Married for Married

[curvyjae]

Here goes an odd request for a sex site.

I am a mwf with a mostly decent marriage. I try really hard to be "satisfied" in my marriage. I had a 10 year toxic marriage to a narcissistic dickhead, and my current marriage is the complete opposite. Nice guy; but sadly, after about a month of marriage his sex drive disappeared.. Whoosh, right out the window. This has left me feeling VERY unfulfilled. Also, intellectually we are different pages as well. I am the bookish nerd, he is the jock/worker type that slid through school because of sports, so his academics were not... a priority?

But, I can't be sexually attracted to someone without a mental connection first. So I want to actually get to know someone before getting to the naughty stuff.

I will very likely never meet anyone in person, but mental stimulation would be nice, as friends and maybe more. And I will not send naked pictures due to my job. Just don't need them out in the world lol.

So yeah, I know, Lit is a site of the sexual nature, but I like to think there are other like-minded people that can chat regularly. Figured it was worth a try.

 

[dchockeyman]

Here goes an odd request for a sex site.

I am a mwf with a mostly decent marriage. I try really hard to be "satisfied" in my marriage. I had a 10 year toxic marriage to a narcissistic dickhead, and my current marriage is the complete opposite. Nice guy; but sadly, after about a month of marriage his sex drive disappeared.. Whoosh, right out the window. This has left me feeling VERY unfulfilled. Also, intellectually we are different pages as well. I am the bookish nerd, he is the jock/worker type that slid through school because of sports, so his academics were not... a priority?

But, I can't be sexually attracted to someone without a mental connection first. So I want to actually get to know someone before getting to the naughty stuff.

I will very likely never meet anyone in person, but mental stimulation would be nice, as friends and maybe more. And I will not send naked pictures due to my job. Just don't need them out in the world lol.

So yeah, I know, Lit is a site of the sexual nature, but I like to think there are other like-minded people that can chat regularly. Figured it was worth a try.

Nothing at all odd about this. One can fall deeply in love with someone and, yet, find themselves on the opposite end of the mental and sexual spectrum. I find myself there.

 

[cougar_lover316]

I agree with this, I too am in the same boat. My wife's sex drive seems to have evaporated, while mine has seemed to pick up a little.

 

[mrmps]

Good morning Jae, Hope this finds you well. I am married wm, just looking for stimulating chat, I do not want to meet ever. That is not what I am looking for. Just some fun and friendship in the online world. My email is mrmps6255@gmail.com, if interested. Good luck in your search for meaningful converstation.

 

[wifewatcher1997]

Here goes an odd request for a sex site.

I am a mwf with a mostly decent marriage. I try really hard to be "satisfied" in my marriage. I had a 10 year toxic marriage to a narcissistic dickhead, and my current marriage is the complete opposite. Nice guy; but sadly, after about a month of marriage his sex drive disappeared.. Whoosh, right out the window. This has left me feeling VERY unfulfilled. Also, intellectually we are different pages as well. I am the bookish nerd, he is the jock/worker type that slid through school because of sports, so his academics were not... a priority?

But, I can't be sexually attracted to someone without a mental connection first. So I want to actually get to know someone before getting to the naughty stuff.

I will very likely never meet anyone in person, but mental stimulation would be nice, as friends and maybe more. And I will not send naked pictures due to my job. Just don't need them out in the world lol.

So yeah, I know, Lit is a site of the sexual nature, but I like to think there are other like-minded people that can chat regularly. Figured it was worth a try.

Completely understand all components of your thoughts in this post. Wife used to be a nympho and now it is rare for her to be in the mood. I also understand privacy due to occupation and just needing conversation to help and assist. Feel free to reach out anytime!
Enjoy your day and have a great upcoming week!

