What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[mr_d_w]

As you get to know me, know that the key to getting my attention is chocolate It can be just chocolate chips, but there should be some form of chocolate in or on that biscuit. Fyi, Can I call it a cookie?

Ok, now I really need some chocolate

 

[mynameisben]

As you get to know me, know that the key to getting my attention is chocolate It can be just chocolate chips, but there should be some form of chocolate in or on that biscuit. Fyi, Can I call it a cookie?

Hi Desiree!

How would you like to receive a chocolate molding of my cock?


Ben

 

[AmberLGreen]

After a couple of conversations with some friends, I am nosey about changes when you enter into an online relationship with somebody. This is mostly based on the flirty banter you have with others.

Firstly, do you change how and what you post based on what your online partner considers appropriate?

Secondly, do you ask your partner to change what and how they post?

Finally, if it is the flirty banter that attracted you to that person, does asking them to change what they do, make you them unattractive to you?

 

[Lonelywife1205]

After a couple of conversations with some friends, I am nosey about changes when you enter into an online relationship with somebody. This is mostly based on the flirty banter you have with others.

Firstly, do you change how and what you post based on what your online partner considers appropriate?

Secondly, do you ask your partner to change what and how they post?

Finally, if it is the flirty banter that attracted you to that person, does asking them to change what they do, make you them unattractive to you?

I think every relationship is different and has its own dynamic, but in my most recent online relationship I definitely changed a lot of things. I stopped flirting with other people and I tamed my posts quite a bit. I did it out of respect for my new relationship and also because I had no desire to flirt or play with anyone else. He was all I needed and wanted. There were a few issues in the beginning when we were still figuring each other out, but once we both knew we were on the same page we were good. There came a time later on where we explored having fun with other people, but it was always done together and as a fun addition to the close relationship we had.

 

[Chillygirl]

After a couple of conversations with some friends, I am nosey about changes when you enter into an online relationship with somebody. This is mostly based on the flirty banter you have with others.

Firstly, do you change how and what you post based on what your online partner considers appropriate?

Secondly, do you ask your partner to change what and how they post?

Finally, if it is the flirty banter that attracted you to that person, does asking them to change what they do, make you them unattractive to you?

I’m always told they liked watching me banter and flirt so don’t change a thing but inevitably something comes up. I catch myself thinking twice before I say something really flirty or I only flirt with the people I always flirted with and no one new. I’d like to say I don’t care if they flirt but deep down of course I do, I want it to be all about me but I know that’s unrealistic and unfair.

I’m also not a huge fan of PDA, not because I’m hiding anything but because I feel awkward. I always feel a little insecure and out of my league.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I'm nosey about platonic opposite sex relationships.

Do you have any that are completely platonic? Do you think you are capable of having a platonic opposite sex friend? Do you think other people are capable of that with you? Do you have the same level of relationship/closeness as a same sex friend?

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I'm nosey about platonic opposite sex relationships.

Do you have any that are completely platonic? Do you think you are capable of having a platonic opposite sex friend? Do you think other people are capable of that with you? Do you have the same level of relationship/closeness as a same sex friend?

I have several opposite sex friendships that are completely platonic. There are also a handful of others where one of us is crushing on the other (or perhaps both are), but the friendship still works anyway. With the purely platonic ones I'm probably closer to them than I am to my male friends. But that's mostly because (with one exception) I'm not particularly close to any male friends. Or at least, it's a different kind of closeness. With the friends I crush on, I get crushes very easily and they don't go away nearly so easily. So I have years of practice of managing those feelings and not letting them interfere with otherwise lovely friendships. For the women I'm friends with who crush on me... not much I can do about that except be absolutely mystified at what goes on their heads.

 

[AlexBailey]

I'm nosey about platonic opposite sex relationships.

Do you have any that are completely platonic? Do you think you are capable of having a platonic opposite sex friend? Do you think other people are capable of that with you? Do you have the same level of relationship/closeness as a same sex friend?

Absolutely. I've had lots of girlfriends who weren't "girlfriends," in fact most of the close friends in my life have been female. I've been told I have that 'safe vibe' - like a cousin or brother.

