New faces, come say hello....

[LittleSammie]

Heya! I lurked Lit for quite a while now, and decided to try and make a comeback after some personal non-lit related problems.

So! I'm Samantha, but please call me Sam. I am a Functioning Adult(tm) with a dark side. Nowadays I.. adore feet. I love it when I get to pamper a partner's feet and when they do the same to mine. I've also since learned the difference between a bully and a good D/s relationship. I've tried my hand (and feet ) at Dominating, but found out I'm much more of a sub. I adore being hurt and serving a Master and I have many as of yet unfulfilled fantasies down that alley.

I have now.. written way more than I intended to, but yeah.. hi all!

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Heya! I lurked Lit for quite a while now, and decided to try and make a comeback after some personal non-lit related problems.

So! I'm Samantha, but please call me Sam....I love it when I get to pamper a partner's feet and when they do the same to mine. I've also since learned the difference between a bully and a good D/s relationship. I've tried my hand (and feet ) at Dominating, but found out I'm much more of a sub. I adore being hurt and serving a Master and I have many as of yet unfulfilled fantasies down that alley.

I have now.. written way more than I intended to, but yeah.. hi all!

Welcome to Lit, Samantha. I do hope that you enjoy yourself. I look forward to eating about your exploits and adventures.

 

[thesaint79]

Like Minds

Heya! I lurked Lit for quite a while now, and decided to try and make a comeback after some personal non-lit related problems.

So! I'm Samantha, but please call me Sam....I love it when I get to pamper a partner's feet and when they do the same to mine. I've also since learned the difference between a bully and a good D/s relationship. I've tried my hand (and feet ) at Dominating, but found out I'm much more of a sub. I adore being hurt and serving a Master and I have many as of yet unfulfilled fantasies down that alley.

I have now.. written way more than I intended to, but yeah.. hi all!

Welcome Samantha, Feet and BDSM are some of my favorites too! Look forward to reading more from you.

 

[LittleSammie]

Welcome to Lit, Samantha. I do hope that you enjoy yourself. I look forward to eating about your exploits and adventures.

Welcome Samantha, Feet and BDSM are some of my favorites too! Look forward to reading more from you.

Thanks guys! You make me feel very welcome

 

[bjhass]

I'm not new but I've been away for a while. So this is me saying hello to E/everyone.

 

[Little_Horny_Redhead]

Only recently started posting and looking around on the forums so

"Hi everyone"

 

[Chiefjon066]

Hey all, just joined recently, discovering all there is to see here and I love it.

 

[BlueCollarGirl]

Hi y'all. I've been around a little bit, mostly hanging out on the SRP board, but wanted to dip my toes in here, too.

 

[BluegrassBelle]

Just saying " Hello". I've lurked on and off for a while but decided to actually start posting recently.
I'm always interested on good conversation on this topic and feel like there's lots I can learn from those who have been in the lifestyle. I'm not looking for a " hook-up" or role playing, just hoping to become part of a community and broaden my horizons.

 

[Kit_ten]

Hi, I'm looking for a writer

I'm totally new here. I usually just read Literotica stories to get off and this sparked my curiosity. I'm looking for a writer to write a lil story for me, and I will perhaps write one back.

Kinks for the story should include stuff like light misogyny, BDSM, S/M etc. If interested, just pop me a DM. Just note I won't always be online and may take a while (days) to reply due to my busy lifestyle. I'm pansexual so any gender welcome

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I'm totally new here. I usually just read Literotica stories to get off and this sparked my curiosity. I'm looking for a writer to write a lil story for me, and I will perhaps write one back.

Kinks for the story should include stuff like light misogyny, BDSM, S/M etc. If interested, just pop me a DM. Just note I won't always be online and may take a while (days) to reply due to my busy lifestyle. I'm pansexual so any gender welcome

Welcome! We are glad that you are here!

 

[MartaMaine]

Didn't see this thread when I joined so a bit late. Signed up initially to share my stories but then discovered the forum.

