The female perspective.

[MsNatalie99]

Thank you everyone, for your feedback and help with this. I've been writing the story with a multiple points of view, both male and female. I should be writing the actual sexual interaction from the female point of view over the weekend and into next week. It's taking me a little while. I've been out of work so it's a lot of extra hours to catch up. I was wondering if anyone was willing to volunteer to read that portion of the story and offer some feedback. Ie sounds good, too much Anatomy talk, women don't think like that Etc.

I have been having my wife as well as my editor helping with the non-sexual content, however, where my wife may support my writing erotica, she has no interest in reading it. I was hoping for one male and one female author. Once more, let me stress how grateful I am for everyone that's offered their input it on this. It's given me a lot to think about and it's allowed me to open my eyes to a whole nother set of possibilities.
If you are interested please let me know via PM

I’m no author, but I would be happy to look it over.

 

[MColton84]

I’m no author, but I would be happy to look it over.

Thanks Nat, I will be sure to send you a copy when it's done. I'll probably have to post for proofreaders in a different forum or thread now. I shudder to think about starting another thread just for reading it. smh

 

[MColton84]

I'm not sure if you mentioned it already, but what category are you aiming for (and approximately how long would your story be)? You might pick up some more volunteers here in this thread, and I don't think any of those who gave constructive comments here would mind if you'd contact them. You can check out their styles and see if it matches with your work; they will always be free to say 'no', but no harm would be done.

Thanks.

 

[BuckyDuckman]

I am a relatively new author. I have been trying to expand on my abilities as a writer and was wanting to do a story from the woman's point of view. I of course have no idea what a woman feels during sex. The emotions, the physical sensations, everything from her perspective is relatively foreign to me. I have tried to bring these questions to my wife, but she couldn't describe it in words. I was wondering what other male authors have done in this situation, or if there was a woman out there who would be willing to answer said questions. I have tried reading other submissions from the female point of view but don't necessarily want to borrow from the work of others. At the end of the day, I just want to do a fair and honest representation. Suggestions?

Looks like this thread has spiraled out of control, but I'd still like to add a couple of answers to the original question.

First off, don't sweat it. Most of the readers here are relatively forgiving. For the guys reading your story, you'll likely be speaking "their" language by approaching and describing the experience with a man's mind.

Second, there are a lot of sensations that are universal. For example, the touch of a lover's hand on your inner thigh excites all genders and feels about the same. Possible exception? A man typically has hair there while a woman usually won't.

Third, as a bi-male, it occurred to me that I can faithfully write how it feels to have sex with another man. For example, when kissing a man, even if he's clean-shaven, there can be the feel of whiskers. It think those experiences have helped inform my few attempts at writing from a female POV. (So, be committed to your art! Go have sex with another man, LMAO!)

Fourth, few people (dare I add "most women") don't think in terms of actual measurements in inches or centimeters unless they're picking out clothing. Adding that detail seems to out you as both a neophyte erotic writer and a man.

Good luck with your writing!

 

[Little_Horny_Redhead]

I am always happy to answer questions if you need a female perspective on something

 

[Handley_Page]

I'd suggest you make the story as told by a Narrator.
You can ascribe any feeling you like, then.

 

[MColton84]

Update

I have finished writing the first of two sex scenes from the woman’s perspective. It came out surprisingly well thanks to the help and feedback of some other Authors. Thanks to everyone for all of your help and advice on this thread. I am excited to see how it will be received when it's finished, and will post the link once it is published.

 

[Ginlover]

My female perspective primal sex scene has gone live as part of the 750 word challenge. I’ll submit the male perspective of the same sex scene next week. Because of this thread I thought it would be fun to write both perspectives of the same scene to see if I could get the nuances of the different perspectives.

 

[MColton84]

My female perspective primal sex scene has gone live as part of the 750 word challenge. I’ll submit the male perspective of the same sex scene next week. Because of this thread I thought it would be fun to write both perspectives of the same scene to see if I could get the nuances of the different perspectives.

I tried something similar. One scene, half from her, half from him, and let their distinctions in perception shine in one encounter.

 

[Ginlover]

I tried something similar. One scene, half from her, half from him, and let their distinctions in perception shine in one encounter.

Is it published yet?

 

[MColton84]

Is it published yet?

No, I am still writing the rest of the story, but I will post the link when it gets published.

