Cock Talk

[Guyblue82]

Today’s questions are about Blue Balls.

But I’m going to make you wait until later to discuss it.

Please.... No visual aids though

 

[SassySheDevil]

Does Dazer have enough money for that?

hahaha I just saw this.. Oops. I shall behave or he will come in here to attack me and flirt with you.

 

[AnnyMouse28]

Fear of commitment probably does scare most guys away. That gets back to my circle jerk comment about getting “sex” without the need of emotion or commitment. It seems like more guys would be into it for that reason alone.

But a woman with a strong sex drive is an amazing thing. You are to be cherished.

But what you scared of any type of commitment cock owners forget is being in a “relationship” is what gives you the easiest access to frequent regular sex. Being that the men in my age range are “middle aged” at this point the likelihood of them finding a woman with strong sex drive who is interested in sexual exploration might not be that great (especially if the wives of the men on Lit are any indication).

 

[Mattentive]

But what you scared of any type of commitment cock owners forget is being in a “relationship” is what gives you the easiest access to frequent regular sex. Being that the men in my age range are “middle aged” at this point the likelihood of them finding a woman with strong sex drive who is interested in sexual exploration might not be that great (especially if the wives of the men on Lit are any indication).

With all the entertainment around, I think it makes commitment much harder to tolerate compared to the easy life of pizza and porn. I know this is about middle-aged ugly-bumpers, but after eight months with the same person, the sex got less and less, and the phone fixation got more and more until only the memories of earlier affections was keeping it together and not because of the sex at all.

My guess is that a woman with a strong sex drive would more likely find a guy with a strong sex drive, but then as time passed, one of you (I'd presume the woman) would start to get annoyed by the more highly-sexed other. In the long run, how often you both masturbate currently might be a better indication of your tong-term compatibility because that's more about innate interest rather than external stimulation from someone that might become less sexually interesting to you over time.

 

[Endless_Night]

Also, Michelangelo, like most Renaissance sculptors, was greatly influenced by Classical Greek art. Apparently, the Greeks of that period had opinions about penis size that are not in line with current opinion.

http://www.howtotalkaboutarthistory...y-do-all-old-statues-have-such-small-penises/

And yes, I had googled this question before.

Educational.

< When I was about 18 (this time literally) I made a video in the backyard. A wet T-shirt striptease that ended with my pants coming down, bare ass to the camera, then turning toward the camera and pulling up just in time to give a quick glimpse of my erection. As weird as it sounds I made this video for me. I wanted to watch it and jerk off to it—which I did, numerous times. I imagined the video getting out and being seen by every girl I ever had a crush on. Unfortunately, I deleted the video after I became nervous that someone might actually see it and I’ve regretted it ever since. >

Yes. My dick is photogenic. ;p >

You two. Aaaaaaadorable.

 

[Endless_Night]

Today’s questions are about Blue Balls.

But I’m going to make you wait until later to discuss it.

Is there a time planned for this discussion?


Not that I have any information to offer, but I'm here to learn.

 

[cosycock]

Uncut penises

On the subject of uncut dicks, I'm from Scotland and therefore (like the majority of males here) uncircumcised. When soft, there is a loose fold of skin which can be fun to play around with, which I often do. When erect, depending on how turned on I am, the head can be poking out through the tightened foreskin or, much better, the foreskin completely retracts and sits around the base of the head, looking very much like a circumcised dick.
Now if only there was somewhere I could post some pictures to illustrate this better...

 

[Stillrandy]

Non Sequitur Observation

The cock (AKA the penis or phallus if you prefer) is a marvelous example of nature's gift of multifunctionality:

• Pleasure
• Reproduction
• Peeing
• Art Object
• Conversation Piece
• Raison d'etat for the athletic supporter manufacturers
• Boon to the pharmaceutical industry

And no doubt the list can be further elongated...

 

[Acktion]

Today’s questions are about Blue Balls.

But I’m going to make you wait until later to discuss it.

You know what, I'll take the first shot.

For a long, long time, I didn't believe this was a real deal.

