Moochie’s Mementos (and a pic or two)

[Moochienanu]

Oh! And not that I need an excuse, but I went out this morning, which is why I disappeared for a hot minute.

Tulips are such beautiful flowers.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Oh! And not that I need an excuse, but I went out this morning, which is why I disappeared for a hot minute.

Tulips are such beautiful flowers.

Context is everything. Great shot.

As for the hair thing?

My Grandpa went bald in his early twenties. My Dad in his early thirties. His brother around 40.

When my cousin started going bald at 16 I was worried. (My son may make 40)

I'm 62. If you saw my face pic on BDSM you will know I have a full head of (fading red) almost white hair.

Almost.

At my last haircut before lockdown (December) my barber of twenty-five years said "You're getting a bit thin". He used to complain about how hard it was to get through.

I have been obsessing about my hairline since.

Yep, male vanity is a thing.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Oh! And not that I need an excuse, but I went out this morning, which is why I disappeared for a hot minute.

Tulips are such beautiful flowers.

How crazy. I almost totally made appointment to go today. I am so glad they are open this year.

 

[SassySheDevil]

You make some great points, Sassy. I think the reason for you to quite possibly lose your hair (chemo) has a few differences because 1) it’s (hopefully) not permanent hair loss, and 2) it is seen as a strength to go through the rigors of cancer. Sure, it still doesn’t make you feel better to think about those things when you’re going through the process of it, but it does make it different than the people who have no hope of growing back their hair.

I do agree, society has such stupid things to say about what is beautiful and what isn’t. It would be so much simpler if we weren’t bombarded by images all the time of what those stickfigure women who swear by Pilates and have had four kids without a single stretch mark next to their Ken doll husbands with their 6-pack abs and full head of hair.

I struggle with how I look too. I don’t think you will find many people who are okay with every aspect of themselves. I think the point is, rather, to try to listen to the people who matter most when they tell us we are sexy and beautiful and have nice butts and beautiful eyes (which you do, btw).

I agree. But you asked why they get so insecure. I think the point is still valid. I think they get insecure because it has always been a part of them. To them. It is a part of who they are. Regardless if mine will come back. I just meant I think I understand the initial reason for insecurity.

And thank you.

From the real world:
Sassy your an awesome and sexy woman
Yes. Even without hair !!
Yes even with boob scars !!
To me. It's all about confidence.. You have already shown that it will come back to you
If it hasn't already !!
Stay the Sassy you are..
Gorgeous

Thank you. I appreciate that.

 

[y=mx+b]

I've been contemplating about how much of what's been discussed about the matter actually is a matter of vanity

I'm really not seeing it as one.

And to say that it is one is rather dismissive of another person's insecurity

If an unwanted change has come about an individual for whatever reason is there no valid reason for that person to be insecure?

Is it correct to tell them that their insecure concern is mere vanity and they should not put so much value into what they had lost?

Should we tell a person with crooked teeth they should accept and get over themselves? Not be so insecure about it? To not hide their smile from the camera?

 

[Todger65]

I think your beard is lovely and white (and you would make a great Father Christmas). This brings up another thing that actually started me thinking about this in the first place- my work is making it mandatory for all people with facial hair to clean shave (they’re siting the need for appropriate PPE) any time they work. I can’t imagine some of the men I know without their beards, it feels almost against nature!

Having had my beard since I was 17, it was never and is never an option to remove it, ever.

I know there are certain professions that clean shaven is mandatory, but this is written into the terms and conditions of the contract so you are aware of it before signing up. Firefighters is one that springs to mind as the need to wear breathing apparatus in noxious fumes etc. needs a perfect seal around the face, but apart from that, I don’t see the need.

In hospitals, if there has been recognised research to prove that you are more at risk of getting or passing on a virus or infection that a standard medical grade mask won’t stop, then there may be a case, but I have seen a lot of video and photos of medical staff wearing enclosed hoods linked to filtered air, negating the need to remove facial hair.

 

[Moochienanu]

Context is everything. Great shot.

As for the hair thing?

My Grandpa went bald in his early twenties. My Dad in his early thirties. His brother around 40.

When my cousin started going bald at 16 I was worried. (My son may make 40)

I'm 62. If you saw my face pic on BDSM you will know I have a full head of (fading red) almost white hair.

Almost.

At my last haircut before lockdown (December) my barber of twenty-five years said "You're getting a bit thin". He used to complain about how hard it was to get through.

I have been obsessing about my hairline since.

Yep, male vanity is a thing.

I am certainly not saying male vanity isn’t a thing, I know too many males to think otherwise. The issue I want to understand is why certain things like hairloss or saggy boobs (there. I said it. My boobs are saggy and I’m vain about it!) are the things we all seem to have vanity issues about.

 

[Moochienanu]

How crazy. I almost totally made appointment to go today. I am so glad they are open this year.

You should get out there, Sassy! Just go early. I went at a little after 0900 and it went well because they didn’t start filling up with people until about 1100. Although they are doing timed tickets, they are not counting how many people are in the gardens, so it got to be a bit much for my daughter and I after those two hours... but damn, do I love the flowers.

