Man whose divorce is nearly final

Baseballcoach43

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Hi, as the title says, it's almost final. I'm interested in friendly conversation, sharing experiences or whatever seems interesting at the time. Come say hi.
 
Congratulations?

Hi Coach,

Sounds like you've got it all ahead of you. 46, f Australia here so definitely out of your timezone. But thought I'd say hi.

SL
 
Hi Coach,

Sounds like you've got it all ahead of you. 46, f Australia here so definitely out of your timezone. But thought I'd say hi.

SL

Thanks for the response. I'm open to making friends all over the globe. Happy Valentine's day down under!
 
New to the dating world

I've started dating again, and tested the waters of online dating. It has been an interesting experience. One thing that I have found, women who are divorced, for the most part, are not interested in someone going through a divorce or recently divorced. I'm not saying this is all women, but I have definitely noticed it. Any thoughts?
 
After my divorce (soon after my divorce) I ran into an old high school friend. We'd been casual friends, always dating someone else but always thinking about the other.
Ironically, she was divorced when we met all those years later. It ignited a torrid relationship where we explored everything we'd never ben able to explore. It was a sexual reawakening that changed both our lives. Thank God we didn't marry. Both of us are remarried now and living in different cities. But we secreetly meet two or three times a year and fuck like rabbits.
One caveat:
Good luck and respect your freedom. It can be bite you in the ass if you're not careful.
Oh, and I coach baseball too.
 
I've started dating again, and tested the waters of online dating. It has been an interesting experience. One thing that I have found, women who are divorced, for the most part, are not interested in someone going through a divorce or recently divorced. I'm not saying this is all women, but I have definitely noticed it. Any thoughts?

My initial thought is the women, quite sensibly, won't believe it untill they see it. Some guys lie, others are just so mentally dependent on their marriages that it's hard to believe they want to be free from them. I'm sure I read recently that most divorces in older people are initiated by the wife, meaning the man would have carried on even through bad times. If the man is a half hearted 'single' then maybe they don't give off the right vibes??

I'm not saying this is right in your case but I know it's something I'd be cautious of.
 
After my divorce I stayed single for 10 years. I hated internet dating. It was a nightmare. People were definitely not who they said they were when I went on the date. I wish I had known about this site. I probably would of never of gotten married again. Found myself a Dom and stayed independent outside the bedroom. Good luck. This place is fun!
 
After my divorce (soon after my divorce) I ran into an old high school friend. We'd been casual friends, always dating someone else but always thinking about the other.
Ironically, she was divorced when we met all those years later. It ignited a torrid relationship where we explored everything we'd never ben able to explore. It was a sexual reawakening that changed both our lives. Thank God we didn't marry. Both of us are remarried now and living in different cities. But we secreetly meet two or three times a year and fuck like rabbits.
One caveat:
Good luck and respect your freedom. It can be bite you in the ass if you're not careful.
Oh, and I coach baseball too.

Could you expand on how it could bite you in the ass? Thanks for responding.

My initial thought is the women, quite sensibly, won't believe it untill they see it. Some guys lie, others are just so mentally dependent on their marriages that it's hard to believe they want to be free from them. I'm sure I read recently that most divorces in older people are initiated by the wife, meaning the man would have carried on even through bad times. If the man is a half hearted 'single' then maybe they don't give off the right vibes??

I'm not saying this is right in your case but I know it's something I'd be cautious of.

I see so many women's profiles full of negativity, and I think it's because of what they have experienced. Thanks for taking the time to respond.

After my divorce I stayed single for 10 years. I hated internet dating. It was a nightmare. People were definitely not who they said they were when I went on the date. I wish I had known about this site. I probably would of never of gotten married again. Found myself a Dom and stayed independent outside the bedroom. Good luck. This place is fun!

There was one person who misrepresented themselve, and it became very awkward when we met face to face. Not good for anyone involved. Thanks for responding.
 
What level of baseball do you coach...?

When I created this account, I was a high school coach and was passionate about the pitching aspect of the game. However, in 2018, I made a career change and got out of the education profession. Yourself?
 
When I created this account, I was a high school coach and was passionate about the pitching aspect of the game. However, in 2018, I made a career change and got out of the education profession. Yourself?

Retired law enforcement...what s your opinion of MLB..right now...
 
Bro trust me there is no better feeling than cutting ties with your ex. Freedom from that nagging dead weight.
 
Bro trust me there is no better feeling than cutting ties with your ex. Freedom from that nagging dead weight.

Thanks for the reply. Kids are involved and not quite that easy. But I do feel so very much more happiness and peace now.
 
Could you expand on how it could bite you in the ass? Thanks for responding.



I see so many women's profiles full of negativity, and I think it's because of what they have experienced. Thanks for taking the time to respond.



There was one person who misrepresented themselve, and it became very awkward when we met face to face. Not good for anyone involved. Thanks for responding.
Some divorcees, men in particular, go a little crazy, start wearing different clothes, buying convertibles, frequenting places they aren't familiar with and find themselves in too deep. That's how you end up in rebound relationships. That's how you piss off your kids.
 
My initial thought is the women, quite sensibly, won't believe it untill they see it. Some guys lie, others are just so mentally dependent on their marriages that it's hard to believe they want to be free from them. I'm sure I read recently that most divorces in older people are initiated by the wife, meaning the man would have carried on even through bad times. If the man is a half hearted 'single' then maybe they don't give off the right vibes??

I'm not saying this is right in your case but I know it's something I'd be cautious of.


This is such a good point. I agree that women would be cautious due to this. Maybe not all and maybe it isn't your case but generally there are a lot of things women consider before getting involved with someone and more as they get older.


But keep being yourself and be open and let things happen. Happy divorce and healing!
 
Some divorcees, men in particular, go a little crazy, start wearing different clothes, buying convertibles, frequenting places they aren't familiar with and find themselves in too deep. That's how you end up in rebound relationships. That's how you piss off your kids.

Thanks for the explanation. I've managed to keep to my normal routine.
 
This is such a good point. I agree that women would be cautious due to this. Maybe not all and maybe it isn't your case but generally there are a lot of things women consider before getting involved with someone and more as they get older.


But keep being yourself and be open and let things happen. Happy divorce and healing!

Thanks, I don't personally judge people based on generalizations. And it doesn't offend me when other do just that. Thanks for the encouragement to keep being myself, it's all I know how to do.
 
New to the dating world

I've started dating again, and tested the waters of online dating. It has been an interesting experience. One thing that I have found, women who are divorced, for the most part, are not interested in someone going through a divorce or recently divorced. I'm not saying this is all women, but I have definitely noticed it. Any thoughts?
They are probably worried about being the rebound girl.
 
They are probably worried about being the rebound girl.
I think that is a very big part of it sometimes. However, worry is an emotion, and is making decisions based on emotion the wise thing to do? I tend to make horrible decisions under the influence of emotion. I probably just opened a can of worms, but it's an opportunity I just can't resist. Thank you for responding.
 
Women are often emotionally driven. Of course, that doesn't mean that making decisions on emotions is a good thing. But yes, it happens. Hopefully you can find what you are looking for. :)
 
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