Serious question

[Gamer43018]

Okay, i know im young, 30. I know i am here for suspicious means, my wife and I have have dofferening sexual desires. And i know i havent been on here long, but ill admit i have been here multiple times, and every time it is the same. Tons and tons of men, very few women, even fewer women open to sexual conversations.

So to my question, would i be safer assuming every woman here is against sexual conversations?

I ask this because I will admit I have a high sex drive and want sex a lot. Or at least to be teased, but if i just wanted to look at pics or read stories or watch videos there are other locations. To me, this forum is a location for adult sexual and non-sexual conversations. From what i have seen though it is a few cliques that stay together and dont really let anyone else in. If you are a guy and you post in the personals you just want to talk, and actually mean it, you are ignored. If you try to have actual, non sexual conversations you get like 2 days and then nothing. Heaven forbid you be sexual, im sure thise men get castrated, kicked to the kirb and left for dead.

So tell me, am i wrong or is this really just a site where there are tons of men thinking there are some women who might be sexual but in reality arent?

Ill admit i know this is going to get trolled and ill be seen as whiny that im getting ignored, and be called a baby, or a douce bag who wears a fedora. Yes that has happened. But if i am wrong tell me and give examples. Prove to me there there are actually women here that want and dont mind sexual conversations. If not i have a feeling i wont be back, and i doubt few people will miss me than happen to think to read this. And even less than those who comment.

 

[Justfantasies]

I am a man. Haven't had much problem finding women to chat to on here. It is possible because you are youngish that you are having problems. The women here are mostly older.

 

[davenjenn]

I'm afraid JF may be correct.

 

[Gamer43018]

I have noticed that, its what i have always chalked it up to. But i guess i still believe that women in general are less likely to be openly sexual than a male. Dont get me wrong I understand why, but in an online format a lot of the issues, ie pregnancy and disease are erased.

 

[davenjenn]

It's true if you mean openly sexual in real life. Most women have slept with a lot more guys than they are willing to say, for example. But on here, they can tell the truth without consequences.

 

[Gamer43018]

It's true if you mean openly sexual in real life. Most women have slept with a lot more guys than they are willing to say, for example. But on here, they can tell the truth without consequences.

I agree, which is why i would think this could be a format to allow for the openness of female sexuality.


Also people are going to read me ranting and be like, oh he just wants some chick to flash him. No honestly i want to be able to have a conversation of more than a few messages and then the woman dissapears, and me not have to reintiate and fell like a jackass for bothering.

 

[haventdonethat]

So to my question, would i be safer assuming every woman here is against sexual conversations?



I am not a Lit expert. I am not a woman expert. But that statement/question, IMO is very far removed from factual.

Have you participated in meaningful posts and threads? Offered or asked for advice? Engaged in discussions?

There are many people here, women included, who are looking for the same thing as you are.
Get to know them, read some of their post history to see their interests and which ones are close to yours.

Lit is not just about HYE or truth/dare (although they do help break the ice).

Engage people!

 

[Gamer43018]

So to my question, would i be safer assuming every woman here is against sexual conversations?



I am not a Lit expert. I am not a woman expert. But that statement/question, IMO is very far removed from factual.

Have you participated in meaningful posts and threads? Offered or asked for advice? Engaged in discussions?

There are many people here, women included, who are looking for the same thing as you are.
Get to know them, read some of their post history to see their interests and which ones are close to yours.

Lit is just not about HYE or truth/dare (although they do help break the ice).

Engage people!

Yes i have tried engaging and having thought provoking honest conversations, but everytime, due to either my age, lack of time/posts, i get ignored.

 

[Gamer43018]

Putting things into perspective, this is the longest conversation i have had here, period.

 

[Gamer43018]

Putting things into perspective, this is the longest conversation i have had here, period.

Putting something else to perspective, i thought there was a decent conversation occurring, now its dead. How are you to engage anyone, if no one will return the favor. Otherwise im just talking to myself

 

[phil1955]

If you want a conversation with a woman read her posts and find a bit about her. Have something interesting to talk about as well.

