Female-Led Relationships

[serve4her]

Maybe for you (and others), the fight analogy has relevance on your relationship dynamics, but it definitely is not something that really plays any role in mine one way or another.

Sorry if you took that as an indication I suggested combat as a way to resolve relationship dominance or any other conflict.

The relevance of the thought was derived as follows. Just as defeating a highly competent opponent (whether in sports, combat or any other contest) gives greater pleasure and status, being the dominant to a more impressive partner (whether smarter, larger, more attractive or any other characteristic) would bring increased pleasure and stats.

So my thinking was, the more naturally inclined to dominance a person was, the more they might be motivated by the challenge of dominating someone that represented a greater challenge.

I was thinking much more along the lines of why would someone climb Mt Everest than "if I can punch you out I should be in charge".

 

[littlecordelera]

I have toyed with my fair share of pussy boys, and they were not all small guys.

I received an email about this, so let me explain.

A pool boy takes care of the pool so that others might enjoy it. A stable boy takes care of the stable so that others might enjoy it. A pussy boy takes care of the pussy so that others might enjoy it.

That's what a pussy boy is.

 

[jackofthedawn]

I received an email about this, so let me explain.

A pool boy takes care of the pool so that others might enjoy it. A stable boy takes care of the stable so that others might enjoy it. A pussy boy takes care of the pussy so that others might enjoy it.

That's what a pussy boy is.

And a perfectly honorable and fulfilling role it is.

 

[eroticspank]

To give full disclosure, I am only five feet tall, and I have only met a handful of guys to whom I am willing to honestly (sometimes I pretend) surrender. And I am in this thread because it interests me. We are an FLR, full tilt, no holes barred, couple because that is the make up of our personalities. In addition, in our swing circles, I have toyed with my fair share of pussy boys, and they were not all small guys.

With that said, it probably seems that I have been playing devils advocate, but no. All I am saying is that stereotypes exist for a reason - as eroticspank pointed out, much better than I did.

And I agree that you should not always judge a book by its cover, but oftentimes, that is the prudent thing to do.

Now if you all will excuse me, I think I will go indulge the privileges of my authority.

Thank you for the nice comment! I always enjoy reading your words.

ES

 

[littlecordelera]

And a perfectly honorable and fulfilling role it is.

Yes, it is. A well-trained pussy boy who takes pride in his work is priceless. They must be provided their just rewards for their dutiful service; otherwise, they might turn away. I would never want that!

 

[littlecordelera]

Thank you for the nice comment! I always enjoy reading your words.

ES

Thank you, eroticspank. That comes as a surprise, that someone would enjoy reading my forum posts, but it sure is nice to know. I appreciate your kind words.

 

[OedipusRecks]

Times have changed, the gendered roles are fluid and it's okay for a woman to take charge, make big decisions, and provide for a family.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Times have changed, the gendered roles are fluid and it's okay for a woman to take charge, make big decisions, and provide for a family.

So true Oedipus

 

[eroticspank]

I received an email about this, so let me explain.

A pool boy takes care of the pool so that others might enjoy it. A stable boy takes care of the stable so that others might enjoy it. A pussy boy takes care of the pussy so that others might enjoy it.

That's what a pussy boy is.

Yes, it is. A well-trained pussy boy who takes pride in his work is priceless. They must be provided their just rewards for their dutiful service; otherwise, they might turn away. I would never want that!

I like your analogy a lot. Now I find myself wondering exactly what a pussy boy does? My thoughts are he comes by once a week, gives your pussy a nice trim and shave, washes inside and out, combs the hair with a small comb, finishes with a lightly scented lotion?

ES

 

[littlecordelera]

I like your analogy a lot. Now I find myself wondering exactly what a pussy boy does? My thoughts are he comes by once a week, gives your pussy a nice trim and shave, washes inside and out, combs the hair with a small comb, finishes with a lightly scented lotion?

ES

The guys I date want the whole package, not just the prize between my thighs. So my pussy boy's job is to make sure that the whole package is tended to and manicured and cared for. And while that comes into sharp focus on those times when I have a date, his responsibilities are there all the time. On a regular basis, he rubs my whole body down with coconut oil, and he does not miss a single inch. He tends to my feet, making sure they remain soft and pretty. Sometimes he washes and conditions my hair. He helps me pick out clothes, at the store or before we go out. He makes the bed and makes sure it always has clean sheets. He cares for my cars. There is so much he does, I can't list them all. And he does these things because he wants to. And he does an excellent job. I am very lucky. I have the best pussy boy in the world, and I tell him that all the time.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

The guys I date want the whole package, not just the prize between my thighs. So my pussy boy's job is to make sure that the whole package is tended to and manicured and cared for. And while that comes into sharp focus on those times when I have a date, his responsibilities are there all the time. On a regular basis, he rubs my whole body down with coconut oil, and he does not miss a single inch. He tends to my feet, making sure they remain soft and pretty. Sometimes he washes and conditions my hair. He helps me pick out clothes, at the store or before we go out. He makes the bed and makes sure it always has clean sheets. He cares for my cars. There is so much he does, I can't list them all. And he does these things because he wants to. And he does an excellent job. I am very lucky. I have the best pussy boy in the world, and I tell him that all the time.

