What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[Cogan]

Nope. It’s the horrible and terrifying flying stinging insect that can attack repeatedly.

They can be quite mean, so I understand your feelings for them.

 

[Polranny]

The only thing that verges on a true phobia for me is wasps. Even photos or drawings make me anxious. I will avoid or modify activities if there is a single wasp spotted. I am hyper alert in situations where I suspect a wasp could be present.

I'm the same with wasps. As a child i disturbed a nest and got stung about 150 times. A Dr.was staying with my family and he saved my life. I'm now immune to their stings but avoid them

 

[HotChef1970]

A lot of times people make Alts so they can fuck around.

And a lot of people get accused of having ALTs when they don’t and don’t have any interest in doing so……………

I have in the past been accused openly of having ALTs (by people posting today and on this thread) which I can 100% categorically deny doing, I have nothing that I want to fuck with someone about, if I’ve got something to say I think most people can judge and see that I’ll just say it!

The only reason I can see for an ALT is if you forget your password or something like that in which case for me I’d just put something in my signature

 

[Mei5ter]

I'm nosey about Fresh Meat.

When you see someone new (or apparently new) here, do you jump in to make friends straight away? Or do you find it reassuring when someonwho seems interesting has evidently joined here some years ago?

 

[SassySheDevil]

I'm nosey about Fresh Meat.

When you see someone new (or apparently new) here, do you jump in to make friends straight away? Or do you find it reassuring when someonwho seems interesting has evidently joined here some years ago?

Not anymore. I used to try and welcome the new people. But too often, they were super nice to me until someone better came along. So I typically don't reach out anymore. I keep most of my interactions public now.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I'm nosey about Fresh Meat.

When you see someone new (or apparently new) here, do you jump in to make friends straight away? Or do you find it reassuring when someonwho seems interesting has evidently joined here some years ago?

I don’t jump in to make friends with anybody straight away. I have to try and get a feel for that person first so will see what they post. That applies to everybody. As I have only been here a very short while, I did find most people very friendly and welcoming.

 

[coffeelover5]

I don’t jump in to make friends with anybody straight away. I have to try and get a feel for that person first so will see what they post. That applies to everybody. As I have only been here a very short while, I did find most people very friendly and welcoming.

Nice post and welcome to Lit. Generally most people here are open and friendly, we do encounter some knuckleheads from time to time. I just ignore them

 

[ydahecnot]

A man could be here for a year and not be particularly noticed. Women, on the other hand, are swarmed from Day 1, particularly on AmPics. I don’t say hi right away because they have enough coming at them

 

[Ratchetman1982]

A man could be here for a year and not be particularly noticed. Women, on the other hand, are swarmed from Day 1, particularly on AmPics. I don’t say hi right away because they have enough coming at them

I agree with this. The problem lies with the way some men behave. When you have thirsty guys PMing girls non-stop with ridiculous things, they tend to put up walls. It then becomes the job of a male to find a way to stand out from the crowd. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. If said male shows what makes him different or special, he will become noticed. At that point, more is known of him so it is easier to fall into good conversations.

Just my two cents

 

[SassySheDevil]

A man could be here for a year and not be particularly noticed. Women, on the other hand, are swarmed from Day 1, particularly on AmPics. I don’t say hi right away because they have enough coming at them

Yeah, it only took you like 10+ years to say hi to me

I agree with this. The problem lies with the way some men behave. When you have thirsty guys PMing girls non-stop with ridiculous things, they tend to put up walls. It then becomes the job of a male to find a way to stand out from the crowd. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. If said male shows what makes him different or special, he will become noticed. At that point, more is known of him so it is easier to fall into good conversations.

Just my two cents

This is very true. But this is the only way I will reach out now. You are also right in the fact that it is not fair.

 

[BadAmy]

Not anymore. I used to try and welcome the new people. But too often, they were super nice to me until someone better came along. So I typically don't reach out anymore. I keep most of my interactions public now.

same gurl. same.

 

[ydahecnot]

Sassy, it took you 10+ years to add me

 

[Lonelywife1205]

A man could be here for a year and not be particularly noticed. Women, on the other hand, are swarmed from Day 1, particularly on AmPics. I don’t say hi right away because they have enough coming at them

I was under the impression there was sort of a Lit Welcome Wagon, if you will, of ladies who properly welcomed all the new fresh meat?

 

[ydahecnot]

I was under the impression there was sort of a Lit Welcome Wagon, if you will, of ladies who properly welcomed all the new fresh meat?

I didn’t even get a coupon book.

 

[Wand3rlust]

I'm nosey about Fresh Meat.