 

[Gamer43018]

If you want a conversation with a woman read her posts and find a bit about her. Have something interesting to talk about as well.

Understandable, but when each woman have 50 guys elbowing foe position and even when yoy try to have the conversation and make it to the front of the line you get ignored, what do you do then? Rinse and repeat until there is no one left?

 

[BadAmy]

Understandable, but when each woman have 50 guys elbowing foe position and even when yoy try to have the conversation and make it to the front of the line you get ignored, what do you do then? Rinse and repeat until there is no one left?

I think there might be a lot more men then women here, so in that respect, yes, You might be jockeying for position if you are looking for that.
I think, (from my personal experience) that you gravitate to the threads that interest you, share your thoughts, read some, learn some and let the rest of the place get to know you publicly, (within reason of course, meaning safety first).

I personally am a bit hesitant to communicate with someone who has a super low post count, and No avatar. Please understand there are plenty of bots and alternate identities here and tricksters around every corner, sadly.
That is the beauty of the interwebs, anonymity.

When you show yourself as you are, those who are interested in you will appear. In the same sense, when you interact on the boards, you will find those who are of interest to you, and perhaps an opportunity to strike up a solid conversation. Who knows where it may lead.

There is lost of flirting that goes on in public, innocent, or not. But not everyone is here for the same reasons. There are a myriad of reasons that draw people in.

As far as groups here, there are people who stick together for common interests, and develop a rapport with one another. Sometimes, they may feel safer with people they have grown to know and call friends.
As with any relationship, it takes time to get to know someone.

Please don't consider yourself out of the club, maybe they just haven't gotten to know you yet.
just my 2 cents.


amy


ps...eta:
you got over 100 posts!
time for an AV my friend!

https://media.giphy.com/media/M7E5AkSXD7z4A/giphy.gif

 

[Gamer43018]

I think there might be a lot more men then women here, so in that respect, yes, You might be jockeying for position if you are looking for that.
I think, (from my personal experience) that you gravitate to the threads that interest you, share your thoughts, read some, learn some and let the rest of the place get to know you publicly, (within reason of course, meaning safety first).

I personally am a bit hesitant to communicate with someone who has a super low post count, and No avatar. Please understand there are plenty of bots and alternate identities here and tricksters around every corner, sadly.
That is the beauty of the interwebs, anonymity.

When you show yourself as you are, those who are interested in you will appear. In the same sense, when you interact on the boards, you will find those who are of interest to you, and perhaps an opportunity to strike up a solid conversation. Who knows where it may lead.

There is lost of flirting that goes on in public, innocent, or not. But not everyone is here for the same reasons. There are a myriad of reasons that draw people in.

As far as groups here, there are people who stick together for common interests, and develop a rapport with one another. Sometimes, they may feel safer with people they have grown to know and call friends.
As with any relationship, it takes time to get to know someone.

Please don't consider yourself out of the club, maybe they just haven't gotten to know you yet.
just my 2 cents.


amy

Thank you for that Amy. You are the first female to respondz which you noticed im sure.


For being around those similar to your interests. I agree that it is a way to meet people, but at what point do you gain enough posts or experience to be able to have your thoughts acknowledged publicly. I have started threads tjat express the interests i have to try to garner a conversation but nothing.

And i understand not everyone is here for flirting, some are here to escape. But it seems the proportion that are okay with flirting is miniscule.

I guess ill just have to suffer through the growing pains as thats what it seems.

Thank you.

 

[Gamer43018]

I think there might be a lot more men then women here, so in that respect, yes, You might be jockeying for position if you are looking for that.
I think, (from my personal experience) that you gravitate to the threads that interest you, share your thoughts, read some, learn some and let the rest of the place get to know you publicly, (within reason of course, meaning safety first).

I personally am a bit hesitant to communicate with someone who has a super low post count, and No avatar. Please understand there are plenty of bots and alternate identities here and tricksters around every corner, sadly.
That is the beauty of the interwebs, anonymity.

When you show yourself as you are, those who are interested in you will appear. In the same sense, when you interact on the boards, you will find those who are of interest to you, and perhaps an opportunity to strike up a solid conversation. Who knows where it may lead.

