Spouses with mental illnesses

[Travelguy2022]

“Site full of perverts….” And yet you’re wanting to divulge your experiences and have someone divulge theirs.

So many red flags…..

Wanting to connect with someone going through something similar. No red flags at all. Thousands of other posts I'm sure to keep you entertained, glad mine triggered you.

 

[Travelguy2022]

Right. What would a therapist know about mental illness?

So your first stop is an erotic literature website. Gotcha.

You sure you aren’t the one with the mental illness?

This is not my first stop. I said I spoke to a therapist. Scroll back up and you can read it again. I'm looking to connect with someone going through similar, I'm not looking for a therapist. Not sure what you're not comprehending.

No mental illness here. Sorry to disappoint you. Appreciate all the responses by you though. You're keeping my post towards the top

 

[jaF0]

You might want to check this thread too: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1559953

 

[silver gurl]

She would know if I went to a therapist, or if I spoke to one online. Insurance statements come to the house, and she has access to the insurance account online.

1) So what? I am not sure what the problem is with that.
2) This is not a good place to air personal grievances

 

[Lazaran]

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Gaslight was a great movie.

This sequel sucks.

 

[FGB]

I was married to Molly for about a year.

Trouble didn't start until we were married.

Had a head injury when she was sixteen she forgot to mention along with her five different personalities along with leaving long term treatment AMA.

A couple of them were nice.

Heck I married one of them!

They changed in a blink of an eye.
Ha!

You just THINK you have seen crazy!

 

[ashesatwork]

My mother is clinically bipolar. I've put her in the hospital 2 times since becoming an adult.
We just narrowly missed a 3rd over the last 8 weeks of hell for me. But she my mom and the only one I got. So I will continue to advocate for her. I can't wait to be past it all

I'll gladly answer questions in pm.

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

You must be strong

I did go to therapy. Started once a week, then twice a week. It got down to once a month, and then I was told by my spouse I was not allowed to go anymore. She felt all I did was complain about her when I was there, and she didn't like me talking about her behind her back. So I stopped going. We also did a few couple sessions, but when I would give my side of things, I was called a liar. If the therapist agreed with what I said questioned my wife about what I was lying about, she would get defensive and claim we were hanging up on her. So the sessions turned into me having to sit through her telling the therapist how bad of a person I was, and I was not able to object. So she got mad because I wouldn't say anything, so we stopped going.

I don't talk to my friends or family about what I'm going through. Since I can't see a therapist anymore, I'm hoping to connect with someone who is going through something similar.

It is super abusive, though not unheard of, for a mentally ill person to try to control his or her spouse. At this point, you only have control of yourself, so you need both therapy and space. Do not say, "She won't let me" because that is akin to a drunk person deciding if he should drive the car or not.
By sneaking around and complying with her odd requests, you are locking yourself into this situation tighter and tighter. Yes, in the short run, it is easier to be passive....but are you sacrificing yourself? Things need to get hard, my friend. By staying with her and putting up with her abuse, with no changes, you will develop mental problems. This helps nobody.
It seems you want to keep this relationship going, so you must set boundries. As in, you need to keep yourself sane. Also, letting her "crazy" run the house is detrimental to her, believe it or not.
I hope there are no little ones mixed up in this dysfunctional stew. If there are are, you might need to separate from her for the kiddos safety.
In short, you need therapy. Commiseration is fine, but I worry you and your friend will just encourage each other to put up with abuse.
I work in this field and have mentally ill family....as well as schooling, so I definitely feel your pain. It hurts bad. It will hurt worse when you establish boundries, but things get better after.
An example: My husband has big mental issues himself, so he understood totally why his sister "had to" verbally abuse me when she lived with us. She was unmedicated bipolar, at the time. It took things getting ugly with him just to allow me to challenge her verbal abuse. After that, though, I refused to talk to her until she got on meds...It was an awful five months. But all people occasionally have lucid thoughts, so eventually she saw a therapist and got put on the wrong meds...But they helped a bit. The clarity my sister in law got from taking fairly unhelpful meds was just enough to help her work with her doctor to find the "right" meds and now she can hold down a job and is very thankful....and non abusive.
You can pm me if you like.

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

Pm me if you want to do something about your situation.

 

[Fermina_Daza]

Wanting to connect with someone going through something similar. No red flags at all. Thousands of other posts I'm sure to keep you entertained, glad mine triggered you.

You’re looking for a traveling FWB, someone who will let you cum in their mouth, and a person you can discuss your wife’s mental illness with. Maybe what you need to be looking for is a divorce attorney….or a marriage counselor, in the least.

 

[twister947]

You're in the loneliest place in the world. Peace, man.

 

[Champakian]

My first wife was insane.
She hid it very well while we were dating.
She kept it under wraps while we were living together.
She practically forced me to the justice of the peace and when the deed was done...


Then she introduced me to full onset bat-guano crazy.
It was only in the aftermath and reflection that
I looked back upon the warning signs.
They were very subtle but
they were there.

 

[MKvDeepSea]

Not sure if this is the right place for this post, but I'm looking to connect with someone who's married to a person with mental health issues. For me, my wife was not always like this. I've been supportive since the onset of it, and continue to get her the help that she needs. However it comes with me being mentally, verbally, and sometimes physically abused. I'm hoping to connect with someone that I can share my experiences with, and for them to share their experiences with me. It would be nice to not feel like I'm the only person going through what I am, and to have support and be supportive to someone who is living with what I'm living with. If this post is relatable to you, please send me a PM

Hey Travelguy2022, sent you a rather long PM which only touched on our journey through my wife's mental illness. I hope it will help, at least some.