On the other hand, I was cumming one way or another a minimum of eight times per day. If I couldn't find a willing partner, then I stroked it out. And sometimes even when I could find a willing partner after I wore them out.

And if I, for whatever reason, couldn't either find a partner or find some time to stroke it out, then nocturnal emissions (aka Wet Dreams) would take care of it.

But, time wore on, as it has a tendency to do. I didn't have to cum eight times per day just to keep on an even keel. One to three times was usually enough.

And time kept wearing on.

A couple of years ago (after my late wife died and I'd started engaging others in some online shenanigans), I hit a time period that things just happened. And although we'd played every day (and she'd cum at least once each time), I hadn't cum for several days.

And then the kids came for a visit. And it was impossible for a couple of days. I did notice that it was more difficult than normal to get comfortable as either my thighs or my shorts would press against my testicles. But, there wasn't much I could do about it, so I ignored it.

Until the kids were gone.

And then I noticed my scrotum was the size and color of a prize-winning tomato, damn near as big as my fist.

No problem. I'd just stroke one out and cum and all would be well.

There was a lot, which I'd pretty much expected. (Yes, I'm one of the 4% with diagnosed hyperspermia.) Only it was bloody. Which I hadn't. Hematospermia is the technical name, as I found out when I called my old country Doc in a panic.

We came to a cease-fire that he didn't get to either squeeze 'em in those rock crushers OR stick his size sixteen linebacker fingers anywhere and I would keep an eye on things and call him back if it didn't clear up in seven days or if it got worse.

Fortunately, it cleared up in about five days.

Then, about a year later, after three days of not cumming, it happened again. A little more knowledgeable this time, I didn't bother Doc with his ham-like hands, since I didn't figure there was any way I was getting out of getting groped this time, but just waited it out. And it cleared up again.

Now, we hear all the time about the prostate. And, yeah, that's a pretty big deal, as anyone who has wrestled with prostate cancer can tell you. But, we don't really hear, or think, too much about the spermatozoa stored in the epididymis until they are needed or the seminal vesicles which are responsible for much more of the production of seminal fluid than the prostate (which is only responsible for roughly 25% of the volume).

Now, the misnomer is inherent in "blue" since typically they don't turn blue. There will be some swelling and discomfort. Probably a perceivable "mushiness." But, actual discoloration, if any, is more red to purple. And then only happens in extreme circumstances.

The real question, though, is what do you do about it?

And here is where I'm gonna catch Hell from both sides of the biological coin.

If you are involved with someone on that level, then I think it makes perfect sense to try to get them involved in easing that ache. And even if they initially say no, I think it makes sense to bring up this very real condition.

That's right, ladies. I said it. If you're involved with a guy on a level where sex is part of your relationship, then I think he should be able to ask you to help him deal with it. Just as you should be able to ask him to help you to deal with things when they come up for you such as cramps, ovarian cysts, ruptured ovarian cysts, endometriosis, and so forth. (And, yes, I have it on good authority that my ass makes a wonderful heating pad.)

On the other hand, fellas, no means no. Nobody else is under any obligation to help you empty your aching balls. If she says no, and nocturnal emissions aren't getting the job done, then stroke that shit out. Preferably before the epididymis cracks due to inelasticity and you have to spend five days stroking out something resembling period blood.

But, ladies, hold up. By the same token, if we came to you and you didn't want to help, then don't give us shit when you catch us stroking it out either. Not about stroking off. And not about... ah... visual stimulation we use to make it easier when you didn't wish to aid us. And I'll just add, the more you bang on the bathroom door, the longer this is going to take.

In a nutshell (all puns always intended), "blue balls" or "sperm retention syndrome" is a real thing that can become serious. But, the treatment is near to hand.

 

[AnnyMouse28]

With all the entertainment around, I think it makes commitment much harder to tolerate compared to the easy life of pizza and porn. I know this is about middle-aged ugly-bumpers, but after eight months with the same person, the sex got less and less, and the phone fixation got more and more until only the memories of earlier affections was keeping it together and not because of the sex at all.

