Wife's secrets

Dusty753

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After my mom passed away few months back I started thinking about few things that I either thought I saw or actually saw. My wife of 40 plus years is disabled and most days hurting like hell. We never had a real sex life mostly because of her having intra metriosis and most women have a lot of pain having sex. We got married young and I had in my brain that a wife and husband should fuck early and often, but that was not for us. I had a thought in my head that my wife was more interested in my brother that was 2 years than I was. I would catch them stealing a look or a smile here and there. When I started my own company I brought him on board to help and they would somehow end up on overseeing the same job. I will be the first to say that I am and have always been a jealous person when it comes to my wife. Even i understand that it's her life too and she's got rights too. Anyway after my brother passed away I thought she was a little too upset for it to be just a brother in law. In the pass 10 years since she's been disabled we lost her dad and mom and my mom and dad and her 2 brothers. As in all deaths secrets have a way of coming out and as I was there watching my wife interact with my other brothers i see her hugging my other brother with her hand on his hip. Same way that she was hugging me 10 minutes early and for the last couple of weeks of my mom life, she was going up and staying with her and my mom was staying with brother. So I got to thinking what they say about smoke and fire. So last month after watching a catfish episode i came up with a plan. I started a fake Facebook page as a black guy that had been in the military with her brother that had died. I sent her a message asking if she was so and so sister and to my amazement, she replied. As the days went by I would message her and my story was i was in rehab and only thing they would let have was Factbook. I would tell her story that her brother had told me and in fact he knew her brother in law that had passed away too. I started dropping hints that I knew certain things and eventually she started messaging me for I could her. We got pretty close as a chatt friends go. One day I asked her for a picture and she said no that she wasn't comfortable with that. Well I told her I had few secrets that I could tell her about her family that her brother had told me. She sent me a picture. So I started with few jaw droppers and she knew I was the real deal. Then I told her that I knew few things about her and her brother in law, which was my brother. I told her for that I need to see her in her underwear and she said they was nothing to tell. So I told her,you sure? Then I ask her about a certain place, I got my picture. We talked about a week everyday and she got a lot of family secrets that she never knew and I found out that she has been fucking around early in our marriage. She even asked to see a picture of my dick and she has always told me that black guy's didn't appeal to her. So now what do I do with my information that I thought I wanted to know? This is 100% true situation
 
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After my mom passed away few months back I started thinking about few things that I either thought I saw or actually saw. My wife of 40 plus years is disabled and most days hurting like hell. We never had a real sex life mostly because of her having intra metriosis and most women have a lot of pain having sex. We got married young and I had in my brain that a wife and husband should fuck early and often, but that was not for us. I had a thought in my head that my wife was more interested in my brother that was 2 years than I was. I would catch them stealing a look or a smile here and there. When I started my own company I brought him on board to help and they would somehow end up on overseeing the same job. I will be the first to say that I am and have always been a jealous person when it comes to my wife. Even i understand that it's her life too and she's got rights too. Anyway after my brother passed away I thought she was a little too upset for it to be just a brother in law. In the pass 10 years since she's been disabled we lost her dad and mom and my mom and dad and her 2 brothers. As in all deaths secrets have a way of coming out and as I was there watching my wife interact with my other brothers i see her hugging my other brother with her hand on his hip. Same way that she was hugging me 10 minutes early and for the last couple of weeks of my mom life, she was going up and staying with her and my mom was staying with brother. So I got to thinking what they say about smoke and fire. So last month after watching a catfish episode i came up with a plan. I started a fake Facebook page as a black guy that had been in the military with her brother that had died. I sent her a message asking if she was so and so sister and to my amazement, she replied. As the days went by I would message her and my story was i was in rehab and only thing they would let have was Factbook. I would tell her story that her brother had told me and in fact he knew her brother in law that had passed away too. I started dropping hints that I knew certain things and eventually she started messaging me for I could her. We got pretty close as a chatt friends go. One day I asked her for a picture and she said no that she wasn't comfortable with that. Well I told her I had few secrets that I could tell her about her family that her brother had told me. She sent me a picture. So I started with few jaw droppers and she knew I was the real deal. Then I told her that I knew few things about her and her brother in law, which was my brother. I told her for that I need to see her in her underwear and she said they was nothing to tell. So I told her,you sure? Then I ask her about a certain place, I got my picture. We talked about a week everyday and she got a lot of family secrets that she never knew and I found out that she has been fucking around early in our marriage. She even asked to see a picture of my dick and she has always told me that black guy's didn't appeal to her. So now what do I do with my information that I thought I wanted to know? This is 100% true situation

WOW! That was a great ideal to find out her secrets!
 
At this point, I think I'd just keep quiet about it. I can't see anything good coming out of letting her know you know... but... knowing she does like sex, I'd definitely see if there was anything I could do to rev up the sex life at home.