 

[jehoram]

I'm finishing up my seven-part story "Our Family's Little Secret" and the last two chapters are from a female's point of view. It will be interesting to see how they're received. My editor, a woman, has already commented on the parts she's seen, and said that she didn't see any glaring problems. But then, I largely based the character on her "Emily" character in the "Hot Tub" series, which I re-read to get me in the right frame of mind.

 

[Ginlover]

Tickling this thread again as my little experiment is now published as part of the 750 word challenge. Same sex scene from two different perspectives.

Primal Predator - male perspective /gaze https://www.literotica.com/beta/s/primal-predator

Primal Prey - female perspective / gaze https://www.literotica.com/beta/s/primal-prey-1

I accept it’s stereotypical and muddied by a Dom/sub dynamic but the nuances of how the different genders approach the same actions is why I’m sharing here

 

[MColton84]

Tickling this thread again as my little experiment is now published as part of the 750 word challenge. Same sex scene from two different perspectives.

Primal Predator - male perspective /gaze https://www.literotica.com/beta/s/primal-predator

Primal Prey - female perspective / gaze https://www.literotica.com/beta/s/primal-prey-1

I accept it’s stereotypical and muddied by a Dom/sub dynamic but the nuances of how the different genders approach the same actions is why I’m sharing here

Awesome, I will check it out. Thank you for sharing.

 

[HappySpouse]

Tickling this thread again as my little experiment is now published as part of the 750 word challenge. Same sex scene from two different perspectives.

Primal Predator - male perspective /gaze https://www.literotica.com/beta/s/primal-predator

Primal Prey - female perspective / gaze https://www.literotica.com/beta/s/primal-prey-1

I accept it’s stereotypical and muddied by a Dom/sub dynamic but the nuances of how the different genders approach the same actions is why I’m sharing here

I believe this is the second time that I've complimented you on this, but the "beast" came across as a completely genuine male perspective, to me. The squeezing and pounding and biting just speak to that thing inside me that wants to love her with everything I have.

 

[Omenainen]

Tickling this thread again as my little experiment is now published as part of the 750 word challenge. Same sex scene from two different perspectives.

Primal Predator - male perspective /gaze https://www.literotica.com/beta/s/primal-predator

Primal Prey - female perspective / gaze https://www.literotica.com/beta/s/primal-prey-1

I accept it’s stereotypical and muddied by a Dom/sub dynamic but the nuances of how the different genders approach the same actions is why I’m sharing here

Thanks for these. Maybe I’m unable to read past the dom/sub thing, but I didn’t find myself in either of these. They’re well written and I don’t mean to say they’re not believable, just that I didn’t find my perspective in them.

So, I maintain my position that other characteristics mean as much or more than gender, and differences can be greater between individuals than groups. And that whatever kind of femininity or masculinity one wants to write, there probably is a readership for it, so just go for it.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Thanks for these. Maybe I’m unable to read past the dom/sub thing, but I didn’t find myself in either of these. They’re well written and I don’t mean to say they’re not believable, just that I didn’t find my perspective in them.

So, I maintain my position that other characteristics mean as much or more than gender, and differences can be greater between individuals than groups. And that whatever kind of femininity or masculinity one wants to write, there probably is a readership for it, so just go for it.

I agree with all of this. Ginlover's stories are well written and those two characters were quite believable, but I don't see those personalities as universal.

For me, the biggest influence of gender in characterisation is how other people react to it, and the implications of that.

 

[Ginlover]

The criticism of the Dom/sub dynamic being the focus is valid. I was also experimenting in describing raw, primal play in words without it being about running through a dark wood — which is often how primal dynamics are described in literature.

From this thread and others on female/males gaze I used the basic summaries of the differences between the sexes for the act of sex. The nuances of the two perspectives I aimed for was during the female view the language focused on emotional over physical. For the male view I used physical hunger as the core, backed up by what he can see and physically feel, while the female POV was the emotions of fear, safety and connection. When the woman describes the man’s appearance she says predatory while the man describes the physical mess he can see. They are both stereotypes of the female and male gaze, but doing it helped me clarify in my mind the subtle differences.

It’s was fun to try and use the few words in the challenge to separate the perspectives — even if it is in a broad stroke, stereotypical way. There is no reason I couldn’t have attempted the difference in the views in a totally vanilla scene.

 

[SimonDoom]

The criticism of the Dom/sub dynamic being the focus is valid. I was also experimenting in describing raw, primal play in words without it being about running through a dark wood — which is often how primal dynamics are described in literature.