 

[lvr4u]

Married and wanting

Hi. I read your post and can empathize with much of what you said. I love my wife but really need more of an intellectual and erotic connection that she just can't give. I'm not looking to leave her but want to seek fulfillment of these needs with another woman beginning with exchange of affirming and sensual words. I just joined here and don't yet know how to exchange email addresses. Would you be willing to connect with me and give this a try? Thanks for any reply.

 

[americangrizzley]

Like others have said, nothing unusual about your request. In addition to some slight intellectual differences, my wife and I have a decent age difference, and different sexual backgrounds. I was very adventurous in my single years, with many sex partners, whereas my wife was more reserved. My wife has always seen sex as only a component of "love" while I have repeatedly experienced passionate, no strings attached sex just for the sake of pleasure. As a result we have grown far apart in the bedroom. I find sexual stimulation now mainly through stories on this site, and a healthy appetite for porn. So yes, find someone to chat with and stimulate each other.

 

[curvyjae]

I’m glad it’s not all that uncommon. Wel, not glad because having satisfying marriages would be lovely but you know what I mean.

 

[Bpar721971]

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No it’s uncommon at all. It would be amazing that marriage could encompass the entire circle spectrum to fulfill all needs and desires but unfortunately it doesn’t. 55 yr old MWm professional athletic here.wifey’s desire just stopped completely. Good luck finding that mental connection. Once you find it hang on to it.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

You might also try the sexual role playing section of the site. Create one of your own or read and see if you might find something interesting to join in on.

http://forum.literotica.com/forumdisplay.php?f=11

Best of luck

 

[dave_anon]

I’m glad it’s not all that uncommon. Wel, not glad because having satisfying marriages would be lovely but you know what I mean.

Satisfying marriages are rare. Far majority are compromises. Marriage is a fair concept from a stability and society perspective, but not from personal satisfaction perspective.

 

[vianyajo]

I’m glad it’s not all that uncommon. Wel, not glad because having satisfying marriages would be lovely but you know what I mean.

I would say, other than, of course, the relatively non-sexual bit (pictures are not required for things to be sexual) you are in very good company. And I would wager that you are in good company even with the extremely minor restrictions you laid out in your OP. My situation has a very similar result, but different causes, and I always welcome chatting of any kind.

 

[curvyjae]

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Satisfying marriages are rare. Far majority are compromises. Marriage is a fair concept from a stability and society perspective, but not from personal satisfaction perspective.

I wish someone would have told me this years ago. Though I love the idea of 100% monogamy because both parties are fully satisfied; emotionally, physically and intellectually, I am learning it is impossible or nearly impossible to find someone who fits you on all levels, hence the need to find someone to satisfy one or two of those areas outside the marriage.

 

[Soshameless11]

I wish someone would have told me this years ago. Though I love the idea of 100% monogamy because both parties are fully satisfied; emotionally, physically and intellectually, I am learning it is impossible or nearly impossible to find someone who fits you on all levels, hence the need to find someone to satisfy one or two of those areas outside the marriage.

You've nailed it exactly!

 

[cqiam]

I wish someone would have told me this years ago. Though I love the idea of 100% monogamy because both parties are fully satisfied; emotionally, physically and intellectually, I am learning it is impossible or nearly impossible to find someone who fits you on all levels, hence the need to find someone to satisfy one or two of those areas outside the marriage.

I'm not sure I agree with impossible or nearly impossible but leaning towards "unlikely you will end up married to and remain throughout the entire marriage at all levels"

Fact is, people change. I would hazard a guess this is responsible for most of the disconnects, rather than having been mismatched from the start.

 

[pvt_addiction]

Knowing Lit, I can only imagine some of the responses this thread has produced. Hopefully you’re successful in your request. I’m sure there are people out there looking for the same as you.

 

[lanceGibs]

I wish someone would have told me this years ago. Though I love the idea of 100% monogamy because both parties are fully satisfied; emotionally, physically and intellectually, I am learning it is impossible or nearly impossible to find someone who fits you on all levels, hence the need to find someone to satisfy one or two of those areas outside the marriage.