Was straight until a few years into my thirties when I discovered the delights of other women. I wouldn't say I'm gay but I haven't sampled the male of the species for a number of years.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Didn't see this thread when I joined so a bit late. Signed up initially to share my stories but then discovered the forum.

Was straight until a few years into my thirties when I discovered the delights of other women. I wouldn't say I'm gay but I haven't sampled the male of the species for a number of years.

Glad you are here!!!

 

[MartaMaine]

Glad you are here!!!

Thank you

Just realised what section this is in, the perils of using New Posts lol. Ah well, hello anyway.

 

[DVS]

Didn't see this thread when I joined so a bit late. Signed up initially to share my stories but then discovered the forum.

Was straight until a few years into my thirties when I discovered the delights of other women. I wouldn't say I'm gay but I haven't sampled the male of the species for a number of years.

Were you looking for a lesbian centered forum? I think we have at least one of those here. But, depending on what your stories are about, maybe you could have one woman dominating another woman, and boom, you have the beginnings of a BDSM story.

I don't know if you like to write what you enjoy. That's the way I am. I've tried to write stories that wouldn't normally excite me, but of course, it's not nearly as much fun. Stories I find interesting can sometimes just write themselves. I sit back and watch how the characters evolve.

You do know that a very sensual scene can arise from one partner tying the other one up. Then, taking her time to run her fingers all over her bound body, inserting when the thought arises, maybe touching everything but that most sensitive little bud, to driver your partner crazy.

Maybe getting some ice, strawberries, a small vibrator, and other things your imagination comes up with and spend a couple of hours using her body as a canvas or just looking for those areas that when touched in a certain way, her body enjoys it just a little too much.

So, you have to calm down, and let her relax. Eventually, you begin again and take her to that level again. It can become a love hate situation where she hates what you do to her, but loves how it feels. Eventually, it can be a benefit that she's tied down, because of the powerful orgasm you can bring out of her.

And remember...she can maybe tie you down next time. This is still considered BDSM, but very mild BDSM. Mostly because bondage is involved, but also because mild torment and denial of orgasm is also involved.

Sure, you eventually give her a powerful orgasm. You should never deny her too long. In time, you both will know more about this and when it's been too long. And it doesn't mean that you have to stop once she's had one orgasm. Go for two or three...or six.
But, even if you aren't interested in BDSM, it's still nice to meet you.

 

[MartaMaine]

Were you looking for a lesbian centered forum? I think we have at least one of those here. But, depending on what your stories are about, maybe you could have one woman dominating another woman, and boom, you have the beginnings of a BDSM story.

I don't know if you like to write what you enjoy. That's the way I am. I've tried to write stories that wouldn't normally excite me, but of course, it's not nearly as much fun. Stories I find interesting can sometimes just write themselves. I sit back and watch how the characters evolve.

You do know that a very sensual scene can arise from one partner tying the other one up. Then, taking her time to run her fingers all over her bound body, inserting when the thought arises, maybe touching everything but that most sensitive little bud, to driver your partner crazy.

Maybe getting some ice, strawberries, a small vibrator, and other things your imagination comes up with and spend a couple of hours using her body as a canvas or just looking for those areas that when touched in a certain way, her body enjoys it just a little too much.

So, you have to calm down, and let her relax. Eventually, you begin again and take her to that level again. It can become a love hate situation where she hates what you do to her, but loves how it feels. Eventually, it can be a benefit that she's tied down, because of the powerful orgasm you can bring out of her.

And remember...she can maybe tie you down next time. This is still considered BDSM, but very mild BDSM. Mostly because bondage is involved, but also because mild torment and denial of orgasm is also involved.

Sure, you eventually give her a powerful orgasm. You should never deny her too long. In time, you both will know more about this and when it's been too long. And it doesn't mean that you have to stop once she's had one orgasm. Go for two or three...or six.
But, even if you aren't interested in BDSM, it's still nice to meet you.

Thank you for your detailed reply

I will admit, BDSM isn't something I'd considered but your post has given me food for thought.

 

[DVS]

Thank you for your detailed reply

I will admit, BDSM isn't something I'd considered but your post has given me food for thought.

