Bi Married and closeted

[cubbyfire04]

how's everyone doing heading into the Independence Day Weekend. summer is a great time for all the eye candy. Was chatting with my buddy yesterday. I've had the house to myself all week. we'd hoped to hook up, to no avail. Summer also has much more family activates. Makes it hard to meet up.

Whole family is stuck inside with Covid. The fucker finally got us... Obviously that puts a damper on any hookup possibilities for the next several days. Too bad, because the wife was supposed to be away seeing a friend

 

[RipleNStllWtr]

One day. Just one day with you. We wouldn't sleep. Just bed, couch, shower and more Take turns driving but both getting ours. One day. All I want.

 

[Lumpy2]

Staunton, VA here ...age 58...married...and love to suck a cock...and have mine sucked.

You have a beautiful cock !

 

[Travler99921]

I have recently come to the realization that I would love to try sex with a man. I am married over two decades, and I was quite close minded in my younger years through societal pressure and unreasonable assumptions. I don't think my wife would ever go for this however. Perhaps this view is also close minded. I am just not willing to gamble on a relationship and person I value so highly. I guess for now, I will have to close the closet door.

For those of you with the courage, how did you bring this up with your SO? How did the conversation go? How did you get it started? How did they react?

Loving so much of what I have found here. Makes me realize that my situation is not so unique.

I brought it up because I knew I would not be able to resist much longer, and she had the right to know. While it is a bit of a simplification she went through the following phases.

1. Surprise-- She said had no idea I had those feelings

2. Discussion-- First we discussed what I thought I needed. Then the discussions turned toward both our sexual needs.

 

[mtsnowrider]

One day. Just one day with you. We wouldn't sleep. Just bed, couch, shower and more Take turns driving but both getting ours. One day. All I want.

I think after that day I would want many more

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I hope all the married guys who secretly crave a nice cock are having a good weekend.

Well, not bad, apart from the total absence of cock.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Ditto here too. And I'm not home alone so I can't get naked and have my own self play time.
Wink

So there's no point in telling you what I'd do with your cock if I was there.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Well, I can always imagine. WInk

I'm sure you can.

 

[MinnFun]

I brought it up because I knew I would not be able to resist much longer, and she had the right to know. While it is a bit of a simplification she went through the following phases.

1. Surprise-- She said had no idea I had those feelings

2. Discussion-- First we discussed what I thought I needed. Then the discussions turned toward both our sexual needs.

Would like to hear more about what both your needs were and what resolution you came to.

 

[Stacy_TG]

How many are similar to me in that this and reading the stories becomes your outlet?
58 orally bi mwm who is overly cautious almost paranoid about meeting someone and the repercussions of coming out are more than I wish to deal with.

I can;t be alone in this

You’re not, sweetheart.

 

[frosty3610]

I hope all the married guys who secretly crave a nice cock are having a good weekend.

I am having a good weekend, I hope you have one also

 

[oneblueye]

I am having a good weekend, I hope you have one also

NOT YET!!!!
but the weekend aint over yet.

 

[MrRandyWatson]

It gets me thinking how much better a place the world would be if it were accepted that, no matter how single or happily married a man is, he has sex with other men and doesn’t discuss it with his wife. As in, she knows it happens but treats it like a hobby of his she isn’t interested in, and it has no effect on their marriage.

 

[blazingsaddles69]

Stacy no he is not alone

 

[rockoid2]

It gets me thinking how much better a place the world would be if it were accepted that, no matter how single or happily married a man is, he has sex with other men and doesn’t discuss it with his wife. As in, she knows it happens but treats it like a hobby of his she isn’t interested in, and it has no effect on their marriage.

I think the French have something likes this in that married men have affairs and the women know. Heard it somewhere.

 

[MrRandyWatson]

I think the French have something likes this in that married men have affairs and the women know. Heard it somewhere.

I just looked it up - they call it cinq a sept, or five to seven, the hours to meet up with lovers.

It’s a good start. I’m picturing it everywhere - like, if you see two men go into a room together, it’s understood they’ll fuck and it’s mostly unspoken. Men’s gyms would be all over and have special areas for sex (or, for that matter, bathhouses, and a man’s membership to either is seen as every bit an essential expense as, say, a cell phone.)

It wouldn’t be taboo at all, and in fact it would be accommodated on many levels.

 

[rockoid2]

I just looked it up - they call it cinq a sept, or five to seven, the hours to meet up with lovers.

