LTMMC
Really Experienced
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- Jul 19, 2020
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On a day like today, I figure I am not alone with my dreaming and musing. Only four years ago, the world was not perfect, but it was not the total mess it is today. Rules of civility used to exist, and people largely observed them. Even in high places. Most of them did, I mean.
But only four years later, pretty much every prior frame of reference no longer exists. I reviewed some Lit conversations I had from way back then, and more than only one woman responded to ads I posted with some substance, or to PMs I had sent out, and some meaningful conversations got started.
Nowadays it is not unusual to read "ads" from women looking for attention, who spent years on the board saying nothing. And even worse, men replying to such nothing-ness welcoming enthusiastically any person with a female name. And I – after packing lots of thoughts into an ad of mine – receive PMs stating "great ad, now tell me more about yourself", simply because she is too lazy to read my other posts. Or to invest some thinking time on the ad she found so great.
I find it totally amazing, how – within four short years – a whole culture of civilized communications has gone to the dogs. Probably not more "smart"phones in use today than in 2016, but far more examples of uncivility in the public realm. And worst of all: how utterly acceptable all this uncivility has become. Nobody can tell me, the Twitterer-in-Chief had nothing to do with all this.
Now what does all this mean for me? I have started searching for posts from women, which contain some substance, and writing unsolicited PMs. Does not usually work either, because often such a woman "is taken" instead of having waited for me for years. Because most posts with substance I find are several years old also.
I wonder whether anybody here might feel like commenting on my observations?
But only four years later, pretty much every prior frame of reference no longer exists. I reviewed some Lit conversations I had from way back then, and more than only one woman responded to ads I posted with some substance, or to PMs I had sent out, and some meaningful conversations got started.
Nowadays it is not unusual to read "ads" from women looking for attention, who spent years on the board saying nothing. And even worse, men replying to such nothing-ness welcoming enthusiastically any person with a female name. And I – after packing lots of thoughts into an ad of mine – receive PMs stating "great ad, now tell me more about yourself", simply because she is too lazy to read my other posts. Or to invest some thinking time on the ad she found so great.
I find it totally amazing, how – within four short years – a whole culture of civilized communications has gone to the dogs. Probably not more "smart"phones in use today than in 2016, but far more examples of uncivility in the public realm. And worst of all: how utterly acceptable all this uncivility has become. Nobody can tell me, the Twitterer-in-Chief had nothing to do with all this.
Now what does all this mean for me? I have started searching for posts from women, which contain some substance, and writing unsolicited PMs. Does not usually work either, because often such a woman "is taken" instead of having waited for me for years. Because most posts with substance I find are several years old also.
I wonder whether anybody here might feel like commenting on my observations?
