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[Scubasteve1337]

I have been married for damn near 20 years. My wife is a pretty reserved woman. She is not into much. She refuses to give me oral at all. Has refused anal play or anything like that.

Last night I’m going down on her. Her Apple Watch was going off on the nightstand because our teens were texting her over and over. She kicks her left leg up and over so she is now laying on her stomach on the bed so she can turn off the damn watch. While she’s laying there I start kissing her ass and licking her thighs. She gets up on all fours and offers me her asshole to eat. She never says a word. Fuck it. I’m in tonguing her asshole and using my thumb to play with her clit. She’s moaning lightly and pushing back into me during this. She eventually rolls back over and I go back to eating her pussy. I move my hand up to finger her pussy while I lick and suck her clit. Well my finger slides into her asshole to the second knuckle. She eventually has an intense leg shaking orgasm. We fuck and yada yada.

I’m dumbfounded how we got to this point. What in the world happened to have this woman who is usually a prude about sex to her letting me eat her ass like that? I’m glad it happened. Just confused.

I can’t ask her. She refuses to ever discuss sexual stuff at all.

 

[rlaflamme]

I'm not sure if we will ever understand women lol. But, with this I think you got her in the heat of the moment. She was ready to play and with the series of events went further than before. I am not surprised she wont talk about it. Anal play is taboo to many people and it may make her feel "dirty". Just enjoy what you got to do and hope the moment happens again!

 

[Mariepsylckr]

I have been married for damn near 20 years. My wife is a pretty reserved woman. She is not into much. She refuses to give me oral at all. Has refused anal play or anything like that.

Last night I’m going down on her. Her Apple Watch was going off on the nightstand because our teens were texting her over and over. She kicks her left leg up and over so she is now laying on her stomach on the bed so she can turn off the damn watch. While she’s laying there I start kissing her ass and licking her thighs. She gets up on all fours and offers me her asshole to eat. She never says a word. Fuck it. I’m in tonguing her asshole and using my thumb to play with her clit. She’s moaning lightly and pushing back into me during this. She eventually rolls back over and I go back to eating her pussy. I move my hand up to finger her pussy while I lick and suck her clit. Well my finger slides into her asshole to the second knuckle. She eventually has an intense leg shaking orgasm. We fuck and yada yada.

I’m dumbfounded how we got to this point. What in the world happened to have this woman who is usually a prude about sex to her letting me eat her ass like that? I’m glad it happened. Just confused.

I can’t ask her. She refuses to ever discuss sexual stuff at all.

1. That’s sounds like a wonderful night. Congratulations.
2. There are really some women who don’t like talking about sex. If you’ve been married 20yrs, you know what she wants and doesn’t. You probably caught her at a good horny moment (that time of the month) and assplay is usually quite taboo for women but also feels dirty/sexy at the same time. I wouldn’t ask her because she may be shy to do it again.

 

[MaybeMae]

1. That’s sounds like a wonderful night. Congratulations.
2. There are really some women who don’t like talking about sex. If you’ve been married 20yrs, you know what she wants and doesn’t. You probably caught her at a good horny moment (that time of the month) and assplay is usually quite taboo for women but also feels dirty/sexy at the same time. I wouldn’t ask her because she may be shy to do it again.

I really like your advice!
I would also encourage OP to do it again!
slow and steady, just ease it back in (tee-hee!)

 

[KinoKe]

Firstly, congratulations. It sounds as if you both had an enjoyable experience. And, in my book, that’s about as good as it gets.

Secondly, I’m not sure which bit you are having trouble understanding: why your wife chose that moment to indulge in a bit of arse play, or why she doesn’t like to talk about such things.

In my experience, most women seem to enjoy a bit of arse play. From time to time. Some are happy to talk about it, some are not. I had a girlfriend who loved to talk about it before, during, and after. Whereas my current wife never likes to talk about it. But she still enjoys it. (From time to time.)

After many years, and more than a few women, I’m not sure that there is much point in worrying about the whys of these matters. Just be kind to one another. And enjoy what happens when it happens.

 

[Bigaug]

Let her initiate it next time, don't rush it. I had a similar experience, while licking, make sure lots of juice is flowing down her ass crack, put your finger near her asshole but don't insert, let her feel it, if she wants it she will manuever her ass but don't push your finger, let her do the pushing, she will push her ass closer and closer to your finger until it is in, then she will pump it, keep licking, pretty soon your finger will be all the way in, and you can play

 

[littlecordelera]

What in the world happened to have this woman who is usually a prude about sex to her letting me eat her ass like that?

I don't know, but whatever it was, it had nothing to do with the sex.