I've had a few great male friends too but life (and death ) often seem to get in the way. I feel a little bit insecure about my judgement when it comes to guy friends. When I was younger I often felt used and later cast aside like they were getting close to me to be part of a scene rather than being true friends - probably because a lot of my friends were hot girls.

My crushes have gone either way.

 

[SassySheDevil]

After a couple of conversations with some friends, I am nosey about changes when you enter into an online relationship with somebody. This is mostly based on the flirty banter you have with others.

Firstly, do you change how and what you post based on what your online partner considers appropriate?

Secondly, do you ask your partner to change what and how they post?

Finally, if it is the flirty banter that attracted you to that person, does asking them to change what they do, make you them unattractive to you?

Sadly, I think most will avoid this question because it will mean being honest, and most don't want to admit how insecurity can change things.
But I think it ultimately comes down to security you have with someone (and yourself), and trust. The more secure you are, the more trust you have between each other. The less you want things to change.

I'm nosey about platonic opposite sex relationships.

Do you have any that are completely platonic? Do you think you are capable of having a platonic opposite sex friend? Do you think other people are capable of that with you? Do you have the same level of relationship/closeness as a same sex friend?

I've had 2 male best friends where there wasn't a strong sexual tension that didn't get in the way. They were 100% able to have conversations without their dick doing the thinking. We could talk about anything, and everything.
I totally think it is possible, and amazing when it happens.
There are just some things I'd much rather talk to guys about, vs women.

I think they are like any relationship though. Every relationship is different. Some things I'd rather talk to a woman. Some I'd rather talk to a guy. So they are just valuable in different ways.

 

[Wand3rlust]

After a couple of conversations with some friends, I am nosey about changes when you enter into an online relationship with somebody. This is mostly based on the flirty banter you have with others.

Firstly, do you change how and what you post based on what your online partner considers appropriate?

Secondly, do you ask your partner to change what and how they post?

Finally, if it is the flirty banter that attracted you to that person, does asking them to change what they do, make you them unattractive to you?

I think it depends on the people involved. For me, I would prefer to be clear about how I felt about things, and to be clear about how the other person felt about things. I think it would change depending on the relationship.
But it all comes down to honesty and communication. And whether the online relationship was public knowledge or not.
but the conversation needs to be had - I wouldn't want to deliberately annoy an online partner, but in the same token, I'd want a certain amount of freedom.
But keeping it respectful.

 

[Wand3rlust]

I'm nosey about platonic opposite sex relationships.

Do you have any that are completely platonic? Do you think you are capable of having a platonic opposite sex friend? Do you think other people are capable of that with you? Do you have the same level of relationship/closeness as a same sex friend?

Yes I do. And it is possible. However I think that any relationship is based on a certain amount of connection. Whether acted upon or not.

I'd like to think that people could be friends with me without wanting to jump my bones, and vice versa.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

After a couple of conversations with some friends, I am nosey about changes when you enter into an online relationship with somebody. This is mostly based on the flirty banter you have with others.

Firstly, do you change how and what you post based on what your online partner considers appropriate?

Secondly, do you ask your partner to change what and how they post?

Finally, if it is the flirty banter that attracted you to that person, does asking them to change what they do, make you them unattractive to you?

I've never asked or been asked to change. I wouldn't react well to that ultimatum type of thing. Any changing I did was the natural and unconscious behavior of someone who was happy with all that she had. <shrug>

 

[AlexBailey]

After a couple of conversations with some friends, I am nosey about changes when you enter into an online relationship with somebody. This is mostly based on the flirty banter you have with others.

Firstly, do you change how and what you post based on what your online partner considers appropriate?

Secondly, do you ask your partner to change what and how they post?

Finally, if it is the flirty banter that attracted you to that person, does asking them to change what they do, make you them unattractive to you?

I consider it a 'yellow flag' to feel like you need to change for a partner. It feels like something is being forced into place - like a puzzle piece that doesn't quite fit. It may be that you're acting one way when you're single and another way once you have someone, but isn't that a bit of bait-and-switch?

I don't know - to each their own, but I think it's better to be the real you and to look for the real person before you hook up with someone.

Lol. This is coming from someone who has always had a side that is partly in-the-closet who falls in love at the drop of a hat.

 

[Jake069258]

Yes I do. And it is possible. However I think that any relationship is based on a certain amount of connection. Whether acted upon or not.

