Sexless Marriages

[Floridafun4everyone]

Like many on this site, a sexless marriage is what brings me here. My wife and I are more like best friends and room mates. At my age, I’m not ready to stop having sex until I can’t any more. I’m not dead lol, and still have a sex drive. More open minded now too !

 

[Mtnmike]

I wish, we've started year 13 of total sexless marriage, previous 5 years were once maybe twice on a good year. To old to start over, to young to be sexless.

 

[LovesG]

36 mwf been almost a year with no sex. I started working out and eating better last year, lost a decent amount of weight and my sex drive went through the roof and my husband wants nothing to do with me.

 

[NEOhio1972]

36 mwf been almost a year with no sex. I started working out and eating better last year, lost a decent amount of weight and my sex drive went through the roof and my husband wants nothing to do with me.

Sorry to hear that!!!!!! Agree with you.... It shouldn't be an issue.....its good!!!! Should do it all the time!!!!!

 

[Replicant2018]

36 mwf been almost a year with no sex. I started working out and eating better last year, lost a decent amount of weight and my sex drive went through the roof and my husband wants nothing to do with me.

My wife is once a week. Not sexless but very vanilla.

 

[philos]

Going on three years without. Married 24 years. Started at once a week then steadily declined to nothing. I try not to be bitter or take it personally but it’s difficult. I used to blame myself. I guess sometimes I still do. Holidays like the upcoming Valentine’s Day just make the feelings worse. Just needed to vent

 

[LovesG]

Sorry to hear that!!!!!! Agree with you.... It shouldn't be an issue.....its good!!!! Should do it all the time!!!!!

Yes- extremely frustrating to finally be hitting my stride....
I’m in Ohio too

 

[NEOhio1972]

Yes- extremely frustrating to finally be hitting my stride....
I’m in Ohio too

Nice!!!! He Ohio for me. Although in an Arizona hotel room now.

You SHOULD stride!!!! Life is too short!!!!

 

[Glorygirl78]

I can relate. Gotta be some changes Madewell

 

[Male4Strapon]

Holidays like the upcoming Valentine’s Day just make the feelings worse. Just needed to vent

Yes. It's so incredibly selfish of the partner who refuses sex. It's inexcusable and frankly cruel to do that to the person you claim to love. As you said especially when occasions that are usually celebrated as a couple come up.

Good luck friend.

 

[Bitesback]

The thing about such occasions is that one partner may feel that an obligatory offer is required. Some may even make an attempt at seduction. A show of desire for the other. It can be hard to determine for oneself which is better; physical engagement without the feeling of true intimacy and desire, a lack of mutual celebration, or for nothing to be forthcoming at all, perhaps even your own efforts rejected?

In time, on occasions usually celebrated as a couple, and nothing eventuates, again, expectations cease. Hope is forlorn. Disappointment will always be found if you look hard enough. Then you stop looking. Carry on.

 

[Richardsmith992]

Hi there

I’m glad I’m not alone. Male 38 in UK
Incredibly horny all the time but wife isn’t interested at all despite numerous advances.
Is it too much for her to sit in my face and let me make her cum?

 

[sereneheartbeat]

36 mwf been almost a year with no sex. I started working out and eating better last year, lost a decent amount of weight and my sex drive went through the roof and my husband wants nothing to do with me.

Sorry you are having to go through that, remember it is his issue not yours. Continue doing what makes you feel better.

 

[sandybrooke]

I’m glad I’m not alone. Male 38 in UK
Incredibly horny all the time but wife isn’t interested at all despite numerous advances.
Is it too much for her to sit in my face and let me make her cum?

I asked my wife this question yesterday. Snowed in, we both shoveled snow, stripped our pants off in the kitchen and I rubbed her panty covered ass. She told me to stop, ran upstairs and I went up and continued. Told her she makes me horny!!
She again said no, I went into our other bedroom and jerked off. WTF

 

[Twistedkink]

My wife is very hot looking but as a young woman/girl she was hit on constantly for sex, and now she views it as something very negative. So our sex has come down to a crawl, and not the sexy crawl across the floor! To add to the issues is she is now a raging alcoholic. So life is fucked up. Need a woman who’s desires are deep and open with no judgments. That’s the dream at least.

 

[Richardsmith992]

I asked my wife this question yesterday. Snowed in, we both shoveled snow, stripped our pants off in the kitchen and I rubbed her panty covered ass. She told me to stop, ran upstairs and I went up and continued. Told her she makes me horny!!
She again said no, I went into our other bedroom and jerked off. WTF

Does she then look down on you for having a wank or do you have to do it in secret?

 

[Night_Wolf]

October 2019 was the last time with my lady & in my mind the problem is she doesn't seem to care to want to do anything about it. It's probably the only thing we argue about. If the market was better, I would sell the house, cut my losses & move on

 

[Lord_Coitus]

Couple times a month and it feels like she does it just to shut me up. Ugh.

 

[Male4Strapon]

I'm 34. Been married 10 years. She'll occasionally want sexplay like fingers, or oral from me. She only uses her hand on me, does not want any part of giving oral. This happens maybe once every 3-4 months. Sex is strictly off the table.

I'm sure I am not the only one here who is jealous. I hope it picks up for you but enjoy it nonetheless because I would kill for even that.

 

[jt1500]

I'm 34. Been married 10 years. She'll occasionally want sexplay like fingers, or oral from me. She only uses her hand on me, does not want any part of giving oral. This happens maybe once every 3-4 months. Sex is strictly off the table.

Going on 10 years without sex from wife. So I can relate. I mean absolutely nothing. In fact she hates me but won't divorce me.

 

[sandybrooke]

Does she then look down on you for having a wank or do you have to do it in secret?

No, she understands. I just want some pussy! I miss the companionship and touching and everything!

 

[JPReads]

The thing about such occasions is that one partner may feel that an obligatory offer is required. Some may even make an attempt at seduction. A show of desire for the other. It can be hard to determine for oneself which is better; physical engagement without the feeling of true intimacy and desire, a lack of mutual celebration, or for nothing to be forthcoming at all, perhaps even your own efforts rejected?

In time, on occasions usually celebrated as a couple, and nothing eventuates, again, expectations cease. Hope is forlorn. Disappointment will always be found if you look hard enough. Then you stop looking. Carry on.

THIS!

 

[queenofdeviance]

The thing about such occasions is that one partner may feel that an obligatory offer is required. Some may even make an attempt at seduction. A show of desire for the other. It can be hard to determine for oneself which is better; physical engagement without the feeling of true intimacy and desire, a lack of mutual celebration, or for nothing to be forthcoming at all, perhaps even your own efforts rejected?

All of it is just so incredibly painful.

 

[Mtnmike]

13 years & counting.

 

[hulmule]

It's a shame our spouses dont want to enjoy each other's needs. I can understand if health reason's and some other's. But it would be nice to have my body caressed and a little attention once in a while. Dont thing thats asking for much. How can we change.?? Stop trying towards them?? Tried that , wife dont seem to care. Sure wish we could find ways to get some affection