Honest Opinions on Cocks

[MissMayhem69]

Women's bodies receive their first share of scrutiny whether we like it or not. In turn, we often overlook flaws in men or ego boost them, never wanting to hurt feelings or make them feel less than king like. This can lead to men having a false sense of self. For good or bad.

Do men ever want an honest opinion of their cocks?

 

[gtnlynn]

Not me. I knew my wife had a bigger one in college, but I also knew she really liked the way I used mine. She didn't have to tell me that our first sex wasn't that good for her, because I was inexperienced. It didn't take long for her to teach me exactly what she wanted, and we improved from there. so I really never needed an opinion on my cock. It works just fine.

 

[Deleted member 1655181]

Women's bodies receive their first share of scrutiny whether we like it or not. In turn, we often overlook flaws in men or ego boost them, never wanting to hurt feelings or make them feel less than king like. This can lead to men having a false sense of self. For good or bad.

Do men ever want an honest opinion of their cocks?

As we got to know each other better, we talked a lot about past lovers. Through these conversations, I ended up asking her things like who's cock did she like best, who was the biggest, ever have one uncut, etc. She was pretty vanilla about her responses, no one stood out, all about the same. I've wondered if that's BS to protect my ego, asked that, too. We're both pretty happy with each other so it's just for fun anyways.

 

[LauraWilling]

As we got to know each other better, we talked a lot about past lovers. Through these conversations, I ended up asking her things like who's cock did she like best, who was the biggest, ever have one uncut, etc. She was pretty vanilla about her responses, no one stood out, all about the same. I've wondered if that's BS to protect my ego, asked that, too. We're both pretty happy with each other so it's just for fun anyways.

It's just my opinion, but I feel your wife was being a little non commital, not sure that is the right term here, but I do feel she did not want any concerns or hurt feelings on your part. I do believe most of us do have a favorite or two. I know I sure do. But it is not necessarily length, but more about girth and how the man connected to it used it one or in me.

 

[Islander55]

I am 63 and have only sampled about 20 cocks so am no expert but for the most part there is very little difference. Yes the big one may stand out in your mind a bit but it might not have been because he was a great fuck. The bigger issue as we get older is whether or not he can maintain a good erection.

 

[KimGordon67]

TBH, size is fairly irrelevant to me. There is such a thing as too big.
It's truly more about what he does with it than any attributes of the penis itself. 'Clean' is about my only criteria.

 

[Deleted member 1655181]

It's just my opinion, but I feel your wife was being a little non commital, not sure that is the right term here, but I do feel she did not want any concerns or hurt feelings on your part. I do believe most of us do have a favorite or two. I know I sure do. nut it is not necessarily length, but more about girth and how the man connected to it used it one or in me.

Yeah, makes sense. I know she had a favorite boyfriend. She still thinks of him while jilling??

 

[Escierto]

My honest opinion of my girlfriend’s cock is it’s beautiful. Why? Because it’s her cock and I adore her.

https://i.imgur.com/RXs4eDl.png

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Women's bodies receive their first share of scrutiny whether we like it or not. In turn, we often overlook flaws in men or ego boost them, never wanting to hurt feelings or make them feel less than king like. This can lead to men having a false sense of self. For good or bad.

Do men ever want an honest opinion of their cocks?

short answer is: NO,

I haven't believe half of what any woman/girl/female has said since I was eleven years old and yes--, it was a woman/girl/female that told me and engrained in me to be that way, as a way of protecting myself, even from her.

 

[LauraWilling]

Yeah, makes sense. I know she had a favorite boyfriend. She still thinks of him while jilling??

She maybe if he was the one she really liked and remembered, But I want you to know that no matter what cock she liked best, who's did she choose? Yours. Gotta mean something. Don't you think?

 

[gregy70]

Women's bodies receive their first share of scrutiny whether we like it or not. In turn, we often overlook flaws in men or ego boost them, never wanting to hurt feelings or make them feel less than king like. This can lead to men having a false sense of self. For good or bad.

Do men ever want an honest opinion of their cocks?

I much prefer a honest opinion

 

[SissySalina]

As a sissy with a pathetic tiny clitty it has been an experience not to get such an honest opinion. Have had some to just giggle and others to ask where it is. One time one ask if it was in yet.
When it gets so small there is pure knowledge that the truth is not there when a woman says wow.

So sometimes honesty may be the best policy it is hard to support anything else with a straight face.

 

[CuttingEdge]

Women's bodies receive their first share of scrutiny whether we like it or not. In turn, we often overlook flaws in men or ego boost them, never wanting to hurt feelings or make them feel less than king like. This can lead to men having a false sense of self. For good or bad.

Do men ever want an honest opinion of their cocks?

I think you bring up an important point and that there is a huge double-standard when it comes to comparing women and men's bodies. But to say, "Do men ever want an honest opinion of their cocks?" narrows the judgement to genital regions only in comparison, and I think that is where it is more of a conceived problem then what it really is.

I think there is a huge segment of the male population that like a woman with a heavy chest, so I could see where a woman with a small chest would feel ostracized. But I think that i more perception than reality. I for one am not a breast man as I like a lady with nice legs, and always have said, "more than a mouthful is just waste" in terms of a ladies chest.

I am not alone in that.

I also do not see much comparison of a woman's sex from one lady to another; on here or in real life.

Men, as brawny and as tough as we like to appear to be, have egos that bruise easily and I think from a very early age woman adjust their behaviors for that.

My take is this: two wrongs do not make a right; so if a man says a snarky comment about a lady's chest size, then he is shallow and meanspirited and the lady should dispense with him and walk away. To do so in return, about the mans penis size, is just as as shallow and insensitive.

The truth should always be told, but the truth does not always have to be said either. By that I mean, a person should always be honest in whatever they say, but sometimes saying nothing is the moral high ground.

 

[SecretSucker]

I like the phrase "Honesty without compassion is brutality."

 

[Escierto]

I like the phrase "Honesty without compassion is brutality."

Exactly right!

 

[CTim]

It depends.

Confidence is a very attractive quality for both women and men so I feel like we should be finding ways to build our partners up, not bringing them down. I'm not saying we should lie, but there are ways to phrase things so we are focusing on good qualities.

Porn has completely distorted size expectations for both men and women. Something like 90% of cocks in the world are between 4.0 and 6.3 inches, yet porn makes a six incher look small. In addition, how a woman feels about her lovers cock size is entirely dependant on her previous experience. For example, a guy with a 6.5" cock is in the top five percent based on a compilation of several large world-wide studies. So if he and his wife want, they can have lots of erotic sex talk about her enjoying his "big cock". But wait a minute, what if his wife's ex husband was a lucky member of the top one percent club? Now his "big cock" is suddenly small in comparison if she's going to honest.

All that to say, if I've asked the question then I expect an honest answer. But in my opinion a question like this should be answered with some nuance, compassion, and positivity.

 

[Deleted member 1655181]

She maybe if he was the one she really liked and remembered, But I want you to know that no matter what cock she liked best, who's did she choose? Yours. Gotta mean something. Don't you think?

There's a lot more to it than the cock that's for sure. (She has admitted to thinking of that guy while jilling. I encourage it!!)

 

[Escierto]

It depends.

Confidence is a very attractive quality for both women and men so I feel like we should be finding ways to build our partners up, not bringing them down. I'm not saying we should lie, but there are ways to phrase things so we are focusing on good qualities.

Porn has completely distorted size expectations for both men and women. Something like 90% of cocks in the world are between 4.0 and 6.3 inches, yet porn makes a six incher look small. In addition, how a woman feels about her lovers cock size is entirely dependant on her previous experience. For example, a guy with a 6.5" cock is in the top five percent based on a compilation of several large world-wide studies. So if he and his wife want, they can have lots of erotic sex talk about her enjoying his "big cock". But wait a minute, what if his wife's ex husband was a lucky member of the top one percent club? Now his "big cock" is suddenly small in comparison if she's going to honest.

All that to say, if I've asked the question then I expect an honest answer. But in my opinion a question like this should be answered with some nuance, compassion, and positivity.

Yes, porn has distorted our ideas about size. My girlfriend was surprised when I told her that her seven and a half inches put her in the top percentages of cocks. She thought her cock was just average!

 

[Islander55]

If cock was the only thing that mattered, just buy a dildo. You can get the perfect size and they seldom talk back.

 

[Primalex]

I think you bring up an important point and that there is a huge double-standard when it comes to comparing women and men's bodies.

Tell this the next 5'4 guy.

 

[Primalex]

Do men ever want an honest opinion of their cocks?

Sure - they will let you know when.

 

[ebpts]

I know that all of my wife's previous bfs had bigger cocks than mine. It has been a challenge to deal with the feelings of inadequacy in that department, but it has lead to my cuck/hotwife fetish. We do enjoy it together, so in a sense we have navigated this and turned it into a fun positive aspect of our sex life.

She never has told me that my cock is inadequate and has said that it doesn't matter because she loves me, but I also know that the sex she had with her previous lovers was different because of their larger cocks.

As it has been said in other lit discussions on this topic, penis size does matter, but it's not the only thing. If it didn't matter we wouldn't be discussing it.

 

[zoso682001]

If cock was the only thing that mattered, just buy a dildo. You can get the perfect size and they seldom talk back.

...and you can put them in a drawer when you're done with them .

 

[policywank]

Women's bodies receive their first share of scrutiny whether we like it or not. In turn, we often overlook flaws in men or ego boost them, never wanting to hurt feelings or make them feel less than king like. This can lead to men having a false sense of self. For good or bad.

Do men ever want an honest opinion of their cocks?

Usually only if your opinion is what they want to hear.

Otherwise they would prefer that you redirect and avoid responding directly by answering a different imaginary question. They want you to say something like 'size isn't everything' or 'most guys aren't as big as what you see in porn'. Both are accurate statements that don't actually say anything at all about their cock.

Men may appreciate that we are trying to focus on the good but they see the way we dodge the question and they know what that implies. Imagine someone asks if you liked the pot roast they just served and you answer with something like "I can tell you put a lot of effort into it" or "I loved the potatoes" or "it is really hard to not overcook a pot roast" or "it isn't realistic for us all to cook like Jamie Oliver". Or maybe you can produce a study that says only a small fraction of chefs/cooks actually make a succulent pot roast. It doesn't really change the answer does it. They might appreciate the positive spin....but you haven't fooled them.

That is why guys keep asking and keep coming back to it. They want to believe the misdirect and they prefer it to the truly honest answer. But it isn't really satisfying.

 

[conquen]

Absolutely

I feel that honesty is essential especially with your SO. I have made many inquiries into my wifes sexual history and got some honest answers and some a bit diluted. She has described a few of her previous encounters., some were much larger, one was especially girthy, one was uncut which at the time she had no idea what she was looking at which gave us a good laugh and one was especially small. I have a text book average cock. I, like most men have wished at times it was bigger znd I believe it is a result of societal pressures. I am happy with my cock and I'm glad my wife got to sample a varied assortment. I would always welcome a detailed recounting of her experiences as well as an honest opinion of my cock. That being said, I know that for me, when in love any imperfections disappear. To me my wife is the most beautiful woman in the world. I hope she feels the same for me.