Thought provoking question for the women

[Cancri]

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[Cream_me]

If your significant other asked you to sell off everything you have together and buy a cabin in the middle of no where so it could be just the two of you would you consider it?

If it wasn't for the others living in our home depending on us, then yes. In a heartbeat.

 

[Lamia03]

If your significant other asked you to sell off everything you have together and buy a cabin in the middle of no where so it could be just the two of you would you consider it?

I’ll definitely consider that possibility. In fact, I have fantasized about it.
Just image: performing daily chores, keeping the house warm, reading, cooking our meals, and continuous sex anywhere. We’ll thoroughly claim every each of that cabin.

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

nah I'm very much an urban girl

 

[NikiVien]

Yep

.... as long as was somewhere always warm

 

[Sweet_b19]

Sounds like a dream

 

[missyunderstanding]

Yes

If your significant other asked you to sell off everything you have together and buy a cabin in the middle of no where so it could be just the two of you would you consider it?

Yes. In fact we have talked about it. His parents just moved off grid and we might move to be closer but on our own land. Not that we don't like being around other people and especially loved ones and family, but the world is on the edge of a major global-social-meltdown. So being alone in the middle of nowhere sounds peaceful.

 

[KristaK]

Nope.

Not a chance.

I’d happily sell everything and move into a tiny motor home and be in a different middle of nowhere every few weeks. But I’d go mad in the same spot for forever, no matter how lovely it was.

 

[ElizaBennet33]

Never in a million years. I'm too sociable. I couldn't just be with one person and not have interaction with others for weeks on end. I like talking to strangers when I'm walking my dog. I like saying hello to random people as I stand in a queue. A cabin in the middle of nowhere sounds far too lonely for my soul.

 

[Cancri]

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[Lamia03]

Thank you everyone for your reply. I posed the question to my wife with serious consideration in doing it. She told me no she couldn't do that with me. She needs her social interaction while I've had my fill. The peace and quiet no worries.

Abandoning the city and going off to a cabin away from it all isn't for everyone. So sorry about how it turned out. Best of luck in enduring the city.

 

[Sweet_Cupcake]

No. I actually enjoy my profession and it is important to me. I wouldn't be able to do it out in the woods alone with just one man.

 

[Cancri]

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[GuyandDoll]

Consider my thought provoked! I realize that this thread is speculative fun but I'm curious what people think when they hear "a cabin in the middle of nowhere."

Having lived in some very remote spots, including a cabin in the Alaska bush in a spot where there was no grid to be off, I'm truly interested in this strain of the American dream. When people hear "a cabin in the middle of nowhere," is it a metaphor for living an authentic life? Is it a secluded spot on the outskirts of town? Or is it miles from any road, reached only by float plane, chop wood and carry water?

OP: since this sounds like a real situation to you, would you like to be a bit more specific about what you proposed to your partner? Just what is the "middle of nowhere"?? I don't mean to pry, I'm just truly interested in what people are imagining when they respond.

 

[NyctoPhile]

Consider my thought provoked! I realize that this thread is speculative fun but I'm curious what people think when they hear "a cabin in the middle of nowhere."

Having lived in some very remote spots, including a cabin in the Alaska bush in a spot where there was no grid to be off, I'm truly interested in this strain of the American dream. When people hear "a cabin in the middle of nowhere," is it a metaphor for living an authentic life? Is it a secluded spot on the outskirts of town? Or is it miles from any road, reached only by float plane, chop wood and carry water?

OP: since this sounds like a real situation to you, would you like to be a bit more specific about what you proposed to your partner? Just what is the "middle of nowhere"?? I don't mean to pry, I'm just truly interested in what people are imagining when they respond.

This just got more interestinggg.
I was wondering the same thing.

I have family that live in NT, Canada (near the border of NT/BC), and a colleague that lived for a time just south of the Arctic Circle (quite removed, the closest established area being Echo Bay, NT). Both regions can be considered remote, however, the lifestyles were completely different just based on accessibility, resources, and whether the ‘grid’ was even a choice.

I guess I’m also curious if this is a Thoreau fantasy, a Captain Fantastic idea, etc.

 

[StarGazer58]

I am surprised by the number that would like to live such an isolated life

 

[SugarSpiceAndLace]

No. I need space. No matter how much I love someone I can’t be around them all of the time, just the two of us. I’m honest with myself... I need breaks. Other people, time on my own, time somewhere else, time to recharge my batteries so that when I am with my partner I can be my best self.

 

[Dillharris]

I've had the amazing luck to have lived both lives and I would take, in a heartbeat, the mountains, the solitude and the screaming sounds of silence. As a couple you find the things that bring you together during the day and the things that allow you to spend time by yourself, enjoying the room to breath.

We had horses and 1 bazillion miles of foothills, and trails and nights of a sky with only stars and not a city light for 30 miles. Have never, EVER, found that exquisite existence since and ache for the day I can find it again.

 

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[GuyandDoll]

My thought was to move to my parents property. To sell off my property. To have no bills or anything in my name with no one being able to contact me.... No phone no address just drop off the radar from everyone except family and a few friends.

I hope this sounds respectful, Cancri. You aren't talking so much about finding a relationship with place (a connection with a natural landscape, a way of living rooted in the earth) but rather an escape from the stresses of your life, a desire to get away from the entangled, busy world you live in. So many feel that way, especially during the pandemic. But--again, I say this respectfully--it's easy to imagine a "simple" life where the grass is greener and you could be happy if only your partner agreed. You can, however, achieve much of that in your own life right now by minimizing the artificial distractions and keeping it present, real. I'm sure you've thought about this but limit your internet time, including seductively constructed worlds like Lit and other forums; take walks and leave your phone behind (you'll be astonished at the freedom); forget banalities like televised sports; when work is done for the day, turn it off; read some books; consider meditation (you're always off the grid when you follow your breath); minimize debt and credit card use, perhaps use cash if you prefer; declutter, don't buy unnecessary stuff. Walden is your ally here. A "cabin in the middle of nowhere" might force some of these moves on you, but you can do them in an apartment in New York City. I'm not saying it's easy, though we build our own gates and barriers. The great lie of capitalism is that resistance is futile.

 

[Scareltt]

It’s a thoughtful question..

If your significant other asked you to sell off everything you have together and buy a cabin in the middle of no where so it could be just the two of you would you consider it?

If only it’d ever be that simple...

It’s a nice idea, but I think if it were only the two of us, we’d both go crazy.

 

[Cancri]

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