It’s a good start. I’m picturing it everywhere - like, if you see two men go into a room together, it’s understood they’ll fuck and it’s mostly unspoken. Men’s gyms would be all over and have special areas for sex (or, for that matter, bathhouses, and a man’s membership to either is seen as every bit an essential expense as, say, a cell phone.)

It wouldn’t be taboo at all, and in fact it would be accommodated on many levels.

We can dream. Society is getting more lenient on sexuality so we may see something like this in the near future. Just need to address diseases. Would love to end a work day sucking cock or being taken by a hard cock.

 

[MrRandyWatson]

We can dream. Society is getting more lenient on sexuality so we may see something like this in the near future. Just need to address diseases. Would love to end a work day sucking cock or being taken by a hard cock.

Yeah, it’s an idea for the future; it certainly won’t happen here and now, at least all over anyway. I wonder how we could push society in that direction, where it’s not just OK for a man to fuck men but encouraged.

 

[rockoid2]

Yeah, it’s an idea for the future; it certainly won’t happen here and now, at least all over anyway. I wonder how we could push society in that direction, where it’s not just OK for a man to fuck men but encouraged.

May be tied to sex drives. Men have high sex drives, women not so much (my experience anyway). Agrument may that it would keep marriages more stable. Instead of chasing wiomen who want relationships, having sex with men is just that sex. No relationship besides maybe friendship. Except for those that are gay. Don't attend to offend anyone, but us bi folks would love to have both pussy and cock.

 

[MrRandyWatson]

May be tied to sex drives. Men have high sex drives, women not so much (my experience anyway). Agrument may that it would keep marriages more stable. Instead of chasing wiomen who want relationships, having sex with men is just that sex. No relationship besides maybe friendship. Except for those that are gay. Don't attend to offend anyone, but us bi folks would love to have both pussy and cock.

That we would, and I think it would make things a lot easier in terms of relationships between one another. People would be less likely to have an issue with other people if they fuck. People would be a lot more satisfied and less tense. Men would be less desperate for sex with women if they know they can readily get satisfaction from men. A bored man could go down to the bathhouse and get fucked. And some spaces would be accepted as men-only. It would probably allow men to share a lot with one another as well, leading to better mental health.

 

[rockoid2]

That we would, and I think it would make things a lot easier in terms of relationships between one another. People would be less likely to have an issue with other people if they fuck. People would be a lot more satisfied and less tense. Men would be less desperate for sex with women if they know they can readily get satisfaction from men. A bored man could go down to the bathhouse and get fucked. And some spaces would be accepted as men-only. It would probably allow men to share a lot with one another as well, leading to better mental health.

Totally agree. Wish I could visit a man-only space today

 

[hulmule]

That we would, and I think it would make things a lot easier in terms of relationships between one another. People would be less likely to have an issue with other people if they fuck. People would be a lot more satisfied and less tense. Men would be less desperate for sex with women if they know they can readily get satisfaction from men. A bored man could go down to the bathhouse and get fucked. And some spaces would be accepted as men-only. It would probably allow men to share a lot with one another as well, leading to better mental health.

Just to be able to have sex with anyone you choose, would make life less stressful. If spouse doesnt want then the other should be able to find relief if they want to stay in that relationship. I know for a fact when my wife was slowing down on sex she was different. When we made love she was in a good mood, humming around the house and pleasant to be around. Asked her why dont we do it more often, look at your mood... No answer.. Crazy

 

[rockoid2]

Just to be able to have sex with anyone you choose, would make life less stressful. If spouse doesnt want then the other should be able to find relief if they want to stay in that relationship. I know for a fact when my wife was slowing down on sex she was different. When we made love she was in a good mood, humming around the house and pleasant to be around. Asked her why dont we do it more often, look at your mood... No answer.. Crazy

I know that after cumming I am in a better mood and less stressed. Sex releases hormones. If I could I would have sex a couple times a day.

 

[hulmule]

I know that after cumming I am in a better mood and less stressed. Sex releases hormones. If I could I would have sex a couple times a day.

Oh , its the same for me. I can focus on tasks, my balls dont ach... Wish my wife would understand better... I'm a classic case of blue balls. i really ach if i dont release. But problem is now in sexless marriage, hand and cock not playing well together. Need more stimulation...

 

[rockoid2]

Oh , its the same for me. I can focus on tasks, my balls dont ach... Wish my wife would understand better... I'm a classic case of blue balls. i really ach if i dont release. But problem is now in sexless marriage, hand and cock not playing well together. Need more stimulation...

"Need more stimulation..." that's why I am here