There is lost of flirting that goes on in public, innocent, or not. But not everyone is here for the same reasons. There are a myriad of reasons that draw people in.

As far as groups here, there are people who stick together for common interests, and develop a rapport with one another. Sometimes, they may feel safer with people they have grown to know and call friends.
As with any relationship, it takes time to get to know someone.

Please don't consider yourself out of the club, maybe they just haven't gotten to know you yet.
just my 2 cents.


amy


ps...eta:
you got over 100 posts!
time for an AV my friend!

https://media.giphy.com/media/M7E5AkSXD7z4A/giphy.gif

Im gonna work on it, i just dont want a generic dick pic you know, but i seem to be shunned being Gamer

 

[FGB]

I'll throw a couple of pennies into the well...

People here at Lit. have trust issues and for good reasons!

When I first came here there were Hundreds of females here and they soon learned to carry flamethrowers. They routinely posted there name, pictures and location in there information.

Then came along people such as (Whisper it look while looking over your shoulder and crossing yourself) Lasher and a few more super evil people that was like a wolf pack in WWII killing Cargo ships. They would befreind newbies are anyone else insane enough to trust them.

How would you like a picture of your house and kids with address and Telephone number posted on the internet...even where you worked.

Or you deepest darkest secrets trotted out for all to see and criticize.

At one point of you were here under two years and a few thousand posts the oldsters would avoid you like the plague.

They would ferret out your information and use it against you, terrorize you,your kids and well ANYTHING you could think of. ALT. TROLL hunting was a Public service and we had people good at it too.

Hell.

There was a woman that tried to well... I don't know what the hell she was up to, assuming it really was a woman niot that long ago.

I have not checked to see if they were still here.

So it might take awhile for some people to warm up to you.
and they might be a little paranoid...

 

[SissySalina]

Okay, i know im young, 30. I know i am here for suspicious means, my wife and I have have dofferening sexual desires. And i know i havent been on here long, but ill admit i have been here multiple times, and every time it is the same. Tons and tons of men, very few women, even fewer women open to sexual conversations.

So to my question, would i be safer assuming every woman here is against sexual conversations?

I ask this because I will admit I have a high sex drive and want sex a lot. Or at least to be teased, but if i just wanted to look at pics or read stories or watch videos there are other locations. To me, this forum is a location for adult sexual and non-sexual conversations. From what i have seen though it is a few cliques that stay together and dont really let anyone else in. If you are a guy and you post in the personals you just want to talk, and actually mean it, you are ignored. If you try to have actual, non sexual conversations you get like 2 days and then nothing. Heaven forbid you be sexual, im sure thise men get castrated, kicked to the kirb and left for dead.

So tell me, am i wrong or is this really just a site where there are tons of men thinking there are some women who might be sexual but in reality arent?

Ill admit i know this is going to get trolled and ill be seen as whiny that im getting ignored, and be called a baby, or a douce bag who wears a fedora. Yes that has happened. But if i am wrong tell me and give examples. Prove to me there there are actually women here that want and dont mind sexual conversations. If not i have a feeling i wont be back, and i doubt few people will miss me than happen to think to read this. And even less than those who comment.

So you are here only to have "sexual conversations" with women?

Yes, there are way more men than women here, that's easy to say. You can have lots of chats here but you wish to limit what and with who you chat with.

Is the problem with the people on Lit or your preconception of the people on Lit?

People will chat if you give them time, they must learn about you so you need to tell them what they need to know.

 

[CuttingEdge]

I think a lot of it might just be your UserName.

Gamer43018?

I try not to be judgmental, but it is hard to dispense with life-experience, and I do not associate much good with the term.

If a person is a "gamer" because they like playing videogames, I have a preconceived notion of what they are like, because they seem to be easily entertained, detached from real conversations, and tend to be very shallow and vain. That does not mean all gamers are actually that way, but that has been my experience with them as a whole.

If a person means "gamer" in terms of "playing the game", or being a "player", that too has a negative cogitation to it, especially in sexual circles of conversation.

