Bathhouse or Gay Bar?

[nostuff]

I am so screwed by Covid. After experiencing my first man sex at a bathhouse last fall, I was so looking forward to expanding on the experience when I began traveling on business this past spring.

Alas, the virus made a mess of things, and I’ve been laying low ever since.

But sooner or later, the threat will fade (because of a vaccine, I hope, not because everybody’s dead). And so I’ve been spending a lot of time anticipating my next gay encounter. The question is whether I should head back to the bathhouses or start visiting gay bars.

I find bathhouses appealing for several reasons. There’s a certain familiarity, in that I’ve already experienced that environment. And I like the anonymity and knowing everybody’s there for the same reason.

I also liked the absence of any pressure, other than what was in my own head. It was amazing to be among a bunch of near-naked men and not have anyone push my boundaries.

It’s obvious, however, that gay bars outnumber bathhouses. Perhaps that’s where my thinking should lead?

The problem is that I’ve never knowingly been in a gay bar, and the thought of trying to get picked up in that environment is a bit intimidating. Am I being silly? Am I overthinking?

I should note that I’m not looking for any long-term relationships. I just want to get fucked.

 

[timmyid2]

Bath houses... definately.

If you are new to the scene, a bath house is a great confidence builder. I've never been to a bath house without being fondled. I've never left one without having a dick in my mouth. It does not matter what shape or weight I was at the time, someone at the bath house wanted me. The most sincere complement I ever got was from a little 20 something Chinese guy who came up to me, tentatively stroked my hip and said "You are so beautiful" before running off.

A bar is not quite the same. It's not uncommon to spend the evening sipping a drink and trying to flirt, only to end up leaving alone. It's easy to forget that flirting is an art.

So I think you should bolster your self esteem in a bath house first. Just make sure that you get checked for STDs if you do anything unsafe.

 

[Sunnyade]

I've visited a Bathhouse twice. I was on holiday and took the opportunity to visit twice in a week. Although nervous, I had been assure that there would be no pressure to indulge. It was far better than I imagined and needless to say I left very satisfied both times.

Gay bars are a little different. Not always guaranteed to hookup but a lot better chance than a straight bar.

 

[MatureSensualBottom]

I was advised by a gay man many years ago to try a Sauna/Bathhouse as an introduction to gay sex. I did and very much enjoyed that scene for several years while working in London.I have also visited many gay bars and as others have said the odds of getting picked up and by someone you want to be picked up by are far less likely, but there is a certain buzz around that anticipation. The other route I personally have found fruitful is gay/bi hook-up sites that give location and a little detail of the person you fancy. then their is cruising, I'm sure there will be local sites near you that are popular with gay or bi men, but that can be risky. Covid has been a difficult time for lots of us in a similar position to you...the need, but no opportunity!

 

[klippert]

You’re not screwed by Corona Con. Get out there. Your screwed by fear and government over reaching. Do your research. Take your mask off and get back to life. In this case fucking and sucking.

 

[Marty Fisher]

I am so screwed by Covid. After experiencing my first man sex at a bathhouse last fall, I was so looking forward to expanding on the experience when I began traveling on business this past spring.

Alas, the virus made a mess of things, and I’ve been laying low ever since.

But sooner or later, the threat will fade (because of a vaccine, I hope, not because everybody’s dead). And so I’ve been spending a lot of time anticipating my next gay encounter. The question is whether I should head back to the bathhouses or start visiting gay bars.

I find bathhouses appealing for several reasons. There’s a certain familiarity, in that I’ve already experienced that environment. And I like the anonymity and knowing everybody’s there for the same reason.

I also liked the absence of any pressure, other than what was in my own head. It was amazing to be among a bunch of near-naked men and not have anyone push my boundaries.

It’s obvious, however, that gay bars outnumber bathhouses. Perhaps that’s where my thinking should lead?

The problem is that I’ve never knowingly been in a gay bar, and the thought of trying to get picked up in that environment is a bit intimidating. Am I being silly? Am I overthinking?

I should note that I’m not looking for any long-term relationships. I just want to get fucked.

I've never been to a bathhouse but given the choice, I'd go there first because you're already half way to where you want to be because your clothes are off! As you've said, bars are much more prevalent so they're a natural in absence of a bathhouse. I wouldn't worry about the intimidation factor. Go in there with the idea of having a drink with like-minded men and let things unfold as they might - don't go in thinking you have to chase someone!

 

[klippert]

I was just horny chatting with a buddy. He’s been using an app. Meeting his anonymous on the hiking trails or secluded bank fishing spots.

 

[TallOne]

I wouldn't want to hook up with anyone willing to hook up right now. If not treating covid seriously they're surely not treating stds seriously either.

