse" part of the marriage vows! I don't regret a single moment.
I've also told her that if she EVER gets to the point where she no longer enjoys having sex, she needs to let me know. We'll deal with it together.
 
I am bi-curious but not about receiving anal, but the thought of a man sliding his cock up and down my ass and rubbing it on my hole until he cums on my ass is very arousing to me.

I also love the thought of licking and sucking on a cock and having him cum in my mouth, and giving me a facial
So it's the idea of penetration you're not into but cock on ass and between your cheeks turns you on. I've seen some hot videos of that action, pretty erotic almost like faux fucking.
 
I'm out to my wife, but otherwise closeted. Our marriage is mostly sexless because of her medical issues, and some of the guys I see at the gym make me want to just kneel before them and inhale their cocks, but she wants our relationship to remain monogamous even though that means celibacy for me. Rather than leave her because it's not her fault she has her medical issues I've been lurking here, reading lewd stories on Literotica, and jerking off. Sometimes I share a particularly hot story with her so we can masturbate together.
So many parallels to my relationship in this comment.
 
Similar to many here I am very much into women......never turned down an opportunity....but the older I have got the more I have wanted to have a male male relationship. Just how far I would go.?...I don't know but starting with a j/o budy would be good.....my virgin ass awaits lol
 
Like a lot of guys here, I hit a dry patch in my marriage right at the same time my brain decided it really wanted to start experimenting. In the last couple years, I discovered how awesome it is to cum while something is far enough into my butt that I can feel my ass clench on it when I cum. Not sure if it's just me or I'm doing something wrong, but it's kind of tough to get my own fingers far enough up my own ass, so I've been trying to find something that makes a good substitute for an anal plug.

Someone suggested a toothbrush handle, but it was too "pokey" and wouldn't really split my anus open enough to slide it in. I've tried a plastic dildo (basically a novelty item leftover from my wife's bachelorette party) in the past but it was too hard and couldn't get past my sphincter. It needs to be something I can easily hide in a medicine cabinet or under a sink without it looking out of place.
 
Like a lot of guys here, I hit a dry patch in my marriage right at the same time my brain decided it really wanted to start experimenting. In the last couple years, I discovered how awesome it is to cum while something is far enough into my butt that I can feel my ass clench on it when I cum. Not sure if it's just me or I'm doing something wrong, but it's kind of tough to get my own fingers far enough up my own ass, so I've been trying to find something that makes a good substitute for an anal plug.

Someone suggested a toothbrush handle, but it was too "pokey" and wouldn't really split my anus open enough to slide it in. I've tried a plastic dildo (basically a novelty item leftover from my wife's bachelorette party) in the past but it was too hard and couldn't get past my sphincter. It needs to be something I can easily hide in a medicine cabinet or under a sink without it looking out of place.
Try a Japanese or Asian eggplant. Just the right size, shape and feel - smooth and hard enough with a little give. Easily replaced and won't look out of place in the vegetable bin
 
Thinking back on things, I've probably always had bi tendencies. When I was younger (much younger) actually acting on such desires was still pretty taboo. There was also a ready supply of young ladies willing to play, so there was no pressure to act on same sex urges. As I've aged I have become more openly interested in pursuing those urges. As the thread title says, however, bi-married-and-closeted. I'm lucky that I am not in a sexless marriage even though our levels of desire are quite different. I would never act in a way to risk my marriage with either a male or a female so, for now at least, my bi tendencies stay in the realm of internet chat, crossdressing, and fantasy. It could be worse.
 
I’m finding this a real struggle at the moment. I’m married with kids who I love. My wife and I don’t get on that well, though not enough to be intolerable. We have not had sex for 5 years at least. And im definitely bi if not gay.

I’ve met a few guys online on dating apps a few years ago, but felt terrible about the betrayal and fearful of catching something…

But his did I love sucking them off and I’d love to suck more cock and kiss and be naked and be fucked and wear panties with a guy and do a million things.

But I struggle with the deception and health risk and fear of losing my family. My wife is away now for 5 days and I have the house to myself… I do want to find a guy, but I’m conflicted.

In the meantime being on here is a form of comfort and release. But what do I do - leave her and be gay, and not see my kids. Suck cock behind her back? Suppress it and explore virtually. Don’t know!
 
I’m finding this a real struggle at the moment. I’m married with kids who I love. My wife and I don’t get on that well, though not enough to be intolerable. We have not had sex for 5 years at least. And im definitely bi if not gay.

I’ve met a few guys online on dating apps a few years ago, but felt terrible about the betrayal and fearful of catching something…

But his did I love sucking them off and I’d love to suck more cock and kiss and be naked and be fucked and wear panties with a guy and do a million things.

But I struggle with the deception and health risk and fear of losing my family. My wife is away now for 5 days and I have the house to myself… I do want to find a guy, but I’m conflicted.

In the meantime being on here is a form of comfort and release. But what do I do - leave her and be gay, and not see my kids. Suck cock behind her back? Suppress it and explore virtually. Don’t know!
wow you really do have a dilemma. I recently had the pleasure off sucking a married man. He too has kids and seldom do he and his wife have sex. After he came there was a noticeable change in his demeaner. We talked after and he assure me he was fine, but I could tell he felt an enormous amount of guilt even though he enjoyed having me suck him and let him cum in my mouth.
 
wow you really do have a dilemma. I recently had the pleasure off sucking a married man. He too has kids and seldom do he and his wife have sex. After he came there was a noticeable change in his demeaner. We talked after and he assure me he was fine, but I could tell he felt an enormous amount of guilt even though he enjoyed having me suck him and let him cum in my mouth.
The talking after is where he was uncomfortable. Married want a blow and go. He may have thought you wanted to bake cookies. Just suck his cock and balls, rim him too. After he nuts let him pack his junk away and leave. Sitting a having pillow talk ain’t his business.
 