Yes, I understand. Whether this is your reason or not, many people aren't drawn to BDSM, because they see it as full of pain, sadism, and forced sex and slaves, when those are all just areas of BDSM.

BDSM has become a combined group of sexual deviations or fetishes. The B stands for Bondage. The D stands for Domination. The S stands for Sadism and the M stands for Masochism. But, the D also stands for Dominant and the S also stands for submissive.

So, you have B/d, S/m and D/s. And of all of these areas, there are sub groups and spin offs of most anything you can imagine. And what most people have found out, when getting involved in BDSM activities, they find it's only a starting point...a label.

After the basics are understood, every couple will ultimately create their own labels. They might like a little bondage, but not to the point of dominating someone and having that other partner submitting. They like the idea of tying their partner up, but it's mostly for their own personal reasons...maybe to take control of someone's body so they can give them more pleasure, without interruption.

Yes, to someone on the outside, it can be seen as bondage for the sake of dominating, but to the couple involved, maybe one person enjoys her partner's body so much, she enjoys taking her time and relishing the pleasure of pleasuring her.

And maybe that partner tends to be skittish or can't lay still and let her partner give her pleasure. Some people just like to participate in everything. Sometimes that's good, but there are other times, when someone might want to do it alone, if nothing else, to show her partner how much she cares for her. Giving someone the ultimate orgasm is one of the ways I find great pleasure. I'd guess I'm not alone in that.

Here at Lit we had a former member who understood that labels are just that...labels. We had new people come here and thought they had to follow all of the traits of being a submissive, or they had to have a avatar that showed them as a Master or a Lord, even though they were just a newbie at any form of domination.

That can be scary, if you are a new submissive and are expecting this guy who calls himself a Master to take care of the scene and take care of you. In fact, you have two people who really know squat about safety and while the submissive expects her dominant to know the ropes because he is a so called "Master" at it, he has an ego and he doesn't want to admit that he knows nothing, either.

So, a phrase was developed by Angelic Assassin, that former member. He used three initials. If you wanted to be considered a dominant personality, you used PYL. That stands for pick your label. Capital letters signifies the dominant trait and it just leaves the whole thing open and doesn't force anybody into any set label rules as a dominant.

If you considered yourself as a submissive personality, you used lower case letters...pyl. It means the same thing, but everybody knows that because they are lower case letters, you are leaning towards being submissive. Other than that, you are not saying much more.

So many things can be involved in the label submissive. Many assume you will submit to any dominant and that's not true. Many assume you will allow any dominant to control you his own way. That's also not true.

Most submissives will only be able to submit to a particular type of dominant or even a particular dominant. And the thing is the submissive decides that, not the dominant. Also, there are set rules, both soft and hard limits that the submissive sets and the dominant must follow those limits if he/she expects that submissive to trust him/her.

Trust is the most important aspect of any relationship, but even more for a BDSM relationship. The dominant is responsible for safety. Those limits are there for a reason. Also, safe words are decided. If that trust is broken, someone (usually the submissive) could get hurt. It's next to impossible to repair the damage of a broken trust.

That goes back to the two new people...the new dominant and the new submissive. That's really a catastrophe waiting to happen, because of trust. If the dominant doesn't listen to the submissive or keep his/her eyes on what's happening, the submissive could get hurt. Something as simple as a cramp, or maybe a rope is too tight.

But, I've wandered off topic a little bit. The label BDSM has so many parts to it. Some are very dark, yet some can be whatever you want them to be. It doesn't even have to be BDSM, in your set of rules.

You can say bondage is not for control or domination, in the sense of those words, but to allow one partner to have full access to the other partner's body...and maybe even mind, in order to give her the best pleasure possible and the most powerful orgasm. After all, isn't that why we're all seeking that special partner who tweaks our inner desires?

Sorry, I can talk. I can also type very fast, so it takes no time at all for something to go from my mind to post. Because of that, many of my posts go unread. Of course, I consider that their loss.

