open_minded28
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Being desperately horny is what made the first time happen for me
If anyone is in the central MA area I can help with the first time jitters/cold feet ....
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Being desperately horny is what made the first time happen for me
If anyone is in the central MA area I can help with the first time jitters/cold feet ....
DocErotic3D
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I'd been chatting online with my first for several weeks and got to be very comfortable with him and his partner. Then one night, my wife had gone to bed and I was VERY horny and my friend was online and I realized I finally had my chance. He came and picked me up and we went back to his house and I had the most amazing sexual experience ever.
Getting over the fear was easier since he was so understanding and patient, only doing what I was comfortable with. I think if you find someone who understands your fears and is okay with letting you set the tone and pace, even to the point where you may not feel all right with doing anything at all, it will be easier to go through with it.
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Seems like you went with your instincts and just wasn't ready. Perhaps the two of you just need to get to know each other well enough to feel more comfortable.
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Happy New Year all... here's hoping its a good one
Don’t beat yourself up about it. It took me awhile to get the courage to go through with it. I bailed on one trip and then I basically forced myself the second trip. Even then I wanted to bail. When you are ready it will happen.
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It’s hard at this time. Covid kind of messes up the jerk off clubs.
Like any opportunity someone has to have a place to safely play.
Users with no photos are hiding something. Usually their appearance is a deal breaker or the can’t get it up.
Some sites it is hard to find someone that does not think someone has to end up fucked.
Otherwise take a photo of you erect penis and dangling or tight ball sac.
Try manhunt
Silverdaddies
Sniffles or bateworld all those are free. You can pay and see more photos and send more messages.
I haven’t been able to host for many years now. I got into it while experiencing a dry spell. No pussy but I was lazy. Didn’t feel like going on a date and all that. So I was getting massages and my rocks off. At least feeling someone look at my excited member even if they weren’t going to get me off.
So I tried massage exchange. Only needed one or two friends. As we visited ongoing the experimentation got better. One guy brought his wife and that proved to be educational. We taught her edging and she taught us to edge her. Women do squirt.
Anyway have fun. Be selective. And willing to walk away if something doesn’t seem right. Pimples or a rash is probably hpv. Turns out he had more experience that you thought! Not a joking matter. Just hope it never happens to me. My girl would be pissed. And find out I played on the other side trying to get that blow job she won’t put any effort into…..
Like any opportunity someone has to have a place to safely play.
Users with no photos are hiding something. Usually their appearance is a deal breaker or the can’t get it up.
Some sites it is hard to find someone that does not think someone has to end up fucked.
Otherwise take a photo of you erect penis and dangling or tight ball sac.
Try manhunt
Silverdaddies
Sniffles or bateworld all those are free. You can pay and see more photos and send more messages.
I haven’t been able to host for many years now. I got into it while experiencing a dry spell. No pussy but I was lazy. Didn’t feel like going on a date and all that. So I was getting massages and my rocks off. At least feeling someone look at my excited member even if they weren’t going to get me off.
So I tried massage exchange. Only needed one or two friends. As we visited ongoing the experimentation got better. One guy brought his wife and that proved to be educational. We taught her edging and she taught us to edge her. Women do squirt.
Anyway have fun. Be selective. And willing to walk away if something doesn’t seem right. Pimples or a rash is probably hpv. Turns out he had more experience that you thought! Not a joking matter. Just hope it never happens to me. My girl would be pissed. And find out I played on the other side trying to get that blow job she won’t put any effort into…..
i totally understand. after i flaked out i have been more eager than ever but its very frustrating to want something and yet be nervous about how you may feel after or the secret your keeping.
At this point i think i'd prefer to RP with someone older and experienced a few times before trying to set up something again. or find a mutual place to just hang without a plan and see what happens.
open_minded28
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I like what others wrote about being selective, not being hard on yourself (ha, no pun intended).
For some of my first experiences I met him at a coffee shop first, took some of the pressure off, allowed either to back out if something didn't feel right.
It helped ease my nerves a little, and it was fun chatting a little about things I had been thinking of and wanting, getting validation from him that he was in the same boat, etc.
