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[Deleted member 5521640]

If a woman I work with told me that she fucked 3 guys on separate occasions over the weekend... this would be my reaction...

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Several years ago (back in my sluttier days) I blew three guys one night (don't judge me!). A couple days later I told a friend of mine about it and she said "Weren't you afraid of catching something?" Maybe it's who you talk to, I don't know. But my personal experience has been that other women react negatively when hearing about another woman's sexual exploits like that.

But I will concede that not all women probably react the way that I've experienced.

 

[HoneyMeadows]

Several years ago (back in my sluttier days) I blew three guys one night (don't judge me!). A couple days later I told a friend of mine about it and she said "Weren't you afraid of catching something?" Maybe it's who you talk to, I don't know. But my personal experience has been that other women react negatively when hearing about another woman's sexual exploits like that.

But I will concede that not all women probably react the way that I've experienced.

My experience is similar to you LadyJS and I have yet to meet women who would be more comfortable to chat about the details. I do hope that I get to meet a few who are better at conversing face to face about this sort of thing though, otherwise we won't see any change in attitudes towards sex.

 

[JerseyJade]

Several years ago (back in my sluttier days) I blew three guys one night (don't judge me!). A couple days later I told a friend of mine about it and she said "Weren't you afraid of catching something?" Maybe it's who you talk to, I don't know. But my personal experience has been that other women react negatively when hearing about another woman's sexual exploits like that.

But I will concede that not all women probably react the way that I've experienced.

I would never judge you. I would be a hypocrite if I did, considering the number of men I blew at a Super Bowl party a few years ago. But I don't go bragging about those kind of things to anyone... well except maybe to one of my bff's. So I don't give anyone a chance to judge me or ask me stupid questions like, "Weren't you afraid of catching something?" And no, I didn't catch anything from it because I knew they were safe.

I may get slutty at times, but I'm not stupid.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

It is a generational thing too. I have friends who are in their early 20s and they just have a complete lack of shame when it comes to nudity, sex, drugs and such. Stuff that I was taught to keep secret, they talk about in public.

*shrugs* Good or bad, things like this are changing as time goes by.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Several years ago (back in my sluttier days) I blew three guys one night (don't judge me!). A couple days later I told a friend of mine about it and she said "Weren't you afraid of catching something?" Maybe it's who you talk to, I don't know. But my personal experience has been that other women react negatively when hearing about another woman's sexual exploits like that.

But I will concede that not all women probably react the way that I've experienced.

I think it depends who you're talking to, but I also think it is changing (a little at least).

I'm ashamed to say that when I was younger, I would have been one of the women reacting negatively to hearing a story like that. It was the attitude I was raised with. Thankfully, I've grown and become a lot more open minded, and now would react like Jade. And it seems like women younger than me are more likely to react in a positive way.

 

[cheekygirl75]

It is a generational thing too. I have friends who are in their early 20s and they just have a complete lack of shame when it comes to nudity, sex, drugs and such. Stuff that I was taught to keep secret, they talk about in public.

*shrugs* Good or bad, things like this are changing as time goes by.

This is what I was trying to say, but I was less clear & concise lol

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

This is what I was trying to say, but I was less clear & concise lol

You did fine. I think unfortunately, another change of the younger generation, is the toxicity of the boys. Men in their late teens and early 20s are just disgusting pigs right now. Watch any TikTok video.

 

[JerseyJade]

You did fine. I think unfortunately, another change of the younger generation, is the toxicity of the boys. Men in their late teens and early 20s are just disgusting pigs right now. Watch any TikTok video.

You're right about that.... which is why I never dated a guy my age. I deserve better than that.

 

[Deleted member 5521640]

I would never judge you. I would be a hypocrite if I did, considering the number of men I blew at a Super Bowl party a few years ago. But I don't go bragging about those kind of things to anyone... well except maybe to one of my bff's. So I don't give anyone a chance to judge me or ask me stupid questions like, "Weren't you afraid of catching something?" And no, I didn't catch anything from it because I knew they were safe.

I may get slutty at times, but I'm not stupid.

