Ruining you own orgasm

[ShaneoD]

Admittedly I've done it the last couple of times I masturbated and didn't want to cum all over myself, or the bedsheets to be completely honest. But it did give me an understanding for what an actual ruined orgasm was as opposed to being ridiculously horny and loosing control. I guess I want to ask is what do guys get out of it, I mean I just kept going until I got that eventual throbbing pulsing release, but they seem to be quite popular, so I want to ask where does the enjoyment come from?

 

[510mike]

Admittedly I've done it the last couple of times I masturbated and didn't want to cum all over myself, or the bedsheets to be completely honest. But it did give me an understanding for what an actual ruined orgasm was as opposed to being ridiculously horny and loosing control. I guess I want to ask is what do guys get out of it, I mean I just kept going until I got that eventual throbbing pulsing release, but they seem to be quite popular, so I want to ask where does the enjoyment come from?

When I intentionally ruined an orgasm, two positives immediately come to mind. First, the very common feeling of losing the desire to eat your cum once you orgasm doesn’t happen. As I get closer and closer to the edge, my desire to eat my cum grows and grows and doesn’t diminish with a ruined orgasm so I am get to enjoy a tasty treat.

Secondly, I often remain hard after a ruined orgasm and can continue to stroke and edge my way to a second orgasm. Two for one is always nice.

 

[seela]

If the topic is open for women as well…

Personally I enjoy the frustration of it. Giving up. Doing something that’s so against my instincts at the moment. Physically I enjoy the empty sadness it brings, how I’m clenching and trying to hold on to the tiniest remnant of an orgasm and getting nothing. Desperation, I suppose.

Especially if I’ve edged for a long time it can feel like the biggest mind fuck ever.

 

[Wonderer67]

I agree, it is a mindfuck aspect of it. As a man, all of my physical, physiological and mental desires desire to shoot a giant load. In my opinion were programmed for it. So to undo that programming, is the mindfuck. It’s the yes, but no. It’s great (especially when edged for a long time) but totally unfulfilling.

From a practical perspective, a few posters up top shared that you can stay hard and continue fucking or masturbating or eat your own cum. It’s (partially) loaded with possibilities!

I personally like being controlled by my wife and she determines when and how much I may cum. I’ve been about a week and a half without orgasm and she has said no orgasm for me till Christmas! Imagine how frustrating that’ll be if it’s a ruined orgasm….

 

[ShaneoD]

I'll admit everyone who responded dealt with it better than I did, do you learn to love it? Try to encourage it when you know you have time to come back? Or is it pure chance and you have the mental clarity to deal with it?

 

[Stillrandy]

I'm an older guy. Sometimes the orgasm just doesn't happen. Not that it is 'ruined' but I didn't achieve lift-off so to speak. Like a rocket launched that got scrubbed. OK, try again tomorrow...

The idea of consciously interrupting the process for the sake of whatever, doesn't resonate with me at all. Yes, I can agree that an orgasm achieved after a pause of a few days (for example) can be quite satisfying. So the trade-off for me is which pattern gives me the greatest satisfaction and pleasure. And that, for me, is to 'make hay while the sun shines" so to speak. So for me, as it is said: "Denial is just a river in Egypt!"

 

[Wonderer67]

I'll admit everyone who responded dealt with it better than I did, do you learn to love it? Try to encourage it when you know you have time to come back? Or is it pure chance and you have the mental clarity to deal with it?

I almost never have a regular, full orgasm. My wife either doesn’t let me cum or sometimes brings me just to the brink and ruins my orgasm. She gave me two ruined orgasms the other day.

I was still horny afterwards and I was able to fuck her and bring her to a few orgasms.

 

[itsallgood2002]

For a number of reason I'm restricted to masturbation and most time it works out ok. But sometimes I'll have a fantasy go wrong, train of thought or bad memory sending it off the tracks. Then it was just time to give it up, kind of like don't think about it and of course that's all you can think of.

 

[Missk_2022]

I masturbate and don't allow myself to cum because my sir is in charge of my orgasms... when we are together and he decides I can cum they are sooooo much better.... I just got done edging myself to the brink and I can't wait to tell him all about it and that I was a good girl for him... it is so sexy.... knowing that I chose obedience over my "wanting to cum" is amazing and when he tells me I am a good girl....mmm

 

[Wonderer67]

I am not sure this is possible, but the other day my wife was pegging me. We went at it for a good 25-30 mins. She took off the harness and had me put it on a stool and ride it and I hoped I would have a hands-free orgasm. I didn’t so she had me masturbate while riding it. She’s very clear abt not letting me have a full, real orgasm.

So here’s the part that I’m not sure is possible! I masturbated to my first round orgasm (With the large dildo still in me) to a ruined orgasm (and had to eat my cum). I didn’t lose horniness, so I went for it again, and it was ruined again and I ate the cum. And then the third, and a fourth and a fifth time. The last time was still ruined, but I almost had no cum left. Totally drained.

And I would have to say I didn’t get any of the pleasure of a real orgasm. Still felt somewhat good I got to eat a lot of my cum, but I was still horny as hell and my wife had her fuck me later that night, so I know they were all ruined.

Maybe it was the fact that I had a large dildo in my ass at the time and I was pressing on my prostate, but I’ve never cum like that before…

 

[seela]

Ruins have really been on my mind lately and I’ve got to play with them a little.

It’s funny, given how often I’ve played with ruins over the years, that I’ve only recently really appreciated how different the experience is depending on if I’ve had regular orgasms before the ruin or if I have one after a spell of denial.

It’s more difficult for me to have ruins after a spell of having regular orgasms. It’s still fresh in my mind what an orgasm could be, but what it isn’t because it’s ruined. It feels mean, the experience is somehow sharper and more taunting.

If I have a ruin after a spell of denial, the ruin feels more like a reward and while it’s physically the same, empty, desperate clenching, it feels very different emotionally.

 

[Older_Pervert]

Ruins have really been on my mind lately and I’ve got to play with them a little.

It’s funny, given how often I’ve played with ruins over the years, that I’ve only recently really appreciated how different the experience is depending on if I’ve had regular orgasms before the ruin or if I have one after a spell of denial.

It’s more difficult for me to have ruins after a spell of having regular orgasms. It’s still fresh in my mind what an orgasm could be, but what it isn’t because it’s ruined. It feels mean, the experience is somehow sharper and more taunting.

If I have a ruin after a spell of denial, the ruin feels more like a reward and while it’s physically the same, empty, desperate clenching, it feels very different emotionally.

Is it better for you seela if someone else is in control of whether or not your masturbation/orgasm is controlled and/or ruined, or do you prefer autoeroticism where you make the choice?

 

[seela]

Is it better for you seela if someone else is in control of whether or not your masturbation/orgasm is controlled and/or ruined, or do you prefer autoeroticism where you make the choice?

It’s better when I’m not the one who decides. It’s still very good even when I am the one who decides, though.

 

[Mrmusings45]

I would prefer that someone else would be in control of my orgasm...whether, when, how often, etc.

 

[ffdan]

The thrill I get is the journey. Bringing myself close. That pre orgasm feeling. Then stopping. I try to edge until I go to far and ejaculate one or twice just from my cock twitching on it’s on being so close. I’ll wait a couple minutes covered in cum and start again. Usually second time I’ll finish, but I have cum three times this way in relatively short time, with each orgasm being more satisfying and as much volume and reach as the first if not much more.