Herpes

[0rgasm4u]

Hello all,

I have recently divorced after a long marriage. In my pre-marital phase, many years ago, I got a case of herpes. My wife and I got past the issue and it didn't matter.

I haven't had an outbreak in several years and it's really become a non-issue. Until now, when I want to start dating.

I understand this is a common problem for my generation. I was wondering if you wise lit folks have any advice about how to tell a potential partner, how common it really is, and so forth.

I appreciate your feedback.

 

[Brains_N_Boobs]

Although I do not have this issue myself with any STD's, I do have a few friends that do.

Thankfully, those that I thought I might hook-up with were honest and forthright about their circumstances and let me know in advance so I could then decide not to entertain any sexual activities with them.

In all cases of these people, they have decided to limit their own sexual activities to persons that also have the same STD(s) that they themselves have, so as not to spread it to anyone else, who is not already infected.

It works in the best all-around fashion, even if it only provides for limited partnerships.

There are most likely resources on the WEB etc. where you would be able to find like-minded and like-circumstanced people of the opposite sex to interact with.

Good luck in your travails.

 

[0rgasm4u]

thank you

 

[1hardguy]

Lucky guy?

Perhaps the poster might end up getting a connection where women with the same condition reach out to him.... ??

 

[bgr]

I have dealt with this for 30+years. I don't remember my last outbreak. There are communities out there for herpes singles. If you live in a larger city it will increase your odds. Positive Singles, Fet life and face book has secret groups to name a few. Honesty is always the best policy. There are even groups that have really cool outings. I went to Florida for one and had a really good time. Mostly singles there. aND There were probably 80 of us there.

 

[hobbit.]

very over rated. try Monkey pox, thats on the rise again!

 

[pecksniff]

"Hey, baby, you wouldn't happen to have a disease that rhymes with lerpes, would you?"

 

[hobbit.]

"Hey, baby, you wouldn't happen to have a disease that rhymes with lerpes, would you?"

ya mean 'slurpees' the one where you turn into a clown and change your name to Joel?

Is that the one where intestines rot and fall out of your anus like a black sock?

that the new variant, but dont worry, a vaccine will be along soon.

 

[Tryharder62]

Get to know the person before jumping in the sack. See if it is even worth telling. One night stands aren't good. You need good communication with your partner. There are 3 medications that can help suppress herpes. I am a nurse:
Acyclovir 400 mg PO twice daily.
Valacyclovir 500-1000 mg PO once daily.
Famciclovir 250 mg PO twice daily.
They are not 100% at suppressing herpes but pretty good. Use with condom. If she is scared encourage her to talk to a doctor and get good information.

Good luck

 

[Tigersman]

I was in a year long relationship with a young lady who had herpes. She contracted it while in college. She had come over one Friday for dinner after we had been dating for a couple of weeks. I was one of those guys who takes his time making a move on a girl. After some hot making out, she explained she had herpes and what it meant. I never contracted herpes and she did not have an outbreak while we were together.

 

[hobbit.]

Oh good, I like playing blood clot bingo.

dabbers at the ready, eyes down look in....

 

[MartinHeidegger]

Hello all,

I have recently divorced after a long marriage. In my pre-marital phase, many years ago, I got a case of herpes. My wife and I got past the issue and it didn't matter.

I haven't had an outbreak in several years and it's really become a non-issue. Until now, when I want to start dating.

I understand this is a common problem for my generation. I was wondering if you wise lit folks have any advice about how to tell a potential partner, how common it really is, and so forth.

I appreciate your feedback.

Shaddup, Conager.

 

[0rgasm4u]

Despite all of the "encouragement" on this thread, I do appreciate the input from those of you with real feedback. If there are any ladies who see this and would like to make contact, please send a message! It would be nice to talk with someone without this being an issue.

Statistically it's very prevalent, so I suspect there are plenty of folks on lit who face the same issue.