married, looking: The Ad You've Seen A Million Times, But This Time Like Never Before

[lovebeast]

Hey Literoticians

I know most of the ads you scroll past on here are married men looking for a sex pal, and I don't know that I could convince you that I'm any different. But let me give you a little context and maybe this will spark something.

Married, smart, fun, good looking, 40y/o kinky male in Toronto Canada looking for a virtual penpal/potential playmate. I'm a writer and a teacher, so most of my interactions are with other writers, talking about writing. I have a partner and kids, but like a lot of people in long-term relationships I'm desperately missing that sparky thrill of a new connection. I have had a few enjoyable correspondent relationships on here, and they tend to fizzle or end abruptly due to the limitations of the format.

I would love someone I connect with, someone smart and funny and creative. I would love someone who is open to discussing sexuality and possibly explore than side of the relationship when the time feels right.

Physically, I tend to be primary attracted to females (female identifying), especially curvy/thick women. I'm partial to older women, but I'd set my ideal age range 30-60. I don't mind if the other person is married, as long as they don't mind I am.

I am open to corresponding with males (male identifying), with an age range of 25-50. Don't ask me why this is a different window, I'm honestly not sure. Please, if you are male, be respectful and don't open with aggressive sexual engagement!

Hobby-wise, I like to discuss human psychology, current events (I'm a political lefty if that's relevant), tv, movies, comics, games, cartoons, food, nature, etc. Sexually, I'm a switch and kink-positive.

Emotionally, I'm open. I'd be happy to make a friend, or a friend with virtual benefits. I'm open to more. If you live near me, that can only be a plus.

If any of this sparks your interest, please reach out. Hope to hear from you.

xo

LB

 

[lovebeast]

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Gentle bump

 

[IsItBad]

fwiw

im jsut going to put this out here:

i am 60 yo
i have been married twice for a total of 37 years
i have sincerely loved 7 women in my life

in my current marriage of 22 years, i have cheated on my wife 3 times
i rationalized it on our lack of sex and our general disconnectedness
in reality, though, i let her go......i stopped seeing her for what she was
i was a terrible alcoholic .....trying to drown my despicableness for getting divorced

so, it seemed to make sense to just cheat
and it was easy
there are plenty of cheaters out there
it was easy to find someone
and yes we fucked like minks
and it seemed good.....great even

the lying and sneaking seemed to come naturally
i was a great liar
and in my guilt and attempts to assuage my exploits id try to do more than i might normally have for my wife.....we had most everything we wanted.....

but.....i fell madly in love with my lovers
i dont think they really loved me
i was just another notch in the old bedpost
most of them had had many lovers
its hard to cheat on a cheater they would say
but i loved them
and in all cases, we got busted

in the worst kinds of ways....everyone got hurt
mortified
slayed

and i spent many different years in the doghouse trying to make up for it all

i cant possibly do justice to what i am trying to say here
and i know how it is to be hell bent on wanting to let the lust out on a firey partner who will share in whatever manner of sex or sexuality i want

but what i can say is it is all just vanity and it will all pass away
some people get by with it and dont get caught
except they are caught in their own spirit
while others get busted and hurt many people

but....the truest thing that has ever been said is .....the grass is greenest WHERE YOU WATER IT
you CAN make things with your spouse be the way you wish they were
it WILL take some work and effort
but its effort well spent and will yield dividends forever
versus spending so much energy cultivating and ill conceived relationship that will simply plunge you into a world of darkness....****ing, sneaking, conniving.....

because beyond the lusty blowjob or few hours in a hotel room.....there is much sneaking.....much lying.....much hiding things.....much trying to make up for what you know you are doing.....and always....there is much destruction just around the corner.....that affects your wife.....your kids.....your parents.....your friends.....everyone is affected......

so.....i just say......think it through.....why not see your wife the way you saw her when you met her? why not cultivate the romance and desire that you once shared with her? why not make the investment where it is legit and can payoff forever?

fwiw and sorry if it rains on your parade or seems too much to say

 

[lovebeast]

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EDIT: I clicked on your profile and have seen a torrent of sexist, racist, anti-science and homophobic opinions being shared, and I no longer wish to entertain your ranting. Kindly take your moralizing and judgments and fuck off.

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Hi IsItBad,

I appreciate what you are trying to say here, but not all experiences are alike, and I feel as if you are projecting your experiences onto your perception of my post.

 

[IsItBad]

EDIT: I clicked on your profile and have seen a torrent of sexist, racist, anti-science and homophobic opinions being shared, and I no longer wish to entertain your ranting. Kindly take your moralizing and judgments and fuck off.

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Hi IsItBad,

I appreciate what you are trying to say here, but not all experiences are alike, and I feel as if you are projecting your experiences onto your perception of my post.

Your experiences will likely wind up being the same as mine......my perception of your post is that you wish to cheat and i was merely trying to spare you some pain and suffering.....as is usually the case, however, people have to learn the hard way......either way....my moralizing judgements are reality for your path and I was trying to be nice in my comments......as is often the case, though, people cant stand to hear dissenting opinions........

 

[oneblueye]

Your experiences will likely wind up being the same as mine......my perception of your post is that you wish to cheat and i was merely trying to spare you some pain and suffering.....as is usually the case, however, people have to learn the hard way......either way....my moralizing judgements are reality for your path and I was trying to be nice in my comments......as is often the case, though, people cant stand to hear dissenting opinions........

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