I wasn't bragging about it to anyone. A co-worker of mine at the time asked me what I did over the weekend and I replied that I blew three guys. At the time I didn't really care who knew, so I said it rather nonchalantly, because hey, that's what I did, no denying it. Then she's standing there with mouth open not saying anything and I go "What?" That's when me made her comment about catching something. In hindsight, it probably wasn't the smartest thing for me to say, but I've never been accused of being overly intelligent.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

You're right about that.... which is why I never dated a guy my age. I deserve better than that.

Like it or not, we are all kind of indoctrinated by society. Especially at, well, your age. I'm still immature emotionally, so I am too. Those boys have been taught this behavior. They have been out through societal pressures from whatever peer groups or social strata that cause them to behave this way.

I dont think we were this bad when my generation were kids. But then no generation ever does lol

It worries me though. The ANGER they feel is tremendous, the kind of anger that usually comes from pain, but how can they possibly have been through that kind of pain this young??

The contempt is even worse. That's something taught by parents.

 

[JerseyJade]

Like it or not, we are all kind of indoctrinated by society. Especially at, well, your age. I'm still immature emotionally, so I am too. Those boys have been taught this behavior. They have been out through societal pressures from whatever peer groups or social strata that cause them to behave this way.

I dont think we were this bad when my generation were kids. But then no generation ever does lol

It worries me though. The ANGER they feel is tremendous, the kind of anger that usually comes from pain, but how can they possibly have been through that kind of pain this young??

The contempt is even worse. That's something taught by parents.

I think it's unfair to judge ALL of my generation over the few that have done stupid things for attention and/or act like assholes. Those instances do not represent my generation. I can honestly say the the majority of my generation are normal and are just trying to survive in a world that is so fucked up right now. You just don't hear about the struggles that we have to deal with. You only hear about the stupid shit that my generation does.

 

[hotoldrguy]

I think it's unfair to judge ALL of my generation over the few that have done stupid things for attention and/or act like assholes. Those instances do not represent my generation. I can honestly say the the majority of my generation are normal and are just trying to survive in a world that is so fucked up right now. You just don't hear about the struggles that we have to deal with. You only hear about the stupid shit that my generation does.

Believe me, every generation is guilty of doing stupid shit. Especially in their youth. But you are also right that it is not the entire generation. You do just here about the ones doing stupid shit.

 

[cheekygirl75]

I think it's unfair to judge ALL of my generation over the few that have done stupid things for attention and/or act like assholes. Those instances do not represent my generation. I can honestly say the the majority of my generation are normal and are just trying to survive in a world that is so fucked up right now. You just don't hear about the struggles that we have to deal with. You only hear about the stupid shit that my generation does.

I think this has been true of every generation... however, your generation has the added problem of people being able to easily share the stupid shit that's been done, online, on social media, etc. I so don't envy you that!

 

[JerseyJade]

I think this has been true of every generation... however, your generation has the added problem of people being able to easily share the stupid shit that's been done, online, on social media, etc. I so don't envy you that!

You're right, cheeky. It seems social media inspires stupid people to do stupid shit.

 

[AmberLGreen]

You're right, cheeky. It seems social media inspires stupid people to do stupid shit.

Like hotoldrguy said, all generations have had their stupid moments and that it isn’t down to the whole generation.

Also, what is stupid? How is that defined? Too many judgemental people out there sometimes.

What I do know is that at 52 years old I am still doing stupid stuff. Jade, I think we could do stupid stuff together and make a new combined generation of stupidity category.

 

[rlaflamme]

Like hotoldrguy said, all generations have had their stupid moments and that it isn’t down to the whole generation.

Also, what is stupid? How is that defined? Too many judgemental people out there sometimes.

What I do know is that at 52 years old I am still doing stupid stuff. Jade, I think we could do stupid stuff together and make a new combined generation of stupidity category.

I think most people do stupid stuff, it is just if you advertise it or not.

I am not sure if the world is ready for you two to get together lol.

 

[JerseyJade]

Like hotoldrguy said, all generations have had their stupid moments and that it isn’t down to the whole generation.

Also, what is stupid? How is that defined? Too many judgemental people out there sometimes.

What I do know is that at 52 years old I am still doing stupid stuff. Jade, I think we could do stupid stuff together and make a new combined generation of stupidity category.

We could do stupid stuff together, Amber.... and then blame it on the alcohol.

I think most people do stupid stuff, it is just if you advertise it or not.

I am not sure if the world is ready for you two to get together lol.

Lol

 

[cole4258]

Well, I for one, am happy that you ladies don't have such a bad opinion of all guys.

We are not all pigs, well maybe little ones at times but for the most part we respect women, as it should be.

So just keep wearing those smiles ladies

 

[rlaflamme]

Well, I for one, am happy that you ladies don't have such a bad opinion of all guys.

We are not all pigs, well maybe little ones at times but for the most part we respect women, as it should be.

So just keep wearing those smiles ladies

And that is it! Not all men are pigs. I like to think I'm not. So many posts on here that I put up are about respect and all that. Kindness, friendship, conversation.

I try to keep it all positive, even if I am down. This was really cool, seeing all theses posts, getting all these opinions and thoughts. This is a good day for the thread.

Keep smiling

 

[Fingerfuxs]

The art of conversation lives and thrives when we take the time to listen. Everyone that is participating in this thread today is proof of that. Not to mention the lurkers that might have peeped in on us. Who knows they may have taken something away from the conversation in silence here , that could translate into something tangible in the real world for them.

Kudos

 

[Stillrandy]

About Stupidity

Like hotoldrguy said, all generations have had their stupid moments and that it isn’t down to the whole generation.

Also, what is stupid? How is that defined? Too many judgemental people out there sometimes.

What I do know is that at 52 years old I am still doing stupid stuff. Jade, I think we could do stupid stuff together and make a new combined generation of stupidity category.

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[AZDryHeat]

The art of conversation lives and thrives when we take the time to listen. Everyone that is participating in this thread today is proof of that. Not to mention the lurkers that might have peeped in on us. Who knows they may have taken something away from the conversation in silence here , that could translate into something tangible in the real world for them. Kudos

Ok, I admit it. I have been a lurker on this thread all day. Not my usual style. The cogent conversation on difficult subjects astounded me. Well reasoned ideas were coming from the pen of some who I thought had difficulty spelling words longer than four letters. (No, not you, Amber.) This is a thread that needs to be kept alive.

 

[Saturn0815]

I wasn't bragging about it to anyone. A co-worker of mine at the time asked me what I did over the weekend and I replied that I blew three guys. At the time I didn't really care who knew, so I said it rather nonchalantly, because hey, that's what I did, no denying it. Then she's standing there with mouth open not saying anything and I go "What?" That's when me made her comment about catching something. In hindsight, it probably wasn't the smartest thing for me to say, but I've never been accused of being overly intelligent.

Screw her! Those were three very lucky guys!

 

[LAHomedog]

OK, we are all many different people inside our minds. That does not mean we are schizophrenic, that means that the cultural indoctrination that "you are who you are" and you must only be one person is BS.

We are all many different people at all times. We have many different personas and many different roles in our lives. Most of them are obvious. Son/daughter, brother/sister, lover, SO, spouse, co-worker, boss, friend. It goes on and on.

Our sexual lives are no different. Different needs from reality to reality, person to person, moment to moment, fantasy to fantasy

I have always believed in all of us there is "image and freedom." Image is when we hear noise in our heads and present a false self. We all do it. Freedom is when there is no noise and we are our true selves.

I always use basketball great Michael Jordon as the example. When he was on the court, he never once though,"OH! Should I go left? Should I go right?" He always knew in total freedom. But his personal relationships were always messed up. Image. Noise.

Everybody's image and freedom is different. Some find having money as image and something of disgust or to hold in disregard. Some find it a blessing.

Some find love to be a jail and the worst sort of handcuffs on earth. Some prosper and thrive.

We are all snowflakes. And our images and freedoms are all different.

That is my conversation for all.

 

[Sweet_and_Sensual]

You're right about that.... which is why I never dated a guy my age. I deserve better than that.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. If that image is you, you are absolutely beautiful sweetie and please don't allow any man to treat you like that. I've had the same issue, haha. I broke up with one of my boyfriend's because he was a complete douchebag towards me and I got tired of it. I know this response was random but you look beautiful hun.