You are absolutely right,we had arguments in the past over all the stuff that I thought I knew and she denied it all.
 
After my mom passed away few months back I started thinking about few things that I either thought I saw or actually saw. My wife of 40 plus years is disabled and most days hurting like hell. We never had a real sex life mostly because of her having intra metriosis and most women have a lot of pain having sex. We got married young and I had in my brain that a wife and husband should fuck early and often, but that was not for us. I had a thought in my head that my wife was more interested in my brother that was 2 years than I was. I would catch them stealing a look or a smile here and there. When I started my own company I brought him on board to help and they would somehow end up on overseeing the same job. I will be the first to say that I am and have always been a jealous person when it comes to my wife. Even i understand that it's her life too and she's got rights too. Anyway after my brother passed away I thought she was a little too upset for it to be just a brother in law. In the pass 10 years since she's been disabled we lost her dad and mom and my mom and dad and her 2 brothers. As in all deaths secrets have a way of coming out and as I was there watching my wife interact with my other brothers i see her hugging my other brother with her hand on his hip. Same way that she was hugging me 10 minutes early and for the last couple of weeks of my mom life, she was going up and staying with her and my mom was staying with brother. So I got to thinking what they say about smoke and fire. So last month after watching a catfish episode i came up with a plan. I started a fake Facebook page as a black guy that had been in the military with her brother that had died. I sent her a message asking if she was so and so sister and to my amazement, she replied. As the days went by I would message her and my story was i was in rehab and only thing they would let have was Factbook. I would tell her story that her brother had told me and in fact he knew her brother in law that had passed away too. I started dropping hints that I knew certain things and eventually she started messaging me for I could her. We got pretty close as a chatt friends go. One day I asked her for a picture and she said no that she wasn't comfortable with that. Well I told her I had few secrets that I could tell her about her family that her brother had told me. She sent me a picture. So I started with few jaw droppers and she knew I was the real deal. Then I told her that I knew few things about her and her brother in law, which was my brother. I told her for that I need to see her in her underwear and she said they was nothing to tell. So I told her,you sure? Then I ask her about a certain place, I got my picture. We talked about a week everyday and she got a lot of family secrets that she never knew and I found out that she has been fucking around early in our marriage. She even asked to see a picture of my dick and she has always told me that black guy's didn't appeal to her. So now what do I do with my information that I thought I wanted to know? This is 100% true situation
ok i am a 58 yr old married bi woman, my husband and have been married 41 yr. i never gave him a reason to be with another woman i always kept him very happy..... I am not one for lies, can not stand someone to lie to me.. so early on we learned to communicate well. if someone hit on me i told him. So as we aged and i told him i had been with girls before we got married, and wanted to again he agreed he no longer can have sex but i have a live in lesbian partner. i guess the point i am trying to make is if you feel she has been unfaithful then talk to her about setting something up. or visit a swingers place to see her reaction. in other words you feel you have the evidence of her betrayal so you need to find out for sure, and go from there.. i have to say we have a friend who has a son who has been married twice and both of those women have gone out on him. i feel sorry for the kid, well kid to me at my age lol.. now if they have an open marriage then that is different and yes we have had friends who had open marriages, there are many options out there. life is not over until you are planted in the ground. you need to get to the end of this so if you find out for sure you can live some before it is too late.
 
I guess I am more hurt because of all the years we could have been having a great sex life and I was convinced that she didn't enjoy sex. I done with out for the most part and buried myself in work so that I didn't think about sex every waking moment of the day. And now that I’m pretty sure she been fucking around all those years, just hard to accept. But I guess what Is done is done and nothing I can do now. I have to say that I am enjoying the conversations and the pictures she is sharing with her black friend on Facebook lol
 
Sometimes ignorance can be a bliss. Everyone has secrets and some of them are small and others can break people. I have been on all side of the secrets game myself. I have learned secrets that later on I wish I had not known. I am sure part of you is happy knowing about your wife and part of you wishes you could take it back as well.
 
Some times just knowing she has secrets and not the exact or any details can be the key
 
Sometimes ignorance can be a bliss. Everyone has secrets and some of them are small and others can break people. I have been on all side of the secrets game myself. I have learned secrets that later on I wish I had not known. I am sure part of you is happy knowing about your wife and part of you wishes you could take it back as well.
True. Some secrets are best kept secret. Then again, knowing your spouse has secrets keeps you in a state of curiosity and arousal. Or it drives you crazy.
 
Wow, your wife sounds like something else. I do not mean to be negative but she started cheating early it sounds like cheating is what turns her on. Sucks that your own family was in on it as well but at times family can be some of the cruelest people in our lives. Like some people have said you don't have to be blood to be true family and blood doesn't always make you family.

So now you have your info what do you intend to do with it?
 
Wow, your wife sounds like something else. I do not mean to be negative but she started cheating early it sounds like cheating is what turns her on. Sucks that your own family was in on it as well but at times family can be some of the cruelest people in our lives. Like some people have said you don't have to be blood to be true family and blood doesn't always make you family.