From this thread and others on female/males gaze I used the basic summaries of the differences between the sexes for the act of sex. The nuances of the two perspectives I aimed for was during the female view the language focused on emotional over physical. For the male view I used physical hunger as the core, backed up by what he can see and physically feel, while the female POV was the emotions of fear, safety and connection. When the woman describes the man’s appearance she says predatory while the man describes the physical mess he can see. They are both stereotypes of the female and male gaze, but doing it helped me clarify in my mind the subtle differences.

It’s was fun to try and use the few words in the challenge to separate the perspectives — even if it is in a broad stroke, stereotypical way. There is no reason I couldn’t have attempted the difference in the views in a totally vanilla scene.

I like what you did with these two stories. Omenainen's comment prompted me to read them. I agree with Omenainen's comment in the sense that I don't see myself, exactly, in the male character's story, but that's not important. What's important is that the perspective is interesting and well-rendered and seems plausible enough. While this not be the way I would see things as a man in this position, your story enables me to imagine seeing things this way as a man, and that's what counts.

 

[MColton84]

From this thread and others on female/males gaze I used the basic summaries of the differences between the sexes for the act of sex. The nuances of the two perspectives I aimed for was during the female view the language focused on emotional over physical. For the male view I used physical hunger as the core, backed up by what he can see and physically feel, while the female POV was the emotions of fear, safety and connection. When the woman describes the man’s appearance she says predatory while the man describes the physical mess he can see. They are both stereotypes of the female and male gaze, but doing it helped me clarify in my mind the subtle differences.

It’s was fun to try and use the few words in the challenge to separate the perspectives — even if it is in a broad stroke, stereotypical way. There is no reason I couldn’t have attempted the difference in the views in a totally vanilla scene.

I agree that it was definitely fun to write in alternating M/F POVs. I think you did an excellent job capturing the subtle differences in the emotional and psychological aspects of the act. This is especially true considering that you did so in the 750 word parameters. I feel mine was good as well, but I needed almost 3000 for her and 2000 for him. I am not sure that I could capture the same tones you did in so few words, let alone in a Dom/Sub scene. I can't wait to see what you do with a longer piece. Very well done.

 

[Athalia]

IBut then, I largely based the character on her "Emily" character in the "Hot Tub" series, which I re-read to get me in the right frame of mind.

I don't see much of "Emily" in your story, but if it served as an inspiration for you, I'm flattered.

 

[HappySpouse]

750 words of female thoughts

It's only 750 words which has some limitations, but it is my first attempt at writing from a female perspective. I realize that no one can speak for billions of totally different individuals, but I would still appreciate if I could hear what some of the people who have been participating in this conversation find to be genuine or ignorant or whatever else.

The title is What Was She Thinking because it is just the scattered thoughts of a woman at a costume party. There are a couple lines that are functional to the story, but most of it is just what I thought this particular woman might think.

Thank you

 

[MsNatalie99]

It's only 750 words which has some limitations, but it is my first attempt at writing from a female perspective. I realize that no one can speak for billions of totally different individuals, but I would still appreciate if I could hear what some of the people who have been participating in this conversation find to be genuine or ignorant or whatever else.

The title is What Was She Thinking because it is just the scattered thoughts of a woman at a costume party. There are a couple lines that are functional to the story, but most of it is just what I thought this particular woman might think.

Thank you

I like the way you gravitated to the eyes. Not the shoulders or chest, but the eyes. It was very sensual.

 

[tomlitilia]

It's only 750 words which has some limitations, but it is my first attempt at writing from a female perspective. I realize that no one can speak for billions of totally different individuals, but I would still appreciate if I could hear what some of the people who have been participating in this conversation find to be genuine or ignorant or whatever else.

The title is What Was She Thinking because it is just the scattered thoughts of a woman at a costume party. There are a couple lines that are functional to the story, but most of it is just what I thought this particular woman might think.

Thank you

I'd say those are 750 words spent impressively well. Good job.

 

[MColton84]

It's only 750 words which has some limitations, but it is my first attempt at writing from a female perspective. I realize that no one can speak for billions of totally different individuals, but I would still appreciate if I could hear what some of the people who have been participating in this conversation find to be genuine or ignorant or whatever else.

The title is What Was She Thinking because it is just the scattered thoughts of a woman at a costume party. There are a couple lines that are functional to the story, but most of it is just what I thought this particular woman might think.

Thank you

Amazing work. The quite sultry for 750 words