My guess is that a woman with a strong sex drive would more likely find a guy with a strong sex drive, but then as time passed, one of you (I'd presume the woman) would start to get annoyed by the more highly-sexed other. In the long run, how often you both masturbate currently might be a better indication of your tong-term compatibility because that's more about innate interest rather than external stimulation from someone that might become less sexually interesting to you over time.

I can't imagine a world where pizza and porn (I assume that leads to masturbation) can ever replace a warm, wet, tight pussy (or thick hard cock).

As to how often one masturbates being a good indicator of long term compatibility That may or may not be true. My most recent partner was with a guy who claims to only masturbate about once per week. Me I am 3 - 5 times per week. He claims to want sex when he is in a relationship daily or multiple times per day. I can't really attest to the validity of his claim to want sex daily.

 

[Mattentive]

I can't imagine a world where pizza and porn (I assume that leads to masturbation) can ever replace a warm, wet, tight pussy (or thick hard cock).

As to how often one masturbates being a good indicator of long term compatibility That may or may not be true. My most recent partner was with a guy who claims to only masturbate about once per week. Me I am 3 - 5 times per week. He claims to want sex when he is in a relationship daily or multiple times per day. I can't really attest to the validity of his claim to want sex daily.

Presumably it's all down to your drive for some slimy silk (or a lusty thruster) vs the costs of keeping hold of its owner. Thoughts of sex might push a guy into finding a woman, but then when it's close to becoming a relationship he's reminded of the negatives (perhaps from a bad marriage) so he avoids commitment and backs away until the next time his forlorn horn returns. Online dating must be a nightmare for middle-aged women until the right guy shows up.


"Acktion's" post above yours says he wanted it eight times a day "one way or another" so it's probably not worth me guessing over something so subjective. Everything you said is obviously right, mine were just ponderings, and now I'm all pondered out .

 

[Acktion]

Presumably it's all down to your drive for some slimy silk (or a lusty thruster) vs the costs of keeping hold of its owner. Thoughts of sex might push a guy into finding a woman, but then when it's close to becoming a relationship he's reminded of the negatives (perhaps from a bad marriage) so he avoids commitment and backs away until the next time his forlorn horn returns. Online dating must be a nightmare for middle-aged women until the right guy shows up.


"Acktion's" post above yours says he wanted it eight times a day "one way or another" so it's probably not worth me guessing over something so subjective. Everything you said is obviously right, mine were just ponderings, and now I'm all pondered out .

Technically, it was eight minimum to keep from messing up the sheets. The max was possibly twenty-one in a twenty-four-hour period (although the last might have fallen over the time mark) with three different lovers and some masturbation too.

However, I should clarify that not only am I not normal, but this described in more detail here was all several decades ago.

These days, when my sweet little spice of my twilight comes for a visit, five for me (versus twenty-plus for her) is pushing it. Neither can I manage the full seventy-two-hour training sessions I once did with my late wife we found, but only managed forty-seven before I had to rest.

But, again, what is "normal" for me is not gonna be for probably 96% (according to the last published research).

 

[Mattentive]

Technically, it was eight minimum to keep from messing up the sheets. The max was possibly twenty-one in a twenty-four-hour period (although the last might have fallen over the time mark) with three different lovers and some masturbation too.

However, I should clarify that not only am I not normal, but this described in more detail here was all several decades ago.

These days, when my sweet little spice of my twilight comes for a visit, five for me (versus twenty-plus for her) is pushing it. Neither can I manage the full seventy-two-hour training sessions I once did with my late wife we found, but only managed forty-seven before I had to rest.

But, again, what is "normal" for me is not gonna be for probably 96% (according to the last published research).

Well, I've heard of worse ways of being abnormal. No need for a treadmill.

 

[hotwords229_A]

You know what, I'll take the first shot.

For a long, long time, I didn't believe this was a real deal . . .

You pretty much covered what I was going to say.