So now you have your info what do you intend to do with it?
I have to echo this... So many people agreeing he should keep his mouth shut. I don't know that I would. For FOUR DECADES this woman lied to you about being unable to give you something you not only desire, but that is a core pillar of marriage for most people. The foundation of marriage is trust. If not monogamy, at least consensual behavior outside the marriage. In my opinion, her actions were reprehensible.

It would be inconceivable for me to waste another second with a human being who essentially kept me as a prisoner while she guiltlessly enjoyed the life she deprived me of. With family, nonetheless (who are clearly not without blame here).

My advice... Recapture your life. I would never tell someone to divorce/leave a S.O... but she needs to atone for her behavior. You deserve the pleasures in life she took from you, and she deserves to know about it.
 
I have to echo this... So many people agreeing he should keep his mouth shut. I don't know that I would. For FOUR DECADES this woman lied to you about being unable to give you something you not only desire, but that is a core pillar of marriage for most people. The foundation of marriage is trust. If not monogamy, at least consensual behavior outside the marriage. In my opinion, her actions were reprehensible.

It would be inconceivable for me to waste another second with a human being who essentially kept me as a prisoner while she guiltlessly enjoyed the life she deprived me of. With family, nonetheless (who are clearly not without blame here).

My advice... Recapture your life. I would never tell someone to divorce/leave a S.O... but she needs to atone for her behavior. You deserve the pleasures in life she took from you, and she deserves to know about it.

Life is complicated, but I have to agree. I don't think I could ever just ignore betrayal like that. The genie won't go back in the bottle.

You refer to being kept prisoner. I have often referred to it as having life/time stolen, by denying a spouse the right to life life on their own terms.
 
Life is complicated, but I have to agree. I don't think I could ever just ignore betrayal like that. The genie won't go back in the bottle.

You refer to being kept prisoner. I have often referred to it as having life/time stolen, by denying a spouse the right to life life on their own terms.
My thought process was the same... I theft is the foundation of the worst atrocities, IMO...

Murder - theft of life. Sexual assault - theft of body & innocence. Infidelity - theft of trust. So on, and so forth...

And yes, life is complicated. Other factors not mentioned might have led to her behavior. I only hope that the OP has enough respect for himself to choose his future with this woman wisely.
 
Well, my wife and I have been together since we were in our late teens. She had a past, mostly in high school all after she and her partners were of legal age.

She never talks about sex. And she really never talks about sex before me. I'm not a guy who wants to see my wife with other men. I'm not jealous, that's just not my thing. But I wonder what kind of sex she had back then? She hates to have her head touched when she's sucking cock. Did a guy gag her on his dick? Did he cum down her throat? Did a guy hurt her by being too rough? And did she ever do more than she does with me? Am I paying for the bad behavior of some asshole high school senior in 1978?
 
Well, my wife and I have been together since we were in our late teens. She had a past, mostly in high school all after she and her partners were of legal age.

She never talks about sex. And she really never talks about sex before me. I'm not a guy who wants to see my wife with other men. I'm not jealous, that's just not my thing. But I wonder what kind of sex she had back then? She hates to have her head touched when she's sucking cock. Did a guy gag her on his dick? Did he cum down her throat? Did a guy hurt her by being too rough? And did she ever do more than she does with me? Am I paying for the bad behavior of some asshole high school senior in 1978?
I share in the curiosity of what she might have done, how she learned, who was her first this and that, etc. After all these years, the one clear thing, though, is......she ain't telling. According to what she has shared over all this time, I am the only person she has ever had sex with although she had 2 kids when I married her. It's not even that I want to know the specifics of who or where or any of that.....more just how was it, how did it feel, was it really good, or just going through the motions, etc etc. I have tried though and none of it is going ever be told. It's ironic too, that I have an old high school friend (female) who will tell every detail of everything she ever did with anyone as if just trying her best to turn me on and every so often succeeding.
 
Sometimes ignorance can be a bliss. Everyone has secrets and some of them are small and others can break people. I have been on all side of the secrets game myself. I have learned secrets that later on I wish I had not known. I am sure part of you is happy knowing about your wife and part of you wishes you could take it back as well.
Agreed..there are some adventures and fantasies I am just not going to share..thats what literotica is for lol
 
Shhhhhhh.......some of us girls like to keep our kinky past a secret!! LOL
I'm not one of them, I love talking about it, chatting about it and using it as foreplay!
Oh that's just ridiculous. If you are married then you're spouse is the most likely person to both understand your kinky past and to accept it as a part of your sexual chemistry that he/ she can share with you now. Trust me if I knew my 1st wife was Bi back then we would have had a FAR more adventurous and enjoyable sex life and marriage. She had REALLY good, and 🔥 taste in women. Women that I'd be happy sharing her with.
 
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