Lucky lady

 

[eroticspank]

The guys I date want the whole package, not just the prize between my thighs. So my pussy boy's job is to make sure that the whole package is tended to and manicured and cared for. And while that comes into sharp focus on those times when I have a date, his responsibilities are there all the time. On a regular basis, he rubs my whole body down with coconut oil, and he does not miss a single inch. He tends to my feet, making sure they remain soft and pretty. Sometimes he washes and conditions my hair. He helps me pick out clothes, at the store or before we go out. He makes the bed and makes sure it always has clean sheets. He cares for my cars. There is so much he does, I can't list them all. And he does these things because he wants to. And he does an excellent job. I am very lucky. I have the best pussy boy in the world, and I tell him that all the time.

Agreed!! You have a great pussy boy and you are very lucky....thanks for sharing.

ES

 

[lady_jennaxx]

I wonder how many men would be lining up to apply for that dream job

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Sounds like a great job to me

I agree...lots of perks

 

[lady_jennaxx]

FLR can be very healthy when both parties know what it entails and complement each other

Agreed. Both parties should be fully aware of each other's needs and embrace a healthy dynamic.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Agreed and that dynamic is awesome BTW

Glad to read another endorsement of it

 

[OedipusRecks]

It ought to be normalized as well, as women continue to gain the upper hand on men economically, the other acceptance of social dynamics of relationships need to change to adapt to that shift. We need to get rid of the stigma that men always need to be breadwinners, heads of families, being alpha... all that nonsense.

 

[irishblade]

It ought to be normalized as well, as women continue to gain the upper hand on men economically, the other acceptance of social dynamics of relationships need to change to adapt to that shift. We need to get rid of the stigma that men always need to be breadwinners, heads of families, being alpha... all that nonsense.

100%!

 

[lady_jennaxx]

It ought to be normalized as well, as women continue to gain the upper hand on men economically, the other acceptance of social dynamics of relationships need to change to adapt to that shift. We need to get rid of the stigma that men always need to be breadwinners, heads of families, being alpha... all that nonsense.

Well said, thank you

 

[Kitschshaman]

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Nothing like the dreams of being gently led to 'forbidden' places where you want to go with the woman you love...

thanks, Lady Jen...

 

[Kitschshaman]

Just a little bump for Lady Jennax...this concept should not be buried in the bottom of the threads....as it were...
xoxo

 

[trooper6]

Feeling our way through FLR

My newlywed and young wife are slowly developing into a FLR. We went into this relationship knowing how we wanted our marriage to be. We both were previously married to our spouses for 18 years. She was in a traditional Southern Baptist patriarchy marriage walking around with her head down. We both developed a sincere friendship at work and started talking about our failed marriages. I mentioned how I am the complete opposite of her former husband and gave examples. She loves to research for work and gave her some terms and themes to research and she was completely astounded by this life style that she never knew existed. She became hooked on FLR and likes submissive play, chastity, and some cuck themes. She is an upper executive at a college. I am an alpha male by day. I am a former Army Airborne Ranger and Drill Sergeant and currently work in the public safety sector and teach at the same university. In our relationship, I am her submissive and she runs the household. We are living in the south and our children are raised by the example that we set that we are a team first and that two adults work together and guided by the ultimate decision of Mom. She listens to me and my experiences for I am seventeen years older; however, she has the final word.

Over the past summer, due to Covid, I worked from home and took care of the little ones while she was deemed essential Executive staff and had to physically go to work every day.

I am locked in chastity without any regrets. I stay focused on the needs of her and the children first. I am her submissive slave on demand in the bedroom and she is my vixen. During her previous marriage she was not allowed to have any friends to go out with and definitely was forbidden to talk to other men. She is very outgoing and flirty when she wants to be. She likes teasing and denial games that keep me on edge. We have strong trust and bond and do not hide anything from each other. She will text me if a man from our work comes by and flirts with her or if someone wants to take her out to lunch. She loves to torture me with text messages of what could possible happen with these men and then comes home and takes out her frustrations on me with lots of pillow talk.

Neither one of us has ever been so happy in a relationship. She is the one that can bring this hard charging vet to his knees.