 

[Dotarsojat1696]

I, too have been married a little over 20 years and your story sounds eerily familiar. That is how I got my wife into anal play, I started "accidentally" licking her asshole whilst going down on her, occasionally letting my finger tease her and so forth. It took several years but now she enjoys anal sex although still prudish about sex otherwise. My wife doesn't like to discuss sexual things either so I understand the struggle.

 

[bhurry]

I, too have been married a little over 20 years and your story sounds eerily familiar. That is how I got my wife into anal play, I started "accidentally" licking her asshole whilst going down on her, occasionally letting my finger tease her and so forth. It took several years but now she enjoys anal sex although still prudish about sex otherwise. My wife doesn't like to discuss sexual things either so I understand the struggle.

Best advise yet. In my book no other way to go about it. I think you might find the road to success is pretty well paved already. So sit back and enjoy the trip.

 

[Scubasteve1337]

1. That’s sounds like a wonderful night. Congratulations.
2. There are really some women who don’t like talking about sex. If you’ve been married 20yrs, you know what she wants and doesn’t. You probably caught her at a good horny moment (that time of the month) and assplay is usually quite taboo for women but also feels dirty/sexy at the same time. I wouldn’t ask her because she may be shy to do it again.

I’m certainly not planning on talking about it. I’m just gonna let it be. I’m also going to be ready to dive again when she’s ready.

 

[Asian_Flower]

Instead of trying to anal-yse the situation why dont you just do it again the next time you are down there?

 

[Scubasteve1337]

Firstly, congratulations. It sounds as if you both had an enjoyable experience. And, in my book, that’s about as good as it gets.

Secondly, I’m not sure which bit you are having trouble understanding: why your wife chose that moment to indulge in a bit of arse play, or why she doesn’t like to talk about such things.

In my experience, most women seem to enjoy a bit of arse play. From time to time. Some are happy to talk about it, some are not. I had a girlfriend who loved to talk about it before, during, and after. Whereas my current wife never likes to talk about it. But she still enjoys it. (From time to time.)

After many years, and more than a few women, I’m not sure that there is much point in worrying about the whys of these matters. Just be kind to one another. And enjoy what happens when it happens.

I’m just thrown by the fact she’s always been no no no to the ass play but then goes to town throwing it in my face. I was very happy.

 

[hulmule]

Maybe your kids said " Mom try it you'll like it.." My kid told my wife once "Mom just give dad a BJ whats the big deal"

 

[Mr_Neb]

My advice is to give me your wife's phone number. I'll text her every night at exactly the time you say. It's no bother at all. Glad to do it.

 

[FGB]

The only thing you know for sure is that she hasn't wanted YOU to do any of that stuff up to then.

The female half of our species is half crackers at the best of times.

The things I could tell you!

 

[Islander55]

Sometimes I think that men forget that women get horny too. Women get a lot of crap thrown at them from and early age. Good girls don't do this or don't do that. While she may be unwilling to talk about it and would never request it, obviously she did enjoy it. I expect if she enjoyed your tongue and finger, she might well enjoy more.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

I have been married for damn near 20 years. My wife is a pretty reserved woman. She is not into much. She refuses to give me oral at all. Has refused anal play or anything like that.

Last night I’m going down on her. Her Apple Watch was going off on the nightstand because our teens were texting her over and over. She kicks her left leg up and over so she is now laying on her stomach on the bed so she can turn off the damn watch. While she’s laying there I start kissing her ass and licking her thighs. She gets up on all fours and offers me her asshole to eat. She never says a word. Fuck it. I’m in tonguing her asshole and using my thumb to play with her clit. She’s moaning lightly and pushing back into me during this. She eventually rolls back over and I go back to eating her pussy. I move my hand up to finger her pussy while I lick and suck her clit. Well my finger slides into her asshole to the second knuckle. She eventually has an intense leg shaking orgasm. We fuck and yada yada.

I’m dumbfounded how we got to this point. What in the world happened to have this woman who is usually a prude about sex to her letting me eat her ass like that? I’m glad it happened. Just confused.

I can’t ask her. She refuses to ever discuss sexual stuff at all.

Unless she is a freaking savant, she has had SOMONE show the error of her ways and she was wanting to allow you to discover her new found 'moves'.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

might

One might consider the possibility that what you did violates her learned sense of propriety. In her "rational" moments, that is a no-no, verboten, and a non-starter. Once her libido was cranked up by your play she was able to step over the boundary and enjoy it.
In a similar, but different, vein, two females in my intimate life have been disgusted by porn, both became enormously aroused by it if, by accident or begging, they were enticed into watching it.
One might further think the next time might be a bit easier for the barrier to fall.
Good luck.

 

[BongoGal]

Maybe you should ask her about it while out having dinner with friends.

 

[BiWifeMyrtleBeach]

Don't "try" to understand her, just enjoy

 

[Lady2020]

She was distracted by the texts?