I'd like to think that people could be friends with me without wanting to jump my bones, and vice versa.

Agree with this point. What I mean is, yes, I have platonic relationships with the opposite sex. But if there was absolutely "nothing" there, we probably wouldn't be friends. But I equate that connection to almost the same connection I have with any of "the boys." In my case the connection with the boys usually revolves around sports, so we go for a beer or 7 and talk about sports. What I am trying to say is that there has to be some form of connection in any friendship. And if that connection is with someone of the sex that I am attracted to, at least part of that connection is of a sexual nature.

Or did I just ramble??

 

[saustin5432]

I consider it a 'yellow flag' to feel like you need to change for a partner.

I don't disagree with the essence of this, but if you don't have a conversation about it, someone will get burned. If your partner's unexpressed expectation is that you SHOULD be doing something differently and you skip the discussion...well we all know what happens when you assume.

This is further exacerbated by so much of what goes on around this joint is done via channels that don't really let you take in all the full slate of non-verbal cues. When you're perceived as flirting inappropriately by your partner, does it really matter what your intent was?

 

[Paul_Chance]

After a couple of conversations with some friends, I am nosey about changes when you enter into an online relationship with somebody. This is mostly based on the flirty banter you have with others.

Firstly, do you change how and what you post based on what your online partner considers appropriate?

Secondly, do you ask your partner to change what and how they post?

Finally, if it is the flirty banter that attracted you to that person, does asking them to change what they do, make you them unattractive to you?

First, thinking about it over the years, I never have. I'm not monogamous (and openly not monogamous) IRL, so why would I pretend I was online? Since I am open about it, I simply don't enter into virtual monogamy. When I am in circumstances where I have a IRL partner and an online partner - I'm just open with both. Honesty is the best policy.

Second, nope. Here's the hard lesson I learned in life and the serenity that follows. People are going to do what people are going to do. They'll figure out some justification to convince themselves "it doesn't make me a bad person". The only time I ask someone to change their behavior is if their behavior is a danger to themselves or to me (or my extended family) and that is usually limited to either actual criminal behavior or drug/alcohol addiction issues and both of those are approached with "one warning and then you're out of the circle". The serenity that followed from that realization is this - be honest and explicit about your expectations and if they don't meet them, wish them all the best and get on with your life without them. Over many years and many people I've known only two or three people who actually managed to change their base character, and that was usually the result of some significant life event walloping them alongside the head. Everyone is working off their own karma. I'm working off my own karma. You can't work off someone else's karma and they can't work off yours.

Finally, nope. That is a karmic trap I see people fall into all the time. We fall in love with (or form friendships with people) because of their characteristics. Then, we ask them to change those very characteristics we fell in love with them for. I have a friend who has explained it very well. She is a bright, vivacious, talented woman who loves riding her motorcycle and loves her alone time on the road. She is always upfront about it. "If it's a nice day I'm going to take off on my bike and just go for a cruise." People easily fall in love with her thinking "what a wonderful and independent woman" and then, eventually, crash into - she's independent and is not going to shape her social schedule around them.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I'm nosey about platonic opposite sex relationships.

Do you have any that are completely platonic? Do you think you are capable of having a platonic opposite sex friend? Do you think other people are capable of that with you? Do you have the same level of relationship/closeness as a same sex friend?

I have several platonic relationships with the opposite sex. Though sex is a major part of my life, it's certainly not the only thing that matters. I think people are capable of it with me. The level of closeness varies per relationship, but gender identity isn't one of those pivot points that sets a line in a relationship for me. I like people who are intelligent, compassionate, independent and interesting and build relationships around those four pivot points.

When it comes to the platonic/sexual line - my relationships move easily and natural across those lines if that is what is "right" for the relationship to deepen. Ex-Lovers remain close friends. Current lovers are close friends. Friends are close friends. Sex isn't very tangled for me and I tend not to build deep friendships with people who are tangled around it.

 

[StacyLeigh]

I'm nosey about platonic opposite sex relationships.

Do you have any that are completely platonic? Do you think you are capable of having a platonic opposite sex friend? Do you think other people are capable of that with you? Do you have the same level of relationship/closeness as a same sex friend?

It’s far more rare for me to have a same sex friend. My closest friends have always been male and, while I welcome friendships with women, I’m just not that great with them.

