searching for you

[sarah_searches]

Hello, litizens! 51 MWF here, looking for a married man between the ages of 41 and 61 who has some space in his heart for another. Someone who is looking for more than a friend, more than a playmate.

You, like me: intelligent (though not necessarily in a "conventional" way), kind-hearted, interested and able to hold meaningful conversations and ask thought-provoking questions, willing to share, sincere, honest, direct, and do not take yourself too seriously.

From what I understand from lurking around these personals for the past many months, this ad may attract a lot of attention. Pro-tip: you are more likely to hear back from me if your pm piques my interest in some way.

 

[filt]

As someone 4 years beneath your age threshold and only “common law” married, I’m no use to you. However, to weed the wheat from the chaff, allowing the cream (seems pertinent here) to rise to the top, separate the thirst mongers from the genuine, creatively exceptional decent folk throw out a morsel or two; where are you from, what do you enjoy doing with yourself in freer, Covid free times?

Partly because I’m nosey and partly because as this is your first post the good folk don’t have previous posts to go on to send you an interest piquing missive.

Good luck.

 

[Docg915]

Hello, litizens! 51 MWF here, looking for a married man between the ages of 41 and 61 who has some space in his heart for another. Someone who is looking for more than a friend, more than a playmate.

You, like me: intelligent (though not necessarily in a "conventional" way), kind-hearted, interested and able to hold meaningful conversations and ask thought-provoking questions, willing to share, sincere, honest, direct, and do not take yourself too seriously.

From what I understand from lurking around these personals for the past many months, this ad may attract a lot of attention. Pro-tip: you are more likely to hear back from me if your pm piques my interest in some way.

Sarah Searches,
I am surprised that your post has not garnered more attention. Or maybe it has, but only in your PMs. Either way, I hope you find what you are looking for. Everything that you posted seems reasonable.
D

 

[MorpheusLunar]

Hello, litizens! 51 MWF here, looking for a married man between the ages of 41 and 61 who has some space in his heart for another. Someone who is looking for more than a friend, more than a playmate.

You, like me: intelligent (though not necessarily in a "conventional" way), kind-hearted, interested and able to hold meaningful conversations and ask thought-provoking questions, willing to share, sincere, honest, direct, and do not take yourself too seriously.

From what I understand from lurking around these personals for the past many months, this ad may attract a lot of attention. Pro-tip: you are more likely to hear back from me if your pm piques my interest in some way.

Well then, I do believe me self to be qualified on all accounts. Interesting it is that you request specifically married. More than a friend, more than a playmate, what does that articulate to? What then a travel partner, by chance a business venture.... what prey tell could be the more thou seekest?

 

[sarah_searches]

my most "noteworthy" response so far

Thanks to those of you who have put yourself out there and made yourself vulnerable enough to respond. I have in fact been inundated with pms, and I am slowly working through messages. I may not respond to everyone, but I mean no disrespect. If you feel we might click, I still encourage you to drop me a pm.

I definitely will not be responding to the litser [handle redacted to protect the guilty] who, fewer than 24 hours after sending a pleasant enough initial message, wrote this:

"Fuck off douche for not responding sooner. You've had plenty of time. Dip shit! Fat ass!"

Thank you, sir, for cutting through the bullshit quickly. It truly is much appreciated.

 

[Frustratedbutfascinated]

Yikes, but as you said, saved you the time of learning bad attitudes later.

 

[MorpheusLunar]

Thanks to those of you who have put yourself out there and made yourself vulnerable enough to respond. I have in fact been inundated with pms, and I am slowly working through messages. I may not respond to everyone, but I mean no disrespect. If you feel we might click, I still encourage you to drop me a pm.

I definitely will not be responding to the litser [handle redacted to protect the guilty] who, fewer than 24 hours after sending a pleasant enough initial message, wrote this:

"Fuck off douche for not responding sooner. You've had plenty of time. Dip shit! Fat ass!"

Thank you, sir, for cutting through the bullshit quickly. It truly is much appreciated.

It would appear that your genteel "sir" to the bard is quite generous indeed.

 

[filt]

Thanks to those of you who have put yourself out there and made yourself vulnerable enough to respond. I have in fact been inundated with pms, and I am slowly working through messages. I may not respond to everyone, but I mean no disrespect. If you feel we might click, I still encourage you to drop me a pm.

I definitely will not be responding to the litser [handle redacted to protect the guilty] who, fewer than 24 hours after sending a pleasant enough initial message, wrote this:

"Fuck off douche for not responding sooner. You've had plenty of time. Dip shit! Fat ass!"