We have been together for three years and married for almost one. Any advice and guidance will be appreciated. We go slow and learning as we go.:caning:

 

[policywank]

My newlywed and young wife are slowly developing into a FLR. We went into this relationship knowing how we wanted our marriage to be. We both were previously married to our spouses for 18 years. She was in a traditional Southern Baptist patriarchy marriage walking around with her head down. We both developed a sincere friendship at work and started talking about our failed marriages. I mentioned how I am the complete opposite of her former husband and gave examples. She loves to research for work and gave her some terms and themes to research and she was completely astounded by this life style that she never knew existed. She became hooked on FLR and likes submissive play, chastity, and some cuck themes. She is an upper executive at a college. I am an alpha male by day. I am a former Army Airborne Ranger and Drill Sergeant and currently work in the public safety sector and teach at the same university. In our relationship, I am her submissive and she runs the household. We are living in the south and our children are raised by the example that we set that we are a team first and that two adults work together and guided by the ultimate decision of Mom. She listens to me and my experiences for I am seventeen years older; however, she has the final word.

Over the past summer, due to Covid, I worked from home and took care of the little ones while she was deemed essential Executive staff and had to physically go to work every day.

I am locked in chastity without any regrets. I stay focused on the needs of her and the children first. I am her submissive slave on demand in the bedroom and she is my vixen. During her previous marriage she was not allowed to have any friends to go out with and definitely was forbidden to talk to other men. She is very outgoing and flirty when she wants to be. She likes teasing and denial games that keep me on edge. We have strong trust and bond and do not hide anything from each other. She will text me if a man from our work comes by and flirts with her or if someone wants to take her out to lunch. She loves to torture me with text messages of what could possible happen with these men and then comes home and takes out her frustrations on me with lots of pillow talk.

Neither one of us has ever been so happy in a relationship. She is the one that can bring this hard charging vet to his knees.

We have been together for three years and married for almost one. Any advice and guidance will be appreciated. We go slow and learning as we go.:caning:

When we first started down the road of an FLR I didn't truly understand the degree to which my husband gleaned pleasure from being submissive. I knew he liked to do things for me and he liked having me in charge. But on some level it still felt as though he was doing it for me rather than for himself.

It took me a while to internalize the notion that obedience was a source of pleasure for him. And he wanted me to dominate him and facilitate my own pleasure which, for lack of a better description, required me to be a bit more selfish. Not mean or nasty - just willing to indulge my own needs without constantly making sure all was ok with him.

It can be a bit of a conundrum because his role is to be submissive which sort of precludes helping me or encouraging me to be dominant. But for a lot of women we do need that. Our natural inclination is to love our husbands and the very things that he really wanted ran counter to what I am conditioned to believe

One of the things he did was to start making list of chores he was to complete during the day. It was a good way to take a bit of initiative while remaining submissive. I soon took over the list making. We do it in Notes now on the iphone. So I can always add something and he can indicate when a task is completed. I am constantly giving him direction and feedback. Confirmation that I know he is being obedient and occasional positive feedback is very satisfying for him. The fact that I can add to the list remotely also keeps him focussed on the task and seeking to please me because there is no easy ability too ask questions - he just does as he is told.

I've learned over time that the more challenging the task, the greater the pleasure he takes in obedience. I don't necessarily mean challenging as in difficult. I mean challenging as in pushing the limits of his comfort zone. And I learned that because of the feedback he gave me. Again this was a way for him to be submissive while helping me learn what worked. It was as simple as thanking me for instructing him to undertake acts of obedience that he found particularly satisfying.

I think that a lot of women in female led relationships are leading men who are probably quite a bit more malleable and willing than they imagine.

I noticed that you have a beard. So does my husband. Early on he begged me to let him eat my pussy before I got into the shower in the morning so that he could have my scent in his beard all day long. Of course I enjoy having him eat my pussy but this is now a ritual that we do wherein it is positioned as a favour that I am doing him. I typically make a point of demanding something in return and he is thrilled to comply.

Anyway, it sounds like you two are doing great. Your note just made me think of some of the ways that my husband helped me lead him while maintaining a truly submissive stance. He never suggested or engaged in passive-aggressive behaviour which would have been inappropriate for a submissive. He found wonderful ways of humbly asking and in the process education me on his desires.

As an active hot wife there are a plethora of ways for me to push the limits of his obedience. But the reality is that we glean just as much satisfaction from little everyday things that don't have sexual overtones. As I have learned more about him and tried to really see him for who he is I have become much more active in leading him in ways big and small and become more comfortable in the role myself. It can be as simple as how I give an instruction. I don't ask him to mow the lawn - I tell him to mow the lawn. It is done kindly and with a low key voice but there is no "please" because it isn't a request.

 

[pplwatching]

My newlywed and young wife are slowly developing into a FLR. ... Neither one of us has ever been so happy in a relationship. She is the one that can bring this hard charging vet to his knees.

When we first started down the road of an FLR I didn't truly understand the degree to which my husband gleaned pleasure from being submissive. ... As I have learned more about him and tried to really see him for who he is I have become much more active in leading him in ways big and small and become more comfortable in the role myself.

I thoroughly enjoyed reading each of your perspectives and experiences. Thanks for taking the time to share.

 

[Mebella99]

New to Lit

I just wanted to say out loud...I’m happy I ran across this thread (and a few others like it). It’s a topic that interests me and I’m glad to read about all the different ways it can be practiced.