 

[nostuff]

You’re not screwed by Corona Con. Get out there. Your screwed by fear and government over reaching. Do your research. Take your mask off and get back to life. In this case fucking and sucking.

I got seriously ill during the H1N1 epidemic. I obviously didn't die, but it took months to fully recover. I'm not interested in repeating that experience.

 

[txfuncouple]

You’re not screwed by Corona Con. Get out there. Your screwed by fear and government over reaching. Do your research. Take your mask off and get back to life. In this case fucking and sucking.

Agree 1000% with above.

 

[Trainer550]

Bathhouse

Bathhouse all the way! So exciting and pretty much guaranteed Try to pick a night that you know will be good attendance (Thurs thru Sun). Cant wait to go back on the road and do the same!

 

[Pines]

For about 2 years prior to Covid I visited a bathhouse about 6-8 times. It was very exciting to be near naked in that environment. I've always found it very arousing to watch and be watched. Just a very good feeling walking around the dimly lit narrow passageways and video rooms. I certainly intend to go back.

 

[nostuff]

For about 2 years prior to Covid I visited a bathhouse about 6-8 times. It was very exciting to be near naked in that environment. I've always found it very arousing to watch and be watched. Just a very good feeling walking around the dimly lit narrow passageways and video rooms. I certainly intend to go back.

I so understand.

One of my big worries was that I would feel awkward being naked. Hell, even with my clothes on, I would have expected some discomfort knowing I was being watched and getting sized up.

But once I stripped and walked down the first hall, I began to feel quite liberated, other than embarrassment that my towel kept falling off. I finally gave up on the towel and draped it over my shoulder. I gather it's not quite proper etiquette to let it all hang out that way (I was the only one strolling around fully naked), but it felt really good.

 

[Iwant2be]

I think walking around a bathhouse naked knowing that all the guys are checking out my ass and what they would like to do to me would be a huge turn on.

 

[meme62626]

You’re not screwed by Corona Con. Get out there. Your screwed by fear and government over reaching. Do your research. Take your mask off and get back to life. In this case fucking and sucking.

Amen to that!

 

[Terrylipstick]

Bathhouse

I’d love to have a bathhouse to visit. I used to hit The Crew Club, in DC, once in a while.... but it’s been 15 years since I’ve been there.... I don’t know if it still exists... but I always had fun there. Only oral... giving and receiving, but it was always great. I only intentionally visited a gay bar once, and I only wound up talking to guys there. So if sex is the goal... bathhouse all the way!

 

[PintlerMan]

I have never been to a gay bar, but yeah visited a bath house in Denver, I liked it very much, great fun. Looking forward to enjoying it again, someday.

 

[Pines]

I so understand.

One of my big worries was that I would feel awkward being naked. Hell, even with my clothes on, I would have expected some discomfort knowing I was being watched and getting sized up.

But once I stripped and walked down the first hall, I began to feel quite liberated, other than embarrassment that my towel kept falling off. I finally gave up on the towel and draped it over my shoulder. I gather it's not quite proper etiquette to let it all hang out that way (I was the only one strolling around fully naked), but it felt really good.

Yes it is quite a thrill and I'm extremely anxious to go back.

 

[martinfs]

I love the bathouse scene. I 've probably been a couple of dozen times and the experiences have rated from average to mind blowing. I go cause I love to suck cock, once someone cums in my mouth I feel I have got what I wanted and if someone wants to make me cum thats great but I'm quite happy to jack off watching others fuck

 

[Pines]

Please, more stories of encounters at bathhouses.

 

[Marcelinoyyo]

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[nostuff]

Do you have a favorite?

So for those of you who have been to a bathhouse, do you have a favorite? And is there something that makes your favorite stand out from the others?

I've gone to only one, so my list of favorites is rather limited: Midtowne Spa in Denver. I chose it because I was in town for a convention, and I had the opportunity to satisfy my curiosity.

Turns out, I love sucking cock. I somehow managed to leave without getting my ass fucked, but that's something I really want to experience.

What makes Midtowne stand out? I'm afraid I don't have much basis for comparison. I can only say that Midtowne was good for me.

Anyone else?

 

[BBCfan]

never been to a bathhouse but it fascinates me...is there any protocols or rules to know that exist written or unwritten?

 

[klippert]

I got seriously ill during the H1N1 epidemic. I obviously didn't die, but it took months to fully recover. I'm not interested in repeating that experience.

Hiding and wearing a face diaper....that is your choice. this is why I said do the research. seriously if you are relying on the Gov't. you'll be lonely for a long time

 

[Fungun3]

I was just horny chatting with a buddy. He’s been using an app. Meeting his anonymous on the hiking trails or secluded bank fishing spots.

Mmmmm sounds like a fun ap like fishing and trails what is the ap you could pm me