 

[MartaMaine]

Yes, I understand. Whether this is your reason or not, many people aren't drawn to BDSM, because they see it as full of pain, sadism, and forced sex and slaves, when those are all just areas of BDSM.

BDSM has become a combined group of sexual deviations or fetishes. The B stands for Bondage. The D stands for Domination. The S stands for Sadism and the M stands for Masochism. But, the D also stands for Domination and the S also stands for submission.

So, you have B/d, S/m and D/s. And of all of these areas, there are sub groups and spin offs of most anything you can imagine. And what most people have found out, when getting involved in BDSM activities, they find it's only a starting point...a label.

After the basics are understood, every couple will ultimately create their own labels. They might like a little bondage, but not to the point of dominating someone and having that other partner submitting. They like the idea of tying their partner up, but it's mostly for their own personal reasons...maybe to take control of someone's body so they can give them more pleasure, without interruption.

Yes, to someone on the outside, it can be seen as bondage for the sake of dominating, but to the couple involved, maybe one person enjoys her partner's body so much, she enjoys taking her time and relishing the pleasure of pleasuring her.

And maybe that partner tends to be skittish or can't lay still and let her partner give her pleasure. Some people just like to participate in everything. Sometimes that's good, but there are other times, when someone might want to do it alone, if nothing else, to show her partner how much she cares for her. Giving someone the ultimate orgasm is one of the ways I find great pleasure. I'd guess I'm not alone in that.

Here at Lit we had a former member who understood that labels are just that...labels. We had new people come here and thought they had to follow all of the traits of being a submissive, or they had to have a avatar that showed them as a Master or a Lord, even though they were just a newbie at any form of domination.

That can be scary, if you are a new submissive and are expecting this guy who calls himself a Master to take care of the scene and take care of you. In fact, you have two people who really know squat about safety and while the submissive expects her dominant to know the ropes because he is a so called "Master" at it, he has an ego and he doesn't want to admit that he knows nothing, either.

So, a phrase was developed by Angelic Assassin, that former member. He used three initials. If you wanted to be considered a dominant personality, you used PYL. That stands for pick your label. Capital letters signifies the dominant trait and it just leaves the whole thing open and doesn't force anybody into any set label rules as a dominant.

If you considered yourself as a submissive personality, you used lower case letters...pyl. It means the same thing, but everybody knows that because they are lower case letters, you are leaning towards being submissive. Other than that, you are not saying much more.

So many things can be involved in the label submissive. Many assume you will submit to any dominant and that's not true. Many assume you will allow any dominant to control you his own way. That's also not true.

Most submissive will only be able to submit to a particular dominant. And the thing is they decide that, not the dominant. Also, there are set rules, both soft and hard limits that the submissive sets and the dominant must follow those limits if he/she expects that submissive to trust him/her.

Trust is the most important aspect of any relationship, but even more for a BDSM relationship. If someone breaks that trust, it's next to impossible to repair the damage. That goes back to the two new people...the new dominant and the new submissive. That's really a catastrophe waiting to happen, because of trust. It can also end up with someone getting hurt.

But, I've wandered off topic a little bit. The label BDSM has so many parts to it. Some are very dark, yet some can be whatever you want them to be. It doesn't even have to be BDSM, in your set of rules.

You can say bondage is not for control or domination in that sense of the words, but to allow one partner to have full access to the other partner's body...and maybe even mind, in order to give her the best pleasure possible and the most powerful orgasm. After all, isn't that why we're all seeking that special partner who tweaks our inner desires?

Sorry, I can talk. I can also type very fast, so it takes no time at all for something to go from my mind to post. Because of that, many of my posts go unread. Of course, I consider that their loss.

Well I, for one, thank you for your post.

I must confess that, before I read your posts, the first thing that came into my mind was Gimp suits, ball gags, whips and chains but I'm always happy to be educated.

 

[DVS]

Well I, for one, thank you for your post.

I must confess that, before I read your posts, the first thing that came into my mind was Gimp suits, ball gags, whips and chains but I'm always happy to be educated.

See, Angelic Assassin knew these things needed clarification. Nothing against those who like gimp suits (I had to look that one up), but I enjoy ball gags and the occasional whip and even chains...all within reason and their place, of course.

