Jill Story Question.

[MrsCarlLaFong]

I've got a plot bunny about a recent widow who misses her husband and masturbates to ease the pain of loss. She, er, overdoes it with the vibrator after several months of grieving and incurs a bladder infection requiring an ER visit. Now she's scared to take up the comfort method again, getting a little desperate for relief, but wonders how to "gear down" from the firm grind she's used to. Should she quit self-pleasure altogether? Devise a kinder, gentler routine and what could this consist of? I've got the beginning, yet considering how both physical and mental health is involved, the solution eludes me. Protagonist was used to basically tame arousals like watching vanilla m/f porn but when excited, would get rough with herself in order to come, thus the problem.

 

[YDB95]

I've never heard of a vibrator causing a UTI. Can that even really happen?

 

[Trionyx]

Any aggressive manipulation around the urethral meatus (pee hole) can push bacteria up the urethra and cause an infection. Masturbation, intercourse, oral sex and sex toys have all been associated with bladder infections.

 

[Dingo_Triplesix]

The core problem seems to be that the woman needs too much raw stimulation to puncture the emotional armor the death of her husband has created (or she had beforehand, maybe). The story could develop along her trials to get other kinds of this treatment, like nipple pinching or pain induced orgasms or the like. This works, but also is like a drug for her - she needs more and more of it. Finally she discovers a way to release the built up tension before masturbation (meditation? a new beloved one? lots of chocolate and cheesy movies?), so she can get rid of the armor and is able to feel more, relative to stimulation level. That is when she starts to enjoy orgasms with just normal fingerplay. HEA.

 

[Winter_Fare]

Some women are more prone to this than others? She could make friends with someone who reassures her and gives her the knowledge she needs to play safe.

Wash first, keep sex toys meticulously clean, go pee immediately afterwards, if all else fails, try cranberry tablets and a short course of trimethoprim in the kitchen cupboard on standby... Party on!

 

[Trionyx]

Peeing after sex has always been promoted to prevent postcoital bladder infections but unfortunately it probably doesn’t work. In a medical study several years ago a group of sexually active college women was divided into two groups. One group was instructed to pee after sex and the other was told to pee only if and when they needed to. The two groups had similar numbers of sexual encounters. There was NO difference in the number of bladder infections between the groups. Apparently some women have ‘sticky’ skin around the opening to and in the urethra. Bacteria adhere (stick to) the skin easier in them and their rates of bladder infections is much higher.

 

[BiscuitHammer]

I knew a gal who developed a UTI, and she wasn't having sex, but she was a frequent masurbator. She couldn't give it up, so she started using vibrating gel inserts in her panties to keep herself stimulated as needed, then allowed herself a really big climax at the end of the day. She peed before she went to bed and never had the problem again.

Food for thought.

 

[MrsCarlLaFong]

I've never heard of a vibrator causing a UTI. Can that even really happen?

Yes, it can under these circumstances.

 

[MrsCarlLaFong]

Any aggressive manipulation around the urethral meatus (pee hole) can push bacteria up the urethra and cause an infection. Masturbation, intercourse, oral sex and sex toys have all been associated with bladder infections.

Excellent diagnosis - it's a downer ending for a lovely experience, says Protagonist.

 

[MrsCarlLaFong]

The core problem seems to be that the woman needs too much raw stimulation to puncture the emotional armor the death of her husband has created (or she had beforehand, maybe). The story could develop along her trials to get other kinds of this treatment, like nipple pinching or pain induced orgasms or the like. This works, but also is like a drug for her - she needs more and more of it. Finally she discovers a way to release the built up tension before masturbation (meditation? a new beloved one? lots of chocolate and cheesy movies?), so she can get rid of the armor and is able to feel more, relative to stimulation level. That is when she starts to enjoy orgasms with just normal fingerplay. HEA.

Great reply, thanks! Her grief pushes her along in her motivations, along with the natural desire not to give up on sex even though she's alone, I like the idea of her fixation on getting "higher," so to speak, and wanting to just get back into the swing of things. The armor can be discarded now.

 

[MrsCarlLaFong]

Some women are more prone to this than others? She could make friends with someone who reassures her and gives her the knowledge she needs to play safe.

Wash first, keep sex toys meticulously clean, go pee immediately afterwards, if all else fails, try cranberry tablets and a short course of trimethoprim in the kitchen cupboard on standby... Party on!

The friend idea is a good way to pass along this important information, better than Protagonist simply reading it or going to a doctor. Thanks for replying.

 

[MrsCarlLaFong]

Peeing after sex has always been promoted to prevent postcoital bladder infections but unfortunately it probably doesn’t work. In a medical study several years ago a group of sexually active college women was divided into two groups. One group was instructed to pee after sex and the other was told to pee only if and when they needed to. The two groups had similar numbers of sexual encounters. There was NO difference in the number of bladder infections between the groups. Apparently some women have ‘sticky’ skin around the opening to and in the urethra. Bacteria adhere (stick to) the skin easier in them and their rates of bladder infections is much higher.

Thanks for this data - it's a little discouraging to think that Protagonist simply is prone to these infections and must adjust to that fact as well as Husband's death. It's a good way to show character development, though.

 

[MrsCarlLaFong]

I knew a gal who developed a UTI, and she wasn't having sex, but she was a frequent masurbator. She couldn't give it up, so she started using vibrating gel inserts in her panties to keep herself stimulated as needed, then allowed herself a really big climax at the end of the day. She peed before she went to bed and never had the problem again.

Food for thought.

Hey, that's unique for a solution - the google of 'vibrating gel inserts' produced the product used for sore feet, so it's likely Protagonist could order from a sex shop something for stimulation, rather than these for feet --- not that they wouldn't work. This is a pretty good scenario right here or it could be used for a touch of humor in the midst of all that angst.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

Google ‘honeymoon cystitis’. Back in the day when brides were expected to be virgins on the day and wedding night had a lot of pressure to relieve, UTIs were fairly common in newlywed women.

 

[MrsCarlLaFong]

Google ‘honeymoon cystitis’. Back in the day when brides were expected to be virgins on the day and wedding night had a lot of pressure to relieve, UTIs were fairly common in newlywed women.

I'll do that, thanks.

 

[Handley_Page]

trimethoprim
It's a prescription drug. Not likely found in the kitchen. . . .

 

[Winter_Fare]

If you have recurrent infections they will give you a stash to keep at home!
Is it weird I keep my meds in the kitchen? Otherwise I forget to take them in the morning.

 

[MrsCarlLaFong]

trimethoprim
It's a prescription drug. Not likely found in the kitchen. . . .

Good to know.

 

[MrsCarlLaFong]

If you have recurrent infections they will give you a stash to keep at home!
Is it weird I keep my meds in the kitchen? Otherwise I forget to take them in the morning.

Protagonist may just need to adjust to the new fact of life that she needs steady medication --- and keeping them in the kitchen sounds effective.