Girls Fantasizing About Older, Fat Men

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Trust is a two way street.

I'm single right now, and likely to stay so. I might want to be open to an awesome experience, but no one has crossed my path lately that is willing to earn my trust. I'm supposed to fork myself over a) on demand or b) on say so? Yeah, I don't think so. Whole lotta investment for me and not a lotta investment for you. So easy to say after the fact - Oh, it's not my fault we have different concepts of trust.

The cynical side of me says that's why it's girls with older men. I tend to think that girls still have the luxury of living life, experience by experience. As we get older, our ability to live in such stand-alone, isolated moments gets reduced. I know, for me, when I indulge in a moment, try to get some 'me' time, more likely then not, I'll pay for it. The moment isn't worth making up for it.

But this is Lit, where we escape for a bit of fantasy, so I'll take my resigned arse elsewhere. Carry on with the titillating gifs.

It seems you're a little bitter...As an older guy who has always respected women and the "feminine" in life...you make a perfect case for why some men are attracted to younger women, and not a woman their own age.

Yes, trust goes both ways....and with it comes expectations...fair or unfair as they maybe...but then again I don't see any titillating gifs with 50+ year old women and really old dudes...Is that a prblem?
 
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It seems you're a little bitter...As an older guy who has always respected women and the "feminine" in life...you make a perfect case for why some men are attracted to younger women, and not a woman their own age.

Yes, trust goes both ways....and with it comes expectations...fair or unfair as they maybe...but then again I don't see any titillating gifs with 50+ year old women and really old dudes...Is that a problem?

aaannnddd you reinforce my point about say so and on demand. Not only do you not offer any clarification on how older men earn trust, you provide a great example of how to minimize, diminish and invalidate experiences that point out realities that challenge your truth and consequently you don't want to hear.

Here's the thing. A less experienced woman (and many are much younger) might fall for either or both of your manipulative statements and seek to prove you wrong. Instead I called you on your BS - which in a man is called "being straight with you" and in a woman is called being bitter.

So you may 'think' you respect women, but you really don't. And it's no way to earn my trust.

Further, it's been my experience that when I call people on how their words are hypocritical within their own statements, well - they get all defensive. Cause older women are less concerned about what people think about them - so many of us call them like we seem them, name calling by the insecure be damned. Yeah, sure, they'll somehow say it's my fault or shortcoming that I didn't understand what was meant. Except, they're your words - you control of what you say, not me. When someone tells me what they heard was very different from what I intended, I think it's important to consider it, might even be called respectful to understand another's POV or how their experience differs from mine (which is why they heard it differently). But I suppose I'm silly that way, to take responsibility for saying what I mean and meaning what I say. Oh, but that's right - it's all cool and crap to vilify any request to try on another's shoes to understand their reality. Heaven forfend you do so lest the buddies' in the boys room accuse you of being woke.

So, again, proceed with the gifs. But have no delusions that surrendering vulnerability is any kind of necessity in order to have such relationships. I was going to say if you really think that, head over to the BDSM forum, but that won't work for ya either cause they will school you in earned trust and vulnerability.
 
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