success or not of a personal ad

[MMM_wms]

I used to believe the originality of my ad, i.e. its uniqueness had anything to do with how many PMs the ad attracted, or how fitting (for me) these turned out. Or how humorous or ironic I had written my ad. Or how much substance I had put into it.

Absolutely totally wrong! All these are “male” criteria only, totally irrelevant for female readers. There’s only one parameter that counts: does a woman stop by to read your ad, before it drifts off to page two or further back, who is in the mood for liking your words? Your words do not really matter, it’s the perception of them within the brain of a woman you want to attract with your ad.

And if today is a day for “light fare” in male personal ads, you can write as much and as well as you want, you ain’t going to receive any PMs back, as long as lightness is missing from your ad.

Same regarding humorous ads tomorrow, or serious ads the day after next. Trouble is: you have not the foggiest idea, which kind of ads are in vogue today. And what is even worse: should you target not only receiving any old PMs back, but a PM from a rather unique kind of woman, you can wait until the cows come home often, or even longer, to hear anything back at all.

And once I hear nothing back for two or three days, on the very best ad I have ever written in my entire life, I keep forgetting what I wrote and for what reason exactly. Maybe personal ads are totally over-rated these days?

Could be, but with solicitation PMs to well-selected women, I have not fared any better. Perhaps simply a long pause from writing anything might be helpful? Maybe the Lit world simply is fed up with hearing anything from me right now?

I sure hope YOU, the most unique woman on the planet, will prove me wrong. If possible today or tomorrow.

 

[elizabeth15]

Y’know, the group I’ve seen struggle on Lit most consistently are married men. I can’t help but wonder if trying to find a partner from the same population you’re currently disrespecting might have something to do with that.

And that’s not necessarily specific to you, OP, but right now there are three or four very similar threads on the front page.

 

[MMM_wms]

hello Elizabeth

Looks to me, Elizabeth, you did not read my ad carefully enough. Where in it do you see any sign of disrespect? When I wrote that ad yesterday, I talked about not receiving PMs, but at the very most, I saw this as a problem of part of the female population being unable to understand what my ads are all about, and how much they offer to women capable of reading them positively.

In the meantime, a very sweet woman did write me back, and we are in the process of getting to know one another. And it seem to me, we are doing fine with that.

If a man posts disappointed remarks about all the wrong women who cannot read, he is leaving open the possibility of running into one unique woman who is indeed mastering the art of reading, a “right kind of” woman. Wouldn’t you agree, Elizabeth?

And then I see in your profile that you dislike getting involved with married men. Does that give you any right to start a crusade for bashing married men coming to Lit? That seems awfully righteous to me.

 

[RudyGardet]

Her post didn't read as bashing you or like a crusade to me. Sure she might have an opinion about married people on the prowl (of which there are many here), but I actually thought she was pretty gentle and mostly pointing out that you are far from alone in your struggle. I would think that since you seem confused and frustrated by the lack of response to your posts (something I can assure you that many posters here can empathize with) that you might appreciate the perspective.

 

[Lady2020]

FWIW, assuming every woman on Lit is the same or a whore who is willing for a hot exchange without giving humanity to the exchange is what holds a lot of women back. And I have to admit putting a stupid thread out because I find it easier to just fuck a man through a computer once or twice than making it a longer term connection. Women, generally, get their emotions playing after a one or two hit fuck. Then men, generally go, you're such a bitch. Don't think there's a winning side to any electronic communication.

 

[MMM_wms]

a note to Rudy and to Lady

I would enjoy you bumping my ad, but I need no bumping any more, ever since I met a precious woman to talk with. NOT just to fuck her virtually.

But I still wonder why both of you are trying as hard as you can to misunderstand my ad and my subsequent posts? In my language there is a word for this: Klugscheißer

Don't you have anything else to do than picking out ad writers to bother with your private opinions? I say if you are unwilling to invest a few minutes in actually reading something, before you and Elizabeth begin criicizing it, the world would be far better off, if you kept yall's mouth shut.

that is my 2 cents worth anyway.

 

[Bewleybrother]

Her post didn't read as bashing you or like a crusade to me. Sure she might have an opinion about married people on the prowl (of which there are many here), but I actually thought she was pretty gentle and mostly pointing out that you are far from alone in your struggle. I would think that since you seem confused and frustrated by the lack of response to your posts (something I can assure you that many posters here can empathize with) that you might appreciate the perspective.

Never Apologise,Never Explain!!!.