 

[Moochienanu]

I agree. But you asked why they get so insecure. I think the point is still valid. I think they get insecure because it has always been a part of them. To them. It is a part of who they are. Regardless if mine will come back. I just meant I think I understand the initial reason for insecurity.

And thank you.

Thank you. I appreciate that.

Ah, I agree your point is still valid: it is difficult to come to terms with a change in our bodies when that is a physical one which isn’t accepted by society as overarchingly “beautiful.”

 

[Moochienanu]

I've been contemplating about how much of what's been discussed about the matter actually is a matter of vanity

I'm really not seeing it as one.

And to say that it is one is rather dismissive of another person's insecurity

If an unwanted change has come about an individual for whatever reason is there no valid reason for that person to be insecure?

Is it correct to tell them that their insecure concern is mere vanity and they should not put so much value into what they had lost?

Should we tell a person with crooked teeth they should accept and get over themselves? Not be so insecure about it? To not hide their smile from the camera?

YES! This is the thought I’ve been looking for in this discussion!

Insecurity and vanity are two different things and learning to accept an unwanted change like hair loss either takes time or never happens, but the way others react to the change shapes our ability to accept it ourselves.

 

[Moochienanu]

Having had my beard since I was 17, it was never and is never an option to remove it, ever.

I know there are certain professions that clean shaven is mandatory, but this is written into the terms and conditions of the contract so you are aware of it before signing up. Firefighters is one that springs to mind as the need to wear breathing apparatus in noxious fumes etc. needs a perfect seal around the face, but apart from that, I don’t see the need.

In hospitals, if there has been recognised research to prove that you are more at risk of getting or passing on a virus or infection that a standard medical grade mask won’t stop, then there may be a case, but I have seen a lot of video and photos of medical staff wearing enclosed hoods linked to filtered air, negating the need to remove facial hair.

Yeah. We have plenty of PAPRs (the air filter hoods), so this is just the overarching “leadership” dictating another mandate to take away more of our self-expression while in the workplace. They already dictate our clothing, tattoos (or lack of), visible piercings, fingernail length, and many other aspects to our appearance. I’m hoping the union runs with this one, because it’s so unjustified.

 

[Joxlrg]

Oh! And not that I need an excuse, but I went out this morning, which is why I disappeared for a hot minute.

Tulips are such beautiful flowers.

They don't look like they are sagging to me !!!
Just saying
NICE FLOWERS!!

 

[Moochienanu]

Taken from my Musings so we can let it die

Is it really the smartest idea to post nudes so freely on a, site where anybody can see them?

Really ???
You pick your fifth post ever on this site to ask this??
Hey. If you don't like it
MOVE ON !!!

I like to think this was asked out of curiosity and to someone they feel will answer it openly.

It’s probably not really the smartest idea, no. I mean, I like to think I’m smart(ish) about the whole thing, but I’m sure I’ve slipped up and shared too much at some point (like the fact that my tits sag).

I try to be conscious of my backgrounds and I only post parts of me and pictures that I am comfortable with anyone seeing. For me, the issue comes when I share my feelings, my thoughts, my intimate interests... those are the things that make me feel very exposed, more than any nude pic.

 

[SassySheDevil]

You should get out there, Sassy! Just go early. I went at a little after 0900 and it went well because they didn’t start filling up with people until about 1100. Although they are doing timed tickets, they are not counting how many people are in the gardens, so it got to be a bit much for my daughter and I after those two hours... but damn, do I love the flowers.

Good to know. I had almost scheduled for 10-11
It looked like it might get pretty Chaotic right now. The warnings of traffic and such.
Thank you.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

So much to unpack here.

Being a US Military brat, I know the life well, and I have never had such a thing said to me before about the haircut. Perhaps it is a generational thing? I just don’t remember any of my friends who went in or my relatives for that matter, being picked on because their haircut said newbie... if anything I remember them needing to get a cut quite often to stay in regs, and I remember so many growing beards and goatees after getting out because they weren’t allowed to have them while in.

I also have never been in places where anyone would mutter a slur like that. I am from the west coast (mainly), and didn’t get a lot of that kind of exposure.

Bleaching your head blonde is what they do to you in prison? I am so confused now... maybe I shouldn’t have poked this bear!

Yes generationally, a example would be men with a combat mos , Marine *seamen have / had a certain hair cut while Army rangers had theirs. It’s not about being “ picked on “ more like being jumped into a gang. Hazing , Platoon is a movie that shows this example. Oliver Stone does / did a really good job of getting things out , and on film in his body of work.

 

[Shenanigans90]

I’ve been thinking about a thing.
It’s a sensitive subject, so I don’t know if this is really the place for it...

But seriously, what is it about balding that makes men upset/insecure?

It’s not like you have any control over it.
It doesn’t make you less attractive, I mean, if anything it’s like the grey that makes you look more distinguished.
It doesn’t mean your personality changed (you know, the part that makes me want you).
Your head hair, or lack of it, doesn’t have anything to do with how masculine or manly other people perceive you.

Also, most of your target demographic is short (like me), so even in heels we will likely not be seeing that side of you unless it is between our legs... and we’re not going to be complaining about anything when you’re there.