Thank you, sir, for cutting through the bullshit quickly. It truly is much appreciated.

Then I wonder why men here get a tough gig with a lack of response to pm’s and personals.

Fucking astonishing. What a guy.

 

[fitandfresh]

Thanks to those of you who have put yourself out there and made yourself vulnerable enough to respond. I have in fact been inundated with pms, and I am slowly working through messages. I may not respond to everyone, but I mean no disrespect. If you feel we might click, I still encourage you to drop me a pm.

I definitely will not be responding to the litser [handle redacted to protect the guilty] who, fewer than 24 hours after sending a pleasant enough initial message, wrote this:

"Fuck off douche for not responding sooner. You've had plenty of time. Dip shit! Fat ass!"

Thank you, sir, for cutting through the bullshit quickly. It truly is much appreciated.

Well done Sarah.....couldn't have put it better myself. On behalf of the majority of guys on here I apologise. In saying that sure hope I hear back from you .

 

[filt]

Well done Sarah.....couldn't have put it better myself. On behalf of the majority of guys on here I apologise. In saying that sure hope I hear back from you .

If not, slaughter her so she copies it into the thread.

Think of it as a read receipt?

Before we get offend, I jest.

 

[sexywriterfla]

Thanks to those of you who have put yourself out there and made yourself vulnerable enough to respond. I have in fact been inundated with pms, and I am slowly working through messages. I may not respond to everyone, but I mean no disrespect. If you feel we might click, I still encourage you to drop me a pm.

I definitely will not be responding to the litser [handle redacted to protect the guilty] who, fewer than 24 hours after sending a pleasant enough initial message, wrote this:

"Fuck off douche for not responding sooner. You've had plenty of time. Dip shit! Fat ass!"

Thank you, sir, for cutting through the bullshit quickly. It truly is much appreciated.

Jesus, what a total dick. I'm sure he's busy impressing others with his, um, sheer erotic class and rapier wit. Obviously, there's much better choices out there.

 

[RobertCalifornia]

Another one for the pile

...... sent you a pm ;-)

 

[abvt75]

If your inbox has space me , I am from Chicago but younger than the age you sought earlier. 38 and married

 

[skirt_chaser]

Tried to PM you, but your inbox is full. Would love to converse and connect.

 

[basic_desires]

Thanks to those of you who have put yourself out there and made yourself vulnerable enough to respond. I have in fact been inundated with pms, and I am slowly working through messages. I may not respond to everyone, but I mean no disrespect. If you feel we might click, I still encourage you to drop me a pm.

I definitely will not be responding to the litser [handle redacted to protect the guilty] who, fewer than 24 hours after sending a pleasant enough initial message, wrote this:

"Fuck off douche for not responding sooner. You've had plenty of time. Dip shit! Fat ass!"

Thank you, sir, for cutting through the bullshit quickly. It truly is much appreciated.

I do love a good mystery If the initial message was pleasant enough I wonder what caused the sender's frame of mind to deteriorate to such a low level...was it an alcohol fuelled self hating rage, a weed induced haze cancelling all social filters, a mental breakdown due to Covid restrictions...needless to say he did not endear himself but why did it happen....

 

[KatieDoes]

I do love a good mystery If the initial message was pleasant enough I wonder what caused the sender's frame of mind to deteriorate to such a low level...was it an alcohol fuelled self hating rage, a weed induced haze cancelling all social filters, a mental breakdown due to Covid restrictions...needless to say he did not endear himself but why did it happen....

Because a lot of men feel entitled to women.
When they aren’t immediately swooned over as they feel they deserve, they push back with insults and ugliness.
There’s zero need to try to explain or excuse it.
Every single woman here has dealt with multiples of this guy.
The ‘why’ is that he doesn’t view women as actual people. Nothing changed. He just quit pretending when pretending didn’t work.

 

[Thom_the_gleeman]

Though this is always a very valid discussion, I di find myself wondering g wat sparked it in the first place as this thread seems to be months old.

 

[jaycolt]

A Response since your inbox is full….

Sarah,

Hello. I read your following post: and was sending you a message, but found your inbox to be full.

Since it was full I will respond here to “searching for you”:

In some ways I feel answering a post is like submitting a resume, but I hope it does not come across in that manner.

I am 55 years old, married (but my spouse does know I am on Lit) and would very certainly enjoy interaction with a kind, decent and honest in conversation lady. I really like how you phrase it as “more than a friend.. more than a playmate.” I would like that myself.

I am drawn to want to converse with a lady whom I can be honest with about my feelings, thoughts and desires (and not just sexual) and, in turn, listen to yours as well.

