Spouses with mental illnesses

Travelguy2022

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Not sure if this is the right place for this post, but I'm looking to connect with someone who's married to a person with mental health issues. For me, my wife was not always like this. I've been supportive since the onset of it, and continue to get her the help that she needs. However it comes with me being mentally, verbally, and sometimes physically abused. I'm hoping to connect with someone that I can share my experiences with, and for them to share their experiences with me. It would be nice to not feel like I'm the only person going through what I am, and to have support and be supportive to someone who is living with what I'm living with. If this post is relatable to you, please send me a PM
 
Hey Travelguy2022,

Just tried to PM you, but apparently, it's not turned on. My wife and I will be celebrating our fiftieth anniversary this spring. She was diagnosed as bi-polar approximately thirty-five years ago. It's been quite a trip.

So, if you want to, PM me.
 
Hey Travelguy2022,

Just tried to PM you, but apparently, it's not turned on. My wife and I will be celebrating our fiftieth anniversary this spring. She was diagnosed as bi-polar approximately thirty-five years ago. It's been quite a trip.

So, if you want to, PM me.

Thank you for letting me know. I had it set to only buddies or admins, I have unchecked that box so should be good to go now.
 
What is the nature? Medical, behavioral or substance induced?

Mine was a combination of the above to the point of multiple personalities. It was kind of weird to see three distinctly different personas in a matter of hours.
 
it could be oestrogen psychosis?
I'm reading up on this now and am seeing some similarities. Thank you for sharing this. Do you know someone who suffers from this? If so, please PM me. I'd like to learn more about it and see if there are similarities between my wife's behavior and the person you know behavior
 
What is the nature? Medical, behavioral or substance induced?

Mine was a combination of the above to the point of multiple personalities. It was kind of weird to see three distinctly different personas in a matter of hours.

Behavioral. And I see 3 personas in a matter of hours as well
 
Have you thought about therapy?

Not for your wife.

I did go to therapy. Started once a week, then twice a week. It got down to once a month, and then I was told by my spouse I was not allowed to go anymore. She felt all I did was complain about her when I was there, and she didn't like me talking about her behind her back. So I stopped going. We also did a few couple sessions, but when I would give my side of things, I was called a liar. If the therapist agreed with what I said questioned my wife about what I was lying about, she would get defensive and claim we were hanging up on her. So the sessions turned into me having to sit through her telling the therapist how bad of a person I was, and I was not able to object. So she got mad because I wouldn't say anything, so we stopped going.

I don't talk to my friends or family about what I'm going through. Since I can't see a therapist anymore, I'm hoping to connect with someone who is going through something similar.
 
I did go to therapy. Started once a week, then twice a week. It got down to once a month, and then I was told by my spouse I was not allowed to go anymore. She felt all I did was complain about her when I was there, and she didn't like me talking about her behind her back. So I stopped going. We also did a few couple sessions, but when I would give my side of things, I was called a liar. If the therapist agreed with what I said questioned my wife about what I was lying about, she would get defensive and claim we were hanging up on her. So the sessions turned into me having to sit through her telling the therapist how bad of a person I was, and I was not able to object. So she got mad because I wouldn't say anything, so we stopped going.

I don't talk to my friends or family about what I'm going through. Since I can't see a therapist anymore, I'm hoping to connect with someone who is going through something similar.

You say you aren’t allowed to go to therapy and talk about your wife behind her back, but you’re allowed to jump on an erotic literature website and talk about her behind her back with a bunch of perverts?

Seems legit.
 
You say you aren’t allowed to go to therapy and talk about your wife behind her back, but you’re allowed to jump on an erotic literature website and talk about her behind her back with a bunch of perverts?

Seems legit.

She doesn't know I'm on here. She won't find out either. You don't know me, no one on here knows her or my identity. I'm an anonymous person behind a keyboard. Site full of perverts, yet here you are...
 
Mine would tell stories. When talking to their therapist they would say things I knew to be untrue. Sometimes accusing me or other of things that never happened. Seeing things. Hearing things. Imagining things. Talking in tongues, ie taking on the voice, vocabulary and mannerisms of a old New Orleans resident, despite never having been there. Not an act either. Then switching to a small child. Talking to me as a complete stranger even though we'd met 20 years earlier.


Steven King and Alfred Hitchcock didn't have shit on this case. Too weird for them.
 
She doesn't know I'm on here. She won't find out either. You don't know me, no one on here knows her or my identity. I'm an anonymous person behind a keyboard. Site full of perverts, yet here you are...

Identity is irrelevant. There’s no need to get pissy.

Very sus you’d come here. If you can choose to not tell her you’re here, why not choose to not tell her about seeing a therapist? You’d get a lot more out of therapy or seeking online advice from actual therapists. Duh. Have a good day.
 
Identity is irrelevant. There’s no need to get pissy.

Very sus you’d come here. If you can choose to not tell her you’re here, why not choose to not tell her about seeing a therapist? You’d get a lot more out of therapy or seeking online advice from actual therapists. Duh. Have a good day.

She would know if I went to a therapist, or if I spoke to one online. Insurance statements come to the house, and she has access to the insurance account online. Therapists may have not gone through living with a person with mental illness. I'm trying to connect with a real person who is going through, or has gone through what I am going through. I'm not sure what's so sus about that?
 
Mine would tell stories. When talking to their therapist they would say things I knew to be untrue. Sometimes accusing me or other of things that never happened. Seeing things. Hearing things. Imagining things. Talking in tongues, ie taking on the voice, vocabulary and mannerisms of a old New Orleans resident, despite never having been there. Not an act either. Then switching to a small child. Talking to me as a complete stranger even though we'd met 20 years earlier.


Steven King and Alfred Hitchcock didn't have shit on this case. Too weird for them.

She doesn't talk in tongues, use different accents or mannerisms; and hasn't switched to a child (although throws temper tantrums like one), but the making things up, the wild accusations, seeing things, hearing things, and imagining things happen. And I'm not the only one she makes stuff up about or makes accusations.
 
I mean child ... shuffling feet, small steps, high voice, simple words, different facial expressions, the whole bit.

A whole LOT more that would curl your toes.

If police were called to the house, they were warned to use extra caution and not to stay any longer than necessary.
 
She would know if I went to a therapist, or if I spoke to one online. Insurance statements come to the house, and she has access to the insurance account online. Therapists may have not gone through living with a person with mental illness. I'm trying to connect with a real person who is going through, or has gone through what I am going through. I'm not sure what's so sus about that?

Right. What would a therapist know about mental illness?

So your first stop is an erotic literature website. Gotcha.

You sure you aren’t the one with the mental illness?
 
She doesn't know I'm on here. She won't find out either. You don't know me, no one on here knows her or my identity. I'm an anonymous person behind a keyboard. Site full of perverts, yet here you are...

“Site full of perverts….” And yet you’re wanting to divulge your experiences and have someone divulge theirs.

So many red flags…..
 
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