 

[MKvDeepSea]

Oh, I forgot, here's an organization that may be of some help, https://nami.org/help

 

[Travelguy2022]

Thank you everyone for the good replies, advice, and optimism. I'm going through a bunch of PM's as well from members who are going things similar to what I'm going through. Those who have not gone through this, simply won't understand what's it's like every day living with an ill person. So I understand your negative responses here.

That said, for those that dropped hate here or took offense to my post, thank you for bumping my thread. Probably wouldn't have received this many views, responses, or PM's if not for you.

Mental illness is a serious issue. Those that live with it, and those who live with people suffering through it will relate to my thread. Anyone who thinks this post wasn't a genuine outreach for support, to connect with those going through something similar, you're wrong.

 

[hobbit.]

You say you aren’t allowed to go to therapy and talk about your wife behind her back, but you’re allowed to jump on an erotic literature website and talk about her behind her back with a bunch of perverts?

Seems legit.

my therapist said its only perverted the first time.

1) So what? I am not sure what the problem is with that.
2) This is not a good place to air personal grievances

bloody entertaining though when theres nothing on TV

You’re looking for a traveling FWB, someone who will let you cum in their mouth, and a person you can discuss your wife’s mental illness with. Maybe what you need to be looking for is a divorce attorney….or a marriage counselor, in the least.

or a contract killer?

 

[MKvDeepSea]

Thank you everyone for the good replies, advice, and optimism. I'm going through a bunch of PM's as well from members who are going things similar to what I'm going through. Those who have not gone through this, simply won't understand what's it's like every day living with an ill person. So I understand your negative responses here.

That said, for those that dropped hate here or took offense to my post, thank you for bumping my thread. Probably wouldn't have received this many views, responses, or PM's if not for you.

Mental illness is a serious issue. Those that live with it, and those who live with people suffering through it will relate to my thread. Anyone who thinks this post wasn't a genuine outreach for support, to connect with those going through something similar, you're wrong.

Well said Travelguy2022.

Quick question. Have you looked into her family's background? My wife's paternal grandfather was obviously bi-polar as was her paternal grandmother's father. There were also a number of indicators concerning her maternal grandmother.

 

[Travelguy2022]

You’re looking for a traveling FWB, someone who will let you cum in their mouth, and a person you can discuss your wife’s mental illness with. Maybe what you need to be looking for is a divorce attorney….or a marriage counselor, in the least.

I appreciate your insights. Thank you for reading my post about seeking a traveling FWB. Had a great thing going for a long time, unfortunately we had to agree to end it, so I need a new friend there. But that's a completely separate thread in a completely separate section of this site. Also, it's a great feeling to cum in a person's mouth, what guy doesn't like that.

Let's stay on topic here though. This post here, is looking to connect with a person to talk through real life mental illness stuff. It's posted in the general board. No mention of me looking to hook up with this person, just looking to talk through stuff. If you don't like it, there are literally thousands of other threads on this site that may align with what you prefer.

That said, appreciate the views and bumps you're giving me, so feel free to keep responding here, you're just helping to keep this post at the top

 

[Travelguy2022]

Well said Travelguy2022.

Quick question. Have you looked into her family's background? My wife's paternal grandfather was obviously bi-polar as was her paternal grandmother's father. There were also a number of indicators concerning her maternal grandmother.

I have, and will respond to this in the PM you sent me. Apparently an anonymous person posting stuff about their anonymous spouse is offending some, so I'm going to be more sensitive in future responses on this thread. At work now, so I'll read and reply to your PM (along with all the others) a bit later when I have some downtime.

 

[Travelguy2022]

my therapist said its only perverted the first time.


bloody entertaining though when theres nothing on TV


or a contract killer?

Or to connect with someone going through similar, which I've mentioned a few times here already

 

[MKvDeepSea]

I have, and will respond to this in the PM you sent me. Apparently an anonymous person posting stuff about their anonymous spouse is offending some, so I'm going to be more sensitive in future responses on this thread. At work now, so I'll read and reply to your PM (along with all the others) a bit later when I have some downtime.

I'll look forward to your PM.

As far as other posters finding this offensive, I would suggest to the Mods they might look at starting a subcategory under the General Board addressing Health and Fitness including mental health issues. I was on another website for several years that had a category covering Health and Fitness with a subcategory covering mental health. It was a help to folks who just wanted a place to vent and a place where they found folks with a common problem.

Battling mental health issues can be extremely lonely, whether you are fighting your own demons or trying to support a loved one in fighting theirs. Forums, even on a website such as Literotic, can provide a sounding board for these lonely folks.

I'll step off my stump; at least for now.

 

[girlsmiley]

You’re looking for a traveling FWB, someone who will let you cum in their mouth, and a person you can discuss your wife’s mental illness with. Maybe what you need to be looking for is a divorce attorney….or a marriage counselor, in the least.

Ding ding ding!

 

[hobbit.]

Or to connect with someone going through similar, which I've mentioned a few times here already

or a piss taking performance alt?

Ding ding ding!

you aint having the goldfish as a prize after the last one.

 

[girlsmiley]

or a piss taking performance alt?



you aint having the goldfish as a prize after the last one.

Pervert. Spit it in the bowl.

 

[Travelguy2022]

Ding ding ding!

I appreciate the bump girslmiley . Feel free to reply again to move my post back to the top