Very true and well written.

 

[Rockymtnman]

I wish someone would have told me this years ago. Though I love the idea of 100% monogamy because both parties are fully satisfied; emotionally, physically and intellectually, I am learning it is impossible or nearly impossible to find someone who fits you on all levels, hence the need to find someone to satisfy one or two of those areas outside the marriage.

I Don’t think it’s impossible but more improbable. I love my wife, she’s really awesome. Smart, funny, sexy and our sex life for two 51 year olds is still fantastic. But she can’t be a different set of legs, or breasts or tastes or sounds, she can’t be “new” so I do find the occasional friend with benefits to quench that thirst. I say find what you need and go for it. You get about 75 years on this planet. Might as well be happy.

 

[MaleMid50sUK]

I have a very similar post up on the Literotica personals, just looking for some online diversions and its a very common issue.

 

[cubbies4vrs]

Here goes an odd request for a sex site.

I am a mwf with a mostly decent marriage. I try really hard to be "satisfied" in my marriage. I had a 10 year toxic marriage to a narcissistic dickhead, and my current marriage is the complete opposite. Nice guy; but sadly, after about a month of marriage his sex drive disappeared.. Whoosh, right out the window. This has left me feeling VERY unfulfilled. Also, intellectually we are different pages as well. I am the bookish nerd, he is the jock/worker type that slid through school because of sports, so his academics were not... a priority?

But, I can't be sexually attracted to someone without a mental connection first. So I want to actually get to know someone before getting to the naughty stuff.

I will very likely never meet anyone in person, but mental stimulation would be nice, as friends and maybe more. And I will not send naked pictures due to my job. Just don't need them out in the world lol.

So yeah, I know, Lit is a site of the sexual nature, but I like to think there are other like-minded people that can chat regularly. Figured it was worth a try.

Hi there always up for a chat.

 

[DaxonRuss]

Here goes an odd request for a sex site.

I am a mwf with a mostly decent marriage. I try really hard to be "satisfied" in my marriage. I had a 10 year toxic marriage to a narcissistic dickhead, and my current marriage is the complete opposite. Nice guy; but sadly, after about a month of marriage his sex drive disappeared.. Whoosh, right out the window. This has left me feeling VERY unfulfilled. Also, intellectually we are different pages as well. I am the bookish nerd, he is the jock/worker type that slid through school because of sports, so his academics were not... a priority?

But, I can't be sexually attracted to someone without a mental connection first. So I want to actually get to know someone before getting to the naughty stuff.

I will very likely never meet anyone in person, but mental stimulation would be nice, as friends and maybe more. And I will not send naked pictures due to my job. Just don't need them out in the world lol.

So yeah, I know, Lit is a site of the sexual nature, but I like to think there are other like-minded people that can chat regularly. Figured it was worth a try.

Yep, I have found the same type of thing. Have visited a few different places to just find that connection where you can talk and see where it goes from there. A lot of swing and misses, but have met some good people as well.

41mwm/midwest

 

[curvyjae]

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Lots of Midwest, though I think I’m not Midwest, southern? I’m in Oklahoma *

 

[99Freedom]

Lots of Midwest, though I think I’m not Midwest, southern? I’m in Oklahoma *

Definitely would not consider Oklahoma to be Midwest.
Howdy from your southern neighbor in Texas.
Have you ever given The Dear Hunter a listen?

 

[Soshameless11]

Lots of Midwest, though I think I’m not Midwest, southern? I’m in Oklahoma *

Fuck geography, I'm in the Southeast and have a reliable internet connection LOL

 

[bill4672a]

Making a connection

There is something exciting about flirtation, and even when it doesn't lead to any physical encounter, the experience can be fulfilling. And, there are many facets of our personalities that a single relationship cannot possibly address, which is why we maintain friendships throughout life. When that relationship also adds an element of flirtation, it can be even deeper and rewarding. All of us want to be loved, admired, and desired.