Micro management

[MissMandy86]

so... maybe 2 years ago there was a male dom I chatted with once in awhile
he was in texas .. as time went by he got more and more aggressive with asking personal questions and for some reason i just felt compelled to answer ..

he would act like he was entitled to answers or like i owed him answers
the more I answered his questions .. the more personal the questions got

he was very aggressive .. and i sort of felt like .. pushed into a corner like i had no choice to answer

and sometimes when he didn't understand .. I would have to explain situations to him
This went on for a couple months ... and after awhile he knew almost everything ..
(My life at times can be very complicated)

it was easy to open up to him because we had never met and we were never going to meet

But the more information he had the more power he was gaining over me .. and then the black mail started ...

this whole thing sort of morphed into a daddy daughter thing with him controlling everything that happened in my sex life

like if a guy asked me out I would say.. let me think about it .. then ask daddy and he would decide... before the date we would get together on gmail chat and go over what i was gonna wear and what would happen

flirt with this guy
stay away from that guy
when i had sex with my BF how it was gonna happen and how he would cum
etc etc

he was like a mentor but at other times sadistic. But he was VERY smart and sort of clever. But he was like ... people smart .. not book smart ..

Really want some like 40 plus .. worldly .. experienced

but as the months past once in awhile he would say things that raised a red flag
and when i lost trust for him it just fell apart

when the "thing" fell apart it sort of left a void ...
been looking for someone ever since but...
Chemistry is a must ..

Single parent .. I have a young daughter this must not affect..
I also work full time so in no way could this affect my job or my income..
I wont be asking you for anything besides your time and your mind
For the right man .. with the right mental ability...

Hate to just say this out right but ..
When i was .. my step father kept a lot of control over me .. who i could date .. what i could wear and some other things that left me a little ...

 

[HerculePervot]

Well after noticing your reply to my thread and reading this, I'm very interested in talking to you...

 

[YoWhatsGood]

I’m interested

 

[MissMandy86]

Bump ..

 

[MissMandy86]

Bump one more time

 

[Tofferman]

It sounds like you need someone who clearly sees the line between friendship and chat partner (for lack of a better term). You can bounce ideas off of a friend, but aren't necessarily going to open up the way you would with a stranger in an anonymous online forum. But the stranger in the forum is likely only interested in satisfying specific, short term needs. I at least think I understand the void left after you stopped chatting with this guy, as I've been down that road myself. You need someone who will listen and offer advice when asked, someone willing to get to know you well enough to care about the impact of that advice on you. Of course, sometimes you just need that person to be fun and playful. And, again, if the care and concern is real, it should be obvious when one mode or the other is appropriate. Virtual life is not so different than real in many ways. I'd enjoy talking with you further, if you are interested. Feel free to send me a message (private or email).

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Bump one more time

Mandy.
I sent you a PM about this on Monday, trying to describe how I would attempt to address your interests and needs.
If my proposal did not meet with your interest, that is fine and it happens. However, since I did put a bit of effort into my PM (not an inordinate amount, but enough to show that I was trying to be responsive), I think it would have been considerate for you to send a response.
Even if the response were just "I'm not interested in you because....."

 

[NiceNastyMann]

Time management problem. Sorry but I've a world to run...

 

[DelcoJOBud]

PM sent

 

[MissMandy86]

Mandy.
I sent you a PM about this on Monday, trying to describe how I would attempt to address your interests and needs.
If my proposal did not meet with your interest, that is fine and it happens. However, since I did put a bit of effort into my PM (not an inordinate amount, but enough to show that I was trying to be responsive), I think it would have been considerate for you to send a response.
Even if the response were just "I'm not interested in you because....."

Mike .. i applogize for that. I get messages i want to respond to but then i think ok i will read all the other messages first ..
And then i cant find the one i wanted to respond to among all the unread messages. I wish there was a way you can mark a message as important or ..and then my inbox fills up so i have to mass delte 50 messages at a time to make room.. if you send it again i will reply one way or the other..

 

[Darke_Knyght]

PM sent

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Mike .. i applogize for that. I get messages i want to respond to but then i think ok i will read all the other messages first ..
And then i cant find the one i wanted to respond to among all the unread messages. I wish there was a way you can mark a message as important or ..and then my inbox fills up so i have to mass delte 50 messages at a time to make room.. if you send it again i will reply one way or the other..

Using your buddy list feature would solve this problem. If they make it to your buddy list they are worth the next step in your interview process. There’s also the no answer is a answer. That’s pretty simple ,

I think U shouldn’t have to explain yourself , your the prize whiny isn’t worth your time and it is unproductive. Those that do [ whine ] should be purged first.

 

[MissMandy86]

Thank you so much

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Thank you so much

Your welcome

 

[Primalex]

Yes, we love to spend the time to write a private message, only to figure out that every second of it was wasted, because private messages are no longer accepted. This really encourages people to write more than "hey, how r u?".