My story is not that similar, (or serious), but it was basically approximately a 25 hour boner where I had no good options for relief. Of course it went up and down over that period, but I’ll say it was hard more than it was flaccid and by the end of it my balls were screaming!

As you said, they didn’t turn blue, but damn did they hurt! More of a horrible ache.

So much so that when I finally had the chance to take care of it I was jerking to no end—I couldn’t cum. The ache was taking away from any pleasure and I just wanted it to be over. I was extremely sleep deprived at the time and gave up jerking for a good nap. When I woke up a few hours later I (thankfully) finished the job with a very burning ejaculation.

Not good times.

Before falling asleep I was thinking I might just have to go to the emergency room, because it hurt that bad. And I’m one of those “I can just sew that arm back on, I don’t need a doctor” type people.

From that day on, I believed in blue balls and have come to fear the balls of blue. That’s why I don’t like edging, I think it is playing with fire—the kind of fire I remember shooting out of my dickhole!

I think there should be a clearer understanding of blue balls. Too many of us joke about telling girls they have to have sex with us or we’ll get blue balls. Which is funny, I admit it, but still . . . I’m not sure that enough women believe it even exists.

I wasn’t even sure.

As Acktion said, it is every guy’s responsibility to blow his own wad (I’m paraphrasing), but I think it would help if more girls were taught from an early age that guys need to masturbate. It’s more than just for fun.

Do you think Sex Ed classes should focus more on blue balls and similar issues (for both male and female) instead of spending so much time looking at that “moose head” diagram of the Fallopian tubes?

If, when you were younger, a guy told you he understood you weren’t ready for sex, but he was going to have to go jerk off in the bathroom because it was beginning to hurt, would you understand, or think he was a demented pervert?

Any other guys have experience with blue ball pain, or is it more rare?

Do you believe in blue balls? Or think it’s just a scam to get a handy or a blowy?

Have you ever pretended just to get someone to touch it?

 

[hotwords229_A]

But what you scared of any type of commitment cock owners forget is being in a “relationship” is what gives you the easiest access to frequent regular sex. Being that the men in my age range are “middle aged” at this point the likelihood of them finding a woman with strong sex drive who is interested in sexual exploration might not be that great (especially if the wives of the men on Lit are any indication).

It is hard to find a woman with a super strong sex drive at any age, that also is a good match. I know/knew plenty of horny women, but as much fun as they might be, it seemed sex would be the only thing we had in common.

Finding the right person seems to be a matter of about 7 billion to 1.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Is there a time planned for this discussion?


Not that I have any information to offer, but I'm here to learn.

Wondering if girls get mental blue balls? Hmmm . . .

 

[AnnyMouse28]

Do you think Sex Ed classes should focus more on blue balls and similar issues (for both male and female) instead of spending so much time looking at that “moose head” diagram of the Fallopian tubes?

If, when you were younger, a guy told you he understood you weren’t ready for sex, but he was going to have to go jerk off in the bathroom because it was beginning to hurt, would you understand, or think he was a demented pervert?

Any other guys have experience with blue ball pain, or is it more rare?

Do you believe in blue balls? Or think it’s just a scam to get a handy or a blowy?

Have you ever pretended just to get someone to touch it?

I wish sex ed had focused not only on the biological side of sex (aka don’t do it or you’ll get pregnant) but also only the reality of sex. Orgasm? I didn’t know there was more to sex than the act. I knew guys came but I just thought it was “shooting their load.”

If a guy had told me that at 16/17 I probably wouldn’t know what he meant.

Blue balls are “sad” balls with a lot of built up frustration.

It is hard to find a woman with a super strong sex drive at any age, that also is a good match. I know/knew plenty of horny women, but as much fun as they might be, it seemed sex would be the only thing we had in common.

Finding the right person seems to be a matter of about 7 billion to 1.

As much fun and as important as being compatible sexual is I think it is important to also be compatible in other areas. At this point it seems you can find one or the other. Or more accurately one seems to be more focused on one than the other.

I think your stats might be correct. That’s why at nearly 50, I give up.