I am a guy, so my opinion means nothing, but I think women see that UserName and are apprehensive from the start.

 

[KimGordon67]

'Sexual conversations' is pretty much my sole purpose in being here ... but Lit is just like the rest of the world. No one can come bounding in and expect everyone to immediately shower them with whatever type of attention they're craving. The boards are full of threads that are fundamentally conversations ... just join in with a few. All of my more intimate connections with guys from here have started out with us interacting in one or more threads ... but interacting properly, not them following some set of 'rules' they think exist that get them 'to the front of of the line'. Women aren't working through the guys in a queue ... like actual human beings, we're interacting with the guys who are interested and interesting.

And yeah, you're user name isn't oozing sex appeal. It probably doesn't matter a huge amount, but maybe at least reconsider the AV.

 

[Jada59]

Jinxy! You haven't been in my party thread. Link in my sig. Granted, I haven't kept it going lately because I have a RL guy in my life now. I do think there are more men than women here though.

 

[Runbow]

.....

 

[Desiremakesmeweak]

Gamer, this site has been through various 'waves' of 'vibe,' and I'm definitely inclined to agree with FGB who observed that there have been times when things were much more relaxed and a swathe of idiots and lunatics with an on-line connection and a keyboard basically ruined that.

Not only that, just about EVERYONE IN THE WHOLE WORLD is an expert on sexual communication, it seems, so those who have mostly positive experiences talking to other people on a sexual level or at least with that as the underlying theme somewhere, just say to themselves 'ah well, all these people actually WANT to wallow in their gloom so what's the point engaging?' ...Not to mention again that they always leave you with the impression they are 'experts' so their ears are totally blocked anyway. And I mean that applies let's say, even when rational people accept that people's experiences have sufficient diversity that individuals can contribute new things even to those who really ARE experienced. It's worth listening to people who actually have something to say. But they are often drowned out by a kind of robotic crowd...

And now you also have the added baggage of all of these 'agenda' cleft-stick carriers.

So yeah, you want to talk sexually, have sexual communications, communicate with sex as a subject in there somewhere. Well good that you've voiced that. Anyone with a similar interest may well pick you up on it. Personally I do think that this is going to be less likely now than at previous moments in the history of the internet.

 

[Gamer43018]

Tha k you all for commenting. Sorry i was working last night and could not reply. I will tru to answer everyone so if i dont please dont be mad or think im blowing you off.


For starters, no I am not herr solely for sexual conversations. My original intent being here is actually to have innocuous conversations with other adults so that if there happens to be a freudian slip i dont have to hold my tongue. At this point in time I do happen to be a little mpre sexual, so yes my interests do gravitate that direction.

As to the history of the site, i did not know that, and will keep this in mind. It will explain the apprehensiveness.

As for my username, i chose it because i do enjoy video games. With that i do not feel i am easily entertained as the games that enthrall me tend to have longer, drawn out storylines. Not just going around shooting people, driving fast, or simulationing a sport. I will admit I do fall into the second connotation in that i am here in secret. But i hope through my honesty and openness about it people will see i am not trying to play them.

As for the time, you all have given me hope and examples that people will actually talk to me. For that i thank you all. I shall try to have mpre patience.


Like i said if i skipped over your suggestion or comment just let me know and i will address it

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I am a woman and I respond to 90% of the PM's I get.
I ignore the basic, "want to get me off" types, but if there is a real conversation starter, I reply.

I have pen pals, I have been writing with almost 6 months.

I have met 3 live.

Find someone interesting and read their posts. Then start a meaningful conversation.

It's my beat way to start.

 

[Gamer43018]

I am a woman and I respond to 90% of the PM's I get.
I ignore the basic, "want to get me off" types, but if there is a real conversation starter, I reply.

I have pen pals, I have been writing with almost 6 months.

I have met 3 live.

Find someone interesting and read their posts. Then start a meaningful conversation.

It's my beat way to start.

Thank you madam and I shall try. But in your honest opinion, is asking how are you today equivalent to help me get off? I promise i am. Ot being smart, simply trying to learn how to best interact.