A little bit more about me… I work in state government as an administrator, have a graduate degree and enjoy a wide variety of activities and interests. This summer I checked off a bucket list item of going up in a biplane. It was great and I will certainly want to do it again.

What has been your favorite experience or activity you have done or experienced so far this year?

I hope to hear back from you.

Thank you,

Jay

 

[Deleted member 5521640]

Because a lot of men feel entitled to women.
When they aren’t immediately swooned over as they feel they deserve, they push back with insults and ugliness.
There’s zero need to try to explain or excuse it.
Every single woman here has dealt with multiples of this guy.
The ‘why’ is that he doesn’t view women as actual people. Nothing changed. He just quit pretending when pretending didn’t work.

Unfortunately this is the modus operandi for a lot of desperate men on Lit who prowl the personals for fresh meat to beat off to. When they don't get their way they throw a tantrum like a three year old. It's probably why the OP hasn't posted since March. She probably got a shitload of these losers pummeling her inbox. Nice way to endear themselves to her

Though this is always a very valid discussion, I did find myself wondering g wat sparked it in the first place as this thread seems to be months old.

You'd have to ask the one who resurrected this thread a couple posts above. I suspect horniness and/or desperation. Throw enough shit on a wall, something will stick sooner or later.

I see the OP logged in earlier today, so she's still around. I'd like to see what her take on all of this. She might have some interesting things to share if she was a mind to do so.

 

[sarah_searches]

Lady JS gets me.

I was both overwhelmed and underwhelmed by the initial responses. The douchebaggery of some of the responses didn't really put me off....I don't enjoy such, but have come to expect it.

I'm still around because I am still searching, though more quietly this time around. I answer an ad from time to time. Or occasionally someone would respond to my OP, even though it had been off the front page for months. Getting to know more than one or two people at a time is unsustainable for me, it turns out, so this more dialed-down approach has been much better in many regards (though thus far the outcome is still the same--but I am keeping my eyes open and enjoying the discovery along way).

Wishing everyone on here engaged in a search something that ends up enhancing their experience!

 

[happyhouror2]

Lady JS gets me.

I was both overwhelmed and underwhelmed by the initial responses. The douchebaggery of some of the responses didn't really put me off....I don't enjoy such, but have come to expect it.

I'm still around because I am still searching, though more quietly this time around. I answer an ad from time to time. Or occasionally someone would respond to my OP, even though it had been off the front page for months. Getting to know more than one or two people at a time is unsustainable for me, it turns out, so this more dialed-down approach has been much better in many regards (though thus far the outcome is still the same--but I am keeping my eyes open and enjoying the discovery along way).

Wishing everyone on here engaged in a search something that ends up enhancing their experience!

Sarah, I do want to talk...your inbox is full.

 

[PageWriter2]

Message sent

 

[happyhouror2]

Thanks to those of you who have put yourself out there and made yourself vulnerable enough to respond. I have in fact been inundated with pms, and I am slowly working through messages. I may not respond to everyone, but I mean no disrespect. If you feel we might click, I still encourage you to drop me a pm.

I definitely will not be responding to the litser [handle redacted to protect the guilty] who, fewer than 24 hours after sending a pleasant enough initial message, wrote this:

"Fuck off douche for not responding sooner. You've had plenty of time. Dip shit! Fat ass!"

Thank you, sir, for cutting through the bullshit quickly. It truly is much appreciated.

lol. I love your post...and F him...well, don't F him,he is a pig...

 

[Deleted member 5521640]

Lady JS gets me.

I was both overwhelmed and underwhelmed by the initial responses. The douchebaggery of some of the responses didn't really put me off....I don't enjoy such, but have come to expect it.

I'm still around because I am still searching, though more quietly this time around. I answer an ad from time to time. Or occasionally someone would respond to my OP, even though it had been off the front page for months. Getting to know more than one or two people at a time is unsustainable for me, it turns out, so this more dialed-down approach has been much better in many regards (though thus far the outcome is still the same--but I am keeping my eyes open and enjoying the discovery along way).

Wishing everyone on here engaged in a search something that ends up enhancing their experience!

It sounds like you have a good strategy for moving forward. I wish you all the best in your search.

 

[Jla13]

In box is full, but here goes -- As a sapiophile, your post resonated with me. I enjoy philosophical, political, satirical, and fulfilling conversations, as well as goofy sophomoric and immature chats. I love to please laugh and make others laugh. Endorphins from laughter and sex - what a combo. I guess I'm just a kinky Renaissance man. I'd love to chat and develop a friendship. I'm 51 in a sexless marriage. Hope to hear from you.