 

[Mattentive]

Why do you presume the woman?

I think it's proven that women have a lower drive on average. Lesbian couples have sex the least and gay male couples have it the most, with straight couples in between.

 

[Mattentive]

Google women over 40.

I'll take your word for it. Now I understand why Lit is mostly older women.

 

[AnnyMouse28]

I'll take your word for it. Now I understand why Lit is mostly older women.

And men over 50. I think both men and women have varying sex drives. I have a male friend that has very little interest in sex. And then there are those like the last guy I was with who wants sex multiple times a day (or so he claims.) The many tales of the wives of the LIT men say women over 40 don’t want sex ever. The women of LIT say something different.

In general both men and women have lower libido as they age. Change in hormones, health issues and life’s demands all play a part in this. But this is not ALL men or ALL women.

 

[Endless_Night]

Thanks Ackton and HW. All very interesting. I knew blue balls were a thing, but I honestly had no idea the situation could verge on needing medical intervention.

Those viagra commercials that talked about heading to the hospital if your erection lasted more than four hours are making more sense.

Kinda feel bad that I used to laugh at those….

 

[hotwords229_A]

Let’s play Find the Walnut

https://64.media.tumblr.com/94d742c3a2db9e231fe289a1bc4da8c5/cd772e8247490af2-ea/s640x960/9999fc40a71a6c84f824a4c377d53f33bf11d86f.gifv

I have little to no experience in this area so I hope a lot of you do and you can learn me up the ass.

Prostate massage.

I’ve fingered my butthole a few times looking for my prostate, but it doesn’t seem to be there. Maybe it’s too shriveled up from constant use?

But I am interested in taking it like a man and seeing what all the fuss is about. Traditionally guys have been hesitant to do any butt stuff due to the stigma or simply because we don’t like giving up control.

But I’ve read that it is far more intense of an orgasm, it’s great for health, use lots of lube, etc.

What are your experiences with the old Wazoo?

What would you think if your guy wanted you to finger and/or fuck him in the ass?

Would it be a turn on or off?

Guys are you butt curious and afraid to ask or do you get it regularly?

Is cumming from prostate massage really more intense than penile work alone?

Strap on or finger, which do you prefer?

Do you secretly want your boyfriend/husband to be more open to this?

 

[hotwords229_A]

Kinda feel bad that I used to laugh at those….

It hurts, but it’s still kinda funny.

Never stop laughing!

 

[Endless_Night]

Wondering if girls get mental blue balls? Hmmm . . .

Yes. Not blue balls per se, but extended non-orgasm periods definitely affect mood and overall functionality. There's a physical component, too, at least or me.

I’m known for going long stretches without sex. It needs to be right or I’m just not interested.

Masturbation has it’s points, being clean, quick, and lacking all that messy have-to-deal-with-the-other-person component, but it lacks the overall feel of satiation one gets from actual sex. Plus, it sort of…ramps up the need for more, so I usually do without.

So, long stretches. The problem is my drive isn’t low, and my body isn’t entirely on board with the decision. I deal with this by staying really, really busy.

My break point in the past has been about nine months. At which point I’m…well, let’s go with irritable and edgy. I can’t sleep. Certain regions become unbearably sensitive. My focus is broken.

At that point I break down. And, you know, for about two weeks. Solid.


After which point I’m not longer irritable.

 

[Endless_Night]

It hurts, but it’s still kinda funny.

Never stop laughing!

My thoughts were mostly along the lines of does anyone actually have to be told to go to the hospital if their erection lasts more than four hours?

I mean, really?


…Really?

< In general both men and women have lower libido as they age. Change in hormones, health issues and life’s demands all play a part in this. But this is not ALL men or ALL women.

Many women become more comfortable with their bodies and sexuality as they age, too, which I think is certainly a factor.

Do you think Sex Ed classes should focus more on blue balls and similar issues (for both male and female) instead of spending so much time looking at that “moose head” diagram of the Fallopian tubes? >

God, yes. Sex education classes are woefully skewed to merely preventing pregnancy.