I feel I’m fairly self aware and very cognizant of boundaries and my close male friends do as well - which allows us to create a trusting bond and a wonderful openness. That line in the sand has been crossed in the past and the friendship disintegrated. I think it takes a unique coupling of opposite sex friends to have that deep level of closeness and respect is key.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I once had someone I care about tell me one of the things he loved most about me was how kind and loving I was of everyone. How I just took people for who they were and would engage with them all the same. Then when he left me one of his reasons for holding back from me and leaving was that I was too warm, too social, too good for him.

This goes to Paul Chance’s commentary I guess. For me, don’t fall in love with some aspect of a person. Fall in love with the whole and expect that overtime that’s going to be evolve - you’ll love some aspects more than others and that’ll be fluid, but it’s a whole person you’re loving.

Asking a person to change fundamental aspects of who they are is not loving who a person is or embracing their needs and individuality in your partnership.

Asking a person to wiggle over a little to accomodate you is fair when it’s not accompanied by an expectation of grand personal and fundamental change.

Change is constant in our lives and in the lives of the people we love. Every relationship begins evolving and changing the moment it begins. Once you understand that and accept it relationships become a lot easier. If you're fortunate in relationships, they evolve together and you change into something better.

 

[Orchidea73]

Nevermind. A long pointless comment. lol

 

[Dribble]

I'm nosey about platonic opposite sex relationships.

Do you have any that are completely platonic? Do you think you are capable of having a platonic opposite sex friend? Do you think other people are capable of that with you? Do you have the same level of relationship/closeness as a same sex friend?

So many questions.

Yes
Yes
Doesn't matter what I think...what matters is what they think.
No.

Here is a clue...if you want a platonic relationship...don't send me pics of your tits. If you send me pics...don't blame me if I already like you to think there is more. I didn't ask for the pics.

Dribble shares willingly what is in Dribble's head. But it is done with purpose...a test. If Dribble doesn't get a similar deepness back...the relationship won't last and Dribble talks less about what matters and more about the weather. I am willing to earn trust...but if I invest 3 or 4 paragraphs, I expect more than a sentence back.

 

[Orchidea73]

So many questions.

Yes
Yes
Doesn't matter what I think...what matters is what they think.
No.

Here is a clue...if you want a platonic relationship...don't send me pics of your tits. If you send me pics...don't blame me if I already like you to think there is more. I didn't ask for the pics.

Dribble shares willingly what is in Dribble's head. But it is done with purpose...a test. If Dribble doesn't get a similar deepness back...the relationship won't last and Dribble talks less about what matters and more about the weather. I am willing to earn trust...but if I invest 3 or 4 paragraphs, I expect more than a sentence back.

Dribble is talking like Gollum.

https://c.tenor.com/y82wSGGEd1IAAAAM/abell46s-reface.gif

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I'm nosey about platonic opposite sex relationships.

Do you have any that are completely platonic? Do you think you are capable of having a platonic opposite sex friend? Do you think other people are capable of that with you? Do you have the same level of relationship/closeness as a same sex friend?

Of course I can have friends from either gender. I guess I don't understand the question here. We have so many relationships in our lives with people of opposite genders that aren't sexual; parent/child, sibling, cousin, coworker, etc. Why is friendship any different?

I guess my question here is "what is a platonic relationship?".

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Of course I can have friends from either gender. I guess I don't understand the question here. We have so many relationships in our lives with people of opposite genders that aren't sexual; parent/child, sibling, cousin, coworker, etc. Why is friendship any different?

I guess my question here is "what is a platonic relationship?".

Well I totally agree. I suppose the crux of my question is - is it a platonic relationship if only half of the people feel platonically?

And maybe I should have added - do your platonic friendships cause issues with partners?

 

[Orchidea73]

Of course I can have friends from either gender. I guess I don't understand the question here. We have so many relationships in our lives with people of opposite genders that aren't sexual; parent/child, sibling, cousin, coworker, etc. Why is friendship any different?

I guess my question here is "what is a platonic relationship?".

I was questioning myself about it too. Maybe we misunderstood the question and PLP was ref. about relationships where you have romantic feelings towards someone but you do not actually act on it, therefore it remains a platonic relationship? Idk...