The talking after is where he was uncomfortable. Married want a blow and go. He may have thought you wanted to bake cookies. Just suck his cock and balls, rim him too. After he nuts let him pack his junk away and leave. Sitting a having pillow talk ain’t his business.
Wants a gay bottom, not a sissy...........
 
wow you really do have a dilemma. I recently had the pleasure off sucking a married man. He too has kids and seldom do he and his wife have sex. After he came there was a noticeable change in his demeaner. We talked after and he assure me he was fine, but I could tell he felt an enormous amount of guilt even though he enjoyed having me suck him and let him cum in my mouth.
A straight guilt ridden guy in the post orgasm blues can be a dangerous situation that could turn violent. An all too common news story.
 
A straight guilt ridden guy in the post orgasm blues can be a dangerous situation that could turn violent. An all too common news story.
It doesn’t happen all to often. I’ve been closeted Bi male since I was (____) and I’m 52 now. Never ever did I cum across this. When I was deep in the lifestyle, the late 80’s and early 90’s college.
If it were to happen, threats, it came from a cling-on telling the cock he sucked he would out him, or cat fishing…. DN low is DN low. It can be a perfect situation, if you keep it behind the green door. I’ll say this. The wife finding out or all the friends and family, is 1a reason married guys that have this urge never fulfill it. #1 is bring home a de@th sentence.
 
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Signed up on Silver Dads. Any secret to finding a like minded guy?? Everyone mostly post dick pics, but if that was all to it I'd hit the ABS glory holes. Any advice on how to word my profile?
 
Signed up on Silver Dads. Any secret to finding a like minded guy?? Everyone mostly post dick pics, but if that was all to it I'd hit the ABS glory holes. Any advice on how to word my profile?
There are no secret words or phrases that I know of. Just put in a brief summary of what you are looking for and let the profile speak for itself. Be honest and do not get too wordy. You can also search profiles of other guys and send a message to a few that spark your interest. For non-paying members, you only get two messages per day.
 
Thinking back on things, I've probably always had bi tendencies. When I was younger (much younger) actually acting on such desires was still pretty taboo. There was also a ready supply of young ladies willing to play, so there was no pressure to act on same sex urges. As I've aged I have become more openly interested in pursuing those urges. As the thread title says, however, bi-married-and-closeted. I'm lucky that I am not in a sexless marriage even though our levels of desire are quite different. I would never act in a way to risk my marriage with either a male or a female so, for now at least, my bi tendencies stay in the realm of internet chat, crossdressing, and fantasy. It could be worse.
I am in that position also and have acted on my urges. Because I would never risk my 48 year marriage, I am always so freakin scared of getting caught that it kind of takes the pleasure away from the experience.
 
Thinking back on things, I've probably always had bi tendencies. When I was younger (much younger) actually acting on such desires was still pretty taboo. There was also a ready supply of young ladies willing to play, so there was no pressure to act on same sex urges. As I've aged I have become more openly interested in pursuing those urges. As the thread title says, however, bi-married-and-closeted. I'm lucky that I am not in a sexless marriage even though our levels of desire are quite different. I would never act in a way to risk my marriage with either a male or a female so, for now at least, my bi tendencies stay in the realm of internet chat, crossdressing, and fantasy. It could be worse.
In the same spot here. Not in a sexless marriage - wife still enjoys things but our frequency is WAY down. Once a week, at best. She's good with that but I'm not so I spend a lot of time here and in chat.
 
For me it's the mental excitement. Same old story but no sex with the wife for 15 years. And I don't dare talk to her about that because
she will just say "Fine, we can just get divorced". But it's like I don't want that, especially to be financially ruined. I know folks see things
differently, but that's just me.
I have cammed with just a couple of guys and felt "bad" afterwards. Heck I have even jerked off and felt "bad" for doing so. What's up with
that.
My wife and 19 year old son are out of the house so I'm doing my normal thing of checking out Lit while I'm buck naked.
I think my online fantasy is to find just a regular guy that gets no sex from his wife or little sex. And he can't ever meet in person but
he uses Lit as an out. But finding that guy, even online, seems to be impossible. There are lots of guys here that seem willing to chat but
they quickly falter and disappear.
My in person fantasy is to have a trusted friend or a neighbor to play with, sadly I have neither. Maybe a neighbor with benefits.
He moves in with his family, we meet while mowing. He invites me over for a beer and watch a game. Thankfully his wife and my wife
become good friends. I'm in his basement drinking a beer and watching a game and we get to talking about sex or lack there of.
Maybe he says he has a great sex life but hie wife refuses to go down on him, maybe I say that I never ever get sex, but that i went
down on a friend of mine in my younger years. maybe we get to talking about porn and he has a PC in his basement and shows me what
excites him. Next thing I know I'm dropping to my knees. That would be amazing.
But until that happens physically, I keep on looking for guys to chat about fantasies in Lit land. :)
The neighbor thing is a fantasy of mine for 20 years.
 
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