Bi Married and closeted

[klippert]

Like hunting stuff. Grin

You know it...spring Turkey season is right around the corner. the excuse for me and my buddy to get together

 

[Morton81]

You know it...spring Turkey season is right around the corner. the excuse for me and my buddy to get together

The chances of both of you getting a gobbler seems pretty good.

 

[kjb123]

You know it...spring Turkey season is right around the corner. the excuse for me and my buddy to get together

I usually make one out of state hunting trip a year. Have entertained the thought of meeting up while out on a trip and exploring some bi desires!

 

[Jaime1493]

Same here...the only difference is Ive come out to 3 friends who I know will not only keep my secret, and who are into bi guys. Its 2 girls and 1 guy, he came out to me first, then I swallowed the nerves and told him I was bi.

Lately the urge to tell my wife has gotten stronger, but I cant...I just know she would have issue with it. I want to tell her a partial truth, that I had a couple of encounters when I was younger, but I still dont think she would be okay with it.

Keep your mouth shut, or you will regret it. Every guy I know that has told his wife, ended up divorced.

 

[Crios]

Keep your mouth shut, or you will regret it. Every guy I know that has told his wife, ended up divorced.

Have to agree. The time to admit you're bi would be when you were first going together. If you only recently have discovered your bi nature, you would have to be prepared to suffer the consequences if you come out to her now.

 

[mattnixon56]

Keep your mouth shut, or you will regret it. Every guy I know that has told his wife, ended up divorced.

agreed. when we talked about my wife being other girls as a kid we both loved it. but stories about me and my friends she did not

 

[ky81nea]

Keep your mouth shut, or you will regret it. Every guy I know that has told his wife, ended up divorced.

when i came out to my husband he asked a preacher and they said leave her nowwwww. forget the 30+yrs we were married. i told my husband i had been with girls before guys and he has been so very understanding we will be married 41 yrs in july but this is not for everyone. most men or women would have said forget you i am gone.. so treed lightlty dont throw away many good yrs

 

[dave's thing]

I usually make one out of state hunting trip a year. Have entertained the thought of meeting up while out on a trip and exploring some bi desires!

That's what I did and never looked back.

 

[oneblueye]

when i came out to my husband he asked a preacher and they said leave her nowwwww. forget the 30+yrs we were married. i told my husband i had been with girls before guys and he has been so very understanding we will be married 41 yrs in july but this is not for everyone. most men or women would have said forget you i am gone.. so treed lightlty dont throw away many good yrs

Yeah, I wound up telling my wife of 46 years about an instance where and when I was forced to suck off four grown men, relatives of mine. I felt sure she would leave me or use the information in other hurtful ways ---, so far it hasn't worked out that way.

 

[OlderBtm4U]

Yeah, I wound up telling my wife of 46 years about an instance where and when I was forced to suck off four grown men, relatives of mine. I felt sure she would leave me or use the information in other hurtful ways ---, so far it hasn't worked out that way.

So glad for you.

 

[peter49parker]

While it is a man's favourite fantasy to watch two women making it, and to have a threesome with two women, and while the majority of these men include their wives (if maried) in their "lesbian fantasies," most of these do not want to see their wives actually do it.

Why? Well, fantasy is one thing and reality is something else.

Some (women and men) may consider it cheating, if the wife does it on her own;

Other husbands may feel sexually threatened if their wives are enjoying their girlie relationship with other women. Yes, many men are well aware that it is said, only a woman can best pleasure another woman. It is a fact that only 30% to 35% of women get an orgasm from intercourse, yet most of bi women orgasm with each other;

Husband also may feel threatened as their wives may fall in love with the other woman;

Of course societal and moral norms apply, with the bi woman not wanting at all that her family, friends and acquaintances, know that she is bi.

I was once consulted by a married woman, who was desirous of sleeping with another woman, and one of her married friends was openly bi. Her husband used to make sexual remarks about their friend, showing excitement when the topic was raised. "Lesbian sex" clearly attracted and excited him. Yet, when my client broached the issue in a nonchalant and joking way, to see his views on her interacting with another woman, he was strongly against it. She attempted another time and he rebuked her. He found it immoral, yet he enjoyed and got excited talking about bisexuals and lesbians. After some 4 months of guiding her on how to behave with him, he became much softer on the issue of her interacting with another woman. And she finally did.

I will take you at your word about a man's favourite fantasy is wanting to watch their wife engage with another woman and somehow making it into a threeway. It was once a favourite fantasy for me too.

That was when I was a much younger man. Since then, there was a very powerful swing in my thoughts involving threeway sex. It still includes my wife as a participant, along with myself, but with another man. I have thought about this long and hard (the obvious pun is intended) and it has been my most powerful fantasy of all. I have read many stories about cuckolding, hot wives and the like, and I would have to say this 'newer' version of threeway sex has really become very popular. If not with the younger crowd, at least with us older ones.

I can not disagree with the % of women who orgasm from intercourse with men being as low as 30%, however, I am surprised it is that high. My wife has had most of her orgasms from oral, manual or with the assistance of battery operated toys.