But that's the whole idea. I'm very much a dominant. I've known since I was very, very young. I didn't have a word for it, I just knew the feelings and how and why I was attracted to girls my age.

As I aged, I found out the labels and what they meant. I was still confused, but in a different way. There was so much about being a dominant that didn't fit me. And new members here at Lit were also confused, in the same way. There is just so much involved in BDSM. So, start there, but then go to the next level...your own set of rules, your own set of labels. And have fun.

 

[MartaMaine]

See, Angelic Assassin knew these things needed clarification. Nothing against those who like gimp suits (I had to look that one up), but I enjoy ball gags and the occasional whip and even chains...all within reason and their place, of course.

But that's the whole idea. I'm very much a dominant. I've known since I was very, very young. I didn't have a word for it, I just knew the feelings and how and why I was attracted to girls my age.

As I aged, I found out the labels and what they meant. I was still confused, but in a different way. There was so much about being a dominant that didn't fit me. And new members here at Lit were also confused, in the same way. There is just so much involved in BDSM. So, start there, but then go to the next level...your own set of rules, your own set of labels. And have fun.

I'm interested in how you define dominant.

If i think back to my past (with husband), I was always the dominant one yet, with a woman, it's always the other way around.

 

[delfantasysharer]

Joined January 22

Hey all. Philadelphia area 56 mwm here. Been hot so far. i think the chat area is the hottest I've found. Please see my profile and reach out if you think we might click.
Tim

 

[DVS]

I'm interested in how you define dominant.

If i think back to my past (with husband), I was always the dominant one yet, with a woman, it's always the other way around.

Anybody can be a dominant. Anybody can be a submissive. There is also a switch, and they have an interest in being either. It usually depends on who their partner is.

I once had a play partner who was submissive with me. She said she was a switch. She had just met a guy who was also a switch. I wish I was still in contact with her, so I could see how that relationship was going. I'd think it would be confusing as hell.

Something I didn't add to my labels was a top and bottom. A top is similar to a dominant or dom, but they aren't as demanding in some ways. A bottom is similar to a submissive, but they are mostly just there to experience the feelings and not really looking for a spot as somebody's submissive. Tops and bottoms are the more casual people. They enjoy the same things, but don't go in for the major label things...the pomp and circumstance, if you will.

For me, I enjoy bondage, just because it keeps my submissive where I want her. I like to take my time with what I'm doing. I also like to use the mental aspect of play. If you have the gift of gab (and I think it's safe to say that I do) you can put mental images into the mind of your bound victim. Of course, they are usually receptive to such things, which helps. I've never found someone who just told me I was full of shit with my talking.

I'm also very much into anal sex, electoplay and spanking. I do have a problem finding play partners because of the electroplay. There are far too many fake videos out on the market that tend to go overboard with that sort of thing. It's all fake. Seeing where the electrodes are connected, the current would be going through the heart and that will kill you. There is one distinct rule about playing with electricity around the heart. You don't!

There are some devices that you can use above the waist, but the standard rule is to only use electrical play below the waist. One of the devices that could be used above the waist (as long as it's connected correctly) is a double pole TENS unit. I won't go into detail about it, but it's really two single pole TENS units in one package. The more available version, the single pole version is NOT safe for use above the waist.

The human heart beats because of a small area at the bottom of the heart that stimulates or triggers the beat. It's an electrical stimulation. Some people have a problem with that area, maybe after they had a heart attack. That's one reason a defibrillator would be installed, to take the job of stimulating the heart beat. It's also another reason someone shouldn't play with electrical things above the waist. You could damage that defibrillator.

Another device that's OK for use above the waist (when used properly) is a violet wand. I have one of those. It produces static electricity, which is the safest form of electricity. TENS units mostly produce DC or direct current and that is pretty safe, too. But it still goes in one direction and if that direction is through the heart muscle, that's bad. One bad way to use a single pole TENS unit would be nipple to nipple. A sure way to damage that little electrical stimulation making the heart beat.