Also, it definitely helped me the first time that he had previous experience, I could let him sort of take the lead, being the first to reach out and touch my crotch or drop to his knees, etc.
For some of my first experiences I met him at a coffee shop first, took some of the pressure off, allowed either to back out if something didn't feel right.
It helped ease my nerves a little, and it was fun chatting a little about things I had been thinking of and wanting, getting validation from him that he was in the same boat, etc.
Also, it definitely helped me the first time that he had previous experience, I could let him sort of take the lead, being the first to reach out and touch my crotch or drop to his knees, etc.
open_minded28
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whoops. I posted previously too in this thread with my location, but forgot this time.
I'm in central MA if anyone wants help getting through those first time jitters
I'm in central MA if anyone wants help getting through those first time jitters
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Meeting on neutral grounds, for coffee, a beer, etc, just to get to know each other better and see if there is a connection clearly would be the best way to take that first step. That would seem to afford either to casually bow out at the worse, or get more comfortable at the best.
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Has anyone met up with anyone from here or want to share how they did meet someone, whether actively looking or just happened to be at the right place at the right time?
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Love this question....feeling like am finally ready to actually find the right scenario and meet with someone....but kind of have no idea how things like that really happen.
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My first time was with my friend. We kinda talked about it but was to nervous to go through with it. But after joking around later that day and a few more beers we did it. Am glad we did it we both agreed how much we enjoyed it and wished we did it sooner. My only problem is my friend lives in another state so we don't get to see each other . I live in a small town in idaho and have to be discreet but haven't found anyone in awhile I can trust.
Go for it you will enjoy it .
My first time was with my friend. We kinda talked about it but was to nervous to go through with it. But after joking around later that day and a few more beers we did it. Am glad we did it we both agreed how much we enjoyed it and wished we did it sooner. My only problem is my friend lives in another state so we don't get to see each other . I live in a small town in idaho and have to be discreet but haven't found anyone in awhile I can trust.
Go for it you will enjoy it .
I have had limited experience (mostly me on my knees servicing someone). I’m VERY careful and haven’t done it much; only three times. I’ve found that being nervous about it is half the fun. The initial “meet”, the small talk, the first “broaching” of the topic, until eventually we come to the conclusion…”let’s try this”. I’m in Southern California and looking forward to trying it again if things are right.
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It is a nice feeling to connect with someone here and find that there are similar interests shared that could range on a broad spectrum of topics, even if you know it won't go further than chatting.
The hard part is to get into a chat that is meaningful and goes further then a couple exchanges.
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I’ve only done this once, so no expert. But I do think and plan things in great detail. Like others say, some messages to establish similar wants. For me, hj mostly and maybe oral if it went on longer. Nothing more. Then a meetup at a coffee shop, setting it up quite clearly that coffee and talk was all for that first meetup. Check that each other are not physically repulsive or psycho or something. Next messages set up a safe space. Get over the in-person thing with mantra “it’s just coffee”. It was a great experience. I may do it again someday. Good luck, and remember “it’s just coffee” to get over that hurdle.
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I find the coffee thing difficult.
One must find a way to get out from his normal routine. That takes time as I may play but getting caught or being suspect is a problem.
Share honest photos. Then when you meet if someone wants to back out. No hard feelings. Otherwise innocently pull your pants down and....
One must find a way to get out from his normal routine. That takes time as I may play but getting caught or being suspect is a problem.
Share honest photos. Then when you meet if someone wants to back out. No hard feelings. Otherwise innocently pull your pants down and....
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Out of ones routine problem lies depending on ones personal status... married, dating, single... but a very valid one
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Bi curious , have been with the one school days bud for just a handful of experiences. Been penetrated once and came so fast after I lowered to the base and two jabs ended in the wildest orgasm I ever experienced. Still want to feel him let go in my mouth , he was ready to have mine the first time he had his lips on it. I am ready to feel it overflow and slide over my skin and take last few strokes with my lips riding his layer of creamy lube
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If you already had bi experiences, do you still consider yourself curious?
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I am still curious, no experience. But I suppose depending on what your experience was you can still be curious about things you haven't tried.
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Good answer...
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You must be on a roll...
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