I have read from another source that the #1 fantasy for women is to have multiple, male partners at once.

I take that you are much more highly versed in these issues and only offer my insights for what they are worth. If my wife were to want threeway sex (or more) I would not mind at all. It is her choice. Extra man, woman, or both.

 

[Crios]

I will take you at your word about a man's favourite fantasy is wanting to watch their wife engage with another woman and somehow making it into a threeway. It was once a favourite fantasy for me too.

That was when I was a much younger man. Since then, there was a very powerful swing in my thoughts involving threeway sex. It still includes my wife as a participant, along with myself, but with another man. I have thought about this long and hard (the obvious pun is intended) and it has been my most powerful fantasy of all. I have read many stories about cuckolding, hot wives and the like, and I would have to say this 'newer' version of threeway sex has really become very popular. If not with the younger crowd, at least with us older ones.

I can not disagree with the % of women who orgasm from intercourse with men being as low as 30%, however, I am surprised it is that high. My wife has had most of her orgasms from oral, manual or with the assistance of battery operated toys.

I have read from another source that the #1 fantasy for women is to have multiple, male partners at once.

I take that you are much more highly versed in these issues and only offer my insights for what they are worth. If my wife were to want threeway sex (or more) I would not mind at all. It is her choice. Extra man, woman, or both.

I agree about the % of women who orgasm from intercourse. From at least one study, most women require some form of clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, even if there's penetration.
From my personal experience, my wife, who has always been multiorgasmic, would usually only cum during intercourse if I was playing with her clit, using a toy on her clit or entering her after getting her very close to cumming just before penetration.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

Semantics is what the difference is between my "cuckolding" and your "wife-sharing." Dictionary definitions of cuckolding, never mention anything about humiliation or denial of sex by the wife. Yet a common misconception is to include them in some shape or form. To be cuckolded, a man merely needs his wife to have sex with other men. Metaphorically speaking, an ice cream sundae does not require whipped cream or sprinkles, yet many do. To be cuckolded humiliation or denial may be present, but not required.

As far as the fantasy side of it goes, I remember reading a popular men's magazine many decades ago, in which there was a section about 'Hot Wives" having sex with other men. I was totally turned off by this notion and could never see myself being interested in anything like that. As time progressed, I thought I might just try reading one of those stories, and something 'clicked' inside me. I can't explain it, and I can't tell you why it is such a powerful sexual thought for me. I can tell you that my wife has cuckolded me by having sex with another man.

 

[dave's thing]

How did this thread get so off subject???? There are a number of threads on the subject of sharing, cuckhold and humiliation.

Just saying

 

[Dreamer110]

Was wondering that myself.

 

[Jaime1493]

Same here...the only difference is Ive come out to 3 friends who I know will not only keep my secret, and who are into bi guys. Its 2 girls and 1 guy, he came out to me first, then I swallowed the nerves and told him I was bi.

Lately the urge to tell my wife has gotten stronger, but I cant...I just know she would have issue with it. I want to tell her a partial truth, that I had a couple of encounters when I was younger, but I still dont think she would be okay with it.

If I told mine, I could kiss the marriage goodbye.

 

[cubbyfire04]

How did this thread get so off subject???? There are a number of threads on the subject of sharing, cuckhold and humiliation.

Just saying

Just like 90% of the other threads in the GLBT board... Nonetheless, I do think a lot of closeted bi guys explore those ideas because psychologically it is an easier pathway from denial.

 

[Jaime1493]

It sure is.

 

[peterheer51]

How many are similar to me in that this and reading the stories becomes your outlet?
58 orally bi mwm who is overly cautious almost paranoid about meeting someone and the repercussions of coming out are more than I wish to deal with.

I can;t be alone in this

That's me exactly

 

[madmatt618]

That's me exactly

Same here …

 

[J6222]

Like most married guys, very much closeted. I don't think there are that many understanding wives out there.
At 60 I find myself taking care of my needs any way I can, though don't have much experience with men. It's hard finding other sane, discrete married guys near me.

 

[CuriousGuy62]

Like most married guys, very much closeted. I don't think there are that many understanding wives out there.
At 60 I find myself taking care of my needs any way I can, though don't have much experience with men. It's hard finding other sane, discrete married guys near me.

Where is near you?

 

[J6222]

I'm in Las Vegas.

 

[klippert]

How did this thread get so off subject???? There are a number of threads on the subject of sharing, cuckhold and humiliation.

Just saying

Everyone is a HuffPost pop-psychologist, sexological expert. This is why I’ve bailed on this and many other alphabet threads that start as a place for bi married guys and it goes off the rails, every FK’N time. Ive at least tried to speak from my personal experiences.
Good luck

 

[Bartlett4u]

Like most married guys, very much closeted. I don't think there are that many understanding wives out there.
At 60 I find myself taking care of my needs any way I can, though don't have much experience with men. It's hard finding other sane, discrete married guys near me.

60 married and know exactly what you mean. It’s difficult to find a nice married guy that’s discreet and can be trusted. Sometimes it’s like damn I want another guy to be with. Very frustrating.