When you see someone new (or apparently new) here, do you jump in to make friends straight away? Or do you find it reassuring when someonwho seems interesting has evidently joined here some years ago?

I don't really look at how long someone has been here. IF they are having an interesting time on the boards (funny, stimulating, deep, whatever) then if I feel I have something to add, then I'll join in.

I don't expect anyone to message me personally. Some have, and have been nice, some have and have been creepy, and one has and was abusive. Thems the breaks.

I'll reach out sometimes in private if I have something to say. But not generally for the sake of it.

People are generally nice. I mean, I'm fucking hilarious. So.

 

[Punkrockchick]

I agree with this. The problem lies with the way some men behave. When you have thirsty guys PMing girls non-stop with ridiculous things, they tend to put up walls. It then becomes the job of a male to find a way to stand out from the crowd. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. If said male shows what makes him different or special, he will become noticed. At that point, more is known of him so it is easier to fall into good conversations.

Just my two cents

The main issues is thirsty dudes with no sense of decorum. Instead of dropping one line I a pm like "want me to be your Dom you little slut", try to connect with someone. I'm not saying to try to fall in love or anything like that. Just try to get to know someone before you become a pig. And make sure it's okay to be a pig with that person.

Just saying because damn

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I didn’t even get a coupon book.

Did you get the AVON samples?

 

[ydahecnot]

Did you get the AVON samples?

Not a thing! Maybe there was a paperwork snafu and my address got lost

 

[SassySheDevil]

I was under the impression there was sort of a Lit Welcome Wagon, if you will, of ladies who properly welcomed all the new fresh meat?

On some level. I think there is more so in AMpics

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Did you get the AVON samples?

Ok this made me snort

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I'm nosey about Fresh Meat.

When you see someone new (or apparently new) here, do you jump in to make friends straight away? Or do you find it reassuring when someonwho seems interesting has evidently joined here some years ago?

Both. I always try to greet new people in threads so they feel welcomed. I rarely PM them a greeting, though.

As to being reassured, as pointed out previously, there is always a swarm of "well-intentioned" wolves scratching at new woman's PM door. That's why I rarely PM until after I sense that the woman has some level of interest in me. Even then, I still rarely PM them if I suspect they have multiple lit partners they are playing with at the time.

So, basically...I rarely PM anymore.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I'm nosey about Fresh Meat.

When you see someone new (or apparently new) here, do you jump in to make friends straight away? Or do you find it reassuring when someonwho seems interesting has evidently joined here some years ago?

I rarely talk to new people until I get an idea of what they are about. And then generally it's just in passing on the boards.

I think I'm just very skeptical and guarded. Plus, ther person has to be the right mixture of smart/funny/weird/sexy/emotionallyintelligent/snarky/sweet/self-deprecating weirdo to deal with me.

 

[Xerxes82]

I'm nosey about Fresh Meat.

When you see someone new (or apparently new) here, do you jump in to make friends straight away? Or do you find it reassuring when someonwho seems interesting has evidently joined here some years ago?

I generally don't set out to interact with anyone. Obviously I read a fair bit of threads and posts, and I do have a list of people in my head I think are cool, nice, interesting, etc. I'm more likely to reply to something they've said, or engage in a conversation.

Nowadays, almost everything I do on Lit is public facing. I think I got like 10 PMs last week, which has got to be a record for the year. I respond to just about everything, because most of you guys are awesome. But I only rarely send anything, and generally if I'm going to initiate contact it's because of a specific post or joke or thing that I just don't want to clutter a thread with.

But the overwhelming majority of my posts are just me goofing off, or venting, or wanting a place to put something so it exists outside my head. My Lit experience is super selfish, I guess. My time here is part mental health check, part socialization practice, part needing a hole to bury the bodies. I find that most of my conversations tend to wind down fairly naturally fairly quickly. Maybe I'm just not that interesting? But I'm not looking to force things. I like you guys (well, most of you anyway, there's always a few) but I don't need to love you. That's not what I'm about or here for.

 

[AmberLGreen]

See, and I love, but I’m here for the friends. Friend love? Agape, rather than Eros.
I came here for one reason, and it morphed into another.
Come for the sex, stay for the love. Whatever.


I’m nosey about how Litsters who have a “thing” that ends move on when you’re both still on the boards?

I have not been in that situation yet but I would like to think if ever I did have a “thing” and it fizzled out that it would only be that part that ended and the rest of the friendship would continue

 

[StacyLeigh]

I’m nosey about how Litsters who have a “thing” that ends move on when you’re both still on the boards?

I’ve never had to deal with this immediately following the end. One or both of us would take some significant time away from Lit…so that, if/when we are both here again, it’s a bit less uncomfortable.