There is an "Edit folders" control panel item that let's you create whatever folders you desire (f.e. "Reply later") to sort messages and you can move one or more messages easily into any folder you like with a button click.

Using the buddy list when you specifically request people to write you a private message is at minimum moronic.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

It’s kinda moronic to write to someone if you know they aren’t going to reply. If that’s your train of thought , your a idiot. Or for that matter , to mind someone else’s business in some sort of declaration post that speaks of elitist bullshit. Sort this file edit some bullshit. Who fucking cares

Who the fux are you , the mayor of the poor me village of I didn’t get a reply whiners?

No answer is a answer , deal with it. Whining about it is petty and moronic. The actual thought that a woman owns U a reply is as dumb as your post which speaks volumes.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Miss Mandy your very photogenic and have lot of “friends “ and followers

Kudos to U , I think you know exactly what U want and How to get it

Peace out

 

[Primalex]

It’s kinda moronic to write to someone if you know they aren’t going to reply.

If that’s your train of thought , your a idiot.

Wait, what? Isn't this your train of thought? You just wrote it down.

Who the fux are you , the mayor of the poor me village of I didn’t get a reply whiners? The actual thought that a woman owns U a reply is as dumb as your post which speaks volumes.

You seem to be very upset that I considered your buddy list suggestion to be dumb and useless to solve the problem in question. You don't need to feel that bad about it, it's widely accepted by society that technology is a challenge for the older generations.

 

[NiceNastyMann]

Wait, what? Isn't this your train of thought? You just wrote it down.

You seem to be very upset that I considered your buddy list suggestion to be dumb and useless to solve the problem in question. You don't need to feel that bad about it, it's widely accepted by society that technology is a challenge for the older generations.

Ahhh the drama of a micromanagement situation. The writer isn't in control, the user is. Follow each and every dictum and you get... what? The user gets their rocks off but the writer?

The OP wants to relive the highs she got from her original handler. Problem is, unless you have the right mix in the hypo the high you're offering isn't going to be the same.

I'm not kicking shit into the OP's face. This is instead a pail of ice cold water - duck and that's fine, but you'll never get the same high as you got from the first guy. Take it and realize - there are a lot of ways to get that endorphin rush you want. Just allow it to happen.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Wait, what? Isn't this your train of thought? You just wrote it down.




You seem to be very upset that I considered your buddy list suggestion to be dumb and useless to solve the problem in question. You don't need to feel that bad about it, it's widely accepted by society that technology is a challenge for the older generations.

Sure whatever you say , think or fantasize about in your world. Good luck with that.

 

[MissMandy86]

and bump ...

 

[Smoothshavendad]

so... maybe 2 years ago there was a male dom I chatted with once in awhile
he was in texas .. as time went by he got more and more aggressive with asking personal questions and for some reason i just felt compelled to answer ..

he would act like he was entitled to answers or like i owed him answers
the more I answered his questions .. the more personal the questions got

he was very aggressive .. and i sort of felt like .. pushed into a corner like i had no choice to answer

and sometimes when he didn't understand .. I would have to explain situations to him
This went on for a couple months ... and after awhile he knew almost everything ..
(My life at times can be very complicated)

it was easy to open up to him because we had never met and we were never going to meet

But the more information he had the more power he was gaining over me .. and then the black mail started ...

this whole thing sort of morphed into a daddy daughter thing with him controlling everything that happened in my sex life

like if a guy asked me out I would say.. let me think about it .. then ask daddy and he would decide... before the date we would get together on gmail chat and go over what i was gonna wear and what would happen

flirt with this guy
stay away from that guy
when i had sex with my BF how it was gonna happen and how he would cum
etc etc

he was like a mentor but at other times sadistic. But he was VERY smart and sort of clever. But he was like ... people smart .. not book smart ..

Really want some like 40 plus .. worldly .. experienced

but as the months past once in awhile he would say things that raised a red flag
and when i lost trust for him it just fell apart

when the "thing" fell apart it sort of left a void ...
been looking for someone ever since but...
Chemistry is a must ..

Single parent .. I have a young daughter this must not affect..
I also work full time so in no way could this affect my job or my income..
I wont be asking you for anything besides your time and your mind
For the right man .. with the right mental ability...

Hate to just say this out right but ..
When i was .. my step father kept a lot of control over me .. who i could date .. what i could wear and some other things that left me a little ...

Thank you for sharing. Very honest and open. I’m certainly interested in chatting sometime if you are.

 

[MissMandy86]

So ... i am still looking ...
My pm folder is still a mess
I dont want someone who wants to save me. I have always been attracted to men that are bad for me .. manipulaters..
Abusive.. but someone that is a wolf in sheeps clothing

 

[jaF0]

Guess I'm a little confused as to what you really want. A Dom that doesn't tell you what to do?

 

[NiceNastyMann]

Guess I'm a little confused as to what you really want. A Dom that doesn't tell you what to do?

Don Knotts with a cat-o-nine tails.

Walter Mitty with nipple clamps.

This but with testosterone.