You should google violet wand, to see what it looks like. It puts on quite a show. There are several standard wand attachments, just like there are standard attachments to TENS units. But, the wand is unique. You can attach a metal plate to the wand, put the metal plate under your "victim" and any time you touch them, you both get a shock. The shock is controlled by the level set on the wand. Static electricity is like when you walk across a new carpet and touch a door knob. The fun part of this attachment is anywhere on the body you touch, you both get a shock. Blindfold your victim and you can really have some fun with her.

I am probably closer to a top than a dom. Like I said, they are very close, with the top being more of a casual person, without needing all of the leather, the respect of the submissive (calling me sir and all) and other old guard things. I've had women ask me what I want them to call me. Sir is the more common name to use, but I couldn't care less what they call me. You could call me a damn bastard, a mother fucker, ass hole, whatever comes to mind. I know I'm the one in charge and that's all I care about. All of those names make me laugh. Maybe I'm just too easy going? Nah.

You said you were the dominant with your husband. That's not uncommon. Actually the more you find out about BDSM, there is no common or normal. Everybody is different.

The mind is full of interesting things when it comes to being dominant or submissive. I have known women who were in high tension jobs where they hired and fired employees, owned the business, etc. They were in total control of their day to day life. You'd assume they would be the dominant one in a relationship, right? Nope. Because of their stress throughout the day, their subconscious mind tends to bring out their submissive side. It doesn't always work that way, but it does a lot of the time. They just prefer someone else take charge in their sex life and they just participate.

It can be the same way with a man. If they have a job that is high stress, or very demanding of their attention during the day, they too will be more likely to prefer the submissive side of things in their sexual life.

It doesn't mean they are any less manly or anything. It's just that subconscious mind coming out to equalize the stress of the day. So, your husband might have had a high stress job. OK, I say that, but it might not seem high stress to others. It only has to seem high stress to him for his subconscious mind to kick in and come save the day.

You see a lot of big business owners going to a paid dominatrix to be punished, because their subconscious mind brings that out in them. Many have a wife that won't accommodate their needs, or maybe they don't want anybody to know what they like sexually, so they go to a pro. And the more stress you have in your work life, the more you want to go the other way in your sex life. There can be some strange situations between a pro domme and her submissive businessman.

So, I'm pretty laid back in the dom area. I've been dominant for many years. I can't mention age, or the post will get altered by the mods, but let's say subtract 10 from 20 and you'll come close to the age I first understood what I liked...but had no clue what it was.

I tried going the major dominant routs at first. I even had a name with Master in it. I just never could get into it. Oh, I'll give you what you want, if you are a submissive and need to call me Sir, but I'm very up front about not needing all of that crap. I'm in it for the thrills it gives me and I really enjoy giving my partner as many thrills as possible.

If you want to find out more about what I like, look at my stories. Actually, the longest one "My New Boss" is not complete in the story section. But, I have a link in my signature that will take you to the thread it's in. At the bottom of each installment, there is a hyper link that will take you do the next installment. You can read what others have posted in there, but if you want to get past all of that, the hyper links are your friend.

A few years back, I lost my muse, I guess. I haven't had a desire to write any erotica. So, "My New Boss" isn't finished. It's quite long but with no ending. I've got some ideas, but just haven't done it.

I'm a musician and for the past 20 years, music and all of it's aspects have taken over my life. Not a single song I write is sex related, which might seem strange. It's like I'm two creative people, but two very different creative people. Never the two trains meet. The vanilla world can look at the BDSM world a bit strangely. I have vanilla friends who know nothing about my sexual life, but I've been playing music with them for 40 years. But, who knows...they could be the same way and not want to tell me.

I'm an open book, if you want to know anything more. Feel free to ask.

 

[Floridafun4everyone]

I’ve been on and off here several times, but hello once again. No BDSM experience,but could go either way with the right woman.

 

[ChiefH]

Hello

Florida here!

 

[DVS]

Florida here!

Don't you dare say anything about the nice weather you're having down there, or the rest of us will be upset.

Welcome to Lit, just the same.