I think it gives you a realization that you are losing your youth and a fear of being socially unaccepted. My hair started thinning a few years back. I opted to shave it all off instead of going with the thinning look. I have seen guys totally rock both looks so I think you should go with what makes you feel more confident. It took a while to get used to my new look and I felt like everyone was staring at me until I got comfortable with it. Some women love the bald look and and some would never consider dating a bald man. If me being bald is a deal breaker then there would be no hard feelings.

 

[Moochienanu]

I wait for you
Never letting this mind
Let go of the feeling
Falling ever further,
Deeper into that space where
Your eyes see me
Your hands touch me
Your words reach me
Your love encloses me,
Tight into that spot
Of being full of you again,
Anticipating the time
When this wait is over

 

[Moochienanu]

I think it gives you a realization that you are losing your youth and a fear of being socially unaccepted. My hair started thinning a few years back. I opted to shave it all off instead of going with the thinning look. I have seen guys totally rock both looks so I think you should go with what makes you feel more confident. It took a while to get used to my new look and I felt like everyone was staring at me until I got comfortable with it. Some women love the bald look and and some would never consider dating a bald man. If me being bald is a deal breaker then there would be no hard feelings.

Thank you for adding your personal thoughts to this conversation. I really appreciate it.

 

[y=mx+b]

...and then there is the whole physiological aspect of the deal.

What you don't realize until after the fact is just how protective hair is from random impacts and low hanging branches

It seems to me that with the loss of hair that the skin also loses a degree of resiliency.

Any scratch across the dome of course results in a scab. Which you'll have until forever decides to end and everyone is like "What happened?"

Thermo regulation is another huge issue. Quick run to the mailbox in the winter time? Forget it. You're Mother Winter's little bitch. Summer time? The dandruff you had with hair is no competition to the sheets of skin you'll be pulling off with tweezers once the sunburn has healed.

And if your like me, after the sunburn has healed you'll be gifted with a nice blotchy freckled pattern for the rest of summer/your life.

So... then you wear hats. And everyone is like "why do you wear hats all the time?" And you say (or they see you with your hat off) and the defacto assumption is because you are trying to hide your hair loss. When in reality it's just a protection measure.


All this to say the insecurity over hair loss is not just a matter of vanity. It's a matter of having to deal with unforseen bullshit on the daily.

 

[pantyboidoe]

I wait for you
Never letting this mind
Let go of the feeling
Falling ever further,
Deeper into that space where
Your eyes see me
Your hands touch me
Your words reach me
Your love encloses me,
Tight into that spot
Of being full of you again,
Anticipating the time
When this wait is over

these moments have always been the toughest to let go
the ache for a smell and a taste
the reminders that overbear on certain weather(ed) days

your photos always reflect the words so wonderfully.

 

[Todger65]

I wait for you
Never letting this mind
Let go of the feeling
Falling ever further,
Deeper into that space where
Your eyes see me
Your hands touch me
Your words reach me
Your love encloses me,
Tight into that spot
Of being full of you again,
Anticipating the time
When this wait is over

Looking forward to the time when you meet with Him again.

 

[BadAmy]

I wait for you
Never letting this mind
Let go of the feeling
Falling ever further,
Deeper into that space where
Your eyes see me
Your hands touch me
Your words reach me
Your love encloses me,
Tight into that spot
Of being full of you again,
Anticipating the time
When this wait is over

what a beautiful poem and pic
xxo

 

[Shenanigans90]

I wait for you
Never letting this mind
Let go of the feeling
Falling ever further,
Deeper into that space where
Your eyes see me
Your hands touch me
Your words reach me
Your love encloses me,
Tight into that spot
Of being full of you again,
Anticipating the time
When this wait is over

This is a touching poem and you are a very beautiful woman. I would say that the subject of the poem is a very lucky person. Thank you for sharing.

 

[Moochienanu]

...and then there is the whole physiological aspect of the deal.

What you don't realize until after the fact is just how protective hair is from random impacts and low hanging branches

It seems to me that with the loss of hair that the skin also loses a degree of resiliency.

Any scratch across the dome of course results in a scab. Which you'll have until forever decides to end and everyone is like "What happened?"

Thermo regulation is another huge issue. Quick run to the mailbox in the winter time? Forget it. You're Mother Winter's little bitch. Summer time? The dandruff you had with hair is no competition to the sheets of skin you'll be pulling off with tweezers once the sunburn has healed.

And if your like me, after the sunburn has healed you'll be gifted with a nice blotchy freckled pattern for the rest of summer/your life.

So... then you wear hats. And everyone is like "why do you wear hats all the time?" And you say (or they see you with your hat off) and the defacto assumption is because you are trying to hide your hair loss. When in reality it's just a protection measure.


All this to say the insecurity over hair loss is not just a matter of vanity. It's a matter of having to deal with unforseen bullshit on the daily.

This is something I hadn’t considered: the elements add another element to the loss.

Thank you for sharing your experience with me.

 

[Rapha_79]